I have decided to step up my game in fixing my shit

I have decided to step up my game in fixing my shit.

I have put down 4 main points that I will be focusing on.
1) Knowing things - reading important shit to make me more solid, news, literature, so I know what's going on in the world and around me
2) Excercise
3) Dos and don'ts - for example, DO focus on having a better posture
4) Shaping my personality - becoming more decisive, confident and pleasant, among other things

Any literature that can help me shape a better plan or fullfill it (falls into the first, third and fourth point)?

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I'd start with BuzzFeed so you could at least learn how to make decent lists. Seriously, that's fucking useless.

Plans never work. Read books and news because you actually want to attain knowledge. Exercise because you actually enjoy making some progress. You can focus on things but only on one at a time, otherwise you will get overwhelmed. Improving yourself takes time and you will certainly realize at one point that it's not as important as you now think it is (but you'll still do it if you enjoy it).

>Shaping my personality - becoming more decisive, confident and pleasant, among other things
This you must forget about. You don't get to radically shape your personality and if you try you will become anxious. The only thing you can work on is your way of thinking.

>Plans never work
Not in my experience
Having a daily/weekly/biweekly routine that you can stick to is something that helps a lot and you don't need to stick to every point every day with 110% effort.

It's almost like Aristotle had it all figured out over 2000 years ago.

0) Stop watching porn.
5) Meditate.

0) should be obvious, 5) will come to you.

Now that you say it, meditation sounds like a good point. I really need to clear my mind. I think I'll google a bit and start practising it.

Mindfulness in plain english - read that instead of random google articles
also starting a million new habits at the same is just asking to fail, start by doing maybe 2-3 new things, add more only after those are like a second nature to you and require no effort to continue

>also starting a million new habits at the same is just asking to fail
>add more only after those are like a second nature to you and require no effort to continue
I know that, user, I already do that. I have failed enough times to know that I need a learning curve, not a learning cliff, with plenty of relaxation and recharging.
The list is less of a "I will definitely do that tomorrow" and more of a pointer in the right direction about things I already do but wish to expand upon. Which is why it's hilarious reading discouraging posts like these because they hold no value for me.

Before you do that, keep in mind that there are many types of meditation and while sammata meditation calms your mind it should only be practiced to support an ongoing vipasana meditation practice, which clears your mind and helps you overcome your false convictions. You'll find a lots of clickbait new-age nonsense on the topic of meditation via google, so I advise you to start with this man:
youtube.com/user/yuttadhammo
Yuttadhammo Bikkhu is a buddhist theravada monk of the Mahasi Sayadaw tradition and you will see from his videos that he is very analytically/scholarly minded about even the most eoteric of topics. He has made many great videos about all aspects of the meditation practice, which in this tradition is the core of buddhism and of a more analytic than esoteric nature.

Thank you for your response, user. I'm going through his things now, starting from the basics.
As for the Mindfulness book, I am going to check out that as well. I'm inbetween books as well so that'll be my next one.

Samefag here, this shit is good. I can't believe I've put off meditation for so long.

this is a great video

Fuck off back to wherever you came from self-improvement fag
Obligatory
-Aurelius
-Epicurus
-Plato, Phaedo

>Mindfulness
Yes. Don't get caught in cultish practices. Just pay attention to yourself, your surroundings , the present moment and your reality. You will feel a lot more grounded.

You can't make list and start things tomorrow. It doesn't work that way and tomorrow doesn't exist. You need to make some disappointingly small positive changes right now. Even if you are miles away from where you want to be, 180 or 90 degrees turn never work. Just take one baby step at a time, but do it now, and do it daily. These things build on each other. You might just get a degree closer to where you want to be per week, if that, but you'll get there eventually. You haven't gotten where you are in a day, and you won't get out of it in a day either. Don't make the "one last day and I'll start tomorrow" mistake. There is no tomorrow. Your life is already in progress and there is no pause button. So just make sure you take very small positive steps now, and make them build on each other. As long as you go slow and steady and don't get greedy, you'll get there eventually.

>I didn't read the thread: The post

Just a single proverb for you to have in mind - you can copy and paste at your bed-side, or next to your computer:

>don't be a three day monk

The Naive Life by Gabe Gullible

Why you gotta be like that user?

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How are you going about this? What's step one?

As for books, I'm going to make suggestions for your second point because I'm an asshole.
>Rippetoe's Starting Strength
>Sheaffer's Greyskull Linear Progression
>Enamait's Never Gymless
>Bodyweight Training/You Are Your Own Gym app
>Couch to 5K app
>Fitocracy app
>Dreyer's ChiRunning book (meme title but good)

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Step 1 is already way behind me, now we're tacking on more good shit.

As someone who's tried to fix his own shit recently, nothing will ever give you happiness. And it's going to get even worse if you were happy in the past.

I tried with knowledge. Not just reading fiction (which I still do in the evening), but mainly studying up things I need for my work. It didn't work. I might be a bit more expert, maybe I know something more, but that's it. Some little work related achievement won't do anything in the long run.

Tried running and eating better. Done that, lost a few pounds and shaped my body a bit. Still feel the same.

Tried discipline. 3 months of monk lifestyle didn't do anything except being more tired in the evening. Nowadays I still wake up early in the morning, that's the only lasting effect I could witness.

Tried boosting my self esteem and my social skills. Yeah, I might get some compliments about the way I deal with people, but in the end it ends there.

I've realized there is no way to fix me at this point in time. I'll keep going in circles, always trying to improve myself in some way and achieve nothing of worth. I had a decent life some time ago, I was happy, really happy. Nothing has managed to give me my life back.

I'm not sure what you could read to give yourself some motivation. I'd suggest you just stick to whatever fiction you find interesting.

This is not true. Feeling better is possible. Just don't be too fragmented and systematic about it, go full magic semen with pic related.

>says the happy man
No, wait, I'm the happy man! Don't reject one path in favour of the other, integrate them! Left-hand path doesn't mean going for the easy pleasures and indulging mindlessly, it means being mindful and systematic about them. Awakening the magical/analogue element in oneself that the ascetic/reasonable path alone cannot.

I'm incredibly open-minded with my esoteric considerations, but I'm not touching anything that overtly prides itself as being Left Hand.

My loss, I guess.

Sounds like your own problem. For me, self-improvement brings hapiness.

>fitocracy
Kys yourself my man