How do you become social after being a recluse for years?

How do you become social after being a recluse for years?

>26 year old kissless virgin
>Literally zero RL friends. I've moved a few times and don't talk to anyone any more.
>Actually be a pretty normal guy, I'm just a social retard. For example, I never got friend's cell phone numbers when I was ~16-17 when I was actually somewhat social because I thought it'd be weird to ask for them. Same with asking about parties and whatnot. I figured if they wanted me to have my phone number or for me to go to parties, they'd ask me.

I'm not true autismo. I've just been holed up for so fucking long that I have no clue how to initiate social interactions.

fuarkkk.. this is me in 4 years brah

It's okay bro. I'm okay with my place in life. I just want a small group of friends and a vagina to put my dick in.

join a sport club.

take up a hobby you enjoy and youll meet people with similar interests.

and maybe qt3.14's

Had to post this because I wanna kill myself
>talking with qt for couple of weeks
>uni ends and go on holidays, out of nowhere she asks me the night before results come out if I'm worried or not
>talk for a while etc and the chat just goes from trading banter to sexual joking to sexual
>keep thinking there's no fucking way, but still want to believe
>literally telling me to jerk off to release stress while she says she went for it 30 mins before and 2 hrs before that
>been on no fap for like 5 days now, horny af
>confuse signals and ask if she wants the d
>she says she's busy, doesn't say yes or no
>tell her she's a tease, she then says haha what are you 12? I've talked like this with 3 other dudes today
>Convo dies down from messages every 5 mins to like 3 a day
>kill me

Seriously, what the fuck why am I such a sperg ruined another fun friendship because I'm too autistic and beta

What kind of protein should I buy pls?

>tfw no best friend in highschool

Have you tried doing something like dance classes near you? That is an amazing way to social gainz quickly.

>Went to church with best friend but went to another high school
>Move to his high school in 11th grade
>Never have any classes with him but have lunch with him
>He sits with other people and you have to find other people to sit with as the new kid at school with no friends
It was at that point that I knew that I truly had no real friends and only acquaintances.

>go through life obese
>Huge emotional issues from bullying by girls
>Lose a lot of weight at 24
>Girls start noticing and talking to me
>No idea how to handle it as I have deep seated trust and hate issues with women but also want their attention

start talking
interact with people on a daily basis
i was a recluse for 5 years aka basement dweller
i rarely left the house
the only time i left the house was when my childhood friend came and dragged me out or if there was a family related emergency
find a hobby and then after you meet a few of the regulars and want to hang out with them more ask them for their numbers
the way i found social interactions to work is if you have some life experience/stories to relate to the conversation topic at hand
>ie oh you broke your arm, i injured myself falling out of a tree before
just keep it relevant

>>Actually be a pretty normal guy, I'm just a social retard.
>pretty normal guy
>social retard
pick one

>Go to small school where my class had like 120 kids in it
>Knew literally every single person in my grade, was friends with the vast majority of them. Knew most of the people in the grades above me and below me
>Talked with them all, played sports, could be considered one of the "popular" kids
>Move to new school
>Play sports, don't really get to know anyone
>Get to know a few people but never really hang out or do anything outside of class
>Move off to college, my roommate was a 5'8" 350+ lb tub of shit that didn't shower, didn't wash his clothes, and didn't use deodorant and played WoW whenever he wasn't in class
>Decide to work 40 hours a week to get out of my room
>Move to new college, get some roommates, hang out with them from time to time. They're the only people I know. Move out of that apartment and am now on my own. Lost contact with those people because they moved on with their lives.
>Now have been essentially alone besides a few online friends for the past 2-3 years
Yeah, I'm pretty normal. I'm just a social retard that assumes that, if I'm not asked to hang out or go do something, that I'm not wanted there.

>>Yeah, I'm pretty normal. I'm just a social retard
>pretty normal
>social retard
pick one

It's important to find a girl you like, who is a good person, that you can open yourself upto. I know it's going to be hard user, but we believe in you, this board isn't just about fitness, it's about self improvement - you've improved your outside, now it's time to fix your insides.

>>literally telling me to jerk off to release stress while she says she went for it 30 mins before and 2 hrs before that
>>been on no fap for like 5 days now, horny af
>>confuse signals and ask if she wants the d
>>she says she's busy, doesn't say yes or no

I find that very confusing.

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fw no cute milf gf

Keep lifting until somebody loves you.

Do my parents count?

The following helped me:

>Join a sports club. For me (and probably most Veeky Forumsizens) it was the local powerlifting & bodybuilding club. Got to know lots of people with a shared interest.

>Do a course(s) at a local/community college. It could be anything as long as it's something you're interested in, the point is to resocialise you rather than the education itself. I did an accounting qualification and French.

>Find a good local bar or pub with regulars. This one can be tricky as regular drinkers from my experience who you will meet, are often functional alcoholics or very broken people. If like a lot of Veeky Forums you already have social interaction and/or mental health problems, they may not actually help. At the minimum in combination with getting swole and other self improvement it might help you hook up with a couple bar/pub sluts.

>Get on Tinder or another dating app. Just talking or girls on Tinder and then via Facebook/Whatsapp etc improved my social skills hugely even if I didn't hook up with them in the end and either I friendzoned them or they friendzoned me.

I know this feel bro. Some girls just like to make you want to smash them and make you feel like you're a fucking perv once you try anything. She's probably frustrated as fuck and wants to make herself feel better

no because they don't love you

Not OP, but similar situation and I'm already part of a team. I basically just rock up, play and go home. Doesn't really help.

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>friends
>dont have their number
>they dont invite you to anything
They were not your friends dude

This is me but I'm 34. I keep hoping I'll make friends at the gym, I chat with a few guys but it never goes anywhere except one gay guy who wanted to come camping with me and I was like oh, I prefer to go alone to have some me time.

So are you still in college or working now? Do you talk to people at work? Do you go to gym? If not then you should. Just talk to people at the places you go. The only difference between a work friend/gym friend and an actual friend is you haven't hung out outside of that place. So make the first move and say "want to hang out?"

Do people actually just 'hang out'?

>same best friend all through primary school
>high school starts
>he becomes cool and doesn't bring me along with him

now i'm a 24 year old NEET-TV and he's married and making £50k+

Not really when I first say want to hang out it's usually something like, aye mate, cardio's shit, we should climb a mountain or something. Then we do that and they'll be like "oy mate, you're a sick cunt, come to my housewarming, it'll be loose ay."
And that's pretty much how I made all my friends.

Try asking others for advice or showing interest in their lives. Remember not to correct them if their advice sucks just show appreciation.

Today is the day you make the first step toward achieving something cool bro