/sig/ - Self Improvement General

Yeah
It's why I like Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck
Points out some common Stoic values but in a way where anyone can understand

Also the audiobook for it is decent

>finally build up confidence to start pursuing oneitis
>going good
>find out she's leaving for uni in two days
Should i just end it?

hit 100kg deadlift

No
Because despite what your brain chemistry and mental thought habits are telling you, she's not some one of a kind unicorn.

There is likely to be hundreds upon hundreds of girls like her in your area.

This is pretty difficult to say because it's really a thing that you'll see when this experience is over. I and many others have experienced it and came out on the toher side and realised that fact. But while you're still in it, it's very difficult to see that perspective. That's just how oneitis works.

There are strategies to decisively end the oneitis, if you're looking for that.

Completely. I think it's evident in my peers, they're all depressed, use drugs on a weekly if not daily basis, a lot of the girls in my social circle have onlyfans accounts etc. Total lack of moral fibre, it's infuriating, and I think it's linked to a lack of faith and nihilism that has gripped the younger generations.
I don't think I need to believe in a higher power to get through my day etc, I'd say I'm a driven person and have a decent moral compass in the grand scheme of things - just I enjoy the self sacrifice element of the Christian ethos. The idea of carrying your own cross to your point of death and being totally comfortable in that fact is almost heroic to me.
I'd like some recommendations on books regarding faith w/o religion etc, I'm open to all suggestions.

>2018
>Spirituality

Fucking homos.

stopped masturbating as much, unfucked my social interaction, started dating my oneitis

it gets better

Thanks man. I hope your right

big number

Do it anyway tell her you'll miss her in a funny way.
Pursue other chicks, if she is really that great tell yourself, through experience and working on yourself you're going to become the man of her dreams.
And if you find other "better" chicks along the way forget her. Self improvement is a journey with no destination, enjoy the the trip and never get of the road.

Good job user

congrats user!

Good going user. Conventional or sumo?

>as much
this is the key word here, nofappers.

>Orthodox Church
Based user

Been taking taurine and I feel like my loins are on fire

thanks lads, just conventional

Am I gonna make it?

Yes!
You're going to make it user

In 2 years time you’ll weigh -50lbs
Be careful

Godspeed my friend

Good luck man
One proponent of oneitis is external validation
So building your internal foundations up is a decent start

In other words focusing on yourself so that 90% of validation starts coming from within

Stoicism is god tier for this

gj man, height?

5'11"

Me too dude! Is it 1rm or all of your reps?

Any opinions on Atlas Shrugged? I've heard of it and it was mentioned on Mad Men so now it feels reinforced. I'm definitely considering picking up a copy.

I want to become a good storyteller. For example telling jokes or something that happened to me and making it good, by building anticipation of a punch line, making sound effects, slightly changing voices for different characters, etc. I've also noticed that when I talk about my experience I tend to talk really fast, (so that I can get it all out before I lose their attention) I am trying to slow down my speed of talking.

For achieving these I need stories to practice delivering. Do you guys know where I can find any, they have to be short. maybe half a page. Jokes or fables are perfect. I need to improve on punchlines a lot.

That's very hot

>Sickness and Shoulder injury has me out of the gym for 3 weeks - I have been trying to do light lifts and calesten
>School is going well
>Very busy with work. Hopefully I can get a full-time position. If I do, I'll be making a comfy salary and benefits.
>Reading lots of Shakespeare and John Donne
>tfw nogf
I am trying Veeky Forums. Please let me in when I make it.

calisthenics** I don't know why I went full retard there.

Thanks i really needed to hear this
Haven't felt this motivated since i started lifting

3 warm up sets then 3x5
congrats mate

Don't lift for others

Good luck user! You will make it

Audible kek

I have finally finished this running routine, do any of you guys know what should I do next?

couch210k

35 oldfag here

Been working out for a few weeks and really want to gain 30-40lbs this year (lanklet). Going on a meditation retreat next month, ingesting Stoicism and Peterson on a daily basis. Just need to figure out how to make some more money and life will improve. But all I really want is to get ripped Ottermode.

Was relatively good about exercise and diet before Christmas, but I'm trying to kick it up.

Over the last month I've done the following
>Cut all excess sugar from diet. Reduced carbs.
>Run 5km 5 days a week
>Go to gym 2 days a week. Pretty much exclusively use rowing machine and treadmill to warm up / cool down
>Do press ups and sit ups at home whenever I can

Anyone got any advice for what to do at the gym. I've run for quite a long time but never really used a gym before.

Also, I live in a city. Any advice on running in polluted air. It's actually become quite the problem, I get out of breath so much quicker than running in the country.

Squats, deadlifts and bench presses gets you a good start

Squat, bench, deadlift, pull up, row, OHP and when you're confident - Olympic movements. Get advice on form for these and figure out what works best for you - watch videos and speak to people who know their shit.

Running in the city - can't comment, no doubt there will be endless advice online from avid runners who live in cities. Used to live in London and my cardio was absolutely abysmal despite running 3/4 times a week, moved to the sticks and now I'm like a fuckin gazelle.

I picked up MEDITATION four years ago and it's the best habit i've formed. life changing if you can make it a daily habit.
The War of Art (by Steven Pressfield) and Meditations (Gregory Hays translation) work great together as daily motivator. they can both be referenced for a quick dose every time you are feeling weak willed.
Diet and Exercise- trite as it may be, it's the best thing you can pay attention to to be at your best mentally, and feel good. vast amounts of research to bck this up. Get rid of all added sugar in the food you eat and refined carbohydrates and your 80% there. If it didnt exist 200 years ago, dont eat it (good rule of thumb).
Lift heavy and HIIT for exercise.

We're all gonna make it brah

I find squats a little painful because my knees are fucked. Will my knees just get stronger over time if I start off slow?

Have you tried the Gregory Hays translation? it's the one i have and very clearly written. incredibly accessible. I picked it up on the advice that it's the best translation for modern times.

discord.gg/m3fJfse
>psychological fitness server

I personally like it. Go pick up a copy.

>Discord
gb2 r*ddit. Use IRC like a normal person.

Get some thick knee warmers, not the cheap kind.
Knees get stronger, just don't push them to their limits every session

Depends. Go see a physio. Might just be a muscular imbalance, if that's the case then work on it and it'll be ok.

Look into your form, poor form leads to extra stress on the knees. If you can go to a gym, just find a personal trainer walking around, most are completely fine with just giving you a quick tip and not having to pay for an entire session, or just find someone else in the gym that seems to know what they’re doing.

cycle! Saved my knee after it slipped to the side on a warm up jog.
It will take a while, by you'll get there.
Also, physio

Doing well chaps, social gains despite being 200 miles away from my friends are going great. Visited them this weekend, got invited to another get together next weekend. Feels really good knowing they like having me around. Lifting going well, started up a new routine last week and excited to hit it again this week, weights at an all time low, gut is nearing its final stages, love handles are next. Started running as well, changed my diet from low amounts of eating to healthy eating. Feel really good about it. Mental gains are where I feel I’m lacking, still have a tough time motivating myself to get things done after work, just want to lounge around, would rather browse here then say read. Looking to change that. Meditation is going well, feel like I’ve finally gotten over a bump in the road for me. Also life 200 miles from anyone I know and care about is a little much, feel pretty lonely most of the time. Meditation seems to help with that though. Overall I’d say going good bros. Keep at it, we’re all gonna make it.

>started new job few months ago
>adjusting to new schedule (working and studying at the same time) meant I didn't go to the gym until December
>Sprained thumb whilst drunk (maybe fractured slightly - still hurts a little when I'm lifting)
>didn't go over Christmas
>started back up in January, going with a few work bros before work
>managed to strike a happy medium between working out, work, study and social life
>started seeing a grill last week, hit if off pretty quickly, going for a second date this week

Feels pretty good desu. We're all gonna make it lads

Never use porn, though. Ever.

My new year's resolution has been to start waking up at 6 am daily, and I haven't done so once. How do I stop dicking around on the internet late at night and go to bed at a reasonable hour?

no I have the Penguin Classics translation by Martin Hammond - but thanks, I'll check your suggestion out

my man, keep it up

I started waking up at 5 am to hit the gym at opening. I pretty had nothing to do late at night so it was kind of easy to start doing. Also early morning threads seem better overall than late night ones so that kind of motivated me. I enjoy the freedom of running to the gym without really worrying about seeing anyone else or even cars on the road yet.

It's sorta like losing weight you gotta want the change basically. And I wanted that morning experience. Late nights for me are boring personally.

Forgive me if I sound a bit chuuni here, but I somewhat crossed a threshold here. I'm going to sound pretty pathetic here, but I've always had a fetish for strong women and have shied away from lifting in part because I was afraid of getting stronger than the women I have a fetish for. Due to reasons I've given up on women and now just want to get swole for my own sake. Fuck bitches. I dusted off my old dumbbells and am now going for weight exercised for my upper body and squats for my lower body. I'll need some cardio and I'm planning to go swimming once a week for that. As a supplement, what are some cardio exercises I can do at home without buying expensive gear?
>Inb4 just go running faggot
That's the easiest solution but I'm afraid I'll look awkward just jogging by myself.

Meditation retreats are tough but incredibly rewarding after about 10 days, you can feel your brain jumping around like a monkey before you tame it. Good luck mate.

Skipping rope and burpees will fuck a nibba up cardio wise.

Yeah I did a Vipassana retreat 4 years ago but struggled maintain the practice. Bought a proper meditation cushion and mat at Christmas but still haven't made it a routine. I'm hoping this 2nd retreat will help to refocus me, it absolutely helps if you do it consistently, especially if you are neurotic as fuck like me

>44716488

Where could I find the social skills guidebook for free? Your resource doesn't have it.

Started an SSRI a couple of weeks ago. I started seeing some improvements in my mood and thinking. A few days ago I read up on caffeine and found out that it has a strong interaction with the SSRI and can cause strong anxiety. So, I stopped drinking caffeine and what do you know! I'm like a new person. Or really more like my old self, before the troubles.

So things are getting better. I'm still improving in all of the areas I can. Lifting, eating right, and spending my free time doing productive things. Now I just need to work on those social gains.

I don't know how I can live like this. I've been a complete loser for my entire 25 years of life, it's all I've ever known, and yet I have no motivation to improve myself. I provide no value yet I do nothing to improve my value. I make no effort to talk to people to try to make friends or to talk to girls, largely because my life is so pathetic I have nothing to offer people. I come home from my shitty job and spend the hours pissing away on the computer or tv instead of working out or reading or learning hobbies/skills or anything at all constructive. I get my drivers license yet don't care about getting a car. Never having a real social life ruined my entire life and i just know it's too late to fix it. Going through most of your life alone with not only no gf but no friends ever is the worst hell a person can go through and I wouldn't wish it on anyone

You need to take hold of the reigns mate, take responsibility for your life. Make something of yourself, improve yourself physically through exercise, improve yourself mentally through learning and education. Enlist in night school, go to the gym, run, swim, take up a sport - I recommend boxing/thai boxing/bjj. Apply for a slightly better paying job in the same industry.
Just do something. Tidy your room (lmao Peterson), change things you can change for the better.

where can i get Social Skills Guidebook by Chris Macleod for free?

Guys, what does "making it" mean to you? There doesn't seem to be one correct definition. How do you know when you've made it? Are there degrees of having made it?

To me, "making it" is something that you achieve once you stop worrying about making it. Once you achieve a certain degree of self-confidence and appreciation for your body regardless of its imperfections, you have made it. This doesn't mean that you stop striving to better yourself, just that you do it for its own benefit, rather than a feeling of inadequacy.
By that definition, I have made it. I am still lifting babby weights (40/65/95/120), but if someone told me I can't ever improve my lifts at this point, I would be content with that. Still, I go to the gym 3x per week and work my ass off, watch my macros etc. because I want to be bigger, stronger, better-looking. I don't have a gf, sometimes I wish I had one, but it's okay if I don't find one (although I have to admit that at 26 I am starting to get under pressure to father some chilluns).

Discuss!

youtube.com/watch?v=-XvI6Y5Yq8o

You can make it m8. I'm 35 here and still struggling every day but you've got to fight. I didn't have a gf till I was 27. Take it from someone who has a decade on you, you are YOUNG af.

Good luck man. Fight all the way till the bitter end. Don't let this fucking life beat you down.

>Confident
>Nice body I'm proud of
>Can run for a while without feeling like I need to throw up
>Strong
>Decent at a martial art
>Better at talking and expressing myself
>No procrastinating and good at doing what I need to do when it needs to be done
That's what I see as making it right now. If I could be even had a fraction of this guy's confidence I'd be good.

So the underlying principle seems to be, again "when I'm content with my physical and social gains", i.e. you can't put numbers to any of those criteria. I like that you broke it down into specific aspects that you want to be happy with.
It sounds like you feel like you haven't made it yet. I believe in you, user. You can do it!
However
>no procrastinating
Kiss that goodbye. Everyone does it. This is not a bad thing. Becoming competent at being able to tell when and when not to procrastinate, and to be able to get up and get shit done when the chips are down, those are things you should strive for.

i made the first steps to escape my NEET status

>finally got therapy
>started lifting again
>started boxing again
>finally meeting my friends, who i abandoned during my depressive episode
>eating well
>paying my bills

only thing i need to do, is getting back at my education, right now im looking for physio schools in my area
feels good but can get better

When do you wake up currently? It might be better to aim for 6:30 this week. Then move to 6am the next week? Making small more achievable steps along the way makes it easier to stick with it.

get swole as fuck then find the swolest girl on the planet

congrats, you're now with the swolest girl on the planet and you're swole as shit yourself - top tier

What good are swole girls when they're weak as shit compared to yourself anyway?

Post your discord code and I'll add you and send it to you

Just set an alarm and force yourself to wake up.
Mentally tell yourself that not waking up at that time isn't an option, so the only option you should be making is "do I want to stay up on the internet and be exhausted all day tomorrow or go to sleep and feel good".
Up to you man, but for me I have to make something not a choice for me to stick to it.

Due to me being an unaware idiot for most of my teens, I've only ever kissed one girl. I was drunk, she bit my lip immediately which threw me, and overall it was shit.
My question is, how the fuck are you even supposed to kiss? What's the technique? It's ridiculous but I've never gotten any advice / learnt how. I think that first shitty experience fucked me a bit, because it doesn't seem natural now when I see people kiss.. i.e it doesn't seem like something I could just "do"
In sightly more self-improvement related news, I'm finally eating at a surplus, going to the gym regularly, and making actual gains. Also, meeting up with friends a bit more and doing some self-help reading + writing in my spare time

This new year is going fucking great.
>dating oneitis, going incredibly well
>dropped 10 pounds so far, 265lb 6'1
>noporn
>on a regular workout schedule

Not being useless sure feels amazing

Any /g/entoomen here? I've been studying for the CompTIA network+ exam in between college classes. Using Mike Myers lessons on udemy.

Happy for you pal

Read Dostoyevski

Vacation in January fucked me up. I need to get back into routine.

Starting today:
>Get into lifting again after 4 week break
>Fix diet, including drinking a lot of water
>Nofap/Noporn
>Reading and hobbies

I'm glad about major social gains in 2017 but I feel that it has impacted other parts of my life, and overall resulted in minor neglect. I'll mildly decrease socializing and go monk mode for a while.

brehs i got a ladies number and she said she would go out with me on friday

question: what do I do with a gril when there's 3 ft of snow on the ground and I have no real friends or normie interests?

PLEASE RESPOND

audible kek

>Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson
If you actually enjoyed this book you're a brainlet.

Simply go to his faggot blog to see how much he DOES give a fuck about every minor thing Trump does for example kek.

I went out last night with my chick to Dave and Busters. Had an awesome time. Bring money though. I went all out and spent around 100 bucks. Worth it though. I had fun, she had fun, and I got lucky.

As person who lived a life of not giving a fuck what people think it really fucks your life up. You need milestones. You need the yardstick. Having hippy/punk parents didn't help. Direction and structure are more important when raising kids. Teaching self discipline.

reschedule the date? Or just go to an indoor date option if she's cool with driving to meet you