If you have gone from being a fatty to being in good shape, could you please tell me what that experience was like?
How has your life changed?
How do people treat you differently, especially friends, family, SO, and coworkers?
My weight has fluctuated a lot, but I have never been thin or toned. Always definitely a little chubby at least, and right now definitely fat. I'm going to lose a lot of weight, and I want to know your experiences. This could help me be ready and notice our shared experiences more quickly.
Thank you for reading; I just want to know your stories.
Used to be 206 @ 6', currently 163 about 10%bf reasonably muscular, thanks shitty thin swimmer's frame.
Women actually go from shutting me down right out of the gate to shutting me down after 8 or so sentences. Occasionally one may even initiate flirting and text first, though they tend to be a tad chubby and usually lose interest after I deflect bar invites by blaming the winter/fatigue from school. Goes to show the body/face will get your foot in the door, getting the rest of the way through is up to your personality/game(unless you're a few leagues above them). I also am now a shameless narcissist with borderline body dysmorphia and am overly critical of other people's bodies, as you can probably tell.
Family(most either overweight or close to it) think I'm too skinny/grossly lean. Coworkers half mock denial of donuts, half praise my ability to stay in such good shape. Friends treat me roughly the same, except now they talk about their fitness goals with me, in fact having friends semi-into fitness is what got me into lifting.
Personally I feel better, look better, walk with head up straight, feel more confident; digestion, sleep, energy levels all show an improvement. Still drink and smoke cigars occasionally, only now I don't feel like a piece of shit at the end of those nights.
Overall I'd def recommend being in good shape over being fat, try and avoid the dysmorphia, narcissism, and turning down too many social events to "preserve gains" if you can.
Brandon Lopez
My fat coworkers told me I wouldn't make it and openly mocked me when I started counting calories and watching what I ate. I have lost 60 pounds so far and it made them even more bitter and petty. Fat women are the worst.
Bentley Russell
I am on month 3 of losing a beer belly. first 2 months was about counting callories and just going for fucking walks. I ended up losing 16 pounds of just shitty weight.
Then I hit the pool a month ago, doing weights for a week. I have gained back 3 pounds in pure muscle.
I have so much fucking energy, I go to sleep at 10, wake up at 5 to hit the pool. Losing the weight and getting active was best decision ever.
Gavin Brooks
I'm not Veeky Forums yet, but I've lost 70lbs. My family don't really care, but friends notice a lot. I've never had a GF, but now I'm getting a lot more vibes from women.
I can't believe I let myself get so fat for so long, I'm glad I chose to lose the weight.
Please lose it user, life wasn't made for fatties. You miss a lot of happy memories and life experience being a chubby neckbeard.
You will love yourself and I'll love you too
John Lewis
Wow, thank you. I appreciate your responses; definitely a lot of good advice and motivation in here. You've helped me gain perspective. It's one thing to know a lot of this as common sense, but it feels more real coming from anons.
Jacob Scott
This one really resonates with me. I had a GF once, but I agree that the way girls look at me changes drastically when I weight less. I will start back at the gym on Monday when I get back from a convention I'm leaving for tomorrow. I'll keep all of this in mind while I'm there.
Carter Miller
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Nicholas Moore
So, at the moment I'm still trying to lose what I can of body fat (Starting lifting earlier this year), but I lost my first bout of weight a year and a half ago (roughly).
I was the fat depressed kid while my brother was the skinny "Handsome" one. Mother tried to make me feel better with the usual "Muscle weighs more then fat"/"You're built like a football player"/"You're just big boned" lines. Never really believed her.
At the time I started counting calories and watching what I ate, I was far removed from the social circle I grew up with (Mainly due to living location and lack of transport), so all the old contacts just assumed I was the same person I was when they last saw me. Along with the weight loss, my personal confidence grew and I lost the awkward, depressed, socially inept shell I had grown during my teenage years. I still have the occasional bout, but the hatred I feel for my past self usually overpowers that shitty part of me.
Before moving even further away, I was able to attend a wedding where I got to say hi to my old friends and people I knew. I was mistaken for my brother multiple times, and it was the fucking best.
Andrew Peterson
Pic sauce?
Jose Cook
Sorry, friend, I have no idea.
Samuel James
Though the google image search gets you the Japanese you need to put into Google Translate to find it.
Was a 191 fatass, now 156. That 191 is deceiving because I had next to 0 muscle mass.
>How has your life changed
My fave is when qts actually check me out. Still tfw no gf but hey at least I'm getting noticed. Also I look and feel better yada yada, but every time I walk past a mirror I spend 5 minutes miring myself. Fun shit. Also I'm a lot more sociable and confident now. No longer a bumbling autistic retard, but I'm still shy.
>How do people treat you differently
Read above, and people actually want to talk to me and hang out with me. Still a lonely faggot but at least. My family doesn't think of me as a worthless degenerate anymore and that's great.
Thomas Turner
>started at 260 >now at 197
I got made fun of so much in high school that after senior year I decided I wasn't happy as myself. My friend and I both decided to go to the gym and make a transformation. I lost the weight fairly quickly, and got married too, although desu that wasn't a result of loosing weight. Everyone who sees me now is like "holy shit, user" it feels good to see people's reaction and I'm happier with myself but it doesn't help my social autism. Either way I'm on the track to be Navy EOD to try to save lives on both sides, just got to get my swim times down
Tl;Dr made me happier but doesn't solve all problems
Zachary Lopez
I was 6'2" and 280 at 16, 185 by 20 >heroin isn't all bad I was super fit but I was way too lean, I have a big frame, I looked utterly gaunt at 180.
moved up to 215 by 22 >exercise is better than heroin and I was a god. but honestly chicks were on muh dick as soon as I got lean, and stayed on, and food intake was the major lever.
one example: I was biking 10+ miles a day in the city, broke a rib and sprained a bunch of shit(don't ask) and was on the couch for two weks. I gained almost 30 lbs cuz I was still eating 4K a day while laying down.
I'm a fast gainer tho, others have different experiences
Definitely will say that when I was in periods of high energy expenditure >mover >farm work >laborer >messenger It was stupidly easy to balance CICO. once I went sedentary, it was much harder to stay in that ideal weight range even when lifting
Xavier Hill
Weighed over 400 pounds when I left for college, weighed 220 (6'5") when I went to grad school. Before I was bitter, mean-spirited, sullen, overall just a huge downer to be around. Can't really describe how much happier I am and how much people seem to enjoy my company now.
That being said, there's a lot of sullen dickhead people with way better physiques than me. I think through seeing a drastic positive change in my physical self I came to understand that I could change whatever else I wanted. Just like losing weight the change wasn't immediate, but the culmination of thousands of small positive decisions.
People naturally treat you differently based on your appearance as well as your...vibe. Hard to describe- you know how you can see a person you've never met and instantly have some idea about that person's confidence and demeanor? People smile more when talking to me, they listen more intently when I talk, my ideas are taken more seriously. Again, hard to say if it's because of how I look but I'm convinced it's a big part of it.
Girls I've dated have ranged from ambivalent about my looks to being unable to keep their hands off me. My current girlfriend loves to squeeze my biceps until I flex for her, does it all the time.
TL:DR - 10/10 would get in shape again
Jack Evans
I went from 210 pounds to 145 in a year then went from 145 to 160 in another year. My family specifically my dad treated me with more respect, took me more seriously and looked up to me. My best friend tells me hes proud of me , tells me I'm his hero and I brought a lot of positive change in his life just by him watching me and then changing himself.
Girls look at me, when I'm shopping etc the employees small talk me and smile or offer advice as opposed to not doing any of that stuff before. I can pick girls up at clubs, get numbers, I'm not some god but the girls I'm fucking now I would have a 0% chance with when I was overweight, the best part is just talking to a girl and seeing her eyes interested in what you're saying and she thinks you're cool.
Changed my life, the best part is how I view myself, I go to bed at night relaxed, happy, and a better man than I was yesterday instead of anxious, worried and depressed when I was overweight.
Not to be rude but wanting to get in shape doesn't come from reading peoples testimonials on a website or motivation threads, it comes from waking up one day and never quitting no matter what happens in your life, best of luck though.
Josiah Reyes
Once you set yourself the goal, you must remember, always remember
Desire must come from within
Don't go around asking people to push you or to remind you to do shit or whining about it or whatever the fuck, you know what you want, if you don't work towards it then admit to yourself that you want to be loser more than anything you could do to change. It is your life and you are the only one responsible of anything that happens to you, no one else will care, maybe some will care enough to feel pity, absolutely worthless.
Colton Mitchell
MY dick started working again Im 31 at 30 as was about to have the viagra talk with my doc took me a week to get horny again after cumming didnt even cum that much didnt really get that hard now its a bit over a year later
I get horny alot my dick hangs bigger hardons are really hard can get hard again pretty much immiditly after cumming morning boners came back also random boners show up when im not evean horny BONOUS with the fupa gone puissing in the woods isnt difficult anymore
anyway gotta go now its 7:30 am and I was just checking in between my yoga warmup and the 14k run Im about to do
Charles Johnson
Not there yet, but I started at 320+ and am now at 264.2. I've definitely been noticing a difference, my friends are proud of me and have been more supportive since I stopped bullshitting and started getting results. My coworkers have been bitter about it, most of them being hams or old washouts. A few of them are trying but failing because they believe in the "eat when your hungry" and "eat a bunch of small meals throughout the day" lies. They say they're trying by eating a salad, but then they follow it up with pizza, Frappuccinos, candy, and other bullshit that they've "earned". One lady eats a personal pizza everyday because it's one of those lean cuisine meals, but doesn't read the serving size and eats the whole thing. I tried helping in the beginning, but they said I was full of shit, so I stopped trying. My family had been mixed. My dad is proud, but my mom has been trying to cut me down. I just start flexing to get people to laugh until she stops talking. My bro and sis couldn't care less. One of my cousins stopped talking to me because I told him to stop being jealous when he said he couldn't see a change and another hamplanet one is bitter about it. Overall though, I've been feeling better about myself. I definitely have more confidence and can talk to people easier, my posture has been improving, and I'm less ashamed of my body now. I'm hoping to be to the point where I can swim without a t-shirt on by next summer.
