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>this is an actual common problem that comes up in tabletop groups
maybe for someone your age

This desu. Most people prefer it even when you don't make a big deal out of it if you slip up. Like it's whatever. You'll get used to him being around. Just try to be nice, you know. This isn't politics, this is literally getting with a group of people. If someone came around and he preferred to be called Julius Caesar, even though that's not the name on his ID and your friend vouches for the guy, then you'd try to be nice to the guy and just call him Julius.

This is probably a troll or baiting for a potential rage thread, but in case this isn't...

Just try your best. You're gonna slip up and it's going to be uncomfortable for a second, but correct yourself and move on. If it really seems to bother them, just tell them in private that you're trying your best and you're gonna screw up every now and then. If they can't accept that, then it's time to find another group.

well despite your personal view on politics and all that you seems like a decent persons,i mean you are actually worried about hurting these trans person feelings,in someway,so just be decent,try to use the pronouns that persons seems to be more confortable with and if somehow you offend someone just apologize,try not to make a big deal of all this,

>probably

You mean mid-20s in the year of our lord 2017?
The common grouping for college age?
No shit, genius.

Also I would like to apologize for commenting on that copypaste bait up there, I haven't been on Veeky Forums for the past couple of days and missed the fresh memes you've all decided to make to bitch.

I'm envious

I don't think most trans people will be TRIGGERED by someone getting a pronoun wrong, its pretty normal I'd think. Only one trans person I met got butthurt about it and they has a lot of severe mental issues on top of that.
When would you have to refer to them as "he/she" when they are sitting right next to you?

Be honest. Take her aside, and mention that your friend called her a he, and that you think he looks like a she, and you are probably going to use the wrong pronoun sooner or later, and to not be offended by it, largely because you've got eight million things going through your mind in dealing with gaming stuff and have a hard time keeping track of your own damn pronouns. S/he/it will more than likely be fine with that and thank you for letting her know that you respect it, but aren't going to be reliable about it.

Nine times out of ten, they'll be just fine and not really worry over it.

Because I can barely remember my players' character's names, much less the players names, because i have to coordinate so much goddamn shit in game I really can't be bothered with the trivialities of someone's preferred pronouns, and I'm a goddamn dyke, If they get offended, then they're not going to be able to cope with the kind of crap I pull in game anyways.

>Only one trans person I met got butthurt about it and they has a lot of severe mental issues on top of that
The issue is that this is not an uncommon circumstance

Just be polite and if you slip up apologize and move on. Try addressing everyone in character instead of out of character, that should help for the most part. I know how it is when you come across someone like that (I used to have a roommate who only wanted to be referred to with "they"), but as long as they don't get all uppity about it then you'll be fine. And if your group knows full and damn well that you aren't as liberal as them and they still make a scene about it, then find a different group who can accept people who are different than them.

>The issue is that this is not an uncommon circumstance
Yeah, OP makes threads about trannies every day.

If they wanna be called a girl call em a girl
if not don't
if they're a cunt treat em like a cunt
if not don't

They were an exception. I think most of their issues stemmed from the massive scar on the back of their head that was the result of a head injury, but I'm not a doctor so who knows.
Another trans person I've met was one of the nicest people I've ever met and you would have no idea they wanted to transition unless you talked to them. At the end of the day trans people are just people, not some scary boogeyman.
I don't exactly care for it much as personally I think that its a mental condition much like depression that should be treated but I can keep that to myself. That opinion isn't going to make anyone happy.

I once went to a week long festival with a friend and his gay couple friends. I told those guys I call everyone a faggot. It's my thing and I can't help it. It ended up being pretty liberating for the gay couple and at the end of the week everyone was calling everyone a faggot. They didn't mind because they could accept me being a blunt asshole because that's the way I am. I don't criticize or try to change them for being gay because that is the way they were born. So why can they criticize me for having no social filter? I was born that way.

Since you guys mostly said similar things, thanks for the help. I mostly talk to shitlords from my trashy hometown that have been making the same jokes about one of our gay friends for the past 2 years, so i just expected a bit more backlash for screwing up muh pronouns.
Sorry i'm not a troll, thanks for the help though.

>I'm going to assume they pass catastrophically poorly
Only when she's not trying. Like i said she passes in her pfp, she kinda looks like a chubby guy who went through puberty a little later than everyone elsethink gibby. It's just at the table since nobody really 'dresses up' for d&d unless that's your thing.

>When would you have to refer to them as "he/she" when they are sitting right next to you?
Probably not at all, but being really antisocial until a few years ago has made me really worried about social etiquette. But probably, when she's not around and i'm asking one of the other players about her. I do normally just go by name though so i do think i'll be fine.

If we end up alone for whatever reason i might say something. I'm normally the first to show up so i'm normally alone with someone for about 5 minutes before the next person shows up.

>She ended up leaving before we started because she lost her character sheet and just showed up to meet us.
Why didn't he just roll up a new one and join you in the middle of the session?

I wouldn't let a mentally ill person in. Or would on the condition I'm not obligated to go along with their delusions.

Am American, can confirm that Trump likes to get pissed on.

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Sheets are hard for normies. The experience is arduous and draining for them.

Where did you get that percentage?

The difference is that mentally ill people like trannies don't get encouraged in Eastern Europe by the general public. You have to work against public shaming if you reject treatment and instead try to force your warped view down other people's throats.

99.9% of people in our hobby are fucking autists.

If you managed to get a full group of mentally stable people in this fucking hobby then you have the golden goose of gaming groups. Treasure that shit motherfucker.

He didn't have it in his bag, i suggested that he just roll up and write it down on a sheet from my notebook but he decided to go home and see if it was there first. About an hour into the session he just messaged saying he'll join next week.

Can confirm am autistic.

That's impossible because mentally stable people wouldn't feel the need to play pretend in shitty make believe settings

privately ask the person who invited this person about it. Just say, "I wanted to make sure I was using the right pronouns." Whether or not you approve or are used to it doesn't matter, as long as they aren't making a big deal of it who cares right? Just act like it's a guy who comes off as a girl and you're not sure. Awkward to deal with and you might fuck up, but it doesn't make you a bad person.

Ask the friend about the pronouns and apologize, say you just wanted to make sure you don't offend him etc. The friend will probably be chill about it.

If you fuck up it doesn't matter, he's probably used to it and will either say nothing or correct you and you just apologize. But the main thing is to consider him a guy and don't even think about the girl thing. You never knew him as a girl so it shouldn't be too hard.

Alternatively, focus on referring to people in-character when applicable. That'll keep you from having to say their gender anyway.

I'd rather have an autist, depending on the severity, then an ugly woman that demands that I ignore reality and call her a man.

>Where did you get that percentage?
Probably closer to 50% now that you mention it.

But you're already the autist, user.

>But the main thing is to consider him a guy and don't even think about the girl thing.
Yes, deny objective reality. This is some weird, Orwellian shit.

>calling a woman, pretending to be a man, a woman is autism

wisdom

Making a big deal out of it is autistic, yes.
>"Hi would you mind referring to me as [GENDER]?"
>NO REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

Maybe if you keep replying to the troll he'll start agreeing with you.

I'll keep getting (You)s either way

>"Hi would you mind referring to me as [GENDER]?"
>I would actually, accept it or don't.
No reeeing involved.

[insert obligatory /pol/ or SJW bullshit here]

But really, if you hang out with the right people, the fact you're confused and don't know much about the issue won't matter to them. All they'll care about is that you try your best. Be honest and upfront about your confusion, listen to what they say, and don't be afraid to speak up if you don't understand something.

This guy gets it.

>consider him a guy and don't even think about the girl thing.
The proper advice here is "realize that she's a girl but she gets upset when you use certain words that aren't meant as insults, so just call her by her name every time you want to refer to her." OP shouldn't be forced to conform to the wishes of another person if he doesn't agree with them, just as she's not forced to conform with the fact of nature that is her body. I'm in the same boat (friend of a friend is bigender/agender depending on the weather, what either of those terms is supposed to me is a question for someone far more versed in Women's Studies) and I would rather not feed into their delusion but also realize that I'm not going to help anything by making them feel uncomfortable all the time. I just refer to them by their name and try to avoid them in conversation.

I'm not here to argue with you but what about these posts relate to or help OP at all? Are you telling him to follow your beliefs and deny a player because you would? If so just say that and move on.

That it's time to stop accepting that 2+2=5.

Still irrelevant to the thread, go back to /pol/ if you just want to whine about trans people because that's not on topic here.

It absolutely is on topic. OP asked what he should do with this individual, the best thing would be to not allow them to participate or not humor their bullshit. And fuck on off back to /lgbt/.

Man dont be an autist...
If that moment comes, just tell her that you are not acustomed but you are triying your best. its that fucking simple
anyway he will play a male character so?

I literally asked you two posts ago to actually turn your thinly veiled /pol/ shitposting into advice for OP and on-topic, thanks for finally following through after I called you out twice.

It was literally in my first post it's not my fault you can't fucking read.

I'm beginning to understand why you thought i was baiting holy shit. OP is indeed sorry guys.

I wish you'd actually read my posts, too, but there's only so much one can expect from the mentally ill.

>y-you too

I'm not the one that thinks women are pretend to be men, are men. That's you lot.

Please continue acting smug and retarded, both of you. It's very on topic.

Don't be sorry, you could have posted about what color icing to put on a cake and you would have got similar levels of autism. Hope you at least got some insight and advice that helps.

See I don't care what someone wants to be called, as long as they don't be weird or an asshole about it. It's when people make it their entire identity that it becomes a problem.

we need a bloodlusty centristmod

Like the shitposter in here basing xis entire identity about being an anti-tranny /pol/shitter?

>*their
FTFY

Don't correct my pronouns, shitlord.

Fake news.

Me thinks you both protest to much buttercup.

Eat my ass faggot. That was literally my second post in this entire thread.

>Eat my ass faggot.
Are you cursing him or inviting him for a "session"?

Practice makes perfect. Yeah you might slip up some times in the beginning but eventually you'll learn to automatically refer to the person by their prefered pronoun even though you still might think of the person otherwise. If your buddies can't understand that you might slip up a couple of times then they're idiots.

>I'm beginning to understand why you thought i was baiting holy shit. OP is indeed sorry guys.
/pol/tards (of both sides) will latch onto any excuse to shitpost about identity politics on Veeky Forums.

>by their prefered pronoun even though you still might think of the person otherwise.
>just play pretend with them user, 2+2=5

Trannies are less than 1% of the population. No, this is NOT something normal people have to deal with.

What percentage of the population plays D&D?

"Hey

Don't do this OP, stop playing into their delusions.

Almost shat myself. You win. /thread

Passing trannies are even less than that.

>What percentage of the population plays D&D?
mfw thinking what percentage of the population posts on Veeky Forums

Why not? I don't see you complaining about all the /pol/tards deluding themselves into thinking they're welcome here.

They are welcome here, you aren't.

>They are welcome here
/pol/shit belongs in /pol/, and if you can't understand that simple rule you should kill yourself.

And trannies belong in their closets hanging from their belts or in bed with a bottle of pills, yet here we are.

If they play a female character and you mess up a pronoun, just pretend you were addressing the character instead of them.
If they play a male character, just always refer to them in the context of their character.
Basically, just pretend the person doesn't exist and only their character exists like they want you to believe.

Just be cool man, call that turbo-dyke a dude and if anything slips don't draw attention to it, just keep going and play it off as nothing.

Interestingly enough, many Muslim cultures are A-OK with Trans-folk. Hell, there was a case where some dude forced his gay daughter to transition so they would be accepted.

You're really obsessed with trannies aren't you? Spend a lot of time thinking about them? I wonder how much trap porn is on your computer.

I mean, considering how rampant male on male pedophilia is in the middle east they need some sort of loophole to make it "not gay"

Bro are you ok? Did a tranny violate you?

I'm mtf trans. Here's what you do

>ask your friend if you should call her friend he or she
>call them that
>if they want to be called he and you say she, just say "i mean he" and then move on and not make a big deal of it

No one who is actually trans wants to make a scene about it. If they throw a fit about it, it means they were actually waiting for you to slip up just so they could throw a fit about it, and they're a huge asshole who you should not be spending your time with.

>you should kill yourself
>but don't point out how trannies kill themselves in fucking droves

More Twi'lek qt3.14s please

>be young muslim boy
>very religious father wants to fuck you
>he forces you to become the little girl
>live happily ever after

>be young christian boy
>father is very religious and wants to bang you
>you get killed in "exorcism" to remove the "demons" that must be making your father lust after you
>buried in shallow grave, corpse is eventually found and eaten by a pack of wild australians

One of these seems better than the other.

Wouldn't that be Charisma?

>>but don't point out how trannies kill themselves in fucking droves

While we're discussing Veeky Forums-related topics on Veeky Forums, I heard that this statement was bullshit.

They have around a 50% suicide attempt rate.

Being dead seems to be a better alternative than being forced to cross dress because your faggot father wants a sex slave

less than 1% is actually a lot, even a neckbeard probably knows more than 100 people

lollll look at this /leftypol/ progressive faggot

stone cold