imo what did the most damage in general was the fact that work place became divorced from living place.
peasants used to work on their own land on the commons, and the trades and guilds all had their own shop, street, piece of town,.... soldiers had their own barracks and training place, nobility ruled, taxed, governed directly from their estates and manors. everyone ahd their place, where they worked, lived,... among their neighbours and family.
ofcourse you always had the misfits, the beggars, the poor, day workers,....not saying it was a utopia.
the Industrial revolution, the expansion of commerce, the service sector,... but above all the enclosures started the idea of going somewhere to work, to work for someone, to work not for your own needs but for the satisfaction of someone else with whom you had (and have) no connection but your job.
even in feudalism you ofcourse had to work for your lord or pay taxes, but though the land in theory belonged to the lord, in reality it was your own, to do with as you pleased, provided you paid taxes or harvested the land of the owner and left his hunting game alone, you had the commons, you worked where you lievd, no spatial divorce between huband, children and wife and sometimes even extended family,...
an important reason for the decline of traditional male authority is that men were supposed to leave the house to work, leaving their wives in charge, had to leave education to the school, and then were yet supposed to be the patriarch of the family. this is nonsense ofcourse.
even today being able to work from home is seen as a symbol of status, a very desirable thing.