What are some good books on the topic of toxic masculinity? I'm sure you will think it is "beta" to ask that even when the myth of alphas came from a flawed study and is parroted and paraded around hy equally flawed (and foolish) individuals.
What books tackle this? It can be fiction or non-fiction. Preferably non-fiction, if you please.
A second question would be why has propaganda and fiction tried to push the image of the "alpha male" and completely discarded history or anthropology? Why was Jack Donovan even given a publishing deal with 'The Way of Men' when it's so obtuse and fantastical? It seems more people want a pseudo reality and Conan the Barbarian or John Rambo (the later movies as the first one was excellent and wasn't just, "AHHHHH DIIIIIE") instead of an actual reality where compromise and understanding and, dare I say, sensitive men exist.
Brody Myers
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Charles Cooper
The social contract and systems of politeness and mutual obligation that existed between men and women are dead, and neither side wants or is capable of compromise. Embrace the eternal war of the sexes until society collapses.
Logan Cox
From reading the description I don't know if I would go that far but nevertheless I will check it out.
Thank you.
Anything else? We could have a discussion if anyone would like. I think if I asked this on Veeky Forums I would get 300-tier retardation and called an omega pussy.
Jaxson Reed
>toxic masculinity
What does this even mean? Toxic according to whom?
Xavier Collins
Careful you don't shoot Andy Warhol.
Dominic Diaz
I wonder how much of feminist "theory" is actually just guided and channeled mental illness.
Brayden Roberts
fat feminists
Jack Martin
OP is a manlet I'm sorry for you, sissyboy :(
Jonathan Young
>toxic masculinity
Can you define this for us?
Anthony Garcia
It's a self-reflective thing.
Well, an example I would say is the fact that men aren't supposed to share their feelings and that leads to trouble. It's "unmanly" to do certain things even though it's normal to humanity.
Luis Perry
My Twisted World
Asher Peterson
It's usually defined by scholars as "men stronger than me" or "men that don't care about feminism."
Ethan Rogers
Aren't most classics about this?
Like, the Iliad is basically the alpha male Achilles realizing that revenge isn't worth it. Same thing with The Tain, and Beowulf - it's Chad Thundercock wondering if there's more to life than just fuckin and stabbin
Ryan White
fucking white males
David Myers
their "wisdom" is toxic they need to shut up and listen to the female perspective on war and revenge
James Howard
It is manly to express emotion. True toxic masculinity is the subjugation and vilification of women, just as toxic feminimity is the counterpart with equal intents. It is not an issue of masculinity as seen in say, wrestling, or action films, where there is a clear hero and a sense of moral justice, (there is often a villain in wrestling, as it is essentially a stage show) No, the real issue rests in the concepts that cause a total objectification of women, a demand to destroy the fellow man, fury without any attempts at reason. Those are in no way truly masculinity in reality, but have gained that moniker, in truth, they are simply evils. Same with toxic feminimity, the said counterpart. They are simply terms assigned in ignorance. I would leave such a concept in the dust where it belongs, if I were you. Realize and understand there is no use for such a term. Estranging masculinity is to estrange one branch of the duality of humanity. a disorder none of us are prepared for.
Zachary Nguyen
Not even trolling, OP. You need to come to terms with your homosexuality, and learn to accept and express yourself in a healthy way. As you work on that your deep seated bitterness and anger will begin to recede. You are currently projecting your feelings of disappointment in yourself and failure as a man onto society, which is much in vogue right now, but exclusively ends in personal tragedy for all but a select few useful idiots.
Best of luck!
Chase Roberts
I do not support third wave feminism, but one must admit when men are not allowed to show their feelings, when they must always be strong, tall, have a big dick, be leaders, be good at sex, and a lot of other stuff that not every male can possibly have, it causes a lot of unneeded strife. Sure, it's good to have goals like being confident and healthy, but when you have to have things out of your control, is it not illogical? When we insult each other by using insults such as pussy, are we not saying that the thing a man least wants to be is a female? I understand that there is biology we cannot change, and I understand calling all men rapists and making safe spaces will not solve this, but can we not agree at least some of these expectations of men are toxic? If a woman can do things I cannot, is that not a double standard?
Oliver Gray
Problem is every time I share my feelings I end up, almost without exception, regretting it. No one gives a fuck about my feelings.
Adrian Carter
you need to find better people. some people are shitty, you know.
Connor Hill
Nice buzzword
Mason Cruz
are you implying that women don't have meaningful insights on themes like war, even though they aren't directly involved in it?
Kevin Allen
Not that guy, but even if women were a key part of the history of warfare (reproduction and raising children before, working the factories more recently), no one will ever know better how it feels to get stabbed in the asshole than the person who actually gets stabbed in the asshole i.e. men 99% of the time.
James Green
>Well, an example I would say is the fact that men aren't supposed to share their feelings and that leads to trouble. It's "unmanly" to do certain things even though it's normal to humanity.
Why does it lead to trouble? Why is sharing feelings "normal to humanity" ? Can you backup these statements with anything concrete?
What if I don't want to hear about your feelings? What if I find hearing about them tedious and embarrassing?
Have you ever wondered if the female propensity to share feelings might have less to do with cultural roles and more to do with the hormone estrogen?
Evan Hall
my diary desu
Jayden Turner
>What are some books that explain why I should feel bad about wanting what I want? Beyond Good and Evil, it really roasts those big schoolyard meanies.
>understanding and, dare I say, sensitive men You don't dare say. That's just the thing. Men like you keep their mouths shut entirely of their own limpdick accord.
David Rivera
>Why does it lead to trouble? Other men, acting the part of the masculine identity, tear down those who share their emotions. >Why is sharing feelings "normal to humanity" Social creatures, hardwired empathy etc... >Can you backup these statements with anything concrete? No more than the counter-position. Such is the life of the philosophe. >What if I don't want to hear about your feelings? What if I find hearing about them tedious and embarrassing? That's fine and normal. Taking on someone's emotional load is tough, and you would probably only want to do it for a friend or partner. If, in that case, you still think of tedium and embarrassment, well, refer to 1) and examine yourself. >Have you ever wondered if the female propensity to share feelings might have less to do with cultural roles and more to do with the hormone estrogen? Nonsense.
Grayson Gray
are you female
Jaxson King
No. I often find that when someone asks me how I am doing and I answer more than the expected, "good" that the other party finds it annoying. Why ask if you don't want to know?
Aiden Allen
It's a social convention. Getting all bent out of shape about it is adolescent.
Self restraint has serious value, I don't really get what's so offensive about this idea. A man who gives vent to his every emotion is not free of them, he is enslaved by them. If you're incapable of controlling yourself, you're no better than an animal.
Ryan Cox
We are animals, you fool.
Ryder Parker
Rosenberg, Dugin, Nazi's in General...
Jeremiah Martinez
Nor do we want it.
Good post!
Luke Russell
That's because when someone asks you how you're doing, 9 times out of 10 that's a courtesy statement and not a question, and they get annoyed with your misinterpretation
Nicholas Ramirez
Why not just say hello then?
Jordan Miller
Because of social convention, as someone said previously. The usage (and your misinterpretation) of the phrase is in no way grounded in "toxic masculinity".
Nicholas Gray
>influenced 'the kindly ones' by jonathan littel
Lucas Campbell
>excerpt
Jose Sullivan
Ahh, sry. Totally not connected to toxic masc, But ok...social conventions are.good, but if u ask something, dont go sour if.someone.replies. Just say hello and you are ok. When I.ask something I expect an answer. Social conventions cannot be separate from reality.
Jaxon Turner
Leonard Michaels' "The Men's Club".
Brandon Long
I spent half my senior year at highschool studying this filth, the other half was racism. It was such an experience that it completely threw me off further academic study of literature. Modern literature is saturated with these poisonous, political ideas with seemingly no escape. My teachers were completely consumed in their efforts to instill a sense of almost smug superiority and self contented pity into the students over fictional anecdotes of broken men. It was disgusting.
Jeremiah Clark
>when someone asks me how I am doing and I answer more than the expected, "good" that the other party finds it annoying. Why ask if you don't want to know? Because they want to hear "Good" in response, not publish a scientific paper on the life of a hopeless autist (i.e. thou).
If you absolutely need to tell them it's not good, then get to the point and quickly say: "Not good.", and tell the whole story only if and when asked for details, as they usually do but they don't always have the time.
All you have to do to survive such social encounter was to follow their instructions, yet you're so retarded as to live your entire existence without ever noticing this.
No, your problem is not located in other people's Y chromosome.
Zachary Carter
What tripe.
Jack Rodriguez
this makes me want to start shooting random people
Hunter Wood
Which is...?
Matthew Cruz
Toxic masculinity is SUPPOSED to mean >The societal conception of manhood causing harm to men, because it is unfeasible or casts important physical and emotional needs as trivial but dumbass Salon columnists usually just toss it out at any (presumed) man who does something they don't like.
Basically, is the best post in the thread and addresses ACTUAL problems of toxic masculinity fantastically. Everyone else is arguing over a misuse of the term.
Isaiah Morris
>just listen to people who don't even know what they're talking about I'm not a Canadian.
James Davis
toxic masculinity everyone
Liam Evans
Seriously, if you want a book about masculinity that isn't Gronk tier...Iron John by Robert Bly
Brayden Flores
Why isn't Toxic Femininity a thing?
Watch an episode of the Kardashians sometime.
Hunter Sanders
>doesn't understand what toxic masculinity is
Austin Barnes
Toxic Femininity is basically the same thing as Toxic Masculinity. Damage inflicted on the self through trying to adhere to societal definitions of how one should act or look based on their genitals. Both basically deal with >Body image issues >Dangerous attempts to change that image (eating disorders/steroids) >Not supposed to enjoy ______ >Not supposed to do ______ >Not supposed to talk about _____
Homophobia is an example of toxic masculinity. >"Being gay is bad. As a man if I do anything that could be seen as gay by others they'll think I'm bad. Gotta try REAL hard to not look gay!"
The decline in homophobia within the general male population has been linked to more men saying that they have emotionally intimate and healthy relationships with their bros. Homophobia was stopping dudes from talking to each other about their more intimate emotional shit and problems their having because thats some gay shit.
Toxic Masculinity.
Kayden Watson
typical women logic. Everything that's wrong with women is because of men, so lets just called toxic femininity toxic masculinity, because it's the same thing.
Camden Williams
>Because they want to hear "Good" in response, not publish a scientific paper on the life of a hopeless autist (i.e. thou) That was funny
Eli Fisher
"Toxic masculinity" is a way to say "opinionated strong man" and that's it to be honest.
Justin Hill
Leftists and SJWs have destroyed Veeky Forums.
Dominic Butler
Get some reading comprehension. Same mechanism, different concepts.
Neither is necessarily seen the other sex's fault, just society in general's.
Asher Cooper
No it's a way to say "you're fixation on *being SEEN* as a strong man is fucking up your ability to connect with other human beings."
I bet you don't even give your bros kisses.
Joseph Ramirez
Yeah >thread #35 on intersectional cuntqueer literature >muh toxic masculinity >"humm go back to /pol/ XD" Fuck this shit
Henry Butler
Then the problem isn't masculinity isn't it? But wanting to be seen in a certain way.
Gabriel Gomez
Nah, maybe it was supposed to be like that but now it's more "if you don't like taking big cocks inside your ass you're saad and you're living your life wrong" and you know it
Jordan Perez
Except that's completely wrong you fucking retard. The more homophobic a culture, the more dare the men to be close with each other because they don't worry about being seen as gay (why should they worry about being seen as gay? Because it's harmful and disgusting). In Slavic or Islamic countries men are much less afraid to be physical with each other because being gay is simply not seen as an option. Look at some photographs of male friends from the 19th century.
Luis Thomas
>Then the problem isn't masculinity isn't it? Correct. Masculinity is defined as "possession of the qualities traditionally associated with men."
Thats fine. Toxic masculinity is just a term for what goes down when being masculine becomes more important than being a human being. Milk is fine. Rotten milk isn't.
>But wanting to be seen in a certain way. Self-image is part of it too. Get me? Toxic masculinity is like having body dysmorphia.
Ayden Walker
Men aren't supposed to sit around and drink tea and talk about their feelings like bitches on their period. Any tendency toward such behaviour ought to be crushed. For the good of society, and women and men themselves. Going against nature never ends up well.
Jace Hernandez
People use words wrong all the time. It doesn't make the word retarded, it makes the people using it wrong retarded.
Ethan Edwards
You are an absolute retard. Gender has nothing to do with this pathology, the abstract identity people pick for themselves is irrelevant, what matters is the picking itself.
Blake Reyes
>the abstract identity people pick for themselves is irrelevant, what matters is the picking itself. what are you talking about. like i'm just asking you to clarify, because it sounds like you're bringing transgender shit into this.
Liam Miller
>Going against nature never ends up well. Humans have been fucking nature in the ass for the last 300 years. Who gives a fuck?
Jonathan Smith
>just society in general's. meaning the patriarchy...
Andrew Bell
>being a human being haha, have you seen the way human beings are??
Cameron Gonzalez
Jesus Christ, I'm out of here. Go read a fucking book.
More like 10.000 years.
Parker Williams
The few men left who unlike yourself have not been turned into disgusting balls of estroegen and fat by hormones in the water and indoctrination in the media.
Joshua Carter
you people have an odd conception of nature you can go against nature as much as you can go against the will of God not at all
Kayden Clark
>pathology I don't think that something born in the gender study circlejerk can be called "pathology". "Pathology" implies a scientific and medical study on the subject
Zachary Cox
>hormones in the water and indoctrination in the media Oh, you're one of those people.
Cooper Smith
lmao you're such a fucking pussy.
Ethan Bennett
What I mean by pathology is the creation of abstract identity or role and wanting to be seen in that way without actions to back it up (and controlling people around you so they validate this identity), i.e. narcissism. Which misguided sjws make it into a gendered issue.
Brody Ramirez
Toxic masculinity? Yeah i'll tell my son about toxic masculinity and let him be a bitch instead of teaching him masculinity and how to be a man
Sebastian Diaz
ITT: people so insecure and faceless that their only sense of identity is drawn from their manliness.
lmao. does knowing you're a man really not satisfy you? you gotta have the bro code saved on your android so you know the rules on how to interact with other males?
You're you. You're also a man. Don't let the latter get in the way of the former.
Kayden Bailey
He'd be way better off inventing reasons to hate everyone, and going through life oozing with passive aggressiveness, while finding ways to hold metaphorical guns to the people in his life's heads in order to trap them into staying with him, even though it never works and he ends up single at 40 and a pillhead and alcoholic like most women.
Oliver Ramirez
Normal femininity
Jaxon Clark
All masculinity is for me is keeping myself physically strong, mentally awake, and morally straight. Anything else is just people telling you what to do.
Nolan Reyes
10/10
Jason Lee
>physically strong >mentally awake >morally straight What are you some kind of fascist user?
Dylan Sullivan
i think that's boy scouts creed or some gay shit.
Joshua Murphy
That's good advice nevertheless
Juan Cruz
It's part of the Scout Oath. It's cheesy, but it's true.
Asher Evans
I dunno, every serious boy scout I knew was usually both a huge druggy and a sexual homo deviant.
Carson Adams
I wanted to say that, in Russian novels the men always kiss and confess their love to each other like it's no big deal. Gay acceptance has cast a huge digusting shadow over male to male intimacy.
Hunter Davis
This. Homosexuality is a disease. Of individuals and society.
Leo Brooks
Feminists really don't know what they are doing by deconstructing masculinity.
I mean, it's almost as if they want husbands and boyfriends who'll never defend them or protect them.
Everyone knows that the reason men are socialized into being tough, is because the world actually is a fucking horrible place, and someone needs to do the dirty work to stop it from getting worse.
Dylan Perez
but if A in context X, there is no way to tell that A isn't caused by context X if there is no context Y. You can't prove that A is caused by X but you can't prove it isn't either
Jonathan Richardson
I think that, at least originally, they wanted both boys and girls to be taught to be strong, but also be able to express themselves and solve their conflicts through talking rather than violence. Take the best of both and give it to everyone.
Blake Brown
Yeah, but the problem is that woman are vastly more conflict-avoidant and are less strong than men on average.
Do you really think that feminists would want men to become what women themselves were 50 years ago?
I sincerely doubt it. I sincerely doubt a feminist could handle being the last to leave a sinking ship, or be told that she had to go die in war for her country, or work in a coalmine till she dies of blacklung at 45.
Nathan Williams
I have only heard feminists espouse this definition of Toxic Masculinity. Is it really just a matter of people hearing "toxic" and "(men)" and thinking it means that men are bad? Toxic Masculinity is really a reflective concept that can help men see through a bunch of bullshit that permeates how some cultures see them.
Parker Baker
hey faggots don't talk about your feelings lol bottle them up and become bitter like everyone else fucking homos
Isaiah Gonzalez
>lol bottle them up and become bitter like everyone else fucking homos
The idea that "bottling up" your feelings is bad for you is an old wives' tale.
Grayson Bailey
This.
Hunter Myers
like said, to have the best perspective on a war you need to have been in one, not to say that a woman can't have a good persepective, just not the best, and while there are a ton of good perspectives, only the best should be considered worth listening to
Plus fundamentally women are not made to understand or fight in wars, they don't have the traits