Get it off your mind - i'll start
girls don't take me serious, and i don't know why. i flirt and they reciprocate and i am always making jokes or making people laugh in general, that's my favorite thing to do. but when i say something serious to a girl like compliment them they always laugh and think i'm joking, fuck
t. blog post
Realised yesterday that the girl I like doesn't like me back. I took too long to make a move.
Don't leave girls waiting anons. They'll move on to the next walking talking cock. Rapunzel is a fairytale after all.
lol, this pic is always gets me - its like a meme but a deep art invoking thought
I got two different girls' numbers in the past two days. I want to think I'm making it, but I'm worried I'm going to obsess over this, get overly invested, and feel terrible if nothing happens with either of them.
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>Big presentation at work
>I only slept 4 hours yesterday and had to present a project in front of coworkers/my team and new vendor
>anyway, while explaining/presentation I almost let the word SEX slip out on accident while talking
>my boss looked at me and smiled but nobody said anything
>basically I was trying to say successful
and i said something like sexuccessful
I can't get over how my face looks, it's like none of my lifting matters when I look like a fucking frog. There's plenty of fat to be lost for sure, but I fear that it'll all be for nothing. Maybe it's part of the experience, to suffer like this?
Life has gotten better lately, but of course now that means I have time to process a backlog of 4-10 years of emotions.
>Strange series of epiphanies lately
>Realized a decent amount of my awkwardness/shyness comes from shitty teachers I had during elementary school
>Who knew women were really bad at developing boys into men
>They were more concerned with getting us to shut the fuck up and be robots than to develop us as people
>Had favorites in class who would actually be supported and allowed to develop their personalities
>Invigorated young kid made into a quiet young teen
>Realized that this passiveness made me pretty unattractive to women, as well as making it hard to communicate/develop relationships with other people
>Set me up for a whole suite of suffering, missed opportunites, etc.
It's safe to say I'm not a fan of public education. My only advice to anons is to be heavily involved and cynical when it comes to your children's education. My parents were way too hands off when it came to dealing with administrators/teachers, and it has been a struggle to deal with a lot of the downstream effects from their tutelage. I'm just glad I wasn't thrown on Ritalin or I'd be even more fucked now tham I already am.
You already know that many of us deal with the same issue. But you need to understand that you need to become the absolute best version of yourself no matter what. I think what you're basing your fitness goals/happiness is on your physical appearance/validation from others etc instead of doing it to add VALUE to yourself as a person. It's the same reason you feel extremely good after getting a high mark on a test or completing a difficult challenge; it adds value to yourself and makes you feel accomplished
i completely understand and somewhat relate with what you mean. teachers will show you books with astounding characters with exceptional traits who do crazy things, and of course you will look up to those characters (fictional and non-fictional). then when you say you want to do astounding things you will be blown off because you are just a "child thinking".. eventually your imagination is forced to be destroyed
be like the person you look up to and realize they are not ordinary, you look up to them for a reason
Tinder doesn’t count
It wasn't
>Girl #1
>Israeli girl who comes into the deli I work at a lot
>Makes it increasingly obvious she's into me
>My autistic ass finally catches on, ask her out she says yes
>Girl #2
>We took bio together in community college a few years ago
>Acne cleared up in the meantime so she's pretty cute now
>Turns out we're both musicians, wants to jam with me
Spent a whole day with a tinder thot, fucked up not kissing her earlier in the day, went back to my place and watched a film before driving her home and kissing. All very gentleman like, what she asked before coming back to mine.
So planning a second date i get this blow out reply (pic) and will never act the gentleman again, it's never worked and only leads to regret. Being a dick on the other hand works a charm.
Lmao
Very nice. You better not be LARPing user. Have fun.
Im alone.
I have no friends, no gf, no one cares about me, no one invites me anywhere, i have no one to invite to hang out or anything...
I have cripplingly low self esteem, i feel worthless all the time no matter how much positive feedback i get from other people, no matter how many compliments i get etc.
Oh and i fucking hate myself.
You learned the hard way too eh?
>Fatass
>Severe gyno
I am attempting to remedy these problems by losing weight and working extra at my job to pay for the surgery. I'm losing weight successfully, but being at a calorie deficit leaves me with no energy to want to work out. Not to mention my job and my class schedule consumes almost all of my time (not including my dying spark of a social life) further fucking me over even if I did have the energy to go to the gym. And if I don't work out, I will end up looking like a scrawny DYEL fag by the end of my cut...
On the bright side, I'm close to the monetary goal for the surgery (about 7 weeks off), but I want to lose enough weight by the time I am ready to get the surgery (which I need to get as soon as possible) in the summer, but I know for a fact that I can't lose enough weight in this small window of time. And even if I do magically lose the weight and get the money in time, I will still look like shit because I'm not lifting weights FUCK
>girlfriend randomly tells me shes going on a short trip to another state (far away from where we live) with her girl-friend from work
>never told me about it until the flights and hotels were already booked and shit
>mentions she knows a guy who lives out there, she thinks it would be fun if they met up
>I figure shes just casually mentioning it and not actually planning on meeting up with the dude
>she then tells me she tried to make plans for them to hang out while shes in town, but that he cant
this all reeks like cheating bullshit to me, but im worried im being insecure.
i want to bring it up because i fele like its super disrespectful to me, and if the roles were reversed she would be losing her mind thinking im cheating.
wat do Veeky Forums
got called skinnyfat today and that that body type is the most disgusting type possible
Getting in shape with /fits/ support. Now dating a girl who is all I ever desired - which unfortunately makes me anxious af even though she seems to be into me. Third date is approaching and I feel like I need to kiss her on this date or she might lose interest. I'm afraid the pressure I feel will hinder me, though.
Help me brehs :(
Been fooled so many times I'm beginning to think i'm an idiot.
drop her
Wrong, being a lardass is worse. Work hard for what you want.
>skinnyfat is somehow worse than fatasfatass
Don't sweat it dude, it'll go well. If it doesn't then you'll use the experience to learn and adapt your understanding. You've already gotten numbers, you can do it again, there are billions of girls out there.
Don’t ask me what her reasoning was
bring it up, don't hide your feelings about this
>realised I became a beta orbiter to a girl
>pointed her out on this bullshit
>she got angry
>cut her away
it was really gradual, we used to flirt all the time, get sexual and shit. Then it started happening less and less or she got weird about it. Then I realised it only happened when she fought with her boyfriend/now husband.
This girl talked to me in the sauna room last week, the next day I ignored her because I was afraid.
Why am I so autistic...
Pretty shady. I just broke up with my gf today because she was hanging out with her ex behind my back : (
You did right user, always have another option.
If you hate yourself why are you complaining of being alone? You are making everyone a favor.
Either improve yourself, find something you like about you to show others, or stay in your corner.
Based bro posting user
You can't put your dick in a phone number buddy. Close the deal.
No one cares about that past the amount of time they would have taken to chuckle. The world moves on faster than your mind lets go
Nothing to worry about or stress over user. Sounds kinda funny actually. You might even end up bring mates with your boss.
Ive been looking for something nice in me for the whole 33 years ive been alive.
So far nothing.
im gay and i fear that i'll never come out to my family and friends or that i'll never find a bf if im even capable of loving someone who isnt me
No sympathy, gays are rich and can get a shag any minute of the day. Fuck off back to >>>lgbtl
but user im poor and /lgbt/ is just a bunch of trannies
My life has been going to shit and I feel like I have no control. I've had mental health issues for years and I have no clue on how to fight them.
I recently signed up for a gym and have been going with a group of friends. But I have a feeling even after lifting and getting stronk I'll still hate the person in the mirror.
The fuck do I do anons?
Love yourself and others will love you. The hate train stops when you make it stop. No amount of positivity or compliments from others will do anything if you respond negatively.
It will all turn out great user, don't let the calorie deficit bring you down. We're all going to make it.
Anxiety will only make things worse, but deep down you already know this. Relax, enjoy the date and what happens - happens. Just have fun, she'll pick up on that. Be in a state of mind where even if the worst possible scenario happens it would not negatively impact you, because it simply isn't that big of a deal. You probably have some things in the past that were a big deal to you but now that you think of them - they actually were not. This is one of those things.
You're not autistic, just afraid. Work on that fear.
Nothing was lost. Enjoy your day, go do things that you like doing.
If you think you'll hate yourself in the future, that's exactly what will happen. Start doing things that will make you love your self both now and in the future.
>Love yourself and others will love you. The hate train stops when you make it stop. No amount of positivity or compliments from others will do anything if you respond negatively.
Fuck man, i know it.
But how the fuck do you stop hating yourself ? No matter what i do i cant stop shittalking myself, downplaying any achievement etc.
But yeah i agree with you.
>great gf who cooks breakfast wearing nothing but an apron
>fantastic house
>about to open my new business in a major city in Japan l
>constantly well rested and eat well
Still feel empty despite my life in theory being perfect.
Going to short deployment after an short training in army. I don't know but i feel like i haven't gained much friends at all. There are groups that have got very close but i feel like an outsider.
In civilian life i don't have problems being social etc. But i kinda feel army is still new and "shocking" so i'm not myself there.
Also gotten ridiculous thought that i became bullied there, absolutely no reason to believe that but my mind is overthinking piece of shit.
Well never mind, i'l hope i do good there and it wont last long anyways. Will use the time to train shitloads and get nice tan.
TL;DR I am sometimes overthinking fag.
I have no personality. I feel like im always in the way, like i tell myself people don’t wanna talk to me so i don’t even bother EVEN if people are interested in me. So i only small-talk, and if they ask me to hang out i tell them i don’t have time. I’m only normal when im around certain people, like incels to mid-tier chads. When im around chads i become a silent weirdo
>No matter what i do
How about you do this: Stop shittalking myself, downplaying any achievement etc.
Don't just try to do things to get you into a positive state, simply enter the positive state. Negative things happen to everyone. It's about how we perceive them that matters. Try meditating, calm your mind. Accept love into your life, it's all around you.
Well, what do you desire then? Go for that.
It's good that you know what's the problem, now you can work on it. Good luck with everything.
I don't think that you don't have a personality, it's just that you're afraid to show it. If you think of yourself as a problem, that's what you will be.
First, it's already forgotten.
Second, while it sounds like a mispronunciation it has positive undertones.... I may use that in future
I really don’t have one. When i meet new people it goes like this. 1st day they are interested in me, wanna get to know me. 2nd day same thing though they will start to notice i’m a bit weird. 3rd day all interest lost. They now learn im boring, a loser and have no hobbies outside of lifting (which i rarely talk about anyways). At my new work place people were already sharing facebook accounts with this new dude after one fucking day. I’m like the guy thats just around thats not really part of the group. I hate this shit
They maybe think you're being aloft, start hand flapping, squealing or blurting out what your thinking and they'll realise you're just autistic.
I can fucking relate to this! It is always me who finds himself to be outside of the group.
>2nd day same thing though they will start to notice i’m a bit weird
What makes you weird to them?
You didnt make it to 33 by being useless user. Count your blessings now and see what you'll find.
kys faggot
Fuck Rosacea man. I had absolutely severe cystic acne and I tried everything to get rid of it but nothing worked so I ended up going on Accutane. It worked and my skin is clear now but I developed Rosacea. Anytime I get stressed, embarrassed, or a room is hot my face gets bright fucking red, and it makes my acne scars look ten times worse. When I am by myself at home and my skin tone is even I am pretty handsome, but it doesn't matter because I am fucked for life now. It's been a whole year post-accutane and the flushing hasn't gone away.
What normies finds weird i guess. Not autisctc-tier weird. Like having a little less than 200 friends on fb, small-talk only not a fan of havig a 10 min conversation while at work (they hide somewhere and talk so the boss won’t see), silent, don’t know many people from the city i live in (lots of common friends amongst everyon, not charming, can’t express myself because of my shitty introverted personality. Other dudes would start singing out of nowhere and make the girls laugh. Yesterday i forced myself to talk with this dude for 10-15 minutes and we got to know each other better, but still i had to FORCE myslf to do it while for him it was natural. I guess i have to fake it till i make it some more
Nazis are only considered super-evil cuase they did to Europe what Europe had been doing to the world for centuries.
>How about you do this: Stop shittalking myself, downplaying any achievement etc.
>Don't just try to do things to get you into a positive state, simply enter the positive state. Negative things happen to everyone. It's about how we perceive them that matters. Try meditating, calm your mind. Accept love into your life, it's all around you
Yes i get it but HOW do you do it ?
When someone compliments me, my imidate response is to trash myself. And its not even concious, the words just flow from my mouth. And how ambitious i can get i shit you not, like im writing a fucking book. Great metaphors, borderline genius responses, sass like a motherfucker - everything to "prove" that im the stupidest, lamest faggot ever.
There are none, man.
Everything positive about me i can think of feels like such a fuckin stretch its not even funny..
Public education almost has to be this way. Limited funds , limited time. Its low specificity to give you the choice to specialise later in life. Its far from perfect but imo the uk doesnt give me much to complain about school wise.
Except foe teaching us that "islam is the religion of peace" for one lesson i remember vividly. Even at that age i knew what they were telling me wasnt right (year 6, age 11ish)
Some drama going on in my friend group, it’ll blow over in a few days but still just annoying
>have a discord of a bunch of us bros
>the guy who happened to have created the server starts getting a little power hungry
>starts kicking people as a joke, always get invited back instantly
>then starts banning people when we disagree with him on a more serious level
>basically have to wait for him to cool down and give us the reinvite link because he’s the only one who can invite people
>multiple people get banned for simply disagreeing with him
>one friend, a roommate and probably one of my better friends in the group starts to get sick of it
>fast forward to last night
>playing some league with the guys
>roommate friend not playing but in the call
>server mod starts whining that I’m picking troll champs every game after me and another friend decide we want to try out a meme duo bot, blitz urgot
>server mod has a history of being a hypocrite and whining about when people both don’t play serious and are too serious and will simply make judgements on the champ you chose
>yes he’s the lowest rank of all of us
>basically says I’ve been trolling all night, sounds legitimately frustrated
>roommate bro pops off, starts calling him out on his bullshit, starts yelling getting really into it
>insta banned
>roommate bro has had enough of the server mods shit, not rejoining
I know it’s something so small and silly but we all hung out a lot outside of games and were planning on all hanging out next week, I feel like this will create an awkward rift in my college group of friends, I’ve always been at odds with the server mod guy after some stuff earlier this year, but I can’t just drop him as a friend. It’s not worth worrying about and I probably won’t care tomorrow but just wanted to get t out of my head
>having a little less than 200 friends on fb
kek first world problems i guess
Its all practice, keep doing it and you will get better
Just create a discord yourself and don't become like him
if is your friend talk to him about it, nowdays we are all connected 24/7 but there is no
human communication
Had the same thing with my friend group. We got sick of his shit and made another group without him in control and invited him to it. Haven't had any problems since
How do I not fall in love with every girl that talks to me?
>feel tied down by girlfriend
>want to escape and do something
>don't know what that something is
>all I know is my current path in life is not the one that'll make me happy
very relatable
She's already cheating on you user. Dump any woman who would do that to you.
I dib't know much about vidya but it seems like the most logical thing to do is what and are suggesting, just create another group and don't make him a mod. I can understand that gaems are a hobby for lots of guys and if you connect and socialise through it then great, but it should not be serious business, if guys are getting upset enough over it to actually cut their friends out of the group, even temporarily, then it's being taken way too seriously.
Imagine doing that to your friend IRL? Like if this guy invited you all over to his house, and then kicked one of you out over something trivial. Maybe you should talk to this guy about his behaviour and tell him to chill out, but he seems like he might be the kind of guy that would get pissy and defensive if you did that.
>gf of 3 years is extremely distant yesterday
>initiate sex
>she pulls away when I try to kiss her
>try talking to her
>she doesn’t sound like herself
>sounds majorly depressed, very monotone and doesn’t know how to really string a sentence together
>she’s going back to school soon
>she said “I’m just really stressed”
>feel like there’s something she’s not telling me
>she’s still extremely monotone telling me she wants to be with me
>the most I’ve gotten is that she’s frustrated with how I clean the house or when I pay rent
>she’s leaving for 4 days today (she planned this last month) to visit her parents
What do I do? It feels like she turned into a completely different person overnight.
Seriously bros
>The world moves on faster than your mind lets go
I've heard this a thousand ways but I think this way is my favorite. Now if I can just internalize that wisdom.
Read "No more Mr Nice Guy" you dumb shit
>girlfriend randomly tells me shes going on a short trip to another state (far away from where we live) with her girl-friend from work
>never told me about it until the flights and hotels were already booked and shit
You should definitely fight her on this, personally I would be very ready to break up with her going into the conversation, because nothing women do "socially" is a mistake, she didnt tell you until the last minute because she knows very well that this is shady and fucked up.
One (or both) of them is going on that trip to get fucked user, no two ways about it.
>she then tells me she tried to make plans for them to hang out while shes in town, but that he cant
Armchair psychology incoming. I've seen women say this kind of shit for their own mental justification. Like she puts it out there in front of you that she's in contact with the guy and if you don't make a fuss about it, then she's justified in meeting with (and fucking) him.
Honestly a bitch who would do something this shady and blow you off with no explanation besides that she's meeting up with guys while shes there is not gf material and probably has no respect for you. If shes not already cheating shes planning on it.
Is the visit home to her parents a common thing?
create your own group and let all your friends join except him. that will make everyone feel better
and also you sound underage as fuck, i had to deal with this shit when i was 13
Yeah, my hope is that they’ll both just kinda forget about it and make up but I don’t think it’ll happen as smoothly as I want it to. We’ve talked to him about it before and he loosened up a bit and gave someone else power to unban but roommate bro says he won’t come back to make a point. Probably going to do something like this and see how that goes, this as well .
And yeah I agree, usually we all just joke around and shit at each other usually in good humour, sometimes we’ll have some serious discussions not vidya related and that’s where he’ll start banning people. This is the first time it’s over vidya. And yeah he’s the type of person to get real pissy on that stuff. He’s made me pretty mad a few times before with his shit but I let it go and in general he’s an fun guy. These moments are rare but he is the only one in the group causing issues. I’m not the best socially so I’m not sure what the best decision is, I’ll try talking to him . But I’m assuming he’ll just pull the “lmao wasn’t serious m8 don’t care so much” excuse.
Broke up with my gf of 4 years because of similar reasons. Don't really have advice for you, just wanted to say I know that feel.
And yeah I know that’s why this shit is pissing me off, we are all 21 and still having to deal with this bullshit.
fuuuuuck, I went to go see KRS ONE alone last night and OP's pic is basically me
>but at least I went outside haha right guys?
This guy is damn right.
Anyways thanks for the advice bros, I’ll see what I can do about this guy, not being friends over some shit like this is stupid. Gotta get to work
Do I have a nice ass yet Veeky Forums?
this 3/10 girl rejected me, how far am i in the bottom of the dating chain?
its ok to be gay, its something you cant control, you can still be professional around people even, just dont act like a faggot
how was it like? I plan to go to a show alone soon but im afraid people will judge me. did they stare at you or something?
Shes going to break up with you.
>dating great girl for the past 2 months
>we really like each other and she's really affectionate at times
>especially when we are together we always have a great time
>she's always kind of cold over whatsapp and it makes me worried she doesn't really like me or is losing interest at least romantically.
>like she called me buddy and friend the other day even tho last week we talked about how our dating is going and then she said she thought things are great and she loves how comfortable she feels around me.
I'm worried I'm gonna be friendzoned because I've been too nice to her because I actually really like her.. at the same time I don't want to be distant to her because I feel that the right person would like me for who I am and not because I pretend to be a chad that doesn't give a fuck about women and could get laid anytime he wants.
Fuck.
Talking to a girl I met on Tinder, but I’m super aspie over text, fine in person. Don’t know how to ask her out to dinner etc etc.
I haven’t measured my cock since I’ve started lifting/cutting and I when I measured last night I went from a 6.5 to a 7. FeelsAmazingMan. (6’5 Masterrace)
Help
stop caring so much
Got out of a 4y relationship a month ago.
Some days I wake up fine and full of confidence.
Other days I wake up feeling like shit till I go to bed.
No amount of lifting fixes this problem.
How do I deal with this? I just want to function properly again.
>flirting with girl
>She likes me back
>Afraid to get close to ppl
>Afraid relationship will ruin motor sport team dynamic
>Be me an obsessive fuck
>Can't stop thinking about her and too impatient to play the long con
>Overthinking everything
I just want her bros. It's been a while since I've been as happy as I have with her
holy fuck
One day it’ll click naturally. If it doesn’t, then you’ll have waited for it and been in the “long run”. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst.
you dont shit where you eat
She doesn't know what the fuck you're on about because you're talking nonsense
Are you Scottish or Irish? If so just say, 'want your hole?'
iktf. I get the numbers but i'm to much of a puss to close the deal. On the bright side it makes them seem more eager because they think i have something else going on.
I've made it far enough that she said she would date me if it wasn't for those other things. She said she'd keep an open mind about it though. I just know as time goes on the worse my chances become
>Raised by single mother
>Mostly women teachers
>Afraid of confrontation of any kind and suffer from anxiety
Wat do?