Friends

T-the gang's all here...
Just me, my barbell, and my plates...

b-bbut aren't ww-ee all ffriends?

I used to not, but then the guys in my home group have become basically my only ones

like 2 half friends. and a gf if that counts.

You guys are my friends

Yeah, none of them lift tho or do sports or any Veeky Forums activity and it makes me sad since I want a Veeky Forums friend group.

I read on Veeky Forums years now, still English not good, not confidence for online tutorials phone calls. I try.
Why not happy? Happy as chile yes! Top in class! Tall as boy, all girl see me. Now ugly and quiet. Try to smile and sing song as walk (i know not word for this, we call "fluit") make self think "am happy" but does not work for always. Once ame smart,.. dumb ase rock. Make 50% on examen economics! never as boy! come home and sit on bed, hope girl message me but rarely ever and when happen, still alone. have two friend, both good look and strong, not me. friend both good brain too, not me. when it all change? chemicals in brain make ? or am just fate i am dumb? i want to hit hard object with hand every night and not ever sleep Well. once happy good boy with smart, now nonething...

I don’t. The ones I thought I had from high school never responded when I’ve sent them messages to catch up. I haven’t made any at uni. Never had a gf. The only thing that’s keeping me going is the hope that it’ll get better.

I have a couple friends from high school that I hang with sometimes but they drink and drugs. Also, they're all car guys so I'm sort of just a follower.

I have friends from college but I never see them. I most miss the intellect of that group but I find myself trying to live up to their standards. One of them called me a golden retreiver puppy and it really cut to my core. No amount of friends can fill a void in my self.

I met a group of guys online on a Veeky Forums type activity board. Joined the IRC and eventually met some IRL. They're the most supportive pseudo friends I have. They call me on my shit, got me into my head I need to get Veeky Forums including lifting but also all aspects of life. We support each other through sicknesses, breakups, letdowns. We celebrate each other's triumphs. And most importantly, the bantz are top notch. If they knew I typed this, they'd find some creative ways to call me a faggot then offer thier wisdom and psychoanalysis. I hope I make it, brahs.

I have zero friends.

yeah but not money and im short. you win some you lose some

how to make friends when it seems like everyone already has their friends and dont want more

>home group
Explain.

I know this is unrelated, but does anyone else think the Veeky Forums wojak is completely retarded?

>leaf brawling
>beers
>vidya
>not even wearing the hoodie
This one is confirmed retarded.

Not anymore.

I think it's fine if most of your social interactions come from work/school acquaintances, I get about 6 hours of weekly social time that way and its enough for me.

I like to say that I don't have any friends, but I guess that's not true. I only see 2 of them weekly, the rest I'll see maybe a few times a year. No friends at college but a few allies that I work with.

I have lots of friends. I have so many friends, I have to actively avoid hanging out with people. I've been keeping track of every hour of every day this year and I have 102 hours of just pure socializing.

A gf on the other hand...

doesn't work if you are socially awkward but you can always ask to get introduced to meet their friends

I have heaps of acquaintances but no friends. The kind of people you say hi to but it’s innapropriate to ask to hang out with them because they are either busy, working, have commitments or already have their own group of friends that they exclusively spend weekends/off time with.

The one friend I thought I made at the gym hung out with me for a while but after these holidays he has not replied to my texts and I didn’t want to be some beta cuck and spam him.

It’s confusing however because I thought he was a good friend of mine and we went to the same gym as well but he was going to two gyms at the same time as his powerlifting friends went there so I’m assuming he now ditched my gym for theirs. And I’m assuming since he does night work he is most likely very busy and thrown our relationship under the bus.

I still have a gf though so I’m not a complete friendless cuck

I want to do that, that's so awesome. My greatest wish is to track everything I do for future reference.

where to cop gf thats ok with me not having friends

I have a few friends, few but good friends mostly.
Lately twice a week now three friends and I go to the gym, we talk a lot and I’m thinking it probably or might annoy other gym goers, I hope not but I only talk to them so much because I only see them those two times a week otherwise I am home bound.

user, i think you may have the 'tism

I've been completely friendless (as in I talk to zero people besides my mom and dad occasionally over the phone) for over 3 years now.
Some of us just weren't made for this world.

0 for work
0 for dating
3 for family
Wtf is downtime, jacking off?
Get you god damn life together user

No friends, no girlfriend, no one to confide in or trust.
I am alone in a world of perpetual struggle and nothingness.

didn’t know the incredible hulk was on fit

No. 0 online or irl.

I never had any friends later on like the ones I had when I was twelve. Jesus, does anyone?

Just three that I see occasionally, besides gf and work friends.

My older and younger brothers (25 and 19 respectively) are my best friends.

This :( Used to be part of the popular kids in HS. Now have no friends in uni.

>no friends here
>visit college all my friends went to
>have a 10/10 time, remember what a cool guy i am
>return home
>do nothing different, still hate life

A lot of friendships dropped off in the past year for various reasons...moving, jobs, girlfriends, owing me $600, etc. Since then I've got about 2 true friends and 10 or so "buddies".

damn

Why don't you change your life, and go to that college? Or move to whatever city they are in? It seems completely obvious you would be way happier.

With friends like that (and I would call them friends) you surely will make it user, I have good friends but with I had friends like yours.

>I have like 5 friends from high school that I see like once or twice a year
>No best friend
>Getting married but am not close enough to my friends to invite them to my wedding
>Wedding will only be my family

When I consider that last part, it really bums me out, we're not as good as friends as I'd like

Friends don't just magically apear at your doorstep faggots. Unless you're in a foreign country where you dont speak the language there are always opportunities to make new aquaintances that can potentially turn out to be friends. As long as you put in some effort. I cant find enough time to meet up with all the people i'd like. Not to say i have a ton, but enough to meet up with someone at a moments notice.

Granted i made 90% of the friend that i have now before i was 25. If i wanted new friends now after moving or something (i'm 28) i'd talk to people at the gym and find some group activities/take some evening classes/anything where i meet mostly the same people with similar intrests on a regular basis and go from there. Its not that hard.

God i hope you fags are larping.

Is there an official closesness gauge i needed to check before inviting people to my wedding? I used these criteria: as long as i've know them for a decent while, i enjoy their company, they took the time to meet up with me more than once (or at least attempted) in the last year and they knew at least one other person at the wedding, they got an invite.

If you consider those guys your (only?) friends and not just aquaintances, you should invite them. You'll regret it if you don't and i'd be insulted if you didnt even bother inviting me if i considered you a friend, except due to financial reasons.

Not really. I had internet friends, but they all forgot about me. Same with real life friends. I have 1 guy I talk to from my hometown, but that's it. We might hangout more when I moved back in a year.

This is exactly me

I have a friend that I regularly talk to online. Does that count?

This made a long time lurker reply.

Thank you user, I needed that chuckle.

My only friend, currently, is my gf. Life sucks, yo.

hahahafuck of fagot

Yeah 2 really good friends and my girlfriend who is also a really good friend.
I'm alright with it

nah
i haven't had a friend for 9 years
and the friends i had before that weren't so great and pretty much only kept me around as a joke because of my autism
i go for days without speaking to other people and now often struggle to form a sentence. i think most people just assume i'm retarded now

Not where I live now, no.
I did, however my friends moved, I moved, and now I'm back to square one.

Only online friends but those aren't real so no.

I have two persons I can call friends and they are female. Weird 2bh.

...

Will you be my friend?

i have 2 very close friends and 3-4 bros but not as close as these two.

Sounds like acquaintances, rather than friends, I could also find someone to have a drink with any day, but I don't really have any friends.

I used to have friends, before I started browsing Veeky Forums and working out

Now I'm just... alone

Just attened a wedding as a groomsmen.
A guy I haven't seen in 2 years, but we were total bros in school.

Invite them. Don't make them part of the wedding party if you aren't comfortw with it. But 100% invite them

I do but I don’t know how to keep them because I’m too anxious in social situations

>be 14
>have dozens of friends who I see regularly
>also have gf
>people are always excited to see me
>so popular that kids I'd never met would me and come up to me asking 'hey are you user? I've heard so much about you!'
>start smoking weed and drinking because that's what teenagers do
>life and soul of the party everywhere I go, everyone loves me
>turn 18
>decide drugs are going to fuck me up, taking too much coke at weekends and weed is messing with my head so stop all drugs
>no big deal most of my friends don't touch that stuff anyway
>start to get sick of drinking as well, partying is getting boring, hate being hung over all the time
>stop drinking at 20
>social life suddenly disappears completely
>friends I've known for years stop inviting me out
>stop contacting people because they never reach out to me first any more
>be 24
>no gf, one friend who I meet maybe once every 2 months for coffee
>can't make new friends at work, everyone is 30+ and we have nothing in common
>can't make new friends at uni, people never start conversations, I try to talk to them but get minimal responses, won't even look at me when I walk in the room

What the fuck happened Veeky Forums, I only wanted to clean up my life

I know that feel

>have a reasonably sized friend group
>none lift / play sports
I just want a lifting buddy

>be 24
>no gf, one friend who I meet maybe once every 2 months for coffee
>can't make new friends at work, everyone is 30+ and we have nothing in common
>can't make new friends at uni, people never start conversations, I try to talk to them but get minimal responses, won't even look at me when I walk in the room

Are you me?

Online friends count, right? R-right?!

not him but I track everything that is not clearly productive under downtime.
>Veeky Forums
>browsing the internet
>listening to music/podcasts
>netflix
>getting lost in thoughts
stuff like that.
I'm surprised he doesn't have gaming under the same category, but maybe it's something he wants to be especially aware off.

I have a friend from a previous job, but we only talk through email because I moved to another state.

No in-person friends though. On an average day I probably speak less than 5 times including greeting the security guard and our daily standup at work. I'm pretty happy though.

literally me dude, irl friends fucking suck desu, solitude is the shit
but you know what, some people understand that
and those people are really worth keeping

How do I make friends? I want a friend

keep reading and go on /int/

This

Dont ever do this. Trust me, I have fell in the same trap. They will only use you as an emotional slave and pseudo-boyfriend, probably never leading to you getting a real gf or scoring with them. They lower your t and bombard you with unimportant bullshit. Tbh 90% of women are either too scared to discuss important topic or have retarded opinions on them. Only thing they are good for is finding out more about female world and having someone to listen to you being a sad faggot from time to time, but a male friend offers so much more than a female one. If she aint letting you fuck her, don't ever get intimate with her in any way.

But we actually communicate really well and they don't load me with their bullshit, I mean sometimes yeah, but we are all humans, one time I listen to their problems and next time they do the same for me. And I think one of them expected me to take a step, I just wasn't sure she wanted it and what's more important want sure I wanted it in the first place and didn't do anything, but now I see. But you're kinda right about the thing that they restrain me from having a relationships, but not because they try to do it, but because I have enough female attention (I also fuck another girl, can't call her a friend though) and now I'm too lazy to do anything. And they actually tell me from time to time that I'm really nice and should find a qt for myself.

All right i guess you're in a different situation from mine, but if you're an ugly guy I think my advice really applies. Honestly I don't see a point in male-female relationships anymore, I think it only ever happens when one of two friendzones the other, most of the times its the girl who does it(they have higher criteria). I have a really close female friend who i fell in love with a few years ago, but she started dating another guy from my class and their relationship is still ongoing. I am no longer in love with her and she likes hanging out with me but I try to distance myself from her as much as i can, because i have so many ugly memories connected to her and the whole situation. Btw her boyfriend is an autistic faggot, but he lifts and has a beautiful face, while i look like i was born 3 months early and left innawoods.

This to be honest
I'm privileged to have one good friend, but basically I have more in common with a 4channer from another continent, than almost all of the people in my life.
Thank you for being my friends and happy valentines day, Veeky Forums

A few, but nowhere near as many as I used to. In university I had loads of friends but desu all they were were drinking buddies, wingmen, and people to score weed from. I had very little in common and shared few details of my life with then due to a lack of trust.

I have a gf of 3 years who I live with but drives me insane with her relentless nagging (we used to be sweet, but things have been shit for about a year), I think we only keep each other around for company. We booty call maybe once a month. My hometown is shit but I'm lucky I got a couple of close buddies here, but life is stale and boring as fuck. I obviously need to shake it up if I'm ever gonna be happy.

Gym and hitting a new PR is the only thing I really look forward to.

I have an ancient friendship trio, great guys, but we just started hanging out again after one of them went to Thailand for a year, and we really aren't clicking like we usually do. It sucks, I was really excited to make music with them
I also have a different new-ish friendship trio, slightly less great, and one of them is starting to get on my nerves. It's probably my fault, but I don't have any issues with the other guy so I dunno
youtu.be/goNITaAxebQ?t=14s

I never initiate contact with my friends, so over the years they've slowly stopped talking to me as well. I'll still hang out if someone contacts me, and since we're guys we're usually back like we never left off.
I know I'm probably a bad friend in most people's eyes, but I just don't mind being alone. It's getting a bit lonelier with the years since I don't have a gf, but I'm planning on getting a dog for companionship when I can.
Still sign into Steam as offline though.

>two trustworthy friends back home
>two old men in Japan I can count on
>a surfer dude and an old fat IT nerd here in Australia

I'm good.

Making friends is very doable.

Reading through your greentext, you seem to have recognised the problem already. People don't start conversations anymore. They don't need to, they've got their social lives in their hands or pockets already, they pull them up when there's a dull moment. Smartphones fulfil the need for socialisation to a pathological degree. As such, initiating any form of uncertain social contact, face-to-face conversation, is too great of a risk for too small of a payoff.

If you want to circumvent this, you'll have to be the one to bite the bullet, several times, in a way that may seem tedious. That is to say, that you'll have to be the one to initiate conversations and that you'll primarily have to talk about the things they want to talk about, for the first few conversations. This'll lower their threshold for talking to you, after which it's actually possible to get some conversations going in which there's actually a healthy back and forth. Plus, people, or at least the one's that might be fun for you to talk to, will actually show interest in you as well, they'll even do this pretty quickly, so it won't be as one-sided for you.

I know it's hard, it might even feel disingenuous, but it tends to work really well.

I'm a terrible friend myself, but somehow people keep contacting me. I love them for it, even if I feel like I don't deserve them.

nope. there`s like one girl at work and two guys who live in other state and other country, plus a group of people from a hobby, but none of those people call me or go places with me.

it`s like, I get mired multiple times a day by girls but have no GF, guys pat me on my shoulder and are in a mix of intimidated or respectful but I have no friends. if I try to be friendly you can see the admiration fade away in seconds from their faces. it`s like... how do you even get around that?

Had some "friends" in high school, though Id never hang out with them outside class or related to school shit. I actually like college in that regard, I know no one and am not bound in that regard. Still no real friends per see, but I realized I am a blank slate every time I talk to someone, which I like.

Same story here.
>be super popular in school from 16 to 18
>take loads of xtc (this helped enourmously for me)
>even girls cheered when i needed to get my diploma on stage. The only one in school.
>have a solid group of 15 friends
>regular girlfriends
>decide to stop doing drugs
>party life slowly in the drain, can't really stop smoking weed
>5 years later, lonely as fuck, most friends got married. Still single after 3 years.

Where did it all go so wrong?

No.
I am too selfish and autistic.

I have friends but they're in my home state. My fiance and I moved to Atlanta, and really only have eachother. She has family friends that live here, but they're all much older than us.
It's hard making friends when you're 24, expecting a baby, and working full time.
I feel like the only people we can relate to are 30 year olds. My life is great, but i always have this thought in the back of my head wondering if it's worth having friends and it gives me anxiety.

Yeah, and I love them but they are fucking terrible with advice and understanding me. Whenever I report a problem with a girl they usually just say "Just bee urself" and they aren't being ironic. They are good friends though, I have one who has tried to set me up with like 3 of his gf's friends now and no matter how autistically I fuck it up he brings me another and tells me to try again.