Self Improvement Thread

gj user, as a person with a similar problem, I respect that a lot

She's on the pill, but I do it just to be safe. Plus she lets me nut on her tiddies, so I have no complaints.

how to get teeth whiter? stained from drinking soda for years

Pro: After years of being a selfish hard-ass, I feel that I'm finally making progress in becoming a more caring, empathetic and sensitive person.

Con: I literally cannot stop reading cheesy romance manhwa.

It's a process.

Brush three times a day and get your teeth checked out by the dentist. If you need to get any work done, do so. If your teeth are still good, ask them to do a professional cleaning.

You should be married make white babies son, get her off that cancer causing Jew pill.

If you can afford it, whitening treatment costs like $100 (less, depending). Only fix that doesn't take fucking years.

Beyond that, brush your teeth before drinking coffe in the morning.

isn't more than 2 times unnecessary and just damaging?
My teeth are royally fucked, it's a long story but mostly due to my parents neglect when i was younger resulting in some of my teeth being removed and me not being able to eat food/chew on one side of my mouth now. Regardless i'd still like the teeth in front to be white. I can afford teeth whitening but the method i've seen is them putting some type of thing that has paste on it onto your gums and leaving it there for 20 minutes? Something similar to that, isn't this bad for your gums? thinking about doing it.

Today's victory is OP's pic. Finally went to the awesome free public pool--which has an awesome free weight room. Might even drop my gym membership now that I know

>free public pool with free weight room
what socdem paradise do you live in

I'm not getting married until I graduate, only a few more months. Once my career starts, then I'll save for a ring.

I'm a newfag (on this board at least) I went from 190-260 over my first few years of college and now I'm trying to get Veeky Forums again. I have been dieting hard for the last week and I stopped myself from getting fast food and waited it out and cooked grilled chicken and steamed veggies. Small victory, but it felt really good to be in control again

Where do you live user? That would make a big difference. Tinder/Bumble would help you cast a wide net, otherwise go to various fast food chains until you find a worker there that you think is fine, make it a thing to go around the same time and chat her up each time, getting to know her more. When you feel comfortable leave your number for her since she probably can't have her phone out during work. Make sure to look well kempt but not overly done and perhaps go in when you have a pump/endorphin rush as this will increase your confidence- these women are in work clothes and do not feel confident- if you catch them off guard and make them feel beautiful they will definitely be interested.

This is a formula i've used (albeit on white girls at diners/bar&grills because i'm not a fucking degenerate) with *smashing* success. I can give you autists more detailed advice if you would like but the most important thing is to not make yourself look like a fucking creep.

>falling for the diamond jew

>Brush three times
Good way to fuck up your enamel.
Talk to your dentist about teeth whitening.

Middle-of-Nowhere, Michigan

I left out a big detail-- when you go to the restaurant, make sure it's only ONCE per week, no more or you're a creep. Make it seem like it's a part of your routine/your cheat day. I guess since i'm posting again i'll put more tips:

>Like I said before, go to several fast food places and place orders. If there are any cuties amongst a sea of fat sweaty putas, make sure to have them take your order and smile and be flirty, maybe tell a joke and see how they respond. If they smile back and seem bashful, it means they may be interested to a degree. If they aren't responsive they either aren't interested or don't speak english well.

>Go back around the same time next week and she'll likely be there. Order and chat with her if it's not busy. Repeat x times until you think it's an appropriate time to ask her out- don't wait longer than 2 months. I'd say perhaps between week 4 and week 6 is the sweet spot.

A problem you're going to have is making sure she doesn't have kids or live with 30 relatives which, sadly to say, is pretty common in fast food working women. But that's you're own journey brah. Godspeed.

lmao ikr? i got my gf a lugnut when i proposed - she loved it!

the diamond is literally a meme invented by jewelers 100 years ago. if your girl wants you to waste money on a ring you have to save up for, that's a big red flag

what if i want to support the blood diamond industry in africa? check mate racist

fair enough then I guess, I support conscious consumption

im at my wits end for taking care of my self. i had a fucked up life, but am only seen by those around me as a testament to accomplishing these trials. only my wife knows the depth of my depression, and it has worn her very thin. everything i have done, and continue to do is met with resounding yes! that is correct from EVERYONE i ask; Yet im falling faster and faster as time goes on, despite continuing to try.
This paired with and endlessly anxious and paranoid mind makes it to where i cant even leave the house.
I put it this way to my wife: "like when you are sitting around eating, and you finally have the nerve to look around, you make eyecontact with someone. boom! they getcha! thats my mind, so im like ok, i can play this; and situation ends up looking like the groceystore from fallout in my head, with people sneaking for groceries but not death" its like no alerts MGS or gg gif rel.

The gym is all i have had to try to cope, im entirely neet shutin except for my wife. I only leave to stores with her. The gym was the on place i could go to alone: on top of wanting to go, i NEED to go to keep my scoliosis in check(which gets worse the longer i am shut-in) and to keep mending a lifting injury that when combined with scoli. symptoms, has kept me from real lifting/pushing progress FOR THREE YEARS. i have been dealing with debilitating pain for more of my life than i have lived without. I have gone to specialists for both my body and mind,but its all so tiresome. i have been doing my best to fix myself, i became more knowledgeable and better at articulating my feelings and symptoms than anyone i have come in contact with, but nothing is working. Im told to keep trying, buck up, i love you, hang in there, it will get better soon.
its all so tiresome; being told by the world around you that you are doing things as good as possible, feeling like im living groundhogs day with my physical pain and mental problems.. to the point where it feels like i know their scripts

gif related

try seeing a professional therapist

What am I supposed to give her when I propose then? A can of monster zero ultra?

Thanks m8. I always get to a point where I get on a familiar basis with chicks (starbucks girl by my office, restaurants I frequent, etc) but can never get to a point of exchanging numbers without feeling like an autist

cute. no homo.

>Things that never happened

What cardio can I do everyday to become above average in endurance and agility as quickly as possible? I play touch football and I’m slow and out of breath in like 5 minutes and I can’t step anyone

Why do you have to buy her a proposal ring and a wedding ring? Either buy a cheap proposal ring and tell her you're saving for a really good wedding ring or just give her the wedding ring as a proposal ring. If she really loves you she won't care more about material objects than your love for her.

For endurance, stair machines are the best in my experience. Plus you can burn off 100 cal in 10 minutes or less.

I play tennis, which is on/off endurance like football (by this I mean you go all out for a few seconds, then stop for a few seconds). I do lots of sprints/suicides. DESU theyre much more fun than running for miles and will def help. I'll generally go to a track and run for 1-1.5 miles, (4-6 laps around) at a decent pace, followed by 100m sprints, then 100m walk. Normally do this 4 or 5 times cuz sprints are exhausting.

If you want to be more agile, jumproping/ stairs / foot drills will help that a lot.

Good luck. Most asians are flatter than a board. Genetic fact. Hope you find that diamond in the rough.

advice, never listen to anyone who doubts what you are capable of.

todays victory, finally started training again after a back injury
lifes good.

question, if no fap works, how can you make gains having a healthy sexual relationship with a woman? ejaculation is ejaculation right??

nofap is no masturbation, nocum is no ejaculation, sex is beneficial and raises testosterone

No, there's a difference in hormonal response during sex and masturbation Google it I cbf.

I've picked up MMA and 4 months later I can easily beat my untrained friends in boxing sparring.

"Wow you picked it up pretty fast!"

IRL I'm the oldfag (28) at my MMA seshs, and train with 16 -24 year olds. I learn much slower than the younger guys but whatevs, it's fun.

Lifting and proper diet reduced my anxiety and depression with like 95%. I'm very serious.

I finished The Trail and went for a run. I don't know what to read next though.

because of a horrible fucking sickness i threw up a fuckload last night, took four tylenol, and went to bed.
I woke up at 5:30 am with no alarm which i think just permanently fixed my sleep schedule. I've also been blessed with the total removal of my sickness and its cardio day so I think today is gonna be good.

I'm 23 and realized I'm severely under-performing in life by still living at home as a college dropout.

I have 22k in crypto and I'm considering just selling that and moving somewhere, but idk, I need a better way of consistent income. I'm getting back into fitness too, so that's something.

desu I just want a nice place surrounded by nature so I can chill and write my novels, but fuck I don't want that 9-5 shit. I gotta cook up a solid plan for money that makes itself.

You need help dude. Get yourself on an SSRI or something.

That pic...
New fantasy: have my gf do pullups with my dick inside her.

What's 22K in bitcoin worth like $250 USD?

If you have 22k Bitcoins you can quite literally start a Mars colony. My portfolio value is simply $22k USD.

How do you spend the money? Do you transfer it to a bank or what?

Pretty much. You put the coins on an exchange that can sell for USD, like Coinbase, then send that right over to your bank account. Alternatively you can use a Bitcoin ATM, but many of them don't do withdrawals I'm finding. Or you can use localbitcoins which is sus as fuck (trading irl).

There are more and more vendors that take crypto directly, but the going is slow on that.

Thank u user.

Only problem is, now that I've opened myself up to... ya know... feels... well, I'm starting to feel crippling loneliness and general heart-sick when I'm alone with myself. Is this what nice people feel just all the god-damn time?

So I'm dropping this physics class I'm in because I am trying to pull my GPA up this semester but I know I won't get a high grade in the class. Am I crazy for doing this? I know I can afford to... I have very little credits left to take (already a sophomore). I'm just worried the withdrawal will look bad on my transcript.

Anyways, my point is that if I drop this, my other classes will become easier as I'll have a lot more time to spend on them. This class I'm thinking about dropping is really difficult and I've spent a lot of time on it already. I've also lately been improving my social gains; read half of Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People". Basically I could use this semester as a way to improve my social ability and do things I never did back in HS. Also cutting down another 30 pounds.

She doesn't care about material things, she said she would be happy without a ring but wouldn't say no to one. I want to get her those nice things because I can.

Why so bitter?

No matter how much I try, I am and probably still be in the loser side.

How can I live with the fact that only a small percent of the dudes are getting all the women, and I'm on the losing side?

>How can I live with the fact that only a small percent of the dudes are getting all the women

Ok first of all, that is literally false. That's some CW Chad fantasy. It's always going to be mostly one-to-one bro.

Second: I don't know how old you are, whether you're still in school or whatev. But! Look around. I can tell you from experience that there are girls in your social group who are sweet on you, and many random others who would be perfectly willing to go on a first date if you asked (here's a little secret that they don't show in the movies - provided you don't smell or have visible autism, many girls will reflexively accept an invitation to a first date! Turns out, people actually like going on dates!).

Anyway, look, I know it seems dark. But the fact that you're in this thread shows that you're interested in self improvement. And whether you've already made it or not, girls notice when you're working on yourself. Just keep your eyes open. Smile. Do things that surprise yourself. It'll happen.

Not a bad idea, I'd wait til the last minute though. Try and get a tutor and really grind out, if you can pull your grade up for the next test might be worth sticking with it, but if not then drop it the last day you can. I don't think it'll look that bad, almost everybody I know has had to drop a class at some point, just tell people the professor was impossible.

Help

How do I stop being lonely????

I have friends. Close ones even. I have hobbies(tech, cars, photography, lifting, cooking, guns). I go out, I dance, I have fun, I know how to talk to girls and do.

But no gf. And I'm just lonely as fuck. And I hate feeling like this I don't need a gf. Why do I constantly desire one.

Maybe in craving intimacy.. Idk..

1) That's not even remotely true; you're reading too much of this Chad bullshit on here. It's more about confidence coupled with some success stories. No one (outside of recognizably famous people) gets laid by snapping their fingers.

1a) Ever watch Entourage? Remember how Vince is just slaying pussy left and right but the other 3 guys just get it occasionally? Same model in real life, except

and if you have no social group and live in a shithold with no likeminded individuals

>Self Improvement

This will sound strange, but accept failure in your life. Let yourself fail a bit, but stick to getting better.
Why this works. Some people try to stick 100% to a diet, if they make a mistake they just GIVE UP because they feel they failed. Instead allow yourself to fail a bit so that you STAY on the diet. You are not perfect, accept that and life gets MUCH easier.
never quit, fail a bit, but never quit.

When should I really start to notice improvements from lifting?

My main routine involves:
Bench
Overhead press
Bent over rows
Tricep puildowns
Hammer curls
Skull crushers

I’ve noticed some improvements but it’s not as much as I’d like for 3-4 months of lifting

Woke up early and did something I said I was gonna do, I didn't procrastinate or make excuses. Feelsgoodman

read the op in the fast general

good lad

4pl8 sq last night for 3x5, 5pl8 deadlift this morning. Got 3x5 on OHP @ 70kg.

Squats

I envy you.

No wonder US is getting swarmed. Can't blame them.

I dropped it already. The next test won't be by the drop date and like I said I would probably pass the class, maybe even get a B. I mainly dropped it because I just wasn't enjoying it and it was taking up too much of my time and energy.

I'll tell you how it ends. You'll start feeling good about being nice. And here's a tip: don't just read, write. Veeky Forums and Veeky Forums is the ultimate goal.

How to sort yourself out, pic related

Had a good week. Increased weight in every exercise by at least 5lb and stuck to diet. Taking less time between sets and still able to add weight.

Did
>290lb DL 1x5 with pretty good form.
>250lb Squat 3x5

Wait, don't read? Seems like I'll just end up being a shit-writer, then... I think maybe I should just read better shit.

You need to change your attitude, and/or move. Join a pickup footy league.

Haha, no, I meant don't jjust stop there. Give writting a chance.

Been having mid set mindset changes. This kindof calmness flowes over and I can push more. Bench deloading seems to pay off bigtime. Reading more. Sleep in check.
Started gomad but still seems hard to put on weight. Still failing nofap.

I started HIIT today to lose bodyfat despite having shit cardio to begin with. I was doing 12-15 seconds on, then resting for like a minute. This is good enough for starters right? I did like 30-40 minutes of this and upper body work in the middle of it. As I left the gym floor like a baby giraffe a member of staff asked me if I was okay. I guess that's a good sign.

Sounds like you should ask a girl out, user.

Already there mang. Been working on a novel for the past year. Lately been side-tracked with feelings of guilt and - maybe - some form of depression. I'm getting over it.

This is actually good and interesting advice

>I can give you autists more detailed advice if you would like but the most important thing is to not make yourself look like a fucking creep.

Don't leave us hanging, user. Come on. I'm ok with the ladies but I never could just talk to a girl in a public space.

Take that money and become a helicopter pilot and move to Montana and give helicopter tours for $$$$ and volunteer as a aero-firefighter when there's bad forest fires.

My impression of helicopters was that they are flying death-traps.

We lift not for what we want, but what we can have. Keep going breh.

can I have the job since is being a pussy about it?

Fuck no it isn't. 12 seconds rest 1 minute rest?!? Breh you gotta go like 1:2 ratio. 30 seconds as hard as you can and then a minute rest.

user that's a terrible fucking idea. Take that money and go have the best night of your life with the three Instagram thots of your choosing.

(don't actually do that)

Breh sitting in an office 9-5 is a death trap. Learning to drive a machine less complicated than some cars isn't that dangerous. Still safer than driving a car. Will keep you outside constantly. Is attractive and interesting as fuck to everyone. You make tons of money. There are always job prospects.

If you're still uncomfortable though will tell you how awesome it is when he works 10 hours a week and makes up to $11,000 for 1 flight.

>Still safer than driving a car.

"Helicopters are 85 times more dangerous than driving."
slate.com/articles/news_and_politics/explainer/2011/06/are_helicopters_safer_than_cars.html

Not OP; just wanted to him (or any enterprising dude) to be aware what they're getting into. I made a bundle on crab-fishing, but it wasn't exactly smart.

This is actually great advice, just stay positive. Things might feel dark but keep pushing forward. Life doesn't happen for people that just say they want it, great things happen for the people who put in the effort

>and if you're lucky, to kill people
What type of sociopathic shit is this. A desire to kill someone you don't know isnt healthy

Real advice, thanks for the inspiration brotha