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That's great man :^)

Go back to /r9k/, /adv/, /lgbt/, or /b/.

I really just want things to work out with this girl but im too retarded to figure out how to move it forward. I just want someone to cuddle with

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stop thinking about your ex and stop talking to her. contact just makes shit harder. cut her out of your life. You obviously didnt mean much if it only took her 2 weeks. Fuck my ex bitched me out saying im trash and didnt care meanwhile shes fucked 3 guys since we split in september. Just lose the ex and youll feel better

Im am really self concious because Im a ugly fuck been lifting though that's been keeping me afloat

There is this girl that likes me but I feel terrible because I don't like her back and made the mistake of saying yes to going on a date (I thought to myself why not I haven't been out with a girl a while I should give this a chance) and I told her later on that I didn't have interest in her and she left me alone for a while but recently we saw each other and she still has a lot of feelings for me. What do I do guys?

let her down easy my dude or lie to yourself out of guilt of making her feel bad and date her

Turned 23 pretty recently. Finally moved out of parents house but only to friends couch, so did I really improve? No. Trying to meet girls but I'm 6'3" and 170lbs so no one wants to be with a chubby dickheadwho lives on a couch. Interests are sort of niche/ hard to meet girls who are into similar music, movies, activities, etc. Best dressed out of my friend group but still only 6/10. Not a good set up for a socially awkward introvert who's seeking other introverts to talk to. Just want a girl who's cold on the outside but sweet when needed.

I lost my fav toque, right before winter, I have no clue where I put it when it warmed up

I can't find it anywhere :(

Coffee shops my friend

nothing serious like what other people are dealing with in this thread but i've just been feeling a total lack of individuality recently. I'm more unique than the average person i suppose but when it comes down to it i don't really have a particular "style" when it comes to life or fashion. I dress nice and have good aesthetic taste and my hobbies and personality are more developed than most people but there isn't anything that really defines me and it makes me feel like I'm barely a step above the people who shop at Gap and watch netflix in their spare time

anyone have some advice on developing personal style?

You could always try drugs to spice things up

>really connect with a beautiful girl
>she's taken

Pro tip: date her anyway you are probably more interesting than her current partner

solid advice

psychedelic stuff will definitely help with giving a unique style but might be a bit drastic

>how to destroy her boyfriends life 101

>no one wants to be with a chubby dickheadwho lives on a couch
No one wants to be with a dickhead who makes excuses and looks down on himself. Some of the nastiest fuckwits Iknow pull sexy girls because they dont let the bullshit they tell themselves get in the way

Grades for this semester are good, but not as good as I would have liked.

I've been seeing this girl for a few weeks, and I like her a lot - but I can't say I really /feel/ anything for her.

I can't tell if I've just gotten older and grown out of the whole infatuation thing, and the feelings will come with time, or if I'm really just not into her.

Psychedelics could work but be careful. They helped me when I was struggling with similar issues but they can certainly be harmful if not used correctly.

How did I not think of this, holy shit.
Wouldn't I kind of come across as scummy?

That's up to your personality user
don't try to be cool, just be cool...ya know?

How do you know your ex fucked three dudes since you guys broke up if you supposedly don't talk to her and cut her out of your life? Sounds like speculation, desu.

I just want to spend the rest of my life, 60 years or w/e in my bed.

if i lay down in front of a psych ward and dont get back up can this happen?

i have a crush on my best friends sister

Im short but I guess there isn't much I can do about that...

Dude, you're not chubby if you're 6'3 and 170 lbs, relax. Also are you in uni or what? Cause if you are I'm sure you can meet chicks there

I smoked more than usual, knowing that I get really anxious when high, so I'm a little bit scared now.

>inb4 DUDE WEED LMAO

I know this feel so well. I can literally not make physical contact with girls. It might just be some repressed childhood memory, but I feel so uncomfortable touching them, as if I'm a creep or something.

I am awkward and everytime I ask an (attractive) girl to hang out I get ignored or rejected. The older I get (still young) the more insecure I become, especially with my height/weight/voice (I look very young and have noticeable rhotacism).

The other day I was hanging out with a friend (who I sorta like) but she abandoned me to hang out with another guy when he called her. She tried to lie to me about it but I knew and kinda made things awkward. I felt pretty bad afterwards and went out to the movies by myself to make me feel better (didn't work).

My lack of a romantic life has been slowly making me feel more insecure and clingy to people in general.

I miss my highschool days when I was ignorant but happy

In all honesty girls are pretty fucken overrated

If you want to be happy then go fuckin' be happy mate, no girl will come along and suddenly make you so. Go out and get some hobbies, get some friends, get an education, get a job. Stop trying so hard to get the girl.

I know you won't believe me, but work on improving yourself and in no time girls will be falling into your lap.

Cheer up user.

I'm gonna give you a hint:
girls want to be touched just as much as you do. It'll only be creepy / weird if you have literally no rapport with this girl before doing so.

That discomfort is just you being inexperienced. After a while you'll get over it, you just gotta get out there and push yourself through it first.

well fuck ya got me. She would text me and id message back. But I don't regret leaving this one so talking isn't killing me. I have another ex that i have that problem with. Don't talk to her but i still creep her instagram.

Work sucks because of lazy coworkers and shitty customers. College sucks because it's overwhelming and motivation is out the window. Home sucks because still living with parents who are always at each others throats with attention deprived siblings who constantly fight over petty shit. My depression has ran so deep, I've stopped talking to all of my friends. They try to contact me but it's been so long I feel like we can't connect like we used to.

Every moment throughout the day is stress and venting doesn't help because "I'm sorry to hear that" doesnt fix shit. I really want to quit smoking pot and cigarettes but it's the only thing keeping me from going 100+ mph into a fucking wall. Im thinking about selling everything I own and moving but I can't muster up the willpower because I feel exhausted and hopeless. Sure there are people who've got it worse but that's irrelevant. Don't mind me I'm just blogging.

I've no problem with touching or talking to her I just wish it get a little more serious. Im lacking physical attention and have a huge crush on her so this whole thing is just slowly eating away at me. I don't even want anything sexual I just need intimacy and i want it from her

got a 30 act, have only one chance to get 33+, but how guys, how

So you still talk to her and she tells you about the dudes she's fucked?

Study more.

honestly, man, i have no basis to talk about this, but i know one thing for sure, and that's you can't just 'stop' thinking about this ex. I would suggest picking up a new hobby, one where you don't need that much social interaction, but it is not addictive. Some good examples include hiking, sewing, reading, etc. These all make you a better person, hiking improving physical strength, sewing improving your attention to detail, and reading making you objectively smarter. A bad example of a good hobby to pick up is MMORPG's. it'll just make you more antisocial, addicted, and unhealthy.

A good way that i found helps me have better social interaction, is testing it out on other people. Now, you might be thinking, "oh, but i actually want to impress them, they might stay with me for the rest of my life, so i cant waste my testing on these people". That's wrong. People, sadly, come and go, but you'll always be the same person, until you die. Better take this time to start getting comfortable with yourself, and think about if you're going to see the potential test subject in 5 years. if not. go ahead and just try another topic to talk about. To one person act aloof, not caring about much. To another. act serious. Another, joke around a little. See what works for you. Once you get comfortable, and see what people respond to best, you can use that to your advantage.

However, if you do decide to move for a fresh start, come to canada! ive lived in canada all my life and it's generally a very accepting and fair country, with a great variety of benefits.

Good luck user. :)

>Turned 18 a few months ago
>Was homeschooled and never went outside since I was 11 years old
>Literally no friends, not even those 1 or 2 "close" friends that people who claim they have no friends have. I have nobody
>Almost out of my teen years
>I never lived the glory days
>Feel like it's over and my life from now on will lack youth and fun

Is it over for me

shes bitter about the break up. she slips it into the conversation best she can.

this, studied my way to a 34 from a 27

literally full practice test every other day, reviewing every mistake, for month and a half as well as reading up on proper grammar rules. Got me from planning on decent state uni to going to prestigious school

how'd you improve science and reading?

Kinda sounds like you miss her and she misses you

The science part
It's the last part in the test and it's the section with the least amount of questions so thus each is worth more points so it's pretty easy to get a super high score and you will be able to raise composite overall. The science section is literally how well can you read the graph and understand the info presented.

>be 26
>still living at home
>started a new decent mechanical technician job
>good stepping stone, but dont know wtf i want to do anymore
>feel restless at home trying to find shit to do,
>end up just sitting watching youtube and some other useless shit all day until bedtime to grind another day at work.

Nah, my life didn't really begin until I was 18 because my parents had me on a leash until then and I never knew how to make friends. My early 20s were the best time of my life. I've never had as much sex with as many girls as I did during that period, and I was an awkward fuck with no social skills. I was attractive and effay, so they threw themselves at me without me having to make any kind of an effort.

>quite handsome but a manlet, slowly coming to terms with it, isnt that debilitating most of the time though, when i used to browse Veeky Forums a few years back it made me feel awful
>uni break, a few months of literally nothing and i have a few things planned but im still not sure what to do
>life is pretty good, skincare generals are really helping and ive discovered alot of new cool brands

>Be adopted
>Have attachment disorder
>Feel like nobody genuinely cares whether I live or die
>Desperately want to fall in love but never felt love towards anybody
>Turn down 4 potential partners in high school because I feel nothing towards them
>Float through life with nearly no happiness, no sadness, no anything
>Develop numbing depression that only dulls my happiness and sharpens my sadness

>Be 19
>Meet girl unlike anyone else
>She takes my virginity, says she loves me within 3 weeks
>For the first time in my entire life I feel powerful happiness
>I want to live my life, explore, have fun, get good grades, succeed
>She constantly compares me to her exes which makes me depressed
>She constantly tells me she loves me which makes me euphoric
>She brings out the best in me
>I try new things, feel a creative drive musically for the first time in my life

>She breaks up with me out of nowhere
>"I just don't love you anymore"
>Realize I had known her for one month
>Realize I'm pathetic, why do I 'love' this girl
>Realize I was just a stepping stone for her to get over her ex boyfriend
>She fucks him and tells him I was depressed and weak
>Attempt suicide for the first time in 2 years
>She finds out and calls me pathetic
>Ostracized by half of my friend group

>"M-maybe I just need to fuck someone else"
>Use tinder for hookups
>Every single time I feel a relentless wave of sadness afterwards
>Write terrible music about my depression and loss of control
>Feel no connections with anyone still
>Pretend to be happy around friends, cry myself to sleep every night

She's the closest thing to love I've ever had. I barely knew her and I can't get over this. This happened months ago.
I know this sounds pathetic and bizarre, and nobody seems to understand, which is fair. It's stupid. But if it's so stupid why can't I just continue with my life?

reading was mostly practice, learning how to spot the clues they leave in the text and how to be more objective in my answers

science i was already at a 33, but doing a lot of the problems and getting fast at process of elimination got me up to a 35

tbqh the difference between a 32 and a 36 is practicing a lot

I could have probably gotten a sub 30 and have still got accepted to cornell just because I'm not white lmao

tfw asian

Through the beauty of Tinder, my reclusive self is sleeping with 2 girls on a weekly basis and a third from time to time. All of which are as or more attractive than my ex. It's so unfulfilling and I'm entirely cognizant that it's a pathetic attempt to try and replace what I had. I keep engaging in these hollow base relationships desperately hoping that I'll start feeling something, but I know deep don't that I wont. I'm feeling this self-loathing beginning to rear it's ugly head up inside of me. Like a decapitated Hydra, I know it's going to come back even stronger this time, I'm beginning to spiral back into depression. I'm scared and I miss her. I miss her every single day.

would depend on the major i suppose, i don't think even sjw cornell would accept a sub 30 math score into engineering

>attaching your sense of self worth to your ability to form relationships
lol

fuck i hope i don't. I know she does.

>change taste and aesthetics AFTER buying the wrong stuffs

anyone shares this feels ?

>patrician dressing taste but very plebeian music taste

dammit how do i cop taste ?

>changes taste and aesthetic this quickly
How is this even possible?

2 girls want to take my virginity but also want to start serious relationships with me. I'm so scared of fucking things up that I've pushed away every girl that I've been interested in for the past 3 years. I'm also not really feeling super connected/ infatuated with either of them but one said that if we had sex it would help me feel more comfortable about a relationship. Any advice on what to do? I feel like I'm walking in a minefield

Listen to things you don't like until you like them.

You can just pretend to like patrician music and listen to plebian music when you're alone. Lying isn't hard.

Of course, most people would say that this is fucking stupid and pointless, but do whatever you want.

It's really hard to go through this things, I totally get you. As the other replier said, retrospective helps lots. I'm sure you'll do fine.

Mental breakdowns are though as shit. Try facing the fact that your ex is no longer interested in you, it sounds really harsh and it is not easy, but time heals. Focus on school, try learning more about your craft and you'll be cool as fuck. I'm also through that and it's really hard to stay motivated. If you want to, you can always use the help of a psychologist, I'm starting to and it feels great. You'll do fine.

Moving up to the real world is scary, I wouldn't recommend it for your motivation to be the fact that no work means no food, just start working without thinking about it.

Scares me that people solve this kinds of things with drugs. Try yourself out, go shopping and pick something up, if you really want to step up your 'style', figure something out, it's not hard, you can always find inspo around here.

There's always friends. A year ago I met this gorgeous girl in a party, she was a year younger and I was a senior in highschool (It's a tradition in my highschool for the sophomores to make a party for the seniors when they're about to leave) I was drunk and I wouldn't have talked to her ever. She looked basic as fuck but as I was drunk I found it still interesting bc she was 'into fashion'. Showed her my books and we had a connection. Now it's fucked because she's so in love with her boyfriend she won't talk to other guys.

Why is that bad?

Try a psychologist. Your problems are also important. Try quitting cold turkey. I tried and felt so anxious I had to start working on my stuff, then I felt good.

I really cannot advice through this. Is there any activity you would be interested like team sports or anything like it? Are you going to college? Everyone has to make new friends there. 'Glory days' come whenever you want.

no i won't do that. i want to just be naturally patrician. i have these images in my head about the ideal person i should become. it's hard to make it real naturally. like if i lied, yeah sure i can fool them into thinking i was cool but then i wouldn't feel good about myself. you know, liking patrician stuffs would make me feel good about myself

i swear how can you even be this fucking dense just choose one and fuck her if you are capable of getting 2 girls to want to take your virginity you will be capable of getting more girls no matter how badly you mess up these relationships

yo definitely take her advice lol

I'm going through something like that. Stop thinking and get up.

Height is not important unless you want to model or some sort of shit like that. You're doing fine it seems.

Not pathetic at all. You're human. I really hope you get through this. Loving someone is a really complex thing and time doesn't have anything to do with it. People can be really cruel and use others, that doesn't have to stop you from being good, time heals. Realizing things from a third point of view is hard, but it works. Try crying and letting all your feelings out, this process is hard but I think you'll eventually find happiness. Vain satisfactions are just not enough for anyone, that's why they are a cycle.

Let yourself miss her for some time. Embrace your feelings, don't just cover them up.

I promise I'm not completely autistic I'm just really insecure and have like -5 self confidence but I seem to fake it well

Why do you still talk to her?

I dont really. She texts me and I humour her. It doesn't tend to last longer than 5 minutes

If you have to make yourself do or like something, then it's not natural. You don't naturally like it, so you may as well give up if that's your ideal.

As if Veeky Forums was still about fashion. I prefer this over 'best anime' 'waifu' or posts that belong in general threads

While starting to dress well improved my confidence in my looks, I now realize that my personality fucking sucks. I'm a bland, cynical piece of shit and fixing it isn't as easy as throwing on skinny jeans and a white tee.

idc if nobody replies or reads but itll help to talk about it maybe idk

i think i should go to a psycologist but i dont have money for it, i think meds would help me a lot i find myself forcing myself out of good things.. for example, not texting friends, not wanting to do things i like even though i do want to but i always have this feeling that i have to deprive myself of good things like some auto destroy faggot shit. I cant talk to friends/family about my feelings because i always feel so awkward and cringey being honest and i feel so stupid saying shit like i want to kill myself and i hate my current daily routines. I'm bored to death with my life and at the same time i feel like i need to do some shit crazy like bleach my hair or get a tattoo or go out to clubs by myself without caring if i look retarded but i cant force myself to, i want to do so much last year was 27/4 being home and i hate it, im so tired of being alone and having no friends and not having any fucking experiences im only 19 once and i have this burning sensation like my life is passing me by so quickly and my mind is always racing and im always thinking of this guy who killed himself and i really think it was my fault ill never know and im worried im not making enough money to go to college, im worried im not living my life i want to be happy so bad but i cant i want to do more and have fun and fucking enjoy it but i cant and i miss my family, i miss my home i miss my friends I HAD FRIENDS I HAD A LIFE I HAD GOOD SHIT FOR ME I HAD SOMEONE WHO LIKED ME AND NOW ITS GONE i dont like living here but its the best option DESU
also,
i feel like im wasting my time dating them and speaking to them its almost been a year and its gonna end someday i can feel it, i can feel it not working and myself being so bitter and stupid for no reason i want to be normal and laugh at reddit jokes and i want to die

>all that shit u posted

i feel exactly 200% user, my life is so dull and boring and i want to do exciting stuff instead of thinking of suicide

>i feel like i'm wasting my time dating them

nvm i lost ya there pal

not even really dating them but it was on my mind atm of writing that

if u feel all tht other stuff tho idk, i hope u find a way to fix it let me know if u do

thanks user best of luck to u too

Dude the best advice I can give you is to hit up /r/seduction. Read some of the posts there and try to get motivation to improve yourself.

here. Thank you. Everyone just tells me to get over it, as if there was some secret I'm not getting. I want nothing more than to be happy, or even numb like I was before. But she gave me a taste of life and tore it away. It's been 6 months and she still haunts my thoughts and dreams. I don't know what to do at this point.

The amount of mood swings and mindset changes I go through every day is starting to worry me, I'm pretty sure I have BPD but I don't want to go to a doctor about it because I don't want meds that will make me feel like a zombie. I'm really lonely but I can barely keep up with myself, how am I supposed to emotionally keep up with somebody else on top of that? I'm coming to the realization that I have no real connection with anybody because I have been so closed off all my life, now I'm scrambling to try and be more open with people but it's so fucking hard. All of this is hitting me very suddenly because I am finally taking a good hard look at my life and realizing how bad it is so I can try to change and I'm feeling really overwhelmed with how much work I have to do, I'm trying to trade short-term happiness for long-term and I know I'll get there eventually but it's hard when I feel so bad all the time.

You're not alone user, but I have no fucking clue how to fix either of our situations. I just try to have as much fun as possible while not acting like a complete autist toward the few remaining people I love

Don't stress out. I don't really think it's that imperative to seek out for meds. It's really hard to move somewhere new, but you'll eventually find yourself. You can do it. Don't stress

I was homeschooled until 9th grade. I'm a senior in high school now. It's hard to transition from a secluded environment to a social one.

I was socially normal after 3 months of high school. I transitioned to a "regular person" pretty quickly.

The thing about homeschooling is, you don't realize how shallow most people are.

I often found myself using drugs and alchohol in order to fit in with a certain group, even though I never really enjoyed getting fucked up.

I ended up finding a few guys who browse mu and fa, just like me. We're best friends now, but it took a while.

Girls would come and go, each one similar to the previous one. I guess I attract a certain type.

High school has been underwhelming. I don't think I was ever a real teenager. But when I see the teens around me, I don't know if I really care.

I'm excited for college. It sounds like a more mature environment where I can actually meet good people similar to me.

Anyway, best of luck fellow homeschooler. I'm happy to say that you didn't miss much.

Don't thank me, it's the truth. It happens often and people are so strange, grief takes time and accepting things they are and acting over them requires a lot of courage, you can find it. I believe in you.

same, i try to act normal but sometimes it turns so autistic like people telling me to fuck off thank u user ill do my best

It's funny to think that so many other people have been in the same situations I have.

I hate when people are like "bro, just be happy, you don't need a girl"

I have everything I could ever want. But I would trade all that to have someone that feels the same way I do about them.

I just want someone that enjoys my company.

FeelsReallyBadMan

Thank you for the honesty user, I hope you're right. I just hope it happens sooner rather than later.

Every time I start to feel better, something hits me. Like a few nights ago I saw a picture of her with her new boyfriend. Better looking, more fit, more perfect than me. She was holding him like he was the love of her life. I never made her that happy.

I'm sure you did. I think we're really harsh with ourselves, we think the worst and mostly exaggerate others' attributes. I know how that feels and that's why I'm saying it, It's been 4 years since I broke up with this girl and everytime I get drunk It comes up. I had longer relationships and better looking, nicer girlfriends, but there's this thing she had. I don't really know, but I think it's finally coming to an end, even though it's been 4 years I can admit it was sad for like one, the others did get better.

you don't need to have confidence in your self, other people clearly think highly enough of you that they are literally willing to go out of there way to try and convince you to have sex with them, just have confidence in them and go with the flow

I'm skinny fat with love handles, man. I need to find the motivation to start running so I can try to trim or at least become lean. Nah not in college, didn't do well in high school, not much money, no direction really.

That's solid advice, man thanks. I suppose going in a decent outfit to read a book or the newspaper wouldn't be bad

>I'm excited for college. It sounds like a more mature environment where I can actually meet good people similar to me.

this will depend on the classes you take tbqhf

low-level humanities are literally highschool 2.0 and people are even more pretentious, hardcore STEM classes though have people who actually have the maturity to slave away at that kind of coursework

Take an ethics course for the keks it's really fun to destroy people's simpleminded view of the world