Be new guy at school

>Almost can't fire you

I beg to differ

This is good shit, definitely gonna exploit that campus gym. Keep doing gods work user.

You think like Rhustin you're gonna wind up like Rhustin. A fucking loser alcoholic with a dead som

i wish sempai
on gay tinder now, i already got head from a guy its pretty good.
>tfw when 50matches in 12 hours with guys
>god damn why cant i be just gay

I spent the last couple years socializing and you know what I realized? People are not fucking worth it most of the time.

Focus on yourself, make yourself the best you can be and surround yourself with good people. I actually enjoy alone time because why shouldn't I? And when I actually socialize it's because I want to and not because I'm insecure.

back to /r9k/

Read Dale Fucking Carnegie

>i already got head from a guy
>god damn why cant i be just gay

D-dont worry user, you're getting there.

>All because you waited
It's scary how different it must feel to have brains wired like theirs.

Wish I was gay too, man. This one cardiobro in HS even offered to ween me into gay sex. He was very twinky. I could've practiced for girls in all sorts of ways. As you can imagine I'm still a kissless virgin a few years later. I would say I fucked up.

I sympathise. It would have been a lot better and easier if you had practiced socialising more (much more) in HS. Things didn't turn out that way for you, so too bad. However, even if you had tried building your social skills in HS, you would still have to of actively put yourself out there and start to physically talk to people, which you found scary and you still find scary, so in that respect nothing has changed. My point is, what happened happened and you can only affect what happens (as you have always affected what happens) from this moment. You want a more active social life and to be a better guy? That's cool. Now that you know how important this goal is to you, you can start orientating your decisions towards that new goal. That's as much detail I can give you I'm afraid, no one and no book can tell you how to live your life, only a bit of advice. Otherwise, your decisions are your own and you must make difficult decisions on your own, even if you make crappy decisions, just as long as you're learning from your inevitable mistakes. You will never stop making mistakes, even big bad ones, same for everybody, no life is perfect. But the closest to perfect you can get is by making decisions and trying, even if you fuck up very often, that's the best way to live. Only other option is choosing to not do stuff, which you've picked to do far too often. Last thing, developing your social skill is gonna be hard. In order to improve, your will have to constantly go slightly beyond your comfort zone continuously. It's the only place growth can occur, so you will need to do scary things often. Bear in mind that you can only be brave when you are scared, so take it as a opportunity to be brave. Also, focus on what you are trying to do in the moment rather than comparing yourself to the you with the developed social skills you want to be. Continued...

If your goal is to be a great socialiser and in the moment you are far from that goal, it's gonna feel pretty shifty. Accept you are not there yet, accept you are not anywhere near your "ideal" and that it will take a long long time, and instead be proud of yourself for taking one step towards the summit of your Mt Everest. Think of things like this: you know which mountain (goal) you want to climb. Now that you know which one, you should orientate your decisions towards getting to the top. Once your get to the base of the mountain, if your look up and think "Jesus, how the FUCK am I gonna get to the fucking top of that, it's near fucking impossible" you're setting your self up for failure. If you look up and think "Okay, I want to get up there. It looks incredibly challenging, but thats where I want to be, and if I want to get there, for best thing I can focus on is each step, checking every now and then that I'm walking towards the summit (end goal) and adjusting my next 100 steps so that I'm back on course." Know your goal, but see it as something to orientate yourself towards, and focus on the current step, checking occasionally that you're not going off track. Get going my friend, no reason to lay about when there's work for you to be doing.

Meant shitty not shifty, and I said "Jesus" as an exclamation like "fuck!" or "oh my God", not as in looking up to Jesus

If you're wishing, might as well wish to be better with girls rather than wishing to be gay. Also, getting better with girls is something you can actually practice, you can practice changing your sexual orientation

Be prepared to be disappointed in the quality of people. Seriously. This is what fucked me up my freshman year, my mom spent all of high school talking about how much better people in college are, so it was a huge letdown when I got there and 90% of the people seemed mentally retarded. I used it as an excuse to not even try to socialize. A lot more people go to college now, so naturally most of them are poor quality to average human beings. Really try to learn to be less judgemental, don't tell yourself any "well why should I even want to be their friend" excuses because hanging out with someone you don't like all that much could still lead to you meeting a friend of their's who is cool.

...

Thanks for writing this out user. Means a lot to me.

>Rhustin

I did all of these things in HS (parties, gf, etc) and continue to do so in my 3rd year of University.

Ask me anything if you want help/advice.

Its pasta you fucking newfags. Summer is over you can leave now

how do i get friends and be social?

>How do I get friends
From experience, you'll get your main friends from your College residence. It's even better if you can find a group of friends who came to University together and merge with their group. Or make your own with a group of freshmen.

Like some other guy said, go to the gym and become a "regular". Ask for spots etc. I've had people spot me in the gym, then recognize me when I've been in a club and buy me a drink etc.

Join a sport for socialising - mixed touch football is really good if your Uni offers it. Any mixed sports which lets you meet guys and girls. Just do something.

Get a job. Bar job is really ideal as you'll meet a lot of people who are outgoing.

The most important thing is to actually be active within Uni and get out there, not sit in your room all day playing League of Legends and browsing Veeky Forums

Also, make sure you actually dress properly so you don't come across as a weirdo. Oh, ALSO DO NOT ASK FOR PEOPLES PHONE NUMBERS IN A CLASS THATS FUCKING WEIRD. I once had a guy come up and sit next to me in a lecture, and asked if I wanted to hang out. It was the most awkward experience ever. Do not fucking do it.

If you want to meet people in your class, do it only when there are group assignments, and you can add each other on Facebook to communicate about the assignment, and if you guys like each other, keep msging after the assignment is done.

Never fucking wait is the story of my life. This is what happened recently (long green text).

>recently turned 27yr old, slightly socially awkward male, kissless virgin. Can easily make friends but have trouble with qt girls.
>moved to london for a teaching gig for a few months. Made some cool friends and instantly had a crush on girl (7/10)
>was unable to converse with girl, social awkwardness and anxiety start to increase. Usually would stay away from her as I didn't want to be 'weird', just the usual small talk here and there.
>one day went to the park as a group to celebrate friends birthday. Everyone was drinking apart from me (don't drink). qt girl kept talking to me and we hit it off. Had lots of things in common, came from the same town (Manchester), went to the same uni, lived near each other etc.
>group decided to go to a club/bar nearby. girl asked me to come along so I did. We walked to the club/bar, me and girl were away from group and just talking about everything and anything.
>got to club/bar. Everyone was drunk and dancing. I just sat on a table as I don't drink nor dance. girl tried to dance with me and kept taking my hand and leading me to dance floor. Told her I don't dance. Girl kept making sad faces. Social awkwardness and anxiety started to increase. I had to get out of there.
> I left an hour or so later, everyone else was having a good time and I felt like a bit of a hinderance.
>got home and wallowed in self pity.

Few days later

>girl talking to me like normal. no more small talk, we were having proper conversations etc. We would eat lunch/dinner together, meet up after classes etc.
>at this point I have no idea if she liked me or just being very friendly.
>weekend arrives, I text girl if she wants to go southbank, she agrees.
>unsure if this is a proper date, I quickly google 'how to tell if a girl likes you' and see what signs to look out for.

Cont >>>>>

>Rhustin

CONTINUE

continued

>get to southbank, stay there for 5-6 hours just talking to each other and walking around. Lots of connections, eye contact, got really close to girl. Still couldn't tell if she liked me or not.
>got back to our accomodation, said goodbye and went in my room. Texted girl that I liked hanging out with her would like to do it again sometime, got a short reply - like 'yes it was good, have a nice evening'
>few days later she asks if I can give her a lift back to Manchester as our contract finishes on the same day. She offers to split money for petrol, I agree.
>day comes to travel back to Manchester. Long 4 - 5 hour journey. Again we just talked about anything and everything. Brought the conversation to relationships. Girl mentioned she is very friendly and that is sometimes misconstrued as being flirty and that people would 'just know' if someone likes them or not. Getting very mixed signs here which just confused the hell out of me.
>get to manchester, drop her off at a meeting point and wait for her parents to come and pick her up to take her home.
>parents come, I say goodbye to her and get ready to go in my car. She tells me to wait and meet her parents, which I do.
>girl then tells me to text/call her if I want to do something in Manchester. not sure if this is a date or just to chill.
>get home, girl texts 'hope you enjoyed meeting my parents :)', I text back and then no further texts.

few days later

>txt girl if she wants to meet up in mancheste. Girl is too busy with work and stuff and is going to Thailand at the end of that week.
>day before girl is about to go off to Thailand (and probably get railed by drunk guys), text girl, but no reply. Don't text after that as I don't want to come across as creepy.
>I then speak to a mutual friend of ours and he tells me girl just got back together with her ex-boyfriend, a few days after I dropped her off in Manchester.
>cue heartbreak

This occurred two weeks ago. To this day I still have no clue if girl liked me or was just being friendly. All the signs online says she did, but I couldn't be too sure. I was gonna tell her that I liked her before she went off to Thailand, but when I found out she went back to her ex, I was distraught.

I keep thinking to myself 'what if...?' scenarios, like what if I told her that I liked her. Maybe she wouldn't have gone back to her ex? Maybe she was waiting for me to make a definitive move or sign to show that I liked her, but because I didn't she decided to go back to her ex.

The only thing I can gather from this is: girls are fucking impossible to make sense of. And I'm once more a lonely, kissless virgin.

Kek, she really was into you and girls usually expect you to make the first move.

NEVER FUCKING WAIT MY DUDE
NEVER FUCKING WAIT
FROM TODAY ON
PROMOSE YOURSELF

>You resented them for doing what you could not

I sympathized with you until you wrote this. You know, you could've been int he situation your in because ugly/genetics/family ect.

Instead you're a massive faggot who won't pick themselves up and pull their own weight. Don't want to be a sad cunt? well stop being a sad cunt. You deserve the pain if you don't even try to change it.

I'm a bit like you OP except I get very close to establishing relationships then decide I don't want to because I hate people.

All I want is to get a lot of money so I can fuck off and go do loner shit in peace, but I can't.

It sucks because sometimes I think about parties I could've been to and the experiences I could've had.

Then I work towards making friends and then realize that I hate people again.

It's a never ending cycle mates.

you are wrong on so many levels
>parties are fucking terrible most of the time
key point is most, but the ones that are good are always worth waiting, but you need to keep looking
>women offer nothing but a wet hole
wrong again, men can offer a wet hole too, women are sensible people, more sensible than men can ever be. You as a man have feelings too, but you cant share them with other men because it denotes weakness, and for men there is always this rivalry that is to be the very best. So with women you can shut yourself in them, so "that" wet hole is a more deeper connection than any butthole can ever be.

>love is a biological instinct meant for you to continue your genetic lineage
So are the cells of your brain that makes you think that way. You can go full crazy and say that all is part of a plan. Just enjoy life with responsibility.

Yeah I've decided to be a bit more assertive and less hesitant when making decisions. We'll see how things go. For now I've just given up on trying to get a girl and losing my virginity.

youtube.com/watch?v=0txZ511RXO0

For what it's worth she was just having a good time being friebdly/flirty and being that she wasn't with her ex at that time she probably didn't even know what she wanted. U coulda been more assertive and sent signals and it may have shaped her mindset since when a girl is between relationships and also probably trying to get her ex out of her head, they usually end up allowing some new guy to distract her long enough to move on (what you coulda sone) or will go back to the ex when they get bored and don't get the attention they secretly want from guys (you). In other words u shoulda made it more clear and started making moves more aggressively and she woulda forgot that faggot. I.e.: "hey remaining what u doing tonight? Come over for dinner" or "damn we had a good talk at the bar. What's your schedule this week, lunch on me?". Hell some chicks like the straight up "come over and let's cuddle" directness. 7/10 Times I say something that direct the chick will be in my apartment hours later

It's funny that you're shilling this here, because the most absurd fucking thing just happened to me. Let me give some background.

I got fat/obese around the 7th grade. I didn't notice until halfway through highschool when I went to a different school and didn't make any friends. I didn't do something about it until 6~ months ago at age 21. I've always been shy, and reclusive. I had few friends and was rarely invited anywhere. My few friends knew me as a funny guy, and someone who could be absolutely scathing with his insults. I made a couple of friends in college, but only because they were my roommates. I was insecure, depressed. It was terrible. My life and everything I did felt terrible. I couldn't talk to people, much less girls (though I did manage to lose my virginity to a fat chick through internet dating, but that's just proof that anyone can do it).

I spent 2 years in isolation as a NEET. I'm not sure what changed but I hated being fat, and saw my uncle suffering partly because of his weight. So I started at 230 lbs, 5'9". Not much exercise, not much social stuff. Lost weight but didn't notice. Then, last month, I went to my best friend's wedding and that's the turning point. As soon as he saw me, he complimented me on my weight lost. I was stalled at 175-180, and it hadn't sunk in until then. I had lost 60 lbs. I was almost average weight. I felt better. You know the gist. So I went to the wedding and not much happened, I didn't know anyone but the groom and his groomsmen, so it was awkward. After that though, I buckled down on my diet, aiming for 150. And I also wanted to be more social. I'd seen a real qt at the wedding, but wasn't able to do anything. A few weeks ago, my mom wanted me to come visit her, and set me up to stay with her friend, a generally nice, but sometimes rude 70~ year old woman. They know each other through prison. Her problem is slight hoarding and alcoholism.

Running out of space so this blog will be a 2 parter.

bro why you gotta be like that

personally, i act like a super-confident bigshot the first couple of days so i make a couple of friends, then i just stop the act after a while and become every greentext protagonist ever

Sorry for wait, got a call from my mom. So I came here a few weeks ago and after some talks, my mom and OL (old lady) gave me 2 weeks to get a job, and if I could I would be allowed to stay and live my life and stop being a worthless NEET. Realizing I was inexperienced and under equipped, I decided to read this fucking meme book. It sucked me in. It was easy, and even fun to read. I read half way through it in one afternoon. I never thought I would enjoy reading anything other than fiction.

I'll skip some pointless in-between stuff.

I applied to a grocery store nearby. I then called the next day to ask if it had been processed, etc. That called back later and told me I had an interview this morning. Well fuck, my sleep schedule is ass backwards right now. So I'm in bed by 10 but don't fall asleep until almost midnight.

Before I fall asleep I shoot a text to OL asking if she could get me a cheap umbrella while she's out, and if she kept it around $5 I could pay her back. It had been raining and the forecast said it could again. She replied, around 2 am, drunk as fuck and sent me a message that left me seething. I won't get into it because now I'm just venting, but the relevant part is that it angered me so much I could get back to sleep until around 6. So I got 3 or 4 hours of sleep. Prepared myself nervously this morning, showed up 15 minutes early for the interview, with a positive attitude. I was waiting in the break room with another applicant, we were both applying for a night stocking position.

Okay, ran out of room, cutting a chunk off and making a 3rd post. Getting winded so I'm just going to keep it simple.

I said hi, then sat down at another table. After a few minutes of silence, I got up, sat across from him, and just struck up a conversation. I learned his name, and that he was from Chattanooga. He was called in, I wished him good luck. I managed to hear his interview, but just a little bit near the end. They told him that they would deliberate until the end of the day and let him know.

My turn. I went in nervous. Terrified really. But following the advice in this book, I fucking aced it. They hired me on the spot, not even as a stocker but they insisted they wanted me as a cashier. They didn't even really need cashiers.

I couldn't stop laughing on my way home. The fucking absurdity. Me, an asocial NEET, wooing someone to the point they'd do that.

TLDR:
Good book, recommended.

nigga ur overreacting stop worrying about this dumbshit, i'm going to give you this one nugget of advice that i pray that will stick in your fucking head.

>"don't be one of those people that their best times was in highschool/uni"

constantly im around niggas that are like "huehuehuee, back when i was in highschool i did x,y,z, good times" meanwhile now that their "good times" have passed (

this my nigga is getting capped for the next motivation thread

I was like you until i started boxing 7 years ago

Now i am still terrible at making friends but i am so confident it doesn't matter, no one picks on me because i know i can look after myself and i'm a fighter so i can pull chicks because i am otter mode and confident enough to laugh it off if they reject me. Shit happens brother just gotta take it on the chin and say to the world "nah fuck you i don't need your shit anyway"

My main focus is boxing, everything else is just a side habit. Nothing else matters as much to me

I only really value boxing and sports too. People are threatened because i am not impressed by their management career or money, all that shit is fake and can be bought. Going into the fire that is boxing and coming out forged as steel is something that transcends all of that. The only people i'd consider that impress me more are MMA fighters because that shit is the next step.

good shit my man

>implying that i have chose that

Wow i wanted to be a loser since i was born!

This thread has been posted before

Stop posting it

Delete this post

DEELEEEEETTTEEEE THIS POOOOSSST

Samefag

>opening yourself to girls

kek

I don't have a fedora image intense enough for this autism.

Saved that picture, thanks

>People are instantly turned off by you when they find out how you are

More time and energy spent on making money

Sage advice right here.
Happened to me too, when I was a freshman in college.

Introduced myself to a pretty cute chick today just to see how well I could socialize. I wouldn't say I'm a bad looking guy but I've been out of the game for 5 years (newly single) and need to jump back in.
She was sitting on a bench, reading a book, I glanced as I walked into the bldg. My class wasn't for another hour so I figured why not. Walked back outside, Asked if I could sit beside her and then introduced myself, telling her I was a transfer and didn't know anyone since my friends graduated so I was trying to meet new people. We talked for ~30 minutes just conversing and when it was time for class I told her it was nice to meet her and went on with my day. No number, no plans, just a name a face and a story.
Was that weird? As I was writing 30 minutes I was like damn that's way too long, but I'm trying to get to know people.

Stopped reading after the first one,
Going to assume you fucked the old chick or her granddaughter was the wedding girl before I read the part 2

I have a similar experience but the opposite

>don't really care to socialize anymore but not outright leave me alone goth shit
>walking on campus when I see a girl with nice shoes
>"hey nice shoes"
>Oh thanks!
>think that's it and keep going when
>yeah I'm from a different state and forgot to pack my other shoes so these are all I have. They kind of hurt since they are so old but what can you do haha. My family is only in town for one more week then I'm by my self, it's my first week at a college, I just graduated from high school so it's all new to me..I was almost late to my first class and I was so nervous haha, right now I'm trying to find the library
>completely blind sided and don't know how to eject from the convo
>walk her to the library where she just gives me her # and asks if I could show her around town on the weekend, and show me her apartment and what she needs for college
>finally say goodbye that I have to go
>oh I'm sorry I forced you to listen to me and help me for so long I can make it up to you if you want, I can take you to lunch sometime and I'll pay please let me repay you

Shit's weird. When everyone says "let the girl talk," That shit is true...

Guys im almost normie but I have one problem

No social media

Im scared if I make a FB now ill be late to the game and itll be awkward adding everyone from HS and just.. fuck my shit up senpai. I dont really even want social media but I feel like I'm a social pariah without anything

fuck her m8

kek

dude she is literally inviting you to her apartment for sex, and inviting to pay FOR YOUR LUNCH for a date first

come on man

The new BCAA recipes have been leaked!!!!
youtube.com/watch?v=WYvji5AXOfk

See
This this this. This guys right man

My friend did exactly this. Now we're all 25, graduating college, leading normalish lives and he still plays LoL, CS, and Brawlhalla 24/7 smokes weed, living with a fat lazy feminist cunt because she was literally the only thing he could get. She doesn't work, spends his money, and doesn't clean. His (his parents own it) house is literally covered in trash.

>tfw your friends life is becoming a series of bad memes

If only you had lifted all those years...
Socially-awkward bodybuilder is Dennis mode:
youtube.com/watch?v=V1zFeHJzS5E