How do I stop feeling depressed about other people's success?
I am in my 25th year of my life and have accomplished absolutely nothing.
It is too late in this lifetime to kick start a career in finance and make millions.
It is too late in this lifetime to start scientific research and contribute anything meaningful.
It is too late to start training and become an elite sports athlete.
It is too late to hope to become fluent in multiple languages.
Whatever I try to achieve will be nothing but a shadow compared to someone starting towards the same goal 20 years ago.
I don't mean to spread crab mentality with this thread, but if something as simple as a chess app can throw me into a depression pit - I need some advice from the success-board. How can I possibly focus on starting a business or getting education or lifting in the gym when I know that the upper bound is mediocrity at best. How am I possibly meant to be social/positive and "network" to reach success when I shoot myself. How do I stop falling into a frenzy of envy whenever I interact with someone successful? How do I keep being organised when others will view me as nothing more than a mediocre try hard?
Oh my god quit being such a huge baby OP. Shut up and get to work like the rest of us!
Ryder Green
drink
Jaxson Howard
>I am in my 25th year But are you actually 24 years old? If you are, there is hope for you.
John Murphy
I wish this was a depression board
Jack Perez
Alter your mindset and temper your unrealistic goals, /r9k/.
You need to watch It's a Wonderful Life. And then never post again.
Joseph Myers
You think you're depressed? What if you were like me, tried your best and still amounted to peanuts!
Brandon Diaz
25 is still very young. Also 1000% second the other user saying see a therapist, it's going to be worth the money. You're going to try to find every reason that you shouldn't and why it's a dumb idea first so just work that out of your system quick and then move on and go start googling for one.
25 isn't too late to do any of the things you listed but you've also set your sights high enough that you'll be fucking disappointed no matter what you do. I'm near your age and I make roughly 140k/yr and have about 130k networth. That's nothing astonishing but most people would say it's reasonably successful. However by your time-travelling Olympic athlete savant standards I also haven't accomplished anything. I hope that gives some insight into how fucked your perspective is right now.
Read up on some history, plenty of incredibly successful people have either been total fuckups for a while or just didn't figure out what they wanted to do until later in life.
And lastly you're in the best position you could possibly be in right now because almost nothing is a risk. Start anything, do anything, it doesn't matter. What are you going to lose?
That's my pep talk.
tl;dr - Therapist NOW, have them help you fix your fucked perspective, read books, win the game.
Luke Bailey
>25 >Such drama
Relax. You're still very young. The only limits are the ones you impose on yourself.
t. fucker twice your age
Anthony Reyes
>140k Wtf What do you even do?
Kevin Campbell
Tech, nothing actually interesting.
Dylan Hall
I feel this. I did an apprenticeship and now started uni at 21, yet I don't feel like I accomplished anything. I seem to be one of the smarter people at uni (of course I might be wrong as fuck, but it appears that way to me), but I just don't feel like I have accomplished anything. I have skills in programming, I'm great at learning things. I'm good at producing well-readable text - again, at least in my opinion, especially considering English isn't my first language. Yet I'm not fucking doing anything. I've never coded more than tiny little programs, I've never once designed a circuit above ez as fuck level, I've never won any awards or anything (other than graduating from my apprenticeship with a high grade which got me a special, but useless diploma) etc. What the fuck am I doing with my life.
Ayden Bell
Veeky Forums doesn't want depression generals, we're busy out here hustling
John Sanchez
>mfw in top 5 CS program >mfw all my friends who graduated are making 120-150k starting and they had 3.0s EHEHEHEHEEHEHEHE
Juan Wright
to elaborate more: I have way too many interests, and don't get deep enough into any of them. Also I'm totally not creative, nor have any ideas.
Ayden Campbell
Do you live in germany and know c++?
Cooper Wilson
I know C++, but don't live in germany. I live in a country bordering it though : ^) Why?
Brandon Gonzalez
Specifically what I'm a programmer, mid 30s, UK, I don't get anywhere near that but I know what I need to start gunning at (roughly double what I'm on)
Also where are you? Location seems to make a huge difference in what you can ask
Nathaniel Jones
I've founded an Archviz startup and I want to move from Twinmotion & Lumion to the Unreal Engine to make more customisable presentations in realtime and VR. Since my programming experience is limited to some python app on my phone and UE4 is using C++, I will eventually need someone to help making (VR) apps for viewing projects and doing some programming for some custom things in UE4.
Joseph Morris
ID is probably different.
Yes, I'm 24 - but obviously a pessimist that rounds up.
My University offers counselling - do you think that is worth a shot? I don't want any dark stain on my record as I can almost guarantee they some sort of points system to gauge risks of self harm and other bullshit I'd realistically never do.
From my anecdote: UK graduate schemes are like £23k, some low end ones even £21k. Some high end PhD level jobs around £40k. Tier 1 finance/CS jobs would be around £55k at most.
So when some user pulls $80k+ on some thread, I really do wonder what the fuck is going on here.,
Also, CTRL+F(r9k) = 5. Not really helpful as I need advice to leave my mindset, not an echo chamber of acceptance or discussions about 'Chads' and 'roasties.
Benjamin Lopez
OP I have these same feels. I'm 24. I feel like I'm smart and knowledgeable enough to see how much better people have done than me. I cringe when I whine on Veeky Forums and someone tells me to feel proud for having graduated. Are you fucking kidding me? Passing university is literally the bare minimum to be considered half literate these days. It's fucking NOTHING.
Brody Moore
Also I know enough to separate actual achievement from people who are simply "on the track".
Starting your own company, doing good academic research, being a good athlete: these are actual achievements. People who become investment bankers or management consultants or go to law school in the USA (3 years!) are on "the track" but they do fuck all intellectually.
Jackson Hughes
>spend a couple of months playing poker and read poker strategy and mindset books >become poker player millionaire
Justin Carter
Why haven't YOU done this?
Kevin Cox
In january it's my 6th year living off of poker.
Jonathan Young
My life was going nowhere, and I got a good job at 28 that turned things around.
Never too late.
The guy who invented ChickFilA Started the first one in his 50's I believe.
Mason Johnson
Harland Sanders was 65 when he started KFC.
Stop being focused on age, and instead focus on opportunity. Age means nothing other than your ability to pole vault or have hormonal rage that leads to stupid decisions.
The whole idea of "I should do this by that age" is a product of The Media.
Jonathan Brooks
Look into jim rohn and Brian Tracy. Both started off broke and poor and went on to be extremely successful in business and in speaking.
In fact Jim was so broke he couldn't buy a girl scout cookie at age 25. Which is what he says turned his life around.
Jaxon Garcia
Well it takes 7 years or 10000 hours to become world class at just about anything. Put in your time and you'll be good by 30
Robert Mitchell
started 3d at 25, im 26 now. all from scratch,i model and texture for hours every day. yeah i know about the crazy reflections. ill fix it. its never too late man
Nicholas Parker
I'll bite.
What online resources/videos/books do you recommend?
A short green text of your experience would be great too.
Hudson James
The mathematics of poker The mental game of poker The poker mindset Easy game ... is some good ones to get some backbone.
>Playing poker for 10 years. >Play online tournaments 4-6 hours a day >Try to read 2 hours a day. On average its probably only around 1. >Weekends go to a casino only around 1 km. from where I live and play live, since most new players play on weekends.
It's a lifestyle, not a hobby or a job.
Aiden Morales
that's awesome work! Where did you start and which resources did you use? Which tools do you use?
