What is emotional intelligence?

what is emotional intelligence?

books that prove it's not pop psychology?

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peterson doesn't believe in it

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its nicomachean ethics for noobs

Cognitive Intelligence is the measure of logical decision making.
Emotional Intelligence is the measure of both how emotions influence your decision making and how one can interpret another person's emotions.
Moral intelligence is a measure of how virtue influences your decision making through the assesment of one's empathy, conscience, temperance, kindness, respect and tolerance.

Studies have found that all of these "intelligences" exist, though only a pseud believes that any one of these is more important than another (though it could be argued that EQ is only as important as the others in regard to understanding other people's emotions.)

I personally believe, though EQ does exist, people mistakenly use it to rationalize illogical and immoral action due to emotional impulses.

peterson doesn't believe in it? well if the flavour of the month e-celeb doesn't believe in it then it's settled

Emotional Intelligence as a measure exists, but it's no "counterpart" to Cognitive Intelligente, as many people wrongly believe.

It's just not being autistic, essentially

I think that emotional intelligence is nonsense. But there does seem to be variation between humans and their ability to 'mindread others'.
Look into research on "theory of mind". People with autism, bipolar disorder and schizophrenia show defects while those with borderline personality disorder show increased mindreading.

Some guy came to my school promoting a book about EQ. I just laughed him off as some touchy feely dweeb who saw too much complexity in human relations. In my head it was just "be not a dick and you'll be fine." I was just a cynical ass-hole teenager though.

Now that I'm older and I've been in more serious and involved relationships with both friends and lovers, I realize that EQ is absolutely a thing. It's something I'm terribly lacking in and I didn't realize until I got to know an actual healthy person on a deep level. She told me I was a monster who needed to change if I wanted everyone to stick around. It was the nicest thing anyone has ever done for me. EQ isn't being nice and lovely, its not all touchy feely. It's like some heartstring judo, man. I still call her so she can remind me that I'm an asshole.

There are good people and there are monsters. EQ isn't what separates them, it's what lets you see who's which. It's cool and definitely a thing.