I just saw my father cry for the first time in my life. He came into my room...

Fag.

go make money

Fuck him for guilt tripping you. I could understand more if you were an only child, but it sounds like your siblings are doing alright, and he should fucking accept that everyone goes through life differently.

It could be worse, you could be a serial killer lol.

You dad sounds like he has nothing going for him and is relying on vicariously living through his children to derive happiness. You are responsible for NOBODY else's happiness but your own.

devote some time to charity work or follow these anons' advice and teach English to some less fortunate kids

Go to the gym. Hard to have goals or self-esteem when you’re plump with soy.

Google stronglifts 5x5. Your dad will be happy to cover a membership to the gym.

Start eating better. No sugar and way less carbs. Protein and good fat. Take a daily multivitamin.

Download Headspace. Meditation is an easy habit to develop. It’ll give you discipline and help with your depression.

In a few months you’ll feel like a new man. Your head will be clear and you’ll have goals in mind. The discipline you’ve built up from this will help you achieve them. Eventually you’ll even be able to talk to girls.

Stay strong and good luck user.

This might surprise you, but he should be the one helping you with this. That's what a father does. He left you all alone with this problem because he's not a responsible father. Don't become like him if you ever have a son.

What you're doing sounds interesting, is it the TEFL? I'm in a rut in my life right now and I'm just looking at possible opportunities.

In other words, he failed to teach you about direction and values.
Move out and start doing what you want to do with your life. Stop trying to impress other people. Learn about goal setting and about how to maintain habits. Good luck.

Hang in there, user. Start reading, start writing, start doing anything- even when it feels useless. Action generates motivation.

Two recommended books:

- Art of Happiness
- The subtle art of not giving a f*ck

it stings that ur father cares?

im damn near 30 and everytime i see my dad he tells me how his day was at the beach and im a neet with no education and ive never had a girlfriend

thats pain

This is how I feel. Started new job in Jan. Hate it with a passion. Feel trapped but have to hold on because have nothing else. Just feel like killing myself. And leaving the little crypto gains I have to my sister.

Very solid advice every men should follow. Also don't watch porn or jack off. That shit fucks up your mind. Use your new sexual built up energy to kill shit like the things listed above.

If you do none of these things, at least hit the gym and build your self help. Most betas underestimate it but it changed my world completely getting my body right

Yo. I teach in N.E. China. I got in before they fully shut out the normies with Mickey Mouse TESOL's + fake degrees.

I'd say if you want to TESOL, go for a CELTA / DELTA. These bullshit "online" TESOL cert's acceptance will soon be a thing of the past.

Also, despite shit air, I'd go for China, south if you like it warm, north-ish if you like winter. China fucking rules, and the rock n roll / girls are good.

Come join the crew in Asia, live (unironically) rent free (for China at least), decent pay for low-ass hours, and low bullshit...

Cheers.

You sound like the boss. I know you feel bad, but you can't help how you feel. You also can't help how your dad feels. Do what you can think of to do, and I promise, seriously, things will happen.

Thanks a lot dude, I'll look into what you've said.

cambodia but dont do drugs and realize that local girls will either be hookers or want to marry.

You're father is a piece of shit who needs you to make him feel better.

I really like the idea of going to the 3rd world to teach english. I remember reading stories on /a/ about someone who travelled the world for a year and came back to tell his story.

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This desu. Your dad sees his children as trophies and is an insecure boomer faggot who seeks validation from his peers based on his children’s achievements/perceived social status. Tell your dad your goal in life is to never be anything like his whack boomer ass.

This. If you don't do this OP you deserve what you're getting.

underrated post

yeah do that lmao

Just ignore your dad. Do not adopt the troubles of others. You should build your own life and own accomplishments. Elevating the important of your appeal to others is to lower the importance of your appeal to yourself

So your dad cries because you're not financially successful? He sees nothing else in his own son? Do yourself a favour and move out, cut contact with him for a while.
Your personalities clash and have created a negative environment.
Necessity will force you to become motivated if you wish to avoid poverty.

to anyone outside of context this would seem like a sincere post

but I assure you its a troll meant to depress and demotivate you during this market. The OP is the calling card.

Disgusting, sad little man, kek

No better life advice has ever been giving

Tell your dad you have someone you want him to meet. your dad will be so happy you finally have a direction of course he will be interested. That’s when you hire beefy Tyrone to be your bf and bring him over. Do lots of pda and giggle like a little bitch in front of your dad so show how ecstatic you are. When your dad freaks out, freak out worse in him and tell him he never cared about you or your happiness. Then an hero.

Your dad will be so fucked up afterwards but too chicken like all boomers to an hero and will simply vanish into corporate healthcare which will suck all his money and insurance like s bunch of bloody vampires. Boomers have the best insurance, probably full coverage with minimal deductions and pay out. The old man will wind up spending the last 10-15 years if his life going from hospital to hospital like a bag of meat.

Start by cleaning your damn room
Pic related btw

man, that's rough,
I feel kinda similar.
I'm in my senior year of college, completed a chemistry B.A. and added a philosophy major but it's been a total joke. There have been multiple points where I should have failed out of my Chem program but the Professors wouldn't give failing grades, which demotivated me further as there was an even lower minimum effort required.
my parents have repeatedly expressed disappointment in my academics but I can't bring myself to give a shit, and I'm so done with being in school. I have three older sisters who have all managed to have success. and have found directions in life that they enjoy and that fulfill them and that they are following through on. I don't want to go for a higher degree, have no direct plans for either of my majors and haven't even considered looking for a job yet. I've had ongoing low level depression and recently a bit of anxiety over my future, not dissimilar form what I've read about death anxiety. I've had a couple relationships with great girls, which I honestly can't understand how I got that lucky, but I always ruined things, and the last girl was a basket case but so was I. It's been getting harder and harder, my limited socialization has fallen even further and I'm more and more demotivated. Crypto gave me hope and something to get excited about for a while but now it's kinda meh because of the markets.
What I'm going to do for myself and what I'd advise you to do, it to take on a typical hero's journey. set off into radically uncharted territory (for you that is), take on a significant task, one that you want to do, and not that you "have to" or "should" do and focus as much as you can on driving yourself towards that goal for the sole reason that you decided that that was what you were going to do. yeah I know the "sort yourself out" thing has become a meme, but it is true that existence is a burden, and the upside is that you get to choose your burden.

for me personally, when college ends, I'm putting together a kick ass bicycle and I'm going to bike from the east coast to the west coast of the US, without modern electronics except for a flashlight. I'm going to break down what I think life is into it's most basic parts. I'm going to cut out all higher or worldly concerns or influences on my life so I only have to focus on the small scale bare essentials of existence. Those being, feeding myself and maintaining basic hygiene, finding shelter (somewhere to pitch my tent), avoiding extreme danger (ie not dying) and making progress to a longer term goal on a measurable daily basis (traveling from coast to coast). the only things to worry about are what is right in front of me. while it's all basic stuff, it's doing it in an environment that is fairly alien to me in that I've never done any solo camping or extended unsupported camping. it also allows me to build complexity and has avenues of daily and long term fulfillment available to me. the overall goal is reached by making steady progress on a regular basis and once I fall into a rhythm I can shift my focus to finding opportunities for daily fulfillment and variation by figuring out how to find and explore the smaller opportunities I come across on a regular basis, to stop and appreciate the little things. I can then make millions of little decisions to enhance my life by taking a different road that looks more interesting, or taking a detour to shops or stands and connecting with people and being open to what life has to offer.
those people that have things together have made an uncountable number of tiny decisions that improve their life a little at a time, but overall stack up into amazing success, find a way to do that yourself.

I also want to try out psychedelics because of what I've heard about them. sounds like taking a few strong doses of shrooms, LSD, ketamine, maybe mescaline could have positive effects

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