Why doesn't fitness transfer into other aspects of your life like people claim it does? I love lifting and stuff...

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low iq ... can't spell actually

are you actually going places where people talk to each other? i'm in a run club, we run and talk for miles and i run with a ton of girls, i know /fit likes to make fun of crossfit but i spent a moth at one on a groupon cause i'm cheap and those chicks gravitate to a guy in the box

Stop caring what people think. Think inwards. Become stuck up. Love yourself.

I do a lot of stuff. I go to events, I make small talk, I join clubs, it all just doesn't pan out. It sounds dramatic, but I feel like there's this wall between everyone I try to get to know, and nothing can really change that.
All I hear is that college is the easiest time to make friends, get laid, have fun, etc. and I'm scared life is always going to be like this.

delet this

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It's like sports. Lifting improves your sport, but only if keep playing.

M8 i havent even made friends in college

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tough pill to swallow

fpbp as usual.

Seriously OP, you sound like you're still young. You don't need to be on top of everything in your life right now, take your time and enjoy life while working all your shit out

>failed out of college
D-does that mean I still have a chance?

False, I was a kissless virgin until I was 25. I've fucked over ten girls in the next two years. Not a ton but I did kind of make it, I'll write up my strategy once I get home and if this post gets replies.

pls go on user

I'd be interested

You have our attention.

Were they hot?

alright so let me preface this by saying that I'm white, upper middle class, and 6'1 so I don't know if this will work for everyone. My negatives are that I'm probably on the spectrum, i have shit skin, a bad hairline, a 5/10 face (although I look better now that I've filled out), and I used to be Auschwitz mode.

At 25 I was a depressed anxiety riddled zombie who only looked forward to getting home from work, fapping, and playing games/browsing Veeky Forums. After my birthday I decided to do nofap but didn't last a week so I just did noporn instead. I kept getting triggered by porn on Veeky Forums so I gave up Veeky Forums as well (probably the best thing I ever did). I started going to the gym, eating better, and dressing better. I went on a few okcupid and tender dates but they were uncomfortable and never led anywhere.

I finally decided that I should play on my strengths (being a tall educated white guy) and just find any girl that I found attractive and would fuck me. I lived in a lower class part of town because I worked downtown and it was full of latinas so I decided to go for that. I stopped using dating sites and just went up to qt latinas at the mall, grocery store, or gym and flirted and got there number. I felt that online dating didn't really help me because I was competing with a million other white guys just like me for a handful of decent white girls. Meanwhile here I was actually differentiating myself with these girls as they probably never got approached by someone like me. The first girl that I started seeing was a pretty cute latina who spoke pretty bad english (I don't give a fuck I was desperate) who was surprisingly european looking for most likely being an illegal. She literally worked as a waitress at a mexican restaurant. We finally fucked after a month and I felt so much better about myself that I finally gained some confidence.

cont.

Our relationship didn't really work out as we had nothing in common and I didn't want to hang out with her mexican family all the fucking time. Although I did learn some spanish. The second girl was another latina who was about 20 and a cuter petite who worked at chic-fila. we fucked alot. I finally found my third girl on tender and she was a thicc asian who was a total whore and let me do anything to her. I basically did every depraved shit I remembered from porn but realized I didn't want to date a whore so I broke up with her.

OK I actually don't feel like writing the rest of my life story but the main premise is that you pick a good demographic of women that you know will be attracted to someone like you and just power through the embarrassment of asking a lot of women out. Let those new experiences improve your confidence which in turn will further your self improvement. Also stop being a faggot voyeur comparing your life to what you see on Veeky Forums, instagram, and porn. It will eat you up inside and make your initial progress feel insignificant. It's been almost 3 years and I've had 2 ~6 month relationships that have helped me a lot while the rest have been pretty short flings or fuckbuddies. Although I just broke up with on girl after 7 months and Now I'm depressed as shit and have gone back to Veeky Forums and fapping to instagram thots but atleast it's better than where I was at 25.

surprisingly hotter than I ever thought I could fuck and I never even fucked a fatty although the asian mentioned above was cutting it close. All in all it was 3 white girls, 4 latinas, and 2 asians. The girl I recently dated was legit wife material.

>At 25 I was a depressed anxiety riddled zombie

I'm not alone!

where do you take the bitches on the first date? is it better to fuck on first date or second cuz i always get flakes if i fuck on first date

I always take them to get food from a place I've been wanting to go to because I'm a foodie. Also I've never fucked on first dates, I almost never even kiss on the first date either. I see the first date as feeling eachother out and then the second date guarantees she's attracted to you.

>i always get flakes if i fuck on first date
what? you fuck them on the first date and they ghost you? isn't that ideal?

Its not because they would text him back after the sex if he was any good. Which means he just sucks at bad. The real dream would be being such a player and never replying them after sex. I mean if thats what you want ofc.

ah I see, I wish I could fuck on the first date though. I'm actually surprisingly good at sex and have a big cock. too bad that I'm socially weird and it doesn't help me get them into bed in the first place. However I've had ex's come back for more a lot. I had one indian girl who would call me up and fuck me after she broke up with every boyfriend lol.

How much did they cost you user, supposing that you didn't make it "free"?

Well im kinda like you except the big dick i suppose(16cm). 193which is 6¨3 and broad shoulders with 7-8 face and very social with men and women. But if its someone that im attacted to i become quiet and hesitant. character is more important than looks. Alotta ugly manlets fuck in the first date too so it just makes my argument stronger :D

jesus what country do you live in where most girls fuck on the first date? You meet them online?

Its literally too late

Sorry to dissappoint you but im a different person These are the only things i posted. But its fairly common in sweden to fuck in first date. Its abit different when you look like a foreigner(Balkan with olive skin, black hair). Swedish girls are hoes for any foreign look though so its not the problem :D

>16cm
>bi
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

THE ABSOLUTE STANDARD OF THE UNITED STATES

Thats what i said though? That its the standart?

>We finally fucked after a month and I felt so much better about myself that I finally gained some confidence.
This reminds me of a guy I talked to who worked around horses since young age. I'll never forget what he told me about horse castration. He said that before they'll castrate a horse they always let it get laid with a mare so he gains confidence. He said that there is a big difference in a behaviour of a horse that fucked versus that never fucked. It was pretty mind blowing, I'm sure some people can tell I'm a virgin from a mile away.

well yeah, virgins have yet to fulfill their innate biological purpose, to procreate.

>I stopped using dating sites and just went up to qt latinas at the mall, grocery store, or gym and flirted and got there number.
how2?

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Have you fucked any of them though?

It was a positive loop for me. I went back to school, got straight A +’s for the first time in my life despite being a B/C student in HS. I got the courage to start pursuing women, party less and quit smoking.

You see a pretty girl, walk up and say something. If they seem engaged then introduce yourself and ask them for their number and say you want to take them to lunch sometime. Honestly I don't remember what I say most of the time, I just smile a lot and try and act confident. It backfires horribly sometimes where she just looks at me weird, scurries off, or laughs in my face. Other times she'll say she has a boyfriend or give me a fake number. But it actually works eventually and even if it doesn't they still like the attention/affirmation.

Also like I said, I was a tall college grad making decent money. Most of them were working shit jobs and living in a shit neighborhood with a boring life. I may seem like a retard but I'm at least intriguing enough for them to keep talking to me.

>dropped out of highschool at 16.
>started lifting at 23
>got GED at 25
>went to university at 26
>still spergy NEET mindset
>now 30 and finish university and back to being a NEET again

Im still lifting, but I don't feel any different, I just want to stay home all the time and not be around people, getting Veeky Forums and getting confident enough to get out there and go back to school didn't change my mind set. I want to be a shut-in NEET for the rest of my life.

I was never normie to begin with so I don't see why I expected lifting to change any of that.

The only two girls I've slept with (OP here) basically came onto me. It seems as though whenever I try to initiate things, it doesn't work out, but every now and then something will just happen with a girl when I'm not really expecting it. Why would that be the case? I mean, I'm pretty attractive, 6'2", in good shape, and I'm not autistic or anything. I don't get why I shouldn't be having more success with girls.

how do your parents take it lol

>"Haha user, I still have great memories about prom. How was your prom? You did go... right?"
>"Haha user, my first kiss in middle school was so awkward. How about yours?"
>"Haha user, I was on the volleyball and cheerleading teams during high school. What sports did you play?"
>"Haha user, I remember all the crazy parties during freshman year of college. What's your craziest memory?"

Answer these right now.

Satisfaction is a path you must walk alone my friend, finding someone who loves you will only seems satisfiying temporarily. Also fitness does translate to other aspects in life but not as directly as you may think. The best example is discipline, if you have the discipline to get up every day and work for nothing more than the your own personal fitness goals, then you have the will to do anything. You can make it

hes full of shit, as long as you look young its not too late ever

get a dirt bike.

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>Tfw I got laid a couple times in college
>Still can't go the distance for a meaningful relationship

It's all I really want now desu, fucking doesn't do it for me anymore

Tfw when get laid easily because good looking but too narcisssitic to develope feelings with a girl despite having multiple good well behaved girls who are attractive and want a relationship.

"yes"
"mine too lol"
"a couple"
"blacked out too much to remember"

Went through the similar shit too. Really nothing to it but to do it. Nofap/porn help a ton, but walking away from Veeky Forums for a bit was definitely the best.

DEUS VULT, we're gonna make it brahs

Because IT IS A MEME if you're that obsessive about it. Fucks sake do you have any critical thinking skills at all?

find social things to do, that involves a higher ratio of women.

u from LA?

>no, I switched schools a year before prom
>lie that I did
>yeah a lot of tennis
>winning a race (on a track) against my bud despite him having 100 more hp than me, kek
pic related

>user what's the craziest party you've ever been to?
>uh i like cars

this except for me i lose all interest once they are interested. if my mind KNOWS it can get this girl, it automatically tries to conquer the next one.

that aint youre whip you larper. post more pics though

how to flirt with girls that you walk up to? i spill spaghetti and am after 1 minute i freak out and don't know what to talk about

brutal

We aren't gonna make it.

Lifting is a meme (outside of professional sports) and if you lift for any other reason but fun & health (literally) you're doing it wrong and you'll wake up to an unpleasant ''surprise''.

better yet get a bike a 4 wheeler. Depending on where you live most girls won't have ever been riding, so they'll always say yes. Girls love fucking riding. Plus it's usually a drive to get there, so you have time to talk and get to know the person. I've taken many dates and they always have a great time. (however if you stop taking them be prepared that your other date ideas will not give them anywhere near the endorphin rush so they will always be asking to go or bringing it up in comparison to lesser activities)
Also if a girl can't even handle a 4-wheeler or isn't willing to try "scary things", like going off trail OMG, you can screen her out for long term relationships.

yeah and a few dozen of us went to a friends property to party afterwards and sleep in tents

my first was in sophomore highschool cause I wasn't from a shitty home and trying to get extra love in middleschool like a slut

Football and swimming

Been to plenty of college freshmen parties, honestly kids partied a lot harder in high school. Freshmen at the good college I attend seem like they have never had a drink before and are usually to reserved to have any real fun. Did see a kid in college get tackled by a horse cop when a party got broke up with tear gas though

>It was pretty shitty honestly, I liked going out to eat and hanging with my friends before and after, but prom itself at my school was lame.
>Mine was in a truth or dare game at 16. I remember thinking "really? That was it?" after it happened.
>I mainly ran track and cross country in high school. I have good memories, but I didn't enjoy them as much as I enjoy lifting now.
>The time I left early without telling anyone. Which was every time.

Looking better = more confidence = more outgoing which hopefully means you can make friends more easily and more friends typically leads to more potential gfs. Reminder that the friendzone doesn't exist for good looking people.

>I gave up Veeky Forums as well (probably the best thing I ever did).

So what went wrong lately?

>I feel wildly unsatisfied with life in general
/fitlit/ faggot. Start reading and find purpose and direction, become more that a man. Here, I'll get you started.

North Carolina

I broke up with a gf who I actually loved. Now I feel miserable and addicted to the internet. I fucking hate social media, it's makes me into such a jealous fuck. I honestly spend my time religiously looking at fitness thots' snap stories.

>it was pretty shit so me and my friends got hammered
>my first few kisses were all drunk, by the time I had one sober it was pretty natural
>martial arts n gym n shit
>the craziest things I did were recounted to me in the following days, the whole point is you don't remember them
Ezpz next questions

Prom isn't a thing in my country, so I wouldn't even be asked that
Didn't have one, our school was small so if shit went down during a relationship, everyone knew. I never wanted to risk that.
We don't have sports teams in our schools. School systems work differently in my country, if you wanted to seriously get into sports at a young age, you had to go outside of school for that. Also, everyone plays soccer in my country, so that question wouldn't come up.
Waking up and being told about things I do not remember doing at all.

These questions didn't come up in any conversation I had with a girl. And if they did, I'm comfortable giving honest answers because I'm not an autist.

Fitness does transfer into other aspects of your life - these just aren't friendship / relationships or satisfaction...
For me, lifting was a key to becoming more confident in overcoming non-fitness-related obstacles.
Nevertheless, I still have social anxiety and cannot really talk with most other people. Fitness does not work wonders but it works.

Most people fit well with most other people. The difference is how much they are attracted to one another. Working out puts you in the upper brackets. So when "most" women meet most dudes, they have to choose, and obviously with all else being the same, they choose the more attractive bunch.
If you're like a small minority, like me, you don't care for or fit with most people. You may meet a woman that somehow fits with you, but why take a gamble that she's just going to be interested in you outside of your looks and dedication? Would she even put effort forward if you were a fat slob that happened to have a lot in common?

Fitness matters for a lot of reasons. Dont be dumb.

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Hmmm... you can be a non-virgin and not procreate retard

"no, I'm Italian we don't have prom there"
"I've never kissed a girl before"
"I sucked at volleyball and most sports and still do despite the fact that I lift and jog"
"Never went to a party during my first year of University"

>7-8 face
yeahh sure buddy

everyone's a male model on Veeky Forums fkn LOL

yes

College doesn't exist here in Italy

>tell her your childhood was bad
>"aww baby, thats so sad. Maybe I can make it better winkyface nudge nudge"
>"give me that big ole' dick"
i'm paraphrasing, but you get the idea. Women don't care about your past being pathetic, they care about you being great and overcoming it.

It does.

They do care, most of them do, it's a sign of bad genes to be bullied/ostracized/made fun of/rejected, so yeah they care a lot, they care more about a guy having lots of friends and an active social life vs a guy being good looking, of course both are important but you get the idea.

By this I don't mean you should lie about your past, that would make things even worse and with modern social media she would easily find out, just know that it'll matter to her, especially if she's a "normie".

absolutely untrue.
if a woman thinks you're attractive now and she cares about what you did in high school, either
A) Shes not worth your time
or
B) you're literally 18 and need to grow the fuck up.
most women I meet are only interested in who I am now, not who I was 10 years ago, excepting that I didn't murder or rape anyone in that time.

Lol sure they are, look just look at reality your past matters a lot, it's not always a deal breaker but it does influence their opinion on you, I don't know if you're from Saudi Arabia or some useless shithole with no social media but in most first world countries where women have the same right as men social life matters a lot

your current one, sure. To the extent that your past can influence your present, it matters. But if you're beyond your past, no one really cares if you had your first kiss in middle school. No one cares if you played sports in high school unless its a common point on interest. No one cares about your experience at prom. No one cares if you partied in college or not.

>as long as you look young
>mfw smoked since I was 12
>mfw was told I look 30 when I was 23
Not a virgin but its still so incredibly ogre

They don't care about the first kiss in middleschool, but no gf or even worse in HS tells them a lot, and if you didn't have one in college either it influences them a lot

are you actually me?

No - controling parents

No - just moved to district, didn't really make friends, had a chance in senior year though

None - parents thought exercise would kill me, making up for it in uni. Kickboxing ftw

Yes - First time drinking and got hella wasted in a spring party, shots shots shots

Fitness does not directly translate into meeting people.

Generally speaking once you get to a certain level of fitness it makes it easier to build relationships and people respect people who respect there bodies generally speaking.

If you want to meet people and build relationships using fitness as a vehicle the best bet is to join a fitness class that requires partner work or a sport specific training group. That said many people cannot workout alone and they require a group to push them.

This isn’t rocket science read a book on networking and relationship building.

Oh ya and if the group does not have partner work YOU can suggest it to the leader of the group BONUS if you bring examples of the kind of partner work you think will help.