How do i let people know im gay without being overly flamboyant and/or obnoxuous?

how do i let people know im gay without being overly flamboyant and/or obnoxuous?

Scarf and skinny jeans

bleached hair

slight gay inflection. it's pretty subtle but you'll still set off every gaydar in the room.

very very manicured facial hair

faggy earings is the easiest though.

"Ask me if I'm gay"

i think this might be a bit too much

this is definitely too much lol

scarf is a good shout. unfortunately i am a 190lbs powerlifter and my legs dont fit in jeans, but i really should wear my scarf more.

how do i learn this?

It doesn't matter unless asked. Jesus, dont let your sexual orientation define you my man.

>my legs dont fit in jeans,
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Wear everything 1-2 sizes too small.
Wear bright colors and stripes and zig-zags - every day is ugly sweater party day.
Wear a scarf.
Try to dress as tame as possible, imagine you're teaching elementary school every day.
Wear jeans with a >7" hem so you don't look too edgy, you're just a sweet little boy trying to fit in.

Suburban gay people are the fucking worst. Their entire being is defined by their sexuality yet they pretend to be 'just like everyone else'. Instead of using their abnormal situation to be super edgy and defy social norms like the cool gay people - they pretend to be suburban dads but with a gay twist.

Like hayyy guys I might show up to your casserole party with my partner, yeah we're only 23, but we dress like adults, pretend to be adults, and hang out with people who have safe-TV-generated opinions and personalities.

>how do i let people know im gay without being overly flamboyant and/or obnoxuous?
You fucking kill yourself because you let your sexuality define who you are, yet try to be something you're not.

Wear a too-small sweater with some zig-zags on it, a terrible pair of H&M slightly-faded jeans with a just-long-enough inseam and a huge hem, and a pair of vans with a thick sole. Don't forget a pair of glasses and a scarf to seem less threatening.

when your dating pool is 3% of the population, it actually is kind of important you are visibly gay. otherwise nobody will ever ask you out.

that kinda makes sense
so thats why gay people are so annoying and girly like they have to stand out
must stuck being gay desu nothing against them but i hate obnoxious faggots

>straight person wants to dress to be attractive
>totally fine

>gay person wants to dress to be attractive
>"omg stop letting your sexuality define you you fucking faggot, stop being so in-my-face"

Getting real tired of this meme lads.

Electroshock therapy

>Getting real tired of this meme lads.
>meme

>how do i let people know im gay without being overly flamboyant and/or obnoxuous?
>HOW DO I LET PEOPLE KNOW IM GAY

you could just be yourself and develop your own style. but no - there has to be a twist - as if there is something more important than being yourself....oh right it's the fact that you're GAY that's the most important.

hang on while i copy/paste my entire life from a sitcom

I'm totally just being myself though, the fact that I'm gay has nothing to do with my hollywood generated personality and opinions

btw im really non-threatening so I'll do my best to be as normal as possible to fit in because I don't want to seem weird even though I really am xD

This is why most people don't like gays. Very few of them are actually being themselves.

Intentionally be caught up staring at men's bulge

do you want some guac for the chip on your shoulder

Keep a dildo in ur pocket and pretend to accidentally drop it in front of people

I'm going to spread the gay by sneezing on you. You better watch out, future homo.

why do you care about about other people knowing you are gay?

WHOOPS I DROPPED MY MAGNUM DILDO FOR MY MONSTER BUTT

its because i want a bf.

obviously the absolute best way to find a partner is to meet them organically, at a party or at a class or something. but the special problem with being gay is that spontaneously asking someone out is nigh-impossible. When 97% of the population is fundamentally incompatible with you, the chances of failure (and potentially angering someone) are so high that to ask out guys in public you think are hot would be incredibly stupid. Unless of course you can somehow tell or suspect that hes gay by what he wears or how he acts.

Without this visibility, you could be the hottest guy in the world and still never get anyone asking you out.

So if I want to meet gay guys organically and without the crappy crutch that is dating apps, I need to somehow hint at my sexuality through the way I act and present myself.

Does that make sense?

ill b ur bf u fucking faggot >:(

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i feel like we're getting a bit offtopic here.

can we get back to the fashion advice pls?

>190lbs powerlifter
hey daddy! hit me up ;)

>obviously the absolute best way to find a partner is to meet them organically, at a party or at a class or something

Yeah, obviously.

So why not just tell people you're gay?

It's either that or gay dating which is obviously gonna land you sexual partners but not relationship quality people.

You can't take short-cuts if you want something genuine just saying. You have to be genuine yourself first.

Pretending to be something or someone you're not is the best way to only attract people doing the same thing.

whatever you do, don't get earrings please

you also have to ask yourself: how much does meeting a boyfriend "organically" mean to you. by acting "gay" you are going to put off a LOT of people and lose chances on normal friendships

That completely makes sense. I don't know why this thread is so full of dense motherfuckers sperging out writing long posts in all caps

>it makes sense to pretend to be someone you're not in order to attract a partner for a relationship

Yeah makes complete sense

Any time you find yourself writing more than a few lines just know you're going to sound like a sperg.

great point, anything else you'd like to add?

Letting someone know your gay doesn't always come up in conversation. Anyway, it's not a shortcut to want to change your appearance in a small way to let people know your sexuality. And how is slightly changing your appreance "pretending to be something youre not"? On the flip side, most people are assumed to be straight from their apprearence and because this is the norm, that's not a shortcut.

>Hangs out in fashion board
>Disgusted by gays

>Anyway, it's not a shortcut to want to change your appearance in a small way to let people know your sexuality

Yes it is. And it's retarded and won't work, also.

I already defined the stereotypical hollywood suburban gay for you, but you don't want that.

I dress edgy as fuck. I do whatever I want. I wear crazy things.

Nobody thinks I'm gay, they just think I'm eccentric.

Did you know that gays used to wear color-coded bandannas in order to secretly let other gays know their fetishes and sexuality? They also used to wear safety pins as another form of code. There's literally tons of gay clothing code out there.

Is that what you want?

>Yes it is. And it's retarded and won't work, also.
It's not retarded to want your apprearence to reflect something about yourself. And it works all the time.

>I already defined the stereotypical hollywood suburban gay for you, but you don't want that.
This makes no sense. He just wants to let people know that he's gay, not everyone who does that fits into some ridiculous stereotype that you outlined

>I dress edgy as fuck. I do whatever I want. I wear crazy things.
Nobody thinks I'm gay, they just think I'm eccentric.
Good for you. Get this: people aren't wrong for acting differently than you.

>Did you know that gays used to wear color-coded bandannas in order to secretly let other gays know their fetishes and sexuality? They also used to wear safety pins as another form of code. There's literally tons of gay clothing code out there.
Don't see anything wrong with that.

This

Straight guys: How should I dress and act to attract girls?!

Straight guys, also: Ugh why do you want to have your life revolve around your sexuality? Try getting a personality.

make sure to pick it up without bending the legs

Just keep living your life, eventually people will notice

Show up at the new year party with a "male date".

whisper it in their ear

Kek this.
Get a grindr account, aside from that just be you. Typically you'll show a few mannerisms that people catch. Easiest one, since you're here, is dressing well. Doesn't have to be over the top or format, just good

Literally just dress well. Breeders uniformly look awful

Holy fuck you call them breeders too.

you must not know very many gay people

Just check SFW gay web sites like outsports.com in front of a gossipy bitch, and she will tell everyone that you're gay for you.

>how do i let people know im gay

>oh right it's the fact that you're GAY that's the most important.

he never mentioned anything about defining himself through his homosexuality, its just hard to find a partner if nobody knows that your gay

>yeah i have no problem having casual sex. thats easy.
>getting a bf/sex with an emotional collection is much more difficult though
Do you really not see the problem here?

grindr isn't effay

do you even lisp?
I was born with it, never knew it's 'gay', kek. but then I realised I'm gay, and also that lisps are gay

what about a subtle rainbow bracelet? You acn buy a discreet one to wear at parties. If someone else is gay, they will make a point to look for it. Don't wear any other accessories. This will make the queer bracelet stand out.

Rainbow bracelets aren't effay

wear homo-associated brands ???

you'll just end up looking chinese

This is defonitely more a wuestion for

A lot of people here wear gay looking shit regardless if they are straight or not, and I'm sure you'd rather look gay than like a Veeky Forumsg.

do this no sock dress shoe thing with the highwaters. people trying to look fashionable look pretty gay doing this. so if you wanna look gay its perfect

what are homoassociated brands?

No, ttt.those aren't gay straight men can wear them too!!
Thats dumb
This just say that you're gay when people bring it up to you, just treat it like it is normal because since "it's 2016 guys" it basically is normal, and should be a casual thing.

>when people bring it up to you
this never happens

I know my friend Steve is gay, we never really bring it up, and it's fine, I think most people know he's gay.

Homosexuals have an incredibly high rate of other mental illnesses such as depression. If you kill yourself a lot of people might start suspecting you were gay.

Worth a shot anyway.

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anything streetwear related

It's a meme you dip

>meeting guys organically
>wants to advertise the fact he's gay

How about you do what other gays do.

>make eye contact
>smile, nod
>wait for him to smile back
>"Hi, Im user"
>"Hi user, I'm Homo"
>comment on something common, the weather, the store, what he's wearing, his eyes/hair
>in like flynn

Straight guys, or guys not interested won't be receptive or further the conversation.

>grindr isnt Veeky Forums
Growlr. Get yourself a muscle bear.

My mans a big ol' flannel wearing muscle bear. Hnnnnng

>All these people shitting on OP

I'm sorry, OP ;_;

Right ear-ring.........
Did you sit under a rock for the last 35 years

right earring
easy

you have sex with men

lucky u

dress like this

Stop hating yourself just because your uptight Veeky Forums buddies dissect everything gay people supposedly do.

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wear neon colored thong bodysuit over tights while running

i think the most attractive gay dudes are the ones that act like regular people that happen to be gay

>tfw dyed my hair purple but i'm not gay
>tfw guys approach me while clubbing
at least girls ask if they can touch and shit and i can get a good start from that usually

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> no one has answered "get Veeky Forums"
You're missing out on a lot of brotein. Once you combine Veeky Forums and Veeky Forums, it turns into /lgbt/ but better

Rainbow socks.
Wear it high.

why do your clothes have to shout "HOMO" for?

so he can blow strangers in public toilets

You just answered your own question..
If people ask, tell them you're gay. Thats it. If theres any other way you want people to know you're gay, thats being flamboyant or obnoxious to some extent.

Parting your hair on the right
Wearing an ascot when you're not at Ascot
Wearing brown suede shoes
Voting Labour
Being a double agent for Soviet Union
Expressing admiration for modern art
Drinking anything but gin, scotch, and beer
Buying your own food at the grocers like some kind of nancy

You know, the usual

I'm sorry people are being such dicks. Stay strong.
Also, maybe just sneak in a rainbow here or there. Like, if it matches your style, a rainbow bracelet or keychain or something.

All wrong

kek

Not hunting, shooting, or even fishing
Wearing brown in town
Being too effeminate to smoke
Being of the wrong sort, those shifty eyed woppy fellows
Not supporting the monarchy
Never having played rugby
Pronouncing French words like a Frenchman
Being too good for roast beef, roast potatoes, and peas boiled for six hours
Not knowing which way to pass the port

Infallible signs of being a bit suss, not a sound man

>not doing what I like
>doing what I don't like

Do this when reacting strongly to something.