How we holding up lads?

How we holding up lads?

my ex (whom I still love) just posted an insta picture of her on a date. I was just about to leave for kickboxing now I'm going to fucking smash it out even more.

>She looks at my snap story within 2 minutes
FORGET ABOUT MY EXISTENCE ALREADY

This girl showed a ton of interest but is slowly pulling away as I’m asking her out. She seemed enthusiastic about going on a date with me then ignored me when I asked when she was free. That was over a week ago and I decided to hit her up again. I’m trying to learn how to be confidently persistent without being needy. Most men have told me this is part of the game so I’m giving it a shot and not letting her flakey behavior knock me off course.

Good thanks

Breddy gud, lower back feels 98% recovered, just ate one bulkmeal and I'll have another in a couple hours before hitting the big 3 tomorrow for 1x5 then doing one set each of pullups and dips to failure. If dubs I'll do 3 sets

recently started crushing on a girl for the first time in almost 7 years

really motivated me to start improving myself as a person so I can be someone that she'd like to be seen with.

I'm just really scared that I'm going to fuck it up somehow

>tfw I'm making Stacy shy around me

I'm about to be friendzoned or make it lads wish me luck

Its like the entire world got together in November and made a unanimous decision to pretend I don't exist. I don't even know anybody any more. I just sit around, lift, eat and watch Youtube videos. Whenever I go to the store or gym, people look at me and smile, say hello, so on. I don't know why, they probably think I'm somebody else.

If I walked downstairs and just hallucinated a janitor or a bartender or something, I'd actually be quite relieved.

>still talk to ex-gf
>meet new girl
>going to see her today
>she rescheduled because she had a massive exam yesterday and is exhausted
>seeing her tomorrow

why do i feel so guilty. the ex dumped me ffs

Just remember she probably gets off on the fact that she's being fucked by a better man. Hell if you've had sex you know how deep fuck talk goes, they probably talk shit about you while he's balls deep lmao

But you keep training there big boi

I fell in love with a girl I met on the internet and we met up in person when I was in Poland visiting family. It was like a dream come true and I went back three months later after seeing her literally once in person and we traveled across the country and got wasted together. I'm a bit of a Chad and have hooked up with plenty of girls in my life, but for the first time I met someone that I can honestly say I want to cum in and have babies with. Shes 4 years younger than me and is basically my irl waifu. I've back from Poland for 2 weeks and I've been drinking daily to ease the pain

>snap story

Please kill yourself

Eating every other day, and trying to get rid of a lot of fucking fat. Lifts have suffered (powerfat), but I don't give a fuck, I just want to look semi decent again. I'm a manlet pushing 30, so my best years have already been wasted, so there is that.

Parents died 2 years ago, I had to take care a lot of shit and fell into a deep, deep depression. Now losing weight, getting my shit together, made some money, etc. This year I will make it, lads.

A girl would be nice, but honestly at this point I'm prepared to live my life a bachelor and visiting prostitutes every now and then.

Don't ask tell her when and where don't be a pussy user

I fucking cracked from the pressure last Friday. Cried like a bitch, thankfully got home first. Career, love life, family trouble, all of it. Felt awful. Spent Saturday in a haze, reading books without registering the words.

Glad I did it though. Hit the gym like a boss Sunday, normal routine and weights barely winded me so I went harder. Then I crushed it at work today, and I'm still full of energy. Blew off everything that was causing problems, cancelled all of my overcommitments. Feels a shit ton better man. Once I get the fires put out I will have to figure put a way to sustain this focus.

One of my best friends, who I've just developed feelings for over the past couple months, told me yesterday she was just asked out by some guy. I've been trying to figure out how to ask her out without risking the friendship too much, but I think it's now too late for that. I'm going to ask her out today, I can't let it slip past me, even if she says no, which I think she might. Been awake since 2am, it's now 8. Just threw up from a mixture of nervousness and being genuinely a bit sick yesterday.

Hold me.

tell her you like her, if your chad as you say and you've already had a good time with her than theres a high chance she likes you also

It's okay user, everybody cries sometimes. An old friend of mine used to say that to be human is to cry every now and then. Glad you are feeling better, you will pull through. Godspeed.

I'm trying

You might be too late young user, but there is a valuable life lesson here. If you like a girl, you fucking go for it. It's better on the long run. Gotta risk it for the biscuit, dude.

I still wish you luck, and hope things turn out okay.

Not sure what to say right now

Been working all day since (5am) and just signed off my computer 30 minutes ago

I'm in the tech field, just kind of tired and fucking exhausted today since projects, meeetings, and all the other shit going on is just beating me down with this work load. Probably going to get questioned soon about some things, how do you expect me to do everything when I'm balls deep in a few other projects each week. I'm just tired tonight, a bit fucking tired of everything

>TFW, they said become an engineer
>You'll love your job

she does like me. Theres a chance she comes in February during her college break to see me for a few weeks. But shes in her first year of college and i just started a brand new first job as an electrical engineer so any long term plans are sketchy as fuck.

I well and truly understand this, I want to go over to his house and show her how alpha I am by putting his head on a spike.

My ex and I split up two days ago during a fight. We’ve both been fucking up for awhile now and my temper got the best of me during the fight. Going to talk with her tonight and try to right things. fucking up in the heat of the moment just wracks your mind for days

Hey man, your effort is duly noted. I think the worth of a man is strongly tied to being able to accomplish hard tasks of various natures. The struggling anons of Veeky Forums hear you busting your balls, and wish you the best. Hope you get some time to unwind soon, champ.

I'm okay.

Finishing my econ degree this spring. Hoping to work a bit before doing an MBA.

No gf, but I've been single for a couple years so I'm getting pretty emotionless which makes it hurt less

fuck that guy dude. swooning over your ex is retarded, I learned that the hard way. just keep training bro, never let yourself go. in about a year you will think of them as nothing compared to yourself.

Yea but she’s busy too like obviously I can’t just pick a day and expect her to be like oh I’m free at that exact time too right?

I'm coming to the realization that money does not fix your non-financial problems

The only thing that can get me out of this rut is finding purpose somewhere. I'm still looking

then have her pick a day. and if you have any plans that day tell her you're busy, its that simple. find a day that works for you both, but dont compromise a lot or you will look like a pushover

...

Whats your situation?

I also discovered money (wealth) doesn't fix much issues at all

Some people just keep buying shit so they never get those feels...

Yeah fuck them, she was getting fat and he's a stoner so whatever.

...

maybe you should look into yourself and find any flaws with your person. if you cant find anything that needs fixed, then you just need to meet new people that's all

I benched 1pl8 for reps the other day, felt good. I'm still DYEL but I've come so far from Auschwitz-mode in a year's time. I'm optimistic regarding gains this year, if I figure out a more efficient program and stick with it.

I know that’s exactly what I said lol I asked her when she was free and she ignored me

Old fag, depressed for years, no job for a long time, long time gf left 8 months ago, problems sleeping, only feel good when lifting, body starting to look great, at least i have that. Hope all you anons are doing better, i want you to make it.

shit now that you mention it I've been in a really similar place.. its okay though, we're all gonna make it

This is why they should bring back dueling

and thats your problem. don't ask her when, or where to go, just tell her. say like "this time works for me" and don't even give a shit if she shows up or not. try to show more alpha traits bro, girls love that shit

I have a ton of money in my savings from working my job and living at home in my early 20s and from other certain investments. I could pretty much retire at the age of 38 but then I wouldn't know what to do with myself.
I don't really buy fancy shit or go on spectacular vacations I just do my job, come home, browser Veeky Forums and hit the gym. Rinse and repeat

One month into being single

bit depressed and lonely but im at my lowest weight since i was like 15

Good progress, lad. We are all gonna make it.

Fellow oldfag here, fingers crossed for you dude. Low carb + Win Hof method helped a lot with my depression, give it a try.

Life is all about searching for meaning. I haven't really found my mission, but when I can work on something, really work towards something things just sort of fall into place. I think working hard towards something is as good as it gets, and it's not a bad deal.

where are you from?

I have never had so much shit happened to me in such a short time as this first week of this year.

>Miss a chance at a new years gathering w this girl who was clearly into me. I pussyed and didn't kiss her and seal the deal.

>Parents constantly fighting which is pretty normal, tho now it's different and I'm pretty sure they're at the brink of a divorce.

>Dad is wasting money on the failing family business, which just makes things in the family worse

>Birthday of my best friends girlfriend was like a few days ago, everyone was invited except me, prob because he pushed me to make a move and new years and pussyed out.

>Couldn't take it anymore after this and pouredo my next best friend about how they're counts for not calling me, and basically indirectly tell me they don't want me around

>I trust this guy and he knows me very well, turns out he told everyone what i said. Now they look down on me as some kind of emotionally retarded cunt.

Tho I'm still pushing for self-improvement
I got a few books and am starting to read them, officially on my cut and lifts are still solid, and will go hard af when school starts so i can get some good grades.


Idk guys i have an appointment with my psychiatrist on the 2.2 but god damnit it seems so far away. I hope I can make it till then.

Easier said than done. I'd have to move to meet people at this point, its a drug and booze kind of town. Until I can afford that, I'll just place all of my sanity in my lifts and hope theres some left when the opportunity comes

TODAY WAS A GOOD FUCKING DAY AND TOMORROW IS GOING TO BE A BETTER FUCKING DAY GODDAMNIT

sorry about that user

Motivation is middling to low, trying to find out how to make myself do things. The howling whirlpool of existential terror has been quiet recently, which is cool.

My emotions are getting duller every day, which I quite like, it's just the motivation thing that bothers me.

I'm slowly shifting from planning to lose my virginity to a prostitute (I'm almost 30) to actually planning to start dating with women. Women around my age too often look for a potential husband and a father and there is nothing wrong with that but I don't want that kind of pressure so I may stick to casual dating.

I do feel lonely though and it would be nice to have someone you find attractive, sexy and interesting who also sees you as someone they want to be with. I'm scared of being intimate and honest with someone I really like when my baggage may turn out to be a dealbreaker.

I'm past crushing on people and calling it one true love but there is some intense attraction every now and then but I never make any move. I got used to it over the years.

Being a 30 year old virgin is special kind of lonely but I do hope things work out for me lads. And for you too.
We are all gonna make it.

>Have amazing qt 3.14 Asian gf who I care about so much
>We both really love each other
>Been together a year and a half now
>Occasionally jerk off to pics of girls I was previously into
>Come buckets every time, much more and harder than I do with real life gf
>I'm 21
Wat do

I had friends like that. Dropped the bad ones, with the intention of keeping the 'good'. Turned out the good preferred the bad, and I ended up without any of them.
You could do the same. Don't get to do as much socially any more, but when I have gone out its been a lot more enjoyable without all the weird bullshit.

My cat took a shit on my work shirt earlier today so I had to borrow one a size smaller (usually wear an XL, had to wear a L)

I got so many compliments I legit almost started tearing up

why do i hate myself even more now

Haven't scheduled it yet but I'm going to be getting skull surgery. Need to talk to insurance and should be knowing more either this week or next week but its too painful now. Time to get the surgery

>3 months out of an engagement and things are...surprisingly peaceful.
>The strange thing is, I don't miss her specifically, but the thought of her being with someone else or throwing myself back into the dating world to start this arduous dating process over again is what really pains my emotions. I get anxiety over her texting again when I used to get butterflies. Now that it's gone it just feels like a relief, but I feel so empty.
>Modern dating is such a shit show and I'm just so, so tired of it. I'm tired of the relentless competition, the shit games, the insecurity, but I'm scared I'll become a lonely middle aged man with nothing but his muscles and money to show for it.
>What is wrong with me?
>Also my lower pecs seem to be saggy while my upper pecs are quite built. Any suggestions besides lose more body fat?

Hang on, dude. Everyone messes up with girls, it's no biggie. Fuck your friends if they don't want you around, you are likely better off without them. You can find people who accept you with all your shit and shortcomings, I know I did, and I'm pretty much FUBAR.

Therapy gets a lot of negative talk around here, but if you find a good practitioner it can really help. Although you are better off with a psychologist imho, because a psychiatrist will only give you drugs and won't give you the talks, and you ideally need both to get better.

Hang on, dude. You will pull through. And cut off the loose tongued fag from your life, you have every right to be upset. A man with honor should know when to keep fucking quiet.

>t. psychofag

p. good desu

did 77.5kg squat
failed 55kg bench
but rowed 65

good session today, avg korean gf, eating 3000kcal a day

life is pretty good

NoPorn. Appreciate your GF.

okay man you got this, I believe in you. see you around here then

well stop that shit, I had to do nofap for a month to get over my depraved porn habits (not saying what those were). do whatever it takes to be happy

Do you own thing man. If that's what you decided, stick to it.

To give some input however, I'm a fellow oldfag. A few years back I lost a lot of weight (~80 lbs) and ended a 4 year long dry period by getting a bj from a hooker. It really put some things into perspective, and I got myself a girlfriend not much later. I had sex built up to be this larger than life thing in my head, and it was keeping me paralyzed. Nutting into someone's mouth for some money really put things into perspective. I realized I was not cut off from the sexual part of humanity, and that as long as I was willing to pay I wouldn't ever have to go for years without release. You are likely the same as I was.
(Though sex is much better with a girl you actually care for and trust, you really can't compare the two.)

Not porn, real life women's

>depraved porn habits (not saying what those were)

>started dating a girl back in November
>Really hit it off
>Feel like I found someone special and can finally leave the online dating meme in the past
>Day 8 of no fap
>Think I can go over and hang out with her and get a quick fuck in
>She breaks up with me and says she's not ready for a relationship
>Worked out earlier so the endorphin high is still present
>Can't feel sad, just empty cold and disappointed
>Mfw installed tinder again to sift through bots and sluts looking for dinner

>Deletes all our pictures of us on her Instagram
The final nail in the coffin bros... :/

Im considering going to the gym for the first time in my life.

Im 25 about 5 11 80kgish. Work a physical job but have a belly and I want to get rid of it.

Ive been weening myself off junk food the last year and Have dropped a bit of weight already but now Just want to improve myself more than just lose weight.

Why can there just be empty gyms autisms can go to

What is the point of becoming Veeky Forums if my waifu will never be real to appreciate it?

I've known the guy since kindergarten and we've pretty much made a blood pact. I'll talk with him a about running his mouth, if he does it again I'll leave him be, still have 2 guys to rely on if it things go bad.

Also ye he is a psychologist(English isn't my native tongue) and I've been seeing the guy since i was 14 so he knows me pretty well.

I went back to my old uni today and now I'm getting drunk because I miss my ex. I impressed my friends with a 5pl8 dl today though... that counts r-right?

Fuck I miss her bros. I know I'll be called beta but I'm drinking and missing her and watching speedruns right now. Fuck.

Nothing worse than being ghosted by someone you thought gave a fuck about you. Hasn't happened to me but shit that's gotta suck

Agreed. Reading about the Hamilton/Burr duel always gets me hyped af.

Go to a 24hr gym at like 2am, will be empty 99% of the time

Had shit friends until I was 18 and left highschool. Legit thought people were just shitty as I never had friends that truly cared about me, only the annoying "people you just spend time with a lot".
I started hanging around more with my brother and his friends. After a few weeks of hanging out with them I started crying because they were so nice to me, they totally understood which led to even more crying. I felt so fucking relieved to that good people still exist. I hope you can find some good people to spend time with, not shitty ones. They aren't worth it. Good luck user, better times are ahead.

Nothing wrong with you my man, you don't need a woman to fulfill you. The 'lonely broken bachelor' is a myth. I have some many friends engaged/married to women below them it blows my fucking mind. Most of these man are also pussy-whipped as fuck, it's sad to see. To give you an example:

>I have this dude I play League of Legends every now and then
>We usually talk over skype/disc/whatever
>During these sessions his girl usually comes in to argue with him
>He puts down the mic but I can still hear everything, I just pretend to not notice out of courtesy
>She talks to her like some angry abusive mom talks to his good for nothing teenage son, and the dude is fucking 30

I know living together with someone is tough, I know you have to compromise, I know well that playing fucking League of Legends late into the evening is not a panty dropper, but fuck. Fuck. How can a grown ass man take this shit from some fucking bitch half her size? I'm better off alone than with this bullshit.

So yeah, if you don't want a girl, don't get one. You eat when you are hungry, right? Same shit imho. When the time comes and you feel the urge to have someone in your life, you will be back playing the game. It's fine. Until then spends some time with yourself and on your hobbies. Motorcycles, vinyls, playing guitar, you name it. You can still settle down and have a family later, but women are not the end-all-be-all answer to life.

I know that feel user. I'm living that user. Best of luck to you.

Just be honest and straightforward. If she wants a long term thing with you, then she will say so. Just bring it up. I've dated long distance before. It's not terrible.

I mean, it hurt when I saw it honestly. But I guess I'm over it now. I called her out for it and she was trying to be all "Oh I'm sorry for being shitty" and guilting me because she was depressed.
Went over the same night to a girl's place that night so I guess it's all working out honestly.

What do you mean pretend you don't exist? Like your (former) friends no longer acknowledge you?

>turns out he told everyone what i said
What did you say?

Also, you're young user. Once you develop into a full 25 year old autist like myself, you will see the world bleaker than you already do.

Actually doing pretty well. Since the New Year I've started using Habitica (habit rpg), actually am using my calendar and am getting the things done that I've been pushing off for months.

I haven't had a drop of alcohol since New Years Eve and have been sticking to losing weight. I've reset my circadian rhythm so I get up in the mornings (used to stay up until 5AM and then sleep until 2PM). I've saved up money and am taking classes this semester. I've cleaned my room.

I'd forgotten what feeling good about myself was like. Here's to a new year of progress.

That’s not alpha imo. There is nothing beta about asking a girl when she’s free if I had to be honest. It’s just me finding out which day would work best for us.

>broke up with korean gf after 2 years towards the end of last year, pretty bummed out
>Started dating a cute polish grill who is an inch taller than me and squats 2plate.
>Her booty thicc as fuck.
>teases me for being a manlet but doesn’t bully
I think everything’s gonna be alright.

Why would you break up with qt korean?

>Moved to a new city in October.
>Had a great time going to bars with friends
>find a blonde hair with green eyes 8/10 and drunkenly ask her to dance
>she loves it and keeps pushing herself close to me
>kisses me before she leaves
>she finds and adds me on Facebook and we start talking
>go on a date with her in late November
>the whole thing goes great we agree on a second date to grab lunch or go dancing
>few days go by and haven’t heard from her
>message her about her day
>nothing
>send another message 3 days later
>Nothing
>get depressed for a week
>still depressed but manageable
>no longer enjoy going to bars
>every time I’m downtown I look out for her


>I just want to know why

>girl asked me to her formal (ie british prom)
>act casual, end up saying yeah
>few days later ask her to mine
>she says yeah
>snapchatting her and just leave the conversation, she restarts it with proper questions

bros i think i'm making it with this girl.

Yea i know, I'm gonna try and talk to him about it, if it happens again just gonna drop all of them.

That what they did was dick move and showed how much they cares for me. He was trying to excuse their behaviour but still accepted what they did was wrong.

Plus i when i asked him how everyone reacted when he told them, as i thought they would thy acted nonchalantly, I'm pretty sure they see me as someone unstable now but idgaf anymore.

She studied English in Bongland for a year then, she went to Korea for like 28 months to finish her degree. In the end she decided she didn’t want to leave her korean life behind and I couldn’t really move build one there so we split.

Almost a fucking year and I can't stop thinking about her. Worst thing is I see her every day at uni, I think I'm going active duty.

18 months*

Your lifts are fine, Mr. user.

Yup, contact just stopped and when I've tried to get in touch, no reply. Weirder still, I haven't got any letters, doctors appointments, bills, nothing. Its all a bit disconcerting.

Same as yesterday, same as tomorrow. Lifting is about the only time I don't feel totally dead inside. At least I'll always have the iron to keep me company. How's life, OP?

why do we care so much about some stupid thots lads

>senior year of highschool
>cute junior i talk to often in one of my classes and in some of my clubs
>she clearly likes me
>kinda involved with a senior girl but thats not important
> 1 year later come back from first semester of college abroad
>see her at party last weekend of winter break
>first time i had seen her out of school
>chat play pong
>she had to leave but tells me to hit her up over spring break
>my chad friend at party said i did everything right and she would have gotten with me if she didnt have to leave

What can I do to have the best chance that im able to follow through in a few months?
Should I try to maintain contact or hit her up out of the blue before i get back?
Shes shy and her friends say she rarely finds a guy she likes.

Because no one cares about us

Idk man, we can't talk about this shit in real life or else you'll look like a beta, at the least that's why i spill my spaghetti on here

Lifting is going well, no fap going well, girls...
Were going excellent until two days ago I was juggling 5 tinder thots then like clockwork all 5 stopped responding and 2 haven't even met me yet
My female friend who's been making lovey eyes at me for the past 6 months also stopped talking to me last thing Dr said was "I can't wait to see you again! We gotta see a lot of each other before night classes start again :)"
Now
Nothing

Phones working
Women all left
The friend hurts in a really really deep way, I didn't even get to bone her I had the chance but I wanted to wait till the second date don't know if I went too far too fast or not enough

>go to small elite university
>everyone knows each other, feels like high school in that way
>have a good face so done ok with women
>however, without fail, completely sperg out whenever I see a girl I've hooked up with around campus
>fear that word is spreading about my autism and I will no longer have success with girls

I need a complete social reinvention