/SIG/

I've had 3 real girlfriends for 2-4 years a piece
This has happened in like, the last year or two i think

is Ashwagandha worth investing in?
"It can reduce anxiety and stress, help fight depression, boost fertility and testosterone in men, and may even boost brain function."
Anyone here use it and see a difference?

If it's to good to be true, it probably is.

I set a 30 minute timer and that's all I can go on Veeky Forums for. Takes a bit of willpower but it really helped me be more productive without giving Veeky Forums up

>daily activities outline
>every minute of my day is scheduled down to the 15 minutes in my planner
>every rep is tracked in my training log
>every gram of every macro is tracked in my diet log
>every page of every novel read is tracked in my reading log
>dedicated morning and nightly routines

Who here has also ascended to the ethereal realm of turbo autism?

mirin the handwriting skills

Whenever you have a feeling of what the fuck am I doing with my life when in front of a pc. Turn it off immediatly and go to another room and formulate 2 goals you want to finish today. Make sure you can finish them today. And start working on them immediatly. You'll feel less a piece of shit at the end of the day.

But you still are because you still haven't reached pic worth.

And how do you check your curiousity and boredom to not disable that timer?

this for you

Maybe stop watching porn? Or fuck until you're bored and realize there are better things to work on in life?

Enlighten me, son.
Show me the way of yours. I need to get my shit in order, but I fall out flat every time I try to do so.
Please elaborate on how you keep track of things, and how you keep up your motivation and/or discipline.

I just got my bachelors and I have no job and too much free time. I feel depressed being at home all the time. Already went to the gym.

How do you deal with this?

Nice handwriting. Can you post your time shedule for one random day? Or anything else? I used to track and plan my days,weeks,etc. But I thought it was a waste of time because I only pursue 2-3 goals and don't need to plan that much.

green is the opposite color of purple
so if you drink green flavored water your dick will either become black or transparent
you're welcome.

Yeah I'm gonna try stop watching porn and get off tinder.

thanks for advice fags

Start formulating some meaningful goals. Preferably some you can finish in an hour. Complete it and you'll feel better because pride and some chemicals in your brain make you feel better.
Everybody loves it when they go to bed at night and feel they have accomplished something today.

Thanks Doc

What do the blue lines mean? and the numbers? Nice planning dude

I've been using it for past month and didn't notice any change. Not buying again

bumping

Binders and planner are at my desk and I'm at lunch right now.

Planner: daily planner is set up 1 page per day broken into 15 minutes blocks. I'd start with every hour though if you're just beginning.

I then have different binders for different subjects:

1 for training and diet
1 for reading lists, reading log, and writing
1 for recipes + grocery lists
1 for budgeting and finances
1 for travel planning (currently planning a trip to japan with FWB that I've known since childhood to climb mt. Fuji and explore Tokyo...)
1 sketchbook + references folder
2 for work related
1 media related binder with vidya buylists and backlogs for television, movies, and games (consumption activities)
1 /k/related with buy lists, infographics, number of rounds I've put through each of my guns, precision shooting logs + tables, things im building etc.

Obviously some binders stay at home, some stay at work, and some are carried with me depending on the day.

Blue numbers are hours allotted per day, per activity. Usually end up hanging with friends every friday night.

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Currently doing Judo 2 times per week, taekwondo once per week, and Texas Method, but will probably soon switch to 5/3/1 with bodyweight + Kettle bell focused accessories just FYI if anyone was interesting

how do i get over the weird guilt I have going out with new girls after getting dumped?

it's the weirdest thing to feel guilty about but i still do

Fuck wrong quote pic...see guys...turbo autism

I just finished my Computer Science degree at University. I'm supposed to be job-hunting but the thought of being a wageslave makes me want to kill myself. I'm not a proper human being, I don't even have "work clothes" to wear to an interview. I'm plagued with social anxiety and a lack of skills to make it.
Please user, someone help me.

How have you finish CS? I am struggling to pass first year four times already.

Also as a help just wear clothes like you think your coworkers will. Interviews are fun. Just consider to get every information about job. I never feel fear about being rejected in interview because if they won't somebody else will.

How do I ultimately stop playing video games and start to study or whatever. I sold my steam account, I remove games multiple times but I relapse hard and I start to think how put games into my schedule again.

become so busy you simply don't have time to. when I was studying for my med exams, I was putting in 9 hours every day. id get home and go to the gym. by the time I'm back from there, I'm cooked. I don't think I even considered touching it for months.

ultimately, video games cop an unusually high amount of grief in terms of time sinks. I know guys who talk about what a waste of time they are, but then binge entire seasons of some netflix shit for longer than you'd play video games in a day.

I always fucked up when I got too much free time. One free day I can survive but more than two is schedule killer.

It was very, very tough. It caused me a shit ton of stress and my health declined very quickly.
Thanks, I should go shopping soon, all I got are basketball shorts and sweats. I really am not a proper human being, and I don't think I'm cut out for this world. I just feel so weak saying this but I don't want to work.

People that enjoy their jobs, what do you do?

I am retail salesman. I sell shit to people. I enjoy it if I am not bored to death or tired. I used to sell via phone but it is more tiresome.

Idk if it's depression or something but I really want a hobby I'm passionate about (recommended often in threads, the sticky, and self improvement resources), but I am passionate about literally nothing. How did you find your Passion? please help

Do you enjoy it? Call me an autist but interacting with people is so incredibly draining and difficult for me. And the thought of an office type job makes me want to end my life.
I need to find another way, but I feel like that's a pipe dream.

I don't mind talking with people unless they make me mad. I am introvert too.

You pretty much randomly stumble through the dark until you bump into it

what shit do you know a weird amount about. If you were drunk what would you ramble on about when no one cared or listened

find other stuff to replace it and just slowly remove it from your life. otherwise, this isn't a bad strategy I did once.

>play video games
>study one quarter of amount of time playing video games

week later
>play video games
>study one half amount of time spent playing games

then eventually you get one for one, and study will begin to take precedent. the worst mistake people make with study, reading or anything is that they think they can go from doing fuck all to doing 4 hours of productive study a day. when I go from no study, I study like 2 hours a day with 30 minute windows and 15 minute breaks then extended the windows and reduce the breaks.

I'm afraid I'm not getting better guys. Today I've remembered my conversations with my ex and how I would always feel happy with her.

For fuck sake, it's been 3 months. I want to be free of those feelings haunting me.

I'm a software dev and I like it. You can make good money. You have a lot of time to yourself + job security if you can show your superiors you can deliver and you make good on your word.

You just need one opportunity. Find a way to do a software project that you are proud of, and you are golden. It makes interviewing a breeze. I bet you could find some kind of work or internship with a BS CS. Are you in the USA?

Being confident in my competence goes a long way in easing the pain I get from interacting with others, maybe you would have the same feeling. Dressing better, having a neat haircut, being fit all help too.

>work retail
>can't make a consistent schedule to keep myself accountable because shifts are random
>Can't find a job that pays the same because lack of experience
>Can't get experience because I can't keep myself accountable

someone help me please

>ex and i have been chatting recently
>sent me a nude last night
>basically, we agreed to bang once i get back in town
>fast-forward to this evening, she mentions she's going to the doctor to get back on birth control
>clarifies that she is going back on it "for [me], not anyone else"

now, she also has her own reasons for going on bc, and she said that mainly to make sure i wasn't about her slooting it up with other dudes (not that i would have any say in that matter anyway). but i'm concerned she's taken my talking with her more frequently and my sexual interest as me wanting to re-enter a relationship.

how do i explain or convey to her that this is not necessarily the case? i don't want to close the window of opportunity for a relationship in the future, either, but i'm not ready to fling myself into one right now.

how long were you together?

Tell me I'm a faggot for not asking this cute girl I work with out.

One year.

Im cutting weight but I need an opinion. Are my shoulders too small? Or am I being paranoid?

I like this. Thanks user

then i would say that's normal. the regularly prescribed time to get over a breakup is about half as long as the relationship lasted, so you're not out of the woods yet. consider the fact that these memories come up less frequently than they did before, even if you still get hung up on them sometimes, and take that as an indication of progress

too small for what? to cut? you will look better if you cut now regardless of your shoulder size, so don't let it hold you back. they look to be undersized, but it's hard to discern any real definition at your current bodyfat %. incorporate a lot of pressing into your routine to try to make sure they don't lose strength, or at least lose very little, during your cut.

Trying to work up the courage to get to know this girl I work with. She is always really nice to me but I can’t spit out words around her

show up at work drunk to overcome your anxiety

Ive been cutting for a couple of months, but they look very small to me from the front. Maybe just my side delts? I bench quite a bit and pull ups everyday. Or maybe arms from the front just look that way. Im not sure. From the sides or flexing they look fine, just not from the front. Thanks for your input.

Nice dubs.
I appreciate the response and honestly it's helped ease some of the massive anxiety I have about all of this. I'll be taking your advice.

>"Talent is never enough," the book was one of my first self-help books. It taught me that basically Talent is never enough and anyone who takes things for granted WILL regret it in a few years and to sow your seeds early on and consistently.

I read a book similar to that. It was "Talent is Overrated" Basically talked about how the real biggest key to success is hard work. Taught me to stop making excuses and work hard

I’ve only ever had sex with a girlfriend and the idea of having sex with someone in a one night stand type situation makes me insanely uncomfortable. Am I broken?

make a list of the things you don't like that you do and focus on changing one by one. or do what i do and work out so you don't have to face the rest of your flaws or be so autistic you don't recognize the problems (also me)

I just got a kindle and loaded it full of some books, but I'm interested in some more. What are some things you've read that have had the most impact on you?

Notes from the Underground
A Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man
Nietzsche

maps of meaning
a theory of socialism and capitalism
a farewell to arms
a brave new world
starship troopers
Discipline equals freedom
On Killing
Starting strength

If you've never once craved that sort of thing, I worry that you've got a few screws loose.

or he's just not fucked by societies modern r-selected programming.

I'm doing it, bros. I am join

are you doing bullet journal as well?
if not then I highly recommend it

How autistic is this plan
>TDEE bulking: 3000 kcal
>Protein/day: 770cal/ 150g @ 145lb
(7 boneless skinless chicken breasts)
>Carbs/day: 450cal / 268g @ 145lb
(4 sweet potatoes)
>Fats/day: 1,778cal / 197g @ 145lb
(5 cups of cashews)
It's just 5 cups of cashews h-ha what could go wrong right

please help brehs, i have no idea how to explain this without coming off as a dick

>trying to create a budget

why is it so hard to go from babby to vaguely competent adult

Work out your exspenses over a year, divide my number of pay cheques a year, thats how much you put aside for bills. With the rest you split between savings and spending. Easy. If you want a more structured approach search "barefoot investor bucket"

I've had a fucked up life. Father killed my mother when I was a few months old. Got raised by relatives. Was raped when I was a young boy and blackmailed for it. That crippled my social skills. My friends knew it happened because they'd seen the videos, and they sneered at me, laughed at me, made fun of me for it. At one point I couldn't leave my house for weeks and my "family" had no idea what was wrong.

I'm a bit older now, live in the US. I am extremely pragmatic in my general outlook in life, and I can usually put up a great act to appear confident in front of people and convince them to do what I want. I know I can actually be much more self confident too because I have been so for long durations of time, but I just keep relapsing and keep falling into my shit social phases. I have a month of good social skills followed by a month or two of anxiety that fucking kills me and my daily life.

Any advice on how to get out of these slumps and stay on top more consistently?

Let me add, before anyone else mentions it, I'm already planning on starting working out. I've read that helps your mental well being with shit like this. I'm looking for any other advice, preferably from people who've also gone through the same cycles of up and down. I fucking hate these slumps.

if she brings it up just be honest and say something like "i'll be honest, i'm not looking for anything serious right now. i'm open to the idea but right now i'm not in the head space for a relationship"

Honestly? Talk to a therapist. Not in a ‘you’r crazy get help’ way but because what you’ve been through would traumatise most people on the planet and it’s likely made more of an effect on your life and thought processes than even you realise.

i know it's a cliche, but it's true that time heals all wounds. remember that it's okay to feel this way and to have these memories right now, in time they will come up less and less. don't punish yourself for having feelings, just try to minimise anything that you notice triggers them, like certain songs. this too will pass

Well I'm assuming since you're in /SIG/ you value logic over emotion because that's basically the first step. So you have to realize that logically your ex is bad for you in terms of growing and progressing in your life and as a person. The primitive parts of your brain are quite literally addicted to the small hits of feel good chemicals it was getting from being with her. Your struggle is the perfect embodiment of self improvement; short term emotional pleasure vs long term gain. You know what you have to do user, break the addiction! You're starving your brain of all the love hormones, it's getting hard now because it's making those last desperate gasps to try and get you back with her. Don't give in.

The bucket method is actually pretty helpful, I just made a ton of progress. Thanks user.

Try new shit. Your passion isn’t just going to pop into your head one day, you have to try stuff out for a bit and see what sticks. Spend at least a week Persuing some random hobby or activity, be it dancing or shooting or drawing anime titties. Anything is better than sitting on your ass. A really easy one that I’ve recently become interested in is botany. Just buy some fucking plant and try to keep it alive. Even if it doesn’t fill you with passion, at least the greenery will slightly improve your state of mind.

I do understand that she's bad for me. There's really nothing that would make me logically want her back. Most of the relationship was bad and there are certainly better people out there.
I'm not giving in. But this is certainly making me struggle to be a better man.
I took some first steps to improve. Went back to lifting after years of break and I'm trying to focus more on my thesis and learning some new stuff.
What lets me down is that she was the person who emotionally supported me along the hard times and that's exactly what I'm going through now.

It's much better now than a month ago. I got rid of all her stuff and I'm learning some of my triggers.
Some old ones are not making me sad anymore, so it's an improvement.

That's true, there were a few days which I had no memories from her, so I can see some improvement.

If you get laid you will feel better.

I got better on all the dates I've had ever since. But I'm struggling with dealing with new women, so I only kissed them and didn't have sex yet.
I guess it's normal since I'm still letting go of her and I'm not used anymore to have sex with random girls.

just say that you don't want to close the window of opportunity for a relationship in the future, but you're not ready to fling yourself into one right now.

You can't ask your boss for a more consistent schedule? Hell, your boss might even like your initiative

Ashwangandha is legit, it's backed by several studies unlike many supps. The problem is in my opinion that just like any other meme indian herb you are very likely to end up with a shit product. Some people say they had better result with KSM-66

Did u actually improve?

>I wasted so much time reading and listening to that shit.

what did he mean by this

>I wasted so much time reading and listening to that shit.
Time you would have spent doing what? Looking at Facebook or Veeky Forums?

At least you attempted to improve and that requires some dedication and discipline, which is a reward for itself.

my Mom ask me for my sexual life, she want to I get a gf
what do?

Tell me when you figured it out

Any musicians here? How do you develop a structured practice routine? I always get daunted by the fact there are an infinite amount of things one can practice, and then I get discouraged when I realize how little I know and I end up not practicing at all.

>clarifies that she is going back on it "for [me], not anyone else"

do NOT believe this

100% she has fucked a bunch of other guys

Okay anons tell me how to deal with one, ONE FUCKING THING.

How do I stop caring about what people think? Being judged, considered "dumb", "cringy", "annoying" or "creepy" is the scariest thing for me. If not for this fear I'd have achieved great things by now.

HELP

guys I need your help. I am so demotivated to end my bachelor, I dont have power to finish my bachelor thesis and get my life straight, it's like something is stopping me from doing anything productiv. was someone in a similar situation or has an advice how to get out of this negative spirale? thanks

Xanex, saw some people here talking about phenibut but i'm not sure.

I'm in sales and I found that "How to win friends and influence people" is a very good guide for not giving a fuck, especially with the fake it till you make it attitude.

youtube.com/watch?v=Ks-_Mh1QhMc

Watch this, I always give it to prospective candidate after an interview as a way to look more confident, and fucking EYE CONTACT and head up.