Not that user but the way I handle it is that I completely remove the "he answered/state/replied" shit entirely. I bring attention to whoever is talking or responding by describing their reactions to what's being said.
If a girlfriend told her boyfriend she was pregnant I'd have the boyfriend spaz out then describe the panic in his voice before he speaks before putting the dialogue.
Other times I'll make a character react to dialogue by their expression followed by their dialogue. As long as the reader can figure out who's talking you don't need "he/she said"
Here's an example from Prince of Thorns.
"Rike stormed out of the house, blacker than Nuban with all the ash on him, and spitting mad. He made for the next doorway. "Burlow, you fat bastard! You set me up!" If little Rikey couldn't find himself some loot, then somebody else would pay. Always."
Gomst looked glad of the diversion, but I drew his attention back. "Father Gomst, you were telling me about Jessop." I took the reigns from his hands.
"A bog-town, my prince. A nothing. a place where they cut peat for protectorate. Seventeen huts and perhaps a few more pigs." He tried a laugh, but it came out too harp and nervy."
Not a single he/she said. The author does use them when it's unclear who's talking or when he wants to paint a specific picture.
"The hamlet of Jessop, my prince," Gomst replied, wary and looking anywhere but at me.
However a lot of what he does is without he/she said.
"So you journeyed there to offer absolution to the poor?" I held his eye.
"Well . . ."
"Out past Hanton, out to the edge of the marsh, out into danger," I said. "You're a very holy man, Father."
After the Well either character could've spoke, the prince to cut in or the father to continue, thus the author put "I said" to specify the speaker.
Just want to add that it's up to you in the end. In Powder Mage the author uses "X said" and various forms of it liberally to add flavor.
I hope this clears things up.
