Before you read this, I want you to know and acknowledge that no one is born a "Chad" and there really no such thing as a "Chad" in the first place. "Chad" is just someone more experienced in life and better equipped to face the daily life challenges. Even Chad has to deal with a girl's shit tests, rejection etc. The only difference is Chad doesn't let it affect his life. That is what I need you to understand, "Chad" is not some mythical being you can only look up to, it's an achievable goal for every male in this world. If you're going to keep propagating the idea in your mind that "Chad" wins at life simply because he was born better than you, I guarantee you you will never make it.
Disclaimer: Veeky Forums is for Fitness, physical as well as mental. Self-improvement is the absolute form of both. Therefore this bread belongs here. Also, this post is going to be really long (Like 20 posts), I've spent last month working on it. Do with that information what you will.
Let's start off with hygiene
1. Develop a decent grooming routine. If you like to have a beard, keep it trimmed and neat at all times. If not, make sure you shave your sloppy 5 o'clock shadow as often as possible. If you have thick eyebrows that don't match your face or if you grow hair in weird places, shave/trim it off. Figure out where you like and don't like your hair to be, and make sure it always adheres by your standards. ALWAYS USE DEODORANT!!!!!
2. Take care of your skin. If you have acne scars or whatever, there's a hundred miracle products on Amazon that you can use to fix your skin (I personally use Uptown Cosmeceuticals Acne Scar Removal, the shit is literally magic). Also buy a good exfoliating scrub and use it daily on your face and neck. If your skin gets dry, use a decent alcohol-free moisturizer. Do your research on what chemicals harm your skin and avoid them as much as possible depending on your budget; remember this is your skin you're fucking with.
3. Take care of your hair. Alongside with the top two, this is another extremely important facet of your appearance to maintain. Get a decent sulfate-free shampoo+conditioner use them weekly/biweekly. Start taking cold showers daily. Cold showers are not a meme, they help rejuvenate your hair and help it preserve its natural oiliness that keeps it smooth and shiny. Nothing will ruin your self-esteem or first impresssion more than greasy unkempt hair. Keep your hair trim at all times (get a haircut once every 1-2 weeks). If haircuts get too expensive, there's a hundred haircuts you can learn to give yourself extremely easily at home with $20 clippers. Which leads me to the next point...
4. Get a haircut that fits your face. Please, for the love of God, do not let your fucking hair grow out to shoulder-length like a fucking girl. I've only ever met two guys in my life who I thought that looked good on, and they were both built 200+ lbs powerlifter bros (the kind I'd let pound my boipucci all night long if I ever switched teams). And even then, 99% of the time, they rocked a manbun that actually looked good on them, and every girl I've ever shown them to thought they weren't attractive at all and looked intimdating. Make sure you give extra amounts of attention the edges of your hair (earline, neckline etc.). Figure out what haircut works best with your face shape. A good haircut multiplies your attractiveness tenfold. Nowadays, an undercut will almost always be the best haircut for you. No matter how shitty your hair seems at first, I guarantee you there's an undercut for you (I have coarse curly ass hair, I keep it super trim on the sides and let it grow out and shape it out into a very slight fauxhawk up top).
5. Take care of your teeth. Teeth are an extremely underrated aspect of your appearance and your opinion of them will directly influence how comfortable you are smiling (Which people will notice 1000% of the time, I guarantee you). If you have fucked up teeth, fix them. If you have yellow teeth, buy charcoal activated toothpaste/powder and use it daily for 3-4 months for maximum tooth whiteness. Establish discipline in your life; brush teeth after every meal, brush teeth if you ever feel bad breath in your mouth, even if you're not doing anything. Ideally, you'll eventually form the connection to automatically brush your teeth if you ever feel bad breath.
6. Change your fucking underwear daily. If you have sex/go to the gym/anything that involves sweating profusely or using your dick, change it again. I've had so many terrible experiences of talking with guys and I could literally smell their balls from 4 feet away from them. There's nothing that will turn people off more to your presence than smelling your fucking dirty balls. Buy new underwear once a year and get rid of your old one. I'm not saying go out and buy $50 for two underwear once a year and break bank, even the shitty $15 for 3 H&M underwear will look great on you if you have the body for it.
7. If you sweat a lot, invest in decent sweat-absorbing undershirts with padding for your armpits. Amazing investment even if you don't necessarily always sweat since they will actually give you some padding under your clothes giving you a more "tight" and thick outline.
8. Shower at least once a day. I shower when I wake up, every time after I take a shit, after I get back from the gym, after I work on my car, or do a punching bag drill, or get back from a sweaty day, pretty much any time I feel dirty. When you shower, scrub your balls and ass, scrub your armpits, scrub your arms, scrub your chest, scrub your neck, scrub your face, scrub everything. You can use your exfoliating scrub for your face here too if you'd prefer. Take cold showers preferably as they're much better for your hair, and condition your hair every time you shower. You really only need to shampoo your hair about once a week if you take care of it properly.
Next up, take care of your body
9. EXERCISE! You saw this one coming for sure, this being Veeky Forums and all. If you can't take care of your body, don't expect your body to take care of you. This doesn't necessarily imply following some herculean diet and meticulous routine while shooting up roids by the pound. You can figure out your own goals and ways of achieving physical fitness depending on your preferences. You can literally do anything between jogging, HIIT, lifting, martial arts, climbing, cycling, calisthenics, pilates, yoga, throwing spears, whatever rocks your boat. As long as you put your body in some form of physical stress and manage to eat like a civilized human being, you will look better than 98% of the people around you. And yes, no matter how many Cosmopolitan articles you read that wanna make you believe that beauty standards are changing and that women prefer dadbods now, the truth will not fucking change. I've been a spooky skelly and I've been lean ottermode, I guarantee you no matter who the girl/person/whoever is that's in front of you, they will be more impressed with you if you're a lean 160-180 lbs, regardless of what they want to make themselves believe.
10. Work on your posture. If you have a bad posture from too many hours of sitting on your bed playing WoW and jerking off to futa porn, you're not completely hopeless. Doing dead hangs a few times a day and being more careful with how you walk and how you sit will gradually improve your general posture. Standing up straight, with your shoulder slightly tilted backwards and taking long, natural strides will instantly make you look more confident, but also FEEL more confident.
11. DO CARDIO. There's no bigger turn-off to a girl than a guy that looks like Hercules but can't fuck for more than 3 minutes without getting wound-up. Invest in a decent pair of running shoes depending on your running stance, do a program like C25K if you've never ran before. And start running a regular 5-10 miles a week. It's also a really great way to meet chicks if you go to local parks where cardio bunnies tend to be and you already have a decent body. Just smile and greet any cute girls you see while running, most of the time they'll smile back (and I'm talking the genuine "damn this hot guy just said hi to me" smile, not the "I'm gonna force myself to smile so this creepo doesn't rape me later on" smile, you'll learn the difference if you don't know it). If you see them stopping to take a break or whatever whenever they see you coming up behind them, I guarantee you they want to stop and talk to them.
12. Start practicing a martial art. Select something at least functionally applicable to real life. It can be boxing, BJJ, muay thai, kickboxing, whatever. Not only will this help with the above points (forces you to do cardio and helps you learn to use your strength functionally), it's also a really good way to meet people and become more confident in your ability. In fact, the confidence boost will be so great that you might be tempted to do more than one at a time (do it, I started off just boxing, now I do muay thai and BJJ at great gyms in my town, and I have a punching bag in my garage that I regularly do drills on in the weekends or to blow off steam). This will tie up with another point I'll make later on.
13. Get a full night of sleep, every night. Sleep makes your body recover, makes your body grow. Sleep is where you solve most of your problems. Sleep gives you the energy, physical AND mental, to go through the next day. There is no excuse for any grown adult not to be sleeping at least 7 hours a night (Ideally, you wanna be sleeping 8 hours a night). Don't oversleep either, since oversleeping is just as bad as not sleeping enough. If you condition your body enough, you will literally be able to sleep a sharp 8 hours every night without needing an alarm. I can literally tell you exactly what time I'm going to wake up right before I go to sleep. If you have restless sleep and keep waking up throughout the night, drink less caffeine, take melatonin pills, exercise more, and don't use electronics before bed. In fact, download an app that will automatically silence your phone for the 2 hours before and after your wake up time. Your phone is destructive to your sleep.
Okay so now you fixed your body and your face, next is your attitude
14. SMILE! Yeah yeah yeah, cliche as fuck and you saw it coming a mile away. I don't give a fuck. Smiling is literally the one thing anyone can do to change their general first impression to the world. I don't mean walk around 24/7 with a shit-eating grin on your face like a fucking retard, but think positive thoughts and always walk around with a slight smirk. Make eye contact with everyone you walk by (especially girls) and smile. A smile makes you look more approachable, makes you look more confident, and makes you feel more confident. You have no fucking excuse, start smiling you RBF motherfucker.
15. Talk to everyone. And I do mean everyone. But please, when I say talk to people, I don't mean make boring ass small talk with people (Read : -Hi -Hi -How are you -Good how are you -Great great how's your day going -Oh great, how's yours etc.) did you fall asleep reading that? Because I did. However, you need to understand something; 99% of people are dying to talk to other people, but everyone's too comfortable and sheltered in their own comfort zone to actually make the first move. You see a piece of jewelry or interesting hair color? Compliment them on it. They're not wearing that fucking jewelry for themselves, they're wearing it for other people. People love nothing more than feeling visible and acknowledged. If you notice something about a person they've worked hard on, a conversation will start off from there, and I guarantee you they will remember you. Not only that, but people around you will notice how social and approachable you are. But please, don't let conversations turn into interrogations. If you're keeping the conversation going asking the person all sorts of questions and they're giving you short, disinterested answers, say it was great meeting them and walk away.
16. Treat everyone with kindness, but be firm. What do I mean by this? Don't unnecessarily be an asshole to everyone because you read that one redpill article that one time that told you girls are attracted to assholes. Girls aren't attracted to selfish unkind fucks, but girls are definitely attracted to guys who are decisive, firm, and know what they want. You're on a date and you weren't satisfied with your meal? Talk to the waitress about it. Like I said, don't be a fucking dick; acknowledge that you know it's not the messenger's fault, but assert your dissatisfaction. Not only will this make you 1000% hotter to any girls watching, but it's also an excellent way to get what you want. People will instantly become less cooperative if you start abusing them in any way. I've had meals comped, I've had coffees and ice cream cones and alcoholic drinks replaced, I've had upgrades on car rentals and hotel rooms etc. Of course, you definitely don't want to abuse this; don't complain unless there genuinely was an intrusive issue. There's never any reason to be an asshole to anyone, not even that guy you hated your whole life in high school for that one thing.
17. DO-NOT-LIE! This is possibly one of the biggest tips I can give to any human being ever. Lying is self-destructive. It will destroy your self-esteem, and it will destroy people's opinion of you. You might think you'll get away with it and you'll feel better because you escaped the consequences, but I can guarantee you that long-term lying will create cognitive dissonance in your mind and you'll eventually start to dislike yourself. There are extremely few scenarios where lying is a good idea. Do not lie, about anything, ever. If you fucked up somewhere, take responsibility, accept the consequences and move on. People will respect you more for it, and you will respect yourself more for it.
19. Live in the moment. Don't spend your life thinking about yesterday, or about tomorrow, because one day, you'll realize you never actually LIVED a single day of your entire fucking life. Today is the most important day of your life, because today can still be changed and today is here. You need to be aware of that. Tomorrow's a long time from now, and yesterday is too late to do anything about. Live in the fucking moment. In fact, set aside half an hour every day to meditate and empty your mind, and you will feel more self-aware throughout the day.
20. Don't be an overaggressive prick. I see so many guys (especially when alcohol is involved) turn into aggressive little bitches trying to start fights with everyone. As I said previously, treat everyone with kindness, but assert your position. If you did someone genuine wrong and they're trying to pick a fight with you, apologize about the thing you did and move on. If someone's just being a prick for the sake of it, stand your ground. Don't respond to the aggressiveness, attempt to defuse the situation without ever making yourself look like a bitch, but be ready, trained, and willing to defend yourself. This is especially where doing a martial art will come in handy; if you have that increased confidence in yourself that you know you can absolutely destroy the person screaming insults at you like a little bitch because he saw you talking to his girl, he will sense it, his girl will sense it, and anyone watching you will sense it. Defusing a situation with your presence alone is 10x hotter and 100x more efficient than doing so through a fistfight.
18. DO NOT APOLOGIZE FOR BEING WHO YOU ARE! I see this happen all the time, and it makes me think less of the person doing it. People tend to over-apologize, especially when they have lower levels of confidence. There's no bigger crime on the self than apologizing for being the person you are. Now, this doesn't mean be a dick to everyone and never apologize about anything. If you accidentally bump into someone or genuinely do someone wrong, apologize. But if you're in disagreement with someone over something, and they take genuine offense in it, do not apologize. Assert your position. I can't stress this enough, you are who you are and you do not have to apologize for it because someone has a problem with it.
21. Don't give in to your emotions. I'm not asking you to be frigging John Wayne, but do not let your emotions control your life. And by that, I mean don't get emotional in a heated debate, don't get emotional when someone says something bad about your mommy, don't get emotional when a girl shit tests you for something you're self-conscious about. There's nothing less attractive than a guy who can't even control his own emotions. Any girl with half a brain will look at you and think "He can't even be trusted with his own emotions, how am I supposed to trust him with mine?". Men essentially exist solely to act as an emotional pillar for the fairer sex. You can cry when your dad dies, you can cry when your dog dies, but you need to maintain your manly emotional poise.
22. Talk to everyone like they know something you don't. This means be open-minded to other people's opinions and whatnot. If you go into any social interaction assuming you know everything the other person does, you will never learn anything. If you go on about the mindstate that every person you meet can teach you something, you will never cease to improve. There's 7 year olds that know things that you probably don't. Besides, if you talk to someone with the thought in mind that they have nothing to teach you, you will subconsciously come off as a know-it-all pretentious snob and no one wants that.
23. Never be afraid of failure. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. You will never succeed if you're afraid to fail. In fact, I'd go as far as to say that I crave failure, because failure implies there is room for self-improvement. You don't get better through successes, you get better through failures. Embrace your failures, accept them, learn from them, get up the next day, and try again.
Adrian Gomez
Next up is working on your appearance to the general public
24. Freshen up your wardrobe. If you're like 90% of the people in this world, you have a closet full of old low-quality clothing you hate that fit you horribly, smell bad and make you look extremely sloppy overall. Throw out the clothes you don't like, and buy ones you do. Always buy decent quality clothing that will fit you well and last you a long time. Don't buy brand names for the sake of it, tons of resources online can help you discern quality from trash.
Isaiah Morgan
25. Make sure you have a varied arsenal at your disposal. Now there's nothing wrong with being that guy that always dresses preppy, or always dresses dudebro-ey, or always dresses like a guido etc. You get the point. But having a varied wardrobe will make you extremely versatile and give you so many more opportunities in social interactions effectively turning you into a social chameleon. Of course, most people will tend to do this to a certain extent, but only really focus on a certain aspect of their wardrobe (e.g buying $200 Air Jordans and $100 sleeveless Miami Heat shirts but buying a $100 suit and $30 dress shoes from H&M). As I said before, INVEST IN QUALITY. If you're buying a suit, buy a really nice fucking suit. Put aside $500-1000 and buy something from Suitsupply, or Oliver Wicks, or Black Lapel etc. If you're buying dress shoes, buy a really nice fucking pair of dress shoes, buy from Alden, or Allen Edmonds etc. You get the point. Don't focus exclusively on a certain part of your wardrobe and neglect the rest. I guarantee you people will like you more if you show up to their dudebro party in a dudebro outfit just like them. Vary your wardrobe, and vary what you wear.
26. Take care of your clothes. That means clean out your sneakers with quality products (I use Jason Markk, it's a fucking godsent). Condition and polish your dress shoes every 3-5 wears. Clean out your clothes properly, and iron them if you need to. Separate the whites from the colors, the sensitive fabrics from the polyester, and so on. Take care of your clothes, and your clothes will take care of you.
27. ACCESSORIZE. Invest in a few good quality watches (Please, don't buy from scammy companies that sell you $5 watches for $100 like DW, 5th watches, and all the rest of the fucking copycats, buy from a respected watchmaker like Citizen, Seiko, Orient, Omega, etc.). Ideally, keep your smartwatch/FitBit at home unless you need them, your watch is an accessory, not a utilitarian tool. Invest in a few good quality belts (if you're wearing dress shoes, always match the color and leather texture of your belt to your shoes). If you like to wear blazers, invest in varied good quality pocket squares. If you're older (30's or so), invest in varied good quality ties to go with your (hopefully) good quality dress shirts. DO NOT WEAR A FUCKING G-SHOCK WATCH EVER, UNLESS IF YOU'RE IN THE FUCKING MILITARY IN ACTIVE DEPLOYMENT IN A AFGHANIRANKEKIUZBEKISTANI SHITHOLE WHERE NO ONE WILL EVER SEE YOU. YOU ARE NOT 13, DO NOT WEAR A FUCKING G-SHOCK WATCH.
So now that you've fixed everything that has to do with your general demeanor, it's time to add substance to your actions.
28. Educate yourself, and speak with eloquence. I've taken up reading a few years ago and it was the best decision I've probably ever made. Books contain literally more information than you'd like to appreciate. I'm not trying to be Tai Lopez and telling you to READ MORE BOOKS BECAUSE MUH SUCCESS, I'm saying that knowledge is power, especially in today's world, and books are the greatest source of knowledge available. I'm not asking you to read fucking Lord of the Rings and Game of Thrones, I'm asking you to read science books. Read self-help books, read body language books, read political opinion books. I don't care what your personal beliefs are; you need to be educated on them. Read books from people you agree with, read books from people you fundamentally disagree with. I'm atheist and I've read every major religious book several times. Being educated isn't being able to recitate a single argument over and over again, it's being able to challenge your own beliefs at any given time and defend them. Besides, only regurgitating knowledge that you personally agree with is a one-way ticket to living in an echo chamber. If you're able to argue with someone, and outline their arguments for them better than they can, and then explain to them in your own words why you believe those arguments are flawed, you will literally be worshipped by people. Don't speak with condenscion, speak with logic and reason. Never dismiss an argument on the grounds that it's beneath you or inherently flawed without any explanation whatsoever; that is the greatest show of ignorance.
29. Be confident in what you believe. This one goes hand-in-hand with the previous point. Educate yourself; know what you believe in, and be confident in those beliefs. You will run into people that disagree with you every day (and that' s a good thing!), and you don't need to impose your knowledge on them or try to convince them they're wrong, but if you're ever in the situation where you're debating someone, you'll be able to stand your ground on your personal beliefs.
30. Get a hobby. As a matter of fact, get multiple hobbies. They don't need to be expensive, they don't need to be physically exerting. Figure out something you like doing, and do it. Hobbies make you more interesting, they make you more confident, they make you more disciplined as you learn to set aside time to enjoy them, and they make you happier. It can be anything from long walks on the beach, to rock climbing, to yoga, to gun range time etc. You don't need to purposefully go looking for obscure hobbies to do that you actually hate just because you think they seem interesting to other people. If you're talking about something you enjoy, and you're talking with confidence, people will listen.
31. Make your bed in the morning. This is simple. If you don't have the discipline to make your own bed in the morning, how do you expect to develop the discipline to improve your life? This is the first task of the day, and it must be done, every day.
32. Stop playing video games. There's nothing wrong with playing video games occasionally as a lazy hobby, but for the most part, video games range from anywhere between drastically inefficient in terms of productivity, to completely counterproductive. You will absolutely wreck yourself mentally and physically if you spend 8 hours a day arguing with other angry, frustrated, hateful people on CS or Cowadooty. Play video games at the end of the day, when you've spent you've already filled your day with productive activities.
33. Do it yourself. Just do it. If you have a car, change your own oil, change your own brake pads, rotate your own tires, clean it yourself. Cook your own food. Clean your own house. Fix your own appliances. Fill out your own paperwork. Being able to stand up to the most trivial challenges that daily life poses you gives you an insane amount of confidence boost and will make you a much more complete and well-rounded person; not to mention every girl's wet dream.
34. Get off Veeky Forums. This is a huge one. If you've been here for as long as I have (and I've changed my life dramatically since the first time I've ever come here), I guarantee you your life has been affected in some way by Veeky Forums. You need to understand that Veeky Forums is essentially the asshole of the internet, where all the shit clumps up and pops out consistently. The opinions on here are fundamentally hateful ravings or witty trolling, and if you hang out here for long enough, you will actually start to take some of them as facts, which will be destructive to your psyche. If you're not 150% sure you can create a disconnect between you and what you read, and start to see Veeky Forums as a source of information or at least a place to debate rather than a source of cheap, fun entertainment, you WILL be affected by it.
35. Respect your family. Unless you're from a completely fucked up family where your mother burned you with cigarettes as a kid and your dad molested you, there is absolutely no reason to not show your family respect. If there is one force that has kept us as a species going for all these years, it's the sanctity of family. Respect your parents, respect your brothers, talk to them regularly. They're the people that have always been there for you.
36. You are your own standard. Do not compare yourself to a celebrity, or anyone else. In the process of effectively gauging your progress, compare yourself to yourself. Are you a better person today than you were yesterday? Good. Keep going.
37. Give back. As you gain more and more confidence, you'll need to start realizing your own progress, and acknowledge that there are people in the world that are not as fortunate as you are. Community is another sacred - and underrated - bond that people do not necessarily always acknowledge. Help your community, it is your duty as a part of it. You don't need to spend money necessarily, it can be volunteering or whatever, as long as you give back in some fashion. You will feel better for it, and people will respect you more for it. Plus volunteering is a great way to meet people (especially girls) who are in a great place mentally and are doing what they're doing because they genuinely want to.
38. Acknowledge that none of what you read will amount to anything if you don't apply it to your life, and it won't happen overnight. It is not a "process" that will end eventually, this has to become your way of life.
39. Lastly, no one can help you but yourself. You are responsible for your own failings, and your own successes. You need to be fully aware that if you're getting worse, it is your own fault, and if you're getting better, it's your own hard work. I can't make you become a better person. I can outline the way for you, and I can tell you what to do; but if you don't have the genuine will in yourself to become a better person, you never will.
Sidenote: Just a few book recommendations for anyone interested, I highly recommend reading the Six Pillars of Self Esteem by Nathaniel Branden, The Definitive Book of Body Language by Allan and Barbara Pease, and How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.
>6. Change your fucking underwear daily. If you have sex/go to the gym/anything that involves sweating profusely or using your dick, change it again. I've had so many terrible experiences of talking with guys and I could literally smell their balls from 4 feet away from them. There's nothing that will turn people off more to your presence than smelling your fucking dirty balls. Buy new underwear once a year and get rid of your old one. I'm not saying go out and buy $50 for two underwear once a year and break bank, even the shitty $15 for 3 H&M underwear will look great on you if you have the body for it.
Here's a better list: 1. Don't spend all your time writing books for Veeky Forums about self improvement. Actually improve yourself instead. 2. Don't use Veeky Forums ever, its a waste of time.
Luke Collins
to become chad you must defeat chad
hope you picked out a good boss theme
Jaxson Green
Question on Chad water....
Landon Bailey
im sorry but this thread is making me cringe hard
instead of posting BS like "shave your beard" or "smile for success" you should go and do something usefull
Owen Rogers
>Not changing underwear daily I don't change after gym, but it's fucking disgusting to wear the same ones for two sessions.
Evan Walker
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Oliver Thompson
OP here
Read number 34
Justin Taylor
become
John Wilson
LOL @ this thread
Henry Cox
>want others to succeed Not if you want to be successful in your work you don't.
Good thread, but pretty autistic. It could have been a lot shorter. >get hobbies, not just lifting >work on social gains >take care of yourself >just b urself :^)
Juan Nelson
Hey OP, just wanted to let you know that I appreciated the thread :) I'm in a weird place in my life right now where I'm not living up to my standards, and some of this advice could be really useful for me. Obviously you've learned not to listen to the trolls on here, but fuck these people shitting on your thread. You made one person's night a little better.
Parker Foster
>If you have yellow teeth, buy charcoal activated toothpaste/powder and use it daily for 3-4 months for maximum tooth whiteness That shit is terrible for your teeth bro.
>You really only need to shampoo your hair about once a week if you take care of it properly. Is there anything wrong with shampooing your hair every time you shower? I shower twice a day, everyday, and I use shampoo both times. Also, I haven't used conditioner in years.
Hudson Lopez
It strips the natural oil out of your hair. It’ll look a lot better if you only shampoo once or twice a week.
Carter Clark
I can never be Chad. But I can reach Chad lite mode with your advice
