Any books for fatherless sons?

>i-it's not an addiction I swear! I-i can stop anytime I want to!

This poster is a good man.

>newspaper article

Mein gott

Siddhartha
Meditations
The Martian Chronicles

Reading articles like this just reminds me how much people don't care.

Nobody is going to care if men fail. Literally nobody.

The Stranger by Albert Camus, great start I believe

Cheer up, try and find a hobby, it helps alot. Personally, I focused in dancing (ballet) and exercise, I believe works as a strong distraction and a good way ti express what cannot be easily expressed. It worked for me but that's because I need to be in constant movement, maybe you can focus on drawing, painting, guitar, etc. Remember you don't have to be an expert, if it helps to relief the stress then it's enough

Something fairly easy digestable but still good would be Raymond Chandlers detective novels. Philip Marlowe is an early example of the lonely man in an 20th century urban environment who still finds his way somehow.

>Philip Stanhope's Letters to His Son
>Aurelius
>Cicero
>Baaden Powell
>Richard Francis Burton
Congrats, you are now not only a man but also have a childhood.

>two hours of pornography a week
I watch that on a daily basis

Any negro book.

>Aurelius
>Cicero
Absolute patrician taste, user

Thank you: If I didn't typo Baden Powell, it's hard to tell I'm intoxicated.

Ecclesiastes

The Odyssey

Also, you're only 18 dude. Nobody has shit figured out at 18. You might think they do, they might think they do, but trust me, they don't. These are the golden years to be confused, try new things, figure out what you like and who you are.

I read incest stories and audioclips. Even that's difficult

cant get off to anything else

If your father was shit you're better off not having him in your life. Stop listening to conservative fags that insist you're "broken" unless you fit in their cultural straightjacket. Just learn about frugality and healthy living, and educate yourself in shit like IT or business or STEM that might get you a future career.

Also, I'm not against right wing politics in general, but "redpill" is bullshit designed to boost the self pitying tendencies of people who don't want to improve their lives. Talk to an actual biologist and you'll see its not even biologically sound.

>Any books for fatherless sons?
Don't look for books that you think are made for people like you. It'll just end up reinforcing your cycle of wallowing in self-pity and narrow worldview. You'll end up being a living meme and a coward who gets upset by anything that opposes your shitty worldview. Chances are if you frequent redpill and r9k you're already pretty far down that road but you're 18 so you have plenty of time to change. You could be a well rounded individual by the time you're 21, granted some hard work.

So, where to begin? Start with the Greeks. Not even memeing. Read the Illiad and the Oddysey. They are the ultimate classics that lie at the foundations of western literature. They're easy reads, short and interesting with broad and universal themes in a foreign setting. Try to think about the book/poem as you read it, the history, the culture and the awe surrounding them add to the whole.

If you can't read those then try some Genre fiction and then try again. If you can read them but don't enjoy them or can't understand them then try again. Most good things are acquired tastes so don't let intellectual cowardice stop you from partaking in the arts. This is about being a better person. It's important.

>I also have a porn addiction and no friends.
Porn addiction doesn't matter really, you can come to that later. No friends is an issue but you'll find your connections to people growing as you grow as a person. Every book you read, album you hear or experience you have is a chain linking you to another person. It's pretty straightforward. The more you have in common with people, the easier it is to make friends. Once you've built yourself into more of a man then you need to find a place to socialise. Work, college wherever. Don't sit on your arse.

If you have enough to talk about your awkwardness and social anxiety won't be a problem. I'm shy but find a topic we're both interested in and I can talk for hours. People like awkward and interesting people. Just don't be a creep and don't be too forceful. If this is something you have difficulty with then you just need to practice. Cringe internally at your old self and teach yourself to be pleasant. Don't worry about being quiet, people don't mind that. The biggest problem will be all the people with whom you have nothing in common, but they can turn out to be your fastest friends. Don't scorn people who are different. Listen to them, try to understand them. Learn from their faults and from their strengths. You'll be a bigger man for it. That said, try to avoid politics and religion when talking to strangers.

So from a practical perspective it's simple. Get a job, join a club, go to college. Interact with people. Most people are looking to make new friends too. When people invite you places, say yes. Parties with people you don't know are awkward as fuck, even for me and I'm a normie. Get over it. Nobody is watching you probably. Talk to people. Alcohol helps.

>raised by /r9k/
Jesus. On balance it's probably a good thing that the internet wasn't a big thing when I was growing up.

As someone who wasted his childhood on World of Warcraft to escape bullying and ended up incredibly socially incompetent, I would tend to agree with you.

Ok you frog fuck. First thing's first, /pol/ and /r9k/ are pretty much the most cancerous brain-cell eating boards you could be influenced by. You definitely already fucked up a lot by just being on these boards for a long amount of time.

What you need to do is seriously just start reading philosophy, and re-examine your whole fucking ego. You are looking at walls. Tear down this ugly wallpaper that exists inside your mind and pan your horizons to the windows that show the outside world. Start exploring books and philosophy, start going outside and meeting people, start getting into new hobbies. Remove this patrician/pleb and real-person/normie dichotomy in your head, there may very well be real reasons for this terminology to exist but in the end it limits and poisons your perspective of life.

Also: START LIFTING. Seriously. Just START LIFTING. Do pushups and jumping jacks every day even, start some form of fucking exercise, but mainly just start doing compound strength lifts. Not just for muscle, not just for bitches, lifting improves your whole fucking mental being.

gtfo

>cont.

>No skills or talents.
Get some. It's easy, you just need practice. However, before you can get a skill you need an interest, otherwise it will be a chore. What music, films, etc. do you like?

What's wrong with /pol/?

/r9k/ is cancer though, I agree.

no he died when i was 11. Thought I could get by without one but realised that's where people get their social skills and manliness from

There's a lot that I could write but let's just say that they are idiots with penis issues who want easy answers for difficult problems. But to be fair, there are some interesting threads every once in a while, they're just not worth to waste a lot of time there. Too much negativity, even by Veeky Forums standards.

>/r9k/ is cancer though
R9k has at times been good.

A lot of the pol attitude and user base comes from right wing nerds (as you find in places like storm front) actively trying to control the discussion there. I think it's meant to be a recruitment thing.

>Thought I could get by without one but realised that's where people get their social skills and manliness from
People don't get social skills from their parents, they get it through practice and life experience. Only you can make yourself better.

I don't know what conception of manliness you mean but there's a good chance it's some silly r9k meme. The best explorations of the masculine condition will be got through philosophy, the arts and the relationships you build with people. You were deprived of a relationship with your father but there are others to be had.

pic unrelated

>What's wrong with /pol/?
You'll also need to read some philosophy and study it critically. If you can't see the problem with /pol/ then your critical thinking is non-existent.

Thanks for your advice.

I like Blues, rock, R&B, Classical and some electronica

IDK about films, I really like them but I watch whatever is good. I know that is a shitty response I hate it too. But I really like the movie Drive, oh I loved Leon the professional. I liked starwars, and perks of being a wallflower(before i realised it's just wishful thinking bullshit that is pure fantasy, same with anime) .

Doesn't give you a lot to go on, but really any movie where the characters are well written.

Books: I've been reading "A letters from a Stoic Seneca", it's really an eye opener how philosophy can help me, and how ancient people were just like us.

I am learning the guitar(classical or blues not sure yet). I have an electric and a classical so I'm gonna get a book and self teach myself.

I do need to read more though. With the partying aspect, I don't think I want to drink alcohol or do drugs. I mean the stoic philosophy suggests I don't indulge in such pleasures, and more importantly I don't want to hang out with people associated with that. I don't mind if I already made some friends and then yeah as an activity.

I know I sound like a straight edge tips fadora faggot whos morally superior but really my parents were/are alcoholics and I do have an addictive personality. The porn addiction is a problem because it turns me into a vegetable(makes me lazy and asocial), I also have ED.

Honestly think if I conquer my porn addiction my life would improve drastically. I also reek after I fapped.

I'll continue my exercises for my well being. Thanks

While I think a majority of /pol/ just really cares about memes and act like a hivemind, it was a springboard for me into right-wing perspectives that I never would have thought about before. It broadened my ideas a bit and introduced me to philosophy or literature I never would have thought about before.

the peaceful pill handbook

Hey man I'm going to pretend like I could even begin to understand what you must have gone through to get where you are in life without a father figure but I think you should check out East of Eden if you feel like reading a fiction book. There are some real life lessons to be learned and wisdom to be absorbed from that book. I'm not exactly sure what you're looking for but I think that it's the most relevant suggestion for you that I can think of.

Aristotle - Nicomachean Ethics
Epictetus - Discourses

Basically in 700 pages the father you never had.

The people complaining about /pol/ and /r9k/ are not as smart as they think they are. Recent Veeky Forums is basically /mu/ i.e. teenaged college liberals who follow the latest line of "progressive" politics without any critical thinking.
Go look at all "conservative" and "reactionary" thinkers, I don't know how they can pretend they were stupid or just misguided.

To OP: I recommend finding one guy in art, literature, history, or philosophy and learning all about him: basically find someone who really speaks to you - you'll grow with him, see his flaws, weaknesses, strengths, interests.

I really hope you reread this post and get even the slightest bit of self awareness.

OP here. I'd like for that person to be Hitler.
The Nazi movement really speaks to me as a redpilled person. Is he a good choice?

>>Cicero
Fucking pleb, do you jerk off to your own sculpture too?

r9k really isn't too bad, it's just people who have no hope for reasons outside their control (genetics) venting to each other and being able to tell hard truths that would be autistic to say in public.

>/r9k/ 'redpill'
>hard truths

kys

>not liking Cicero's letters to his son and his comfy prose
butthurt your schools never offered latin?

the pessimistic fatalism and preoccupation with physical appearance on r9k basically matches with reality.

You're in a better position than I thought, you have a fairly broad taste and a willingness to learn that's absent in many people. You're honestly fine from that perspective. You've got a solid base of culture that you can begin with. You just have to take it seriously. For example with music, try to "Actively listen" and relish what you are hearing. Read about the histories of the genres, who influenced whom and so on. Study music theory so you can understand your favourite aspects. Listen to new genres that you didn't like before and learn to like them. There is great music in every genre and there are important things to be learned from each genre. Having broad tastes is important. Of course you can have your favourites but make sure you understand the others. In time you will love them too. A deep understanding of music is really fulfilling and in time you will be ready to write your own.

Learning guitar is a great idea. My advice towards that is to keep the guitar around you at all times and just play around with it while you're doing other stuff. The hardest thing about learning an instrument in my experience is having the discipline to keep practising, so it's best to make that as easy for yourself as possible. Try not to treat it as a chore, play what you like to ply the most to begin with and take an active interest in what you are doing. In time you will want to test your abilities and knowledge more and more. I'd also recommend lessons if you have the money, but it's not essential.

> I don't want to hang out with people associated with that
I understand completely if you don't want to drink or do drugs, but you should be prepared to make friends with those who do, and get used to being around drunk people without getting annoyed at them. A whole lot of social situations involve alcohol if you live in the west, you don't have to drink it but just be comfortable around it. Nobody will judge you and if they do just ignore them. I drink and do drugs in moderation, I have friends who are completely straight edge and some who are constantly partying. Both are great. I wouldn't worry too much about stoicism beyond the intellectual aspect for the moment. Learn it and understand it and take it seriously but trying to live stoically just isn't that important right now.

Don't drink, but make the effort to go out anyway. Even for an hour or two. People will be glad you came and showed your face and more importantly if you keep turning down invitations people will stop inviting you.

If you feel like the porn addiction is seriously affecting your life then it's probably pretty bad. The thing is, these kinds of addictions usually stem from boredom and a feeling of defeat these will be helped as you find more productive ways to occupy yourself. If you spend your time on your laptop in bed then move to a desk. Don't take your laptop to bed with you. As you become more fulfilled you will feel the need to watch porn lessen.

It matches a loser's reality

Please don't over-correct and misconceive masculinity as external "manliness."

The Stoics are great, I love them, but recognize that they have a somewhat blinkered ethical horizon. Read some of their forerunners and inheritors.

>Socrates (by way of Plato obviously. Start with the early dialogues).
>Aristotle (Nicomachean Ethics).
>Augustine (Confessions obviously relates to porn addiction).
>Kierkegaard (esp. Either/Or).
>Evelyn Waugh (Brideshead Revisited).
>James Joyce (difficult, but Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man deals with male sexual disorder).
>Flannery O'Connor (yes, a woman).
>Walker Percy (esp. Lost in the Cosmos. Little known but excellent. Also the Moviegoer).

And realize that reading will not help you love a choice worthy life.

'no'

*live a choice worthy life.

Damn, didn't know Zimbardo was still around and working. Man Disconnected sounds interesting, and sadly relevant for me. I think people are way too eager to dismiss porn and video games as addictions.

>Recent Veeky Forums is basically /mu/ i.e. teenaged college liberals who follow the latest line of "progressive" politics without any critical thinking.
That's simply untrue and it really seems like your perspective is warped. Veeky Forums is incomparable with /pol/ and /r9k/. Veeky Forums is also the best place on Veeky Forums for discussion of conservative and reactionary thought. There are at least some people here who have read Evola instead of just memeing him.

>I recommend finding one guy in art, literature, history, or philosophy and learning all about him: basically find someone who really speaks to you - you'll grow with him, see his flaws, weaknesses, strengths, interests.
This isn't bad advice.

You shouldn't go defining yourself in terms of political memes like that. You seem over-eager to surrender yourself to ideologies. It can be comforting to have an all-encompassing worldview but it tends to just lock you in and handicap any growth you might have had.

I'd recommend Napoleon Bonaparte, Julius Caesar or Alexander the Great

And do what the other guy said: Lift.

Fuck off I'm OP. I said I grew up on redpill and r9k, doesn't mean I think they are right. It's just all I've been taught.

Thanks user

Ready Player One
Neuromancer
Percy Jackson Series

> Wahh enjoying things by yourself is bad, you should be hanging out with peasants and talking about sports and drinking beers at the pub wahh

> Wahh you can't be a real man unless you work 12 hours a day at a shit job to make some jew rich and then breed with a used up old hag at the age of 37 wahh whahhh

tbqh i dont blame men for opting out of society. there isnt much out there.

Ah, you should probably just die then.

Nobody would want to know the real you anyway.

Being fatherless is a blessing.

What most fathers do is, they get in the way of fun.

They criticize your lifestyle and give you bad advice. They order you to do things.

The worst thing is, the threat of violence if you go against them. And the fact you have to live with this person.

If you don't have a father, you are the man of the house.

Having a "father figure" also makes you more beta, as you get used to being ordered around by a man, so you feel beta around other men too, instead of doing what you want.

Nearly every guy i know without a father is insanely stubborn and very confident/does what they want.

Having a father just makes you a submissive cuck.

Some people are parentless by choice because some parents are toxic with contagious moods. Count yourself lucky that you don't have a bad one, but unlucky that you couldn't endure and overcome his influence were it of that bad kind.

"Those not furnished with a father must craft one" - Nietzsche

Read:
Montaigne
Schopenhauer
Nietzsche
Hume
St. Augustine
Hamlet
Pascal's Musings
Stoics

You would do well to realise that there are those who benefit more from constantly signalling power, so their relationship with honesty is not one that allows them to spread helpful concepts through books in a way that isn't mostly self-interested. That's not to say either man has the better way of life just that the approach is different and you shouldn't ever expect pure honesty from polite society in contrast to how it appears in these books.

My diary, desu.

>It's normal to watch porn often if you're a man.
Normal doesn't mean right. Indeed it is becoming very normal; and I, for one, am glad that I have fought against it.

It is possible to give up on pornography. It takes a long time but your thoughts will gradually cease to resemble pornography.

The problem with porn is that it is ugly and unsatisfying. The more you watch it, the more that ugliness takes over your perceptive faculties, and you begin to lose the feeling that women are beautiful, or that sex is beautiful. Porn deadens a man, so that beauty becomes hideous to him.

The first time I ever watched porn, my heart raced so fast I thought it was going to burst—the excitement was indescribable. By the time I quit, I had lost all pleasure in the activity. Worse than that, it had drained the joy from my active life. I used to become stupidly obsessed with women, I found them so heart-rendingly beautiful; while I sated myself on pornography I saw them as worthless. I hated them, I thought them oddly-proportioned, unintelligent, vulgar beasts. I hated them and I hated myself. When I was deep entangled in the worst varieties of alternative hentai I finally discovered what I should have known all along: that the only way to keep our joys is to practice self-restraint. We only enjoy feasting when we fast; we only enjoy sex when we indulge our sexual appetites in moderation.

But moderation is just one small step in the right direction; successful as it was, I knew that there was something beyond it. The more rigidity I introduced, the more alive and sensitive I became. I set a rule so stern that I have still not lived up to it: that I shall never watch porn, nor shall I ever masturbate, nor shall I fantasize. As the rigidity increased the temptation became more unbearable, but increasingly I can bear it for weeks at a time. I hope to become better, and I think I will. All the while I have begun to find again what I had lost: my love of women. I don't despise them anymore, nor do I despise their beauty. Sometimes I will lose hours together for pining after a woman, and it is a sweeter agony than any I have felt for a long time. Nor can the philanderer apprehend, as the chaste can, that sexual union is a sacrament.

When I fail in my efforts, and I sin, and with red face and downcast gaze I repent for my wickedness, it is not so gloomy as the unbelievers think; it is not half so miserable as the pervasive and seemingly causeless anxiety of a joyless life which I have left behind me.

Laugh at me if you like, but take this sinner's testimony: there are happier ways of being, and nobody is entirely helpless to find them.

Interesting, mine did too, and we differ 2 years from eachother (me being 20). My dad died of cancer. Yours?

I have a father and I'm lacking in both

you'll find a way. keep reading, and try to form lasting bonds with male mentors. whether you know it or not the world is full of men that want someone to want to listen to them and learn from their mistakes

>POBAW
>pure fantasy

Nigga read the book, you'd understand it's more deeper and depressing than the movie. I hate people who discredit it, it's really a fantastic work of literature, and self discovery. It's not overly pure fantasy, you can easily make more friends like Charlie

I have new copypasta, this is amazing

Stroke in his 40s; apparently drank a lot, only saw him once drunk which was scare(totally different person). I left him when I was 4 and only saw him every few years. A lot when I was younger which I'm grateful for, even though I only remember a few events with him. So last I saw him was 2 years before he died, no funeral, got his belongings which I've lost. Doesn't matter though. I remember feeling really guilty for always taking him for granted, being slightly annoyed by his phone calls when I was playing, sometimes just telling my mum I don't want to call. I loved him, I just thought my life was like the movie's I grew up watching, where nothing bad would happen to me. The kids who parents die, would never happen to me. That God wouldn't do something like that. So when I heard he was in hospital, I just kept playing videogames, then prayed. Then the next day they pulled the plug; I was in disbelief.

I don't say to anyone that they shouldn't take their dad's for granted when they complain about them, because I don't think many people have a dad like mine.

I don't know how he felt when the few times I did visit him, I would stop our football games and run into play the ps2 as soon as it was set up. Also how I called my stepdad "daddy" as soon as I met him. Like wtf he never made a fuss, at least to me he didn't.

I think cancer would have been harder on me, knowing he was going to die as opposed to him suddenly dying. But they're both dead and that's that.

I have read the book a few months after watching the movie, and then I watched the movie right after.

I don't know if I like the movie or the book better, leaning towards the movie because of the music, the actors and I can watch it in 2 hours.. They have differences which I like. but I think I like the more happier ending in the movie more than the book. But at the same time (which I meant when I said fantasy) the happier ending in the movie made me feel like shit because I'll never have what charlie got. (friends; a reason I stopped watching anime too)

I was just very pessimistic when I watched the movie for the 3rd time.

But I did like the book.

your a god damned wizard

Didn't know niggers could read

Try cutting porn use and seeing where that takes you. If that doesn't help, see a sex therapist.

Also actually try to stop for at least a couple months you dingus, don't just "try" to do it and break after a couple hours and start whining about how impossible it is to quit. Take material steps to stop yourself, like taking your computer and putting it in an open space other people commonly walk through.

Also, don't listen to the other guy, there are very few genuinely hopeless cases out there.You may have to put in more effort than most basket cases but unless you have insurmountable mental/psychical deficiencies (think down syndrome or cerebral palsy) there's nothing stopping you from returning to normal functioning except lack of proper knowledge and ensuing action.

>>>/stfu/

>'masulinity crisis'

And? What would we lose from everyone not posturing with macho behavior all the time?

not him but i work 9-5, read a lot, write every day, and i plan to exercise every day too
but am still insecure kissless virgin with no skills

manly posturing was a lot more palatable than the new kinds of posturing we're going to see

you can kill masculinity, but you won't kill vanity or bigotry by doing do.

>And? What would we lose from everyone not posturing with macho behavior all the time?

Loss of traditional masculinity entails losing a valuable sense of social discipline and cohesion and paves the way for an imbalance of feminine influence in society that takes unhealthy forms, such as the toleration of violent and anti-social elements of society in the name of "compassion."

I don't think masculinity is some unique noble ideal in and of itself - balance is what is needed. But balance is not what we have, and bringing it about takes the form of emphasizing traditional masculinity in this case.

With that said, the focus of that article is misguided, as is most work on the subject. Porn and videogames are methods men use to cope with deeper issues in society, not causes. Getting them to abandon them will just cause them to seek alternative solaces such as drugs or books, and will solve nothing. We need to deal with why young men feel excessive porn and video game consumption is the best use of their time, not just take them away and hope things start getting better.

even though original article is garbage, thats not masculinity, just its dumbed down macho-ist perversion

No book can make up for growing up like that

Accept the fact that your childhood was much worse than it should have been for reasons beyond your control and responsibility and that your development suffered as a result. While not necessarily forgetting the past, start focusing on the future. At 18, you have a whole life ahead of you.

Most problems in your life are things you can probably only figure out yourself or with the help of people you know and who support you, but some general advice can be useful:

-lift weights, eat well, sleep early and a full eight hours, get some sunlight and contact with the outdoors

-drop videogames, porn, TV shows, etc. Anything that requires you to spend long hours alone in front a screen is bad. Get some actually fulfilling hobbies instead, you don't need an example of what they are

-study and work consistently towards your future, and try to build an active social life

-most importantly, if you have a relapse into old bad habits, don't despair and just try again

Ignore the condescending faggots on this thread and the people trying to make it political. In all probability, they're as bad as you or worse

how old are you?

You just need one thing, one piece of advice, one thing to return to when you're weak, one thing to hear in your head on a bad day.

The poem If, by Rudyard Kipling.

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

dad what are you doing on Veeky Forums?

Kipling wrote some great verse though

my grandpa showed me this poem, he used to belt out gunga din lines and on the road to mandalay lines, now i belt them out with him. I might not have had a good father figure in my biological father, but my grandfather is and was a great man.

This is rock-solid advice OP.

The only things I'd add to this guy's advice is that things like videogames and TV shows can be fine in moderation. He's right that the primary judging mark you should use should be "Am I spending lots of hours in front of a screen alone?" but if you limit it and do productive things besides them they can be enjoyable methods of relaxation and decompression. Make sure to set tangible limits on yourself ex: only 1 hour of screen time a day.

Also, if you're socially retarded and can't talk to people you should read a book on conversation skills instead of throwing yourself at a wall repeatedly and wondering why you make people uncomfortable. Conversationally Speaking by Alan Garner is a great book that has helped a lot of people, but if you see something you like more just use what works for you.

and last but not least, as this man forgot to tell you: don't worship happiness and good health! for surely you will never find it except accidentally, and it never comes to those who seek it for its own sake. do things that are good for you because they help you devote your life to something more important than yourself. fall in love with a woman, or take up a cause, or a craft.

I think you're a little confused buddy.

Most people who have happiness and good health in modern society have it precisely because they seek it out, and they know that devoting yourself to something larger is a great way to do that.

The fact that those two are linked is not exactly a secret nowadays, and the relationship is commonly exploited. If anything happiness and good health are primary motivations for people to integrate themselves in something larger.

"So you object, with old Hobbes, that I do good actions for the pleasure of a good conscience; and so, after all, I am only a refined sensualist! Heaven bless you, and mend your logic! Don't you see that if conscience, which is in its nature a consequence, were thus anticipated and made an antecedent—a party instead of a judge—it would dishonour your draft upon it—it would not pay on demand? Don't you see that, in truth, the very fact of acting with this motive properly and logically destroys all claim upon conscience to give you any pleasure at all?" - S.T.C.

You really need to stop being a bitch.

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>break yourself from sex addiction!
>get what you want out of sex!

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>no skills or talents

My advice, take up falconry.
Sport of kings.