He is severely depressed. He gained a big gut and does nothing except for watch TV and drink beer. He belches all the fucking time and claims that wine helps balance out the acids and makes him stop burping. He is unemployed and hates the darkness of winter. He also has tremendous back pains now. He was literally crawling up the stairs last night at 2am.
How can I help him?
I want to convince him to take vitamin D3 for his winter blues, but he is against taking pills. I'm really fucking frustrated. He aged 5-10 years on his face this past year (he's in his late 50s).
I'm in debt myself, if I could afford to help my parents financially then I would. He claims a vacation would help him too, but I have my doubts. How would a vacation change anything once he comes back? It's too huge of a risk if it doesn't pay off. There are renovations that need to be handled in his house, it's not practical to go off drinking in a hot country when his house is falling apart.
I'm going to try to structure a program for him and back it with scientific studies; does anyone have any tips?
Hunter Morgan
You can't reverse a persons decisions user, or make them for someone.
When middle aged guys start heavily drinking they start brain damaging themselves, they can't clear detoxify the alcohol from their blood like a 20 year old. He won't be thinking straight, that's why he's making those kinds of stupid excuses. You're going to need to aim at stopping his drinking, but thats easier said than done.
Go see a psychologist (there are a lot of free places out there) and ask for some suggestions on how to help him. You could probably benefit from having someone to vent to, as well.
Lincoln Collins
He thinks what he drinks isn't unhealthy for him because he doesn't actually get drunk. But he will have a beer or two almost every night when he sits alone in the dark. It's obviously not helping him.
Does anyone have any links to any scientific studies related to daily moderate alcohol use? He believes scientific studies if they're conducted by catholics.
Brody Gutierrez
Easy fix, tell him go full vegan (beer drinking allowed) and send him to thailand for few months
I think he feels like a failure. He doesn't feel useful. He regrets a lot of important decisions he made when he was younger. He's unemployed and lives in a small town where jobs are scarce.
Bullshit, he wasn't always like this. I just don't want him destroying himself. His life has started to deteriorate rapidly these past few years. I don't believe that I can't slow that down.
He's familiar with Jordan Peterson but only listens to his political talks. Do you have any lectures by JP that might help my dad?
Caleb Bailey
Man, that is rough. Maybe you can convince him that you still need him. Does he have any hobbies or passions? Maybe do some volunteer work with him for that, get him out of the house?
Jose Evans
He doesn't have any hobbies. His only recent passion is in politics, he sits and watches garbage TV until he goes to sleep, then goes straight to the TV when he wakes up.
He also collects random garbage, like bottle caps. He gets mad if someone throws garbage like that out.
How can I get him passionate about a productive hobby?
Tyler Morales
I'm not planning to get so old to have to depend on other people, fuck this shit.
Tyler Campbell
Literally just put vitamin D and zinc into his food, he clearly can't regulate himself mentally or physically so treat him like a baby. Maybe put UV bulbs in as well.
Andrew Brooks
I would feel bad about spiking his coffee with vitamin D. But it's seriously tempting right now.
I heard zinc increases the chances of prostate cancer, that isn't true? What are the benefits of zinc?
Zachary Morales
Get him onto /pol/ that should fire him up. But seriously look around or even make a meeting group for people with similar psssions.
Landon Flores
Its hard/impossible to change people user.
You can only hope to be a good influence by being an inspiration. Take him for a short run. Cook together. Go to a museum or something. Anything that will provide that sense of accomplishment can set someone on a path to self-improvement. Keep that in mind
