Who has lifting affected your love life?

I'm 5'7, started lifting a few years ago and boxing a few months ago. Started dressing way better. Better hygiene.
>always been insecure about my height
>girls start talking to me more
>think they're just fucking with me while talking to me
>until they have my cock in their mouth
tybg

Now I'm waaaay more vain in my relationships with women.

I'm more worried about getting the cops called on me now.

Meanwhile I see that fat fuck on Real Social Dynamics bragging about fucking cheap sluts.

I now disregard females and focus on work and working out. Very tidy and organised. I'm happy I had girlfriends. But time is too precious to spend with girls.

I am now even more picky about women because the majority of them are skinnyfat slobs. I accept only 9/10's minimum.

One of the reasons why I'm a kissless virginite

age?

24 and still rolling

>look slighty below average naked
>dont approach girls so never get laid

>look slighty above average naked
>dont approach girls so never get laid

pretty much as expected brah

its made it worse. because the girls I used to fuck aren't appealing to me now. I have this shitty ego
>brah you worked hard for these gains
>don't validate this girl who never works out and eats like shit
never realized how many girls have that pouch stomach and shitty arms

Improved it massively. Before lifting I use to jack off 5 times a day, now I don't do it anywhere near as often instead I purchased a dildo.

kek

Basically this

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>Before
>Cute nerd girls would be nice to me but never give me any real chance
>Hot girls would ignore me
>Now
>Cute nerd girls ignore me and think I'm an asshole by virtue of being in shape
>Hot girls try to flirt with me and realize how autistic I am and unable to flirt and move on to men with more alpha personalities

No one warned me Veeky Forums

Why dont you take the first step with the cute nerdy girls then?
Not talking to them just compliments their beliefs

Should I install Tinder?

Let's say I put up a good picture and my bio (I have a good job) and some girl contacts me
What do I do? Do I ask for her number? Do I ask her to go out for a drink with me? Do I take her to dinner? Do I pay?
What if she wants to fuck, I only have a car and live with my mum, I can't take her home

Besides, what if she steals my organs, I've heard people had this happen to them.

It got me from hookers to an average gf and behold! Women start hitting on me all the fucking time.

No. Put as little actual info about yourself as you possibly can and make yourself seem as self-absorbed and arrogant as possible, including in your advances. Always cut to the chase and post a flattering pic.

Just bs about everything. because 90% of the girls on tinders are poorfags who live with their moms trying to leech off some chad

briefly dated some 19yrold off tinder 2months into the relationship she kept trying to stay over at my house every night, had to kick her to the curb

>never realized how many girls have that pouch stomach and shitty arms
Fucking this. I can stand it if they have a great ass, but it's downright sad if they don't

I did almost a year without sex when I wasn't fit due to an injury that had me on heavy pain meds

I have fucked 4 girls in total all my life(I'm 23 now)

this year my gf dumped me 2 months ago and I have fucked 4 new girls already and I got a 19 year old sexy redhead sending me nudes(hopefully I will fugg her soon) and another redhead who I am gonna go on a date with next week.

tfw all I want is my ex gf back, fucking cunt ruined me

All lifting did was turn me into even more of a closeted virgin.

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Shit, dude, I'm may be able to relate very soon!

>be with GF for 6 months
>return from 1 week vacation with her
>few days after, she says she doesn't know whether she's feeling it anymore or not
>she suggests we take a pause (thursday)
>I attend housewarming on saturday
>I make out with a girl there
>we visit a club after housewarming
>I make out with a girl there
>keep thinking to myself she's gonna end it anyway
>fast forward tuesday
>meet with GF
>she says she wants to stay together
>fast forward next weekend
>host a chill party
>end up fucking a QT
>don't even feel that bad about it
>keep telling myself that I shouldn't feel bad because my GF almost dumped me anyway
>fast forward till today
>just spoke with GF on Facebook, she says she's still uncertain about our relationship

Gonna meet up with her tomorrow, we're most likely breaking up. Thing is, I really love this girl and I know for a fact that I won't be able to feel ANYTHING for the next many months.

Shit sucks, mayn..

it fucking sucks, this girl was my oneitis. She just dumped me with the words, I don't love you anymore bla. bla bla. you know the nonsense.

It will get better though! I hate everyone at the moment but I feel better about myself even though I want that cunt back in my life.

You just gotta lift and focus on yourself, better yourself, do what you want to do!

oh and dump her now, don't hold onto a succubus like that who won't give you a straight out answer. If she wants to be with you she would tell you that you should work it out together!

Hip:Waist

>your love life
>your love
>your life
>having love
>having life
>have both together

Not lifting but I've just lost circa 45 pounds and it didn't change it anyhow. Autism won't go with the weight.

I started lifting 2 weeks ago, 3 years into this relationship. Hope it will enable some options in the bedroom, always wanted to do the 'her back against the wall while I'm carrying her' thing.

In other relationships, strengthened my friendship with the guy I work out with. No homo.

Why, please explain?

I'm still a kissless virgin who has never had a gf
And I don't want one.

Im not that guy but lifting has made me more of a aloof
before i used to seek approval and this led me to chase girls and form strong attachments with them
Now i dont give a fuck what people think because through lifting i realized everybody is equally fucked up as me but in diffrent ways

Needless to say this killed the love life because girls dont want the elusive not giving a shit guy

i just got a girlfriend after an almost 1.5 year dry spell (had one ONS meanwhile)
but i made little gains during that time, so i don't think it has anything to do with lifting

>love live
Most of my love live is trying to find elaborate ways to not trigger that neuron cluster to fire off.

You know how the myth of the 10% brain being used came to be? Well some dude watched at an MRI at one moment and realized that at one point, only a small amount of brain was active.

but spoiler alert: All of it gets accessed depending on what you think and/or experience.

Memories also reside in certain area's and if you do your best to not remember something. Those area's wont activate.

So a similar principle must apply to premade neuron clusters, responsible for love and/or companionship with females.

So my strategy is to avoid looking at female faces. To try to keep audio related to female voices to a minimum (since that triggers that area of the brain as well). The worst of it all, the most horrible thing to avoid is hugging girls. Doing small intimate things with them. That triggers such large part of this neuron cluster. So movies, pictures and tv series are to be avoided with this as well.

I top it all off by a non excessive amount of fapping, since those hormones, if they build up too much, somehow decrease the treshold for that brain region as well.

So far I am kinda making it. I may not be a whole human as I intensely avoid that part of my brain. But at least its not bugging me as much.

Perhaps, if I am lucky, that area of the brain will shrink due to non usage, though I rather doubt it. I think in the long term I will use the sense for the more delicate things and all thoughts related to females will be toned down to more primal urges.

But at least I will have more room in my brain for other stuff.

More blow jobs desu

It's made me more confident and more comfortable when I'm on dates. I used to overcompensate for my low self-esteem by acting arrogant and slightly narcissistic, now I'm able to relax and be myself. The improved looks help but it's mostly about the slow, grueling method of reaching goals and setting new ones. It has instilled a sense of accomplishment and pride, a belief in myself. I know it sounds gay as fuck but it's true. I went on a first date with a girl yesterday, earlier today she texted me asking if I want to go out for dinner tomorrow night. Shit was so cash.

pic unrelated

I was drunk and kissed a girl. She was annoying but really hot. I don't think lifting has anything to do with it because I look dyel. It didn't change anything desu. But maybe I have finally realised how useless I am and unable to change things in my life that really matter.

I'm a 26yo virgin btw.

Damn, you could be talking about me. Plus I'm 23, too.
Gf suddenly dumped me 1.5 months ago after 7 years of relationship. I was very insecure about my sexual performance and looks, because sex hasn't been great in the last years.
I had to take some time off and fucked a 34-year old in my hometown, she told me I was better than most 34-year olds. Then went to London for a week where I met a hot fitchick. All she wanted to do was fuck me and told me shit like she feels like fucking a model. (Eventually, fitness does pay off...)

When I told my ex-gf one week ago about that London chick she told me she is seeing someone else, which is why she left me. So fucked up, she wouldn't even have told me. And I still kinda want her back, completely ruined me, too.

I feel you...

That kinda sucks user.

If you go through all this trouble on a day-to-day basis to avoid thinking of girls, doesn't that mean you spend all day thinking about girls? Also I kind of want to meet you in person just to see what you're like.

or just cut your balls off you faggot

Literally evey Fay these days has shitty arms and pouch stomach

It totally blows, specially when you see guys in threads like these fucking chicks and im just here thinking "what am i doing wrong?"
Random sex doesnt solve anything but its fun

I'm totally the same for me. We didn't even question whether we were going to live together or not. Then she comes back from vacation with two single friends and suddenly wants to leave me. Talking the same nonsense about "don't know how I feel, don't love you anymore". As mentioned turns out it was because of some other guy.

But it really helps at the gym once you're in beast mode, doesn't it :P

Triggering feelings is a little bit different than triggering memories. A simple memory, by saying that you shouldnt think about it will simply not work as you will think about it.

But feelings, emotions can wash over you. So whenever I get the feeling that this neuron cluster is triggered (as it takes some effort to build up momentum). I just try to stop the source of what is triggering this neuron cluster.

It kinda works. Though not entirely probably as talking more about it, like through this text, triggers the outline of that cluster.

Still though, I sometimes cant avoid the times when I wake up in the middle of the night with a face full of tears because of an emotional dream with a female.

But what else can I do that to try to do damage control? I cant turn this off.

this whore is only 21 years old and already has the skin + complexion of a fucking 40 year old.

i give it another 3 years before she goes full blown toilet girl

It's actually turned me away from it. I used to be one of those faggots thinking that I needed to find a girl that would "complete" me, who was truly loyal to me as I would be to her, and who would be an inspiration to me both explicitly and implicitly. But once I started lifting, I developed a stronger sense of self reliance, that I was the only one that could complete me, that the only person who could match their loyalty to me is myself. I learned that explicit encouragement from others means nothing to me, and that doing something implicitly for someone else is largely pointless because even if they see the effort being put in, they can't or don't want to fathom the thoughts that go into such an act.

By lifting, I've learned to asctppreciate the solitary more, and gained a sense of self that has let me be comfortable with developing myself. And at this point, I think I'd prefer being alone because it reduces distraction in my development.

Every now and then I get the desire for some more intimate human contact, but it is far less frequent than where I was at awhile ago.

>tl;dr lifting has turned me into a content loner

The instant they show no interest, always beat them to the post.

I'm now worse than I was before. I've become incredibly anti-social since all I did was add another activity that I can do myself. Basically my days are just work/lift/read/vidya. When I do on rare occasions hang out with friends I find myself doing two things. First every skinny fat girl I see I can't help imaging has the body of a beanbag and second I can't help staring at their faces trying to figure out when they will get fat.

Nice post, and yea...I also feel like this a bit.

Especially having memories around my faulty ex, and knowing what kind of shit you have to deal with if you want to advance.

This is what happens if you get a gf or a wife that is a dumb normie

>want to try out new diet/food that will help you in your quest for self improvement
>"omg user, how can you not eat thing Y, didnt you know popular and unverified gossip thing X"?

and then you would have to waste all that energy trying to educate your dumb woman.

Like a regular normie fatty she would stuff your fridge with bullshit things, with "healthy fruit juices"

and then she would remark how "those vast arrays of supplements cant be healthy user!"

and you would have to deal with

>you are spending more on your workouts and health than on me!
>what? You went on a run again? Are you secretly running with some other girl if you dont want to spend time with meeeee

and there is also a large chance that she smokes, or drinks. She would bring foul odor with her of the smokes, or her foul habits with her of binge drinking, perhaps even drugs if she is a double normie.

Imagine the stress from having to educate that. Not even the alphaest of alphas can/want to deal with that.

I'm now capable of interacting with women without sperging, I'm usually simply too tired to give a damn about the weird things I say and I prefer to believe girls are laughing with me or at my lame jokes, not at me.

I used to be a chronic masturbater, I'd fap at least five times a day, usually to sissy porn, felt dead inside and thought about suicide after each fap session.

Then I started lifting and decided I'd only fap after gym.

After three years of masturbating only after working out for two hours three times a week I've lost all libido, realized I was only fapping out of habit and stopped doing it.

Kept lifting and haven't masturbated in two years.

Random girls in the street just aren't attractive to me anymore and it takes some vigorous rubbing either raw or through very thin clothing to give me a boner.

I started having sex in the second year lifting and I notice that I only get a semi chubby most of the time, it takes several minutes of trusting before I get fully erect, if I'm in a hurry it takes me half an hour to cum, if I'm trying not to cum I can last nearly two hours.

I still feel dead inside, but I don't think about suicide nearly as often.

you're just gay dude.

got damn i want to impregnate this bitch.

Well i got a date coming up and she has already complimented me on my body a few times

However I am a complete fucking autist over text so im pretty sure ive already fucked it up and im just waiting for her to tell me "somethings come up" and cancel

thats any twat in existence brah

who is dat?

google image gives 0 results

yeah ur gay lmao slowly turned BI over hte past few years and occassonally for a few weeks at a time i'd just find the idea of a girl repulsive

Read the thread

still in social isolation
barely go outside
don't even jack off anymore
only difference is I'm Veeky Forums
for what purpose?

Severe body dysmorphia and i only attract sluts

People tell me I'm very good looking
My body is better than 99% of males
I still can't get women for shit, sure I can make out with a nice looking chick in a club every now and then but I can't get anything more than that with an attractive girl
People say my standards are too high but Idk I can't help who I'm attracted to
Oh well not a big deal, kinda wanted to fuck more chicks before I KMS though lol

I'm really fucking horny

>multiply by zero

I've always searched for a way to get rid of tfwnogf, and this sounds promising.
Thank you user, I'm going to try this out

>>think they're just fucking with me while talking to me
this is the psyco trauma that people who have never been unattractive never understand. It took me a shamefully long time to realize chicks were actually flirting and not mocking anymore.

>I went on a first date with a girl yesterday, earlier today she texted me asking if I want to go out for dinner tomorrow night.

I can't even imagine something like this happening to me. I've got to join a gym..

It got me laid. But I found what really works is taking risks and being honest.

I'm attractive af.

Just today a girl called me 'fine'.

AMA

Who is she please

Demi Rose Mawby

She's on Instagram

>be me
>5'8", 275 lbs
>always been fat/obese since childhood
>severe depression, severe OCD and illnesses related to being obese, lonely af
>pretty much a virgin, every attempt at sex throughout adulthood has failed miserably
>about to fail university, dropped out of too many courses
>have complete mental breakdown
>lose 66 lbs since Dec 2015
>lift 3 times a week, eat properly, count calories
>take care of career again as well
>still feel hideous and like shit
>meet qt3.14, start dating her
>5', 99 lbs
>finally have sex
>manage not to fuck it up or fail miserably

I'd say lifting has affected my love life just fine

Sometimes you gotta fuck a 2 to appreciate a 9 user

Good on you mate, be happy with the good choices you've clearly make

>tfw I will literally fuck anything on a night out
Hope my gf doesn't find out one day but I literally can't help myself

I made the mistake of not breaking up with my ex gf a year earlier, don't make the same mistake I did.

If you have doubts just end it.

Boxed for like 4 years, trained, did a lot of stuff.

Started lifting a little while not boxing, started feeling a lot better, seeing myself bigger, having better confidence. Read books about dating and finally got a gf and lost virginity.

I would say books and lifting gave that.

i no longer interact with girls since getting Veeky Forums. it's great, i've never been happier

Damn this bitch wears too much makeup. She probably has a cute enough face underneath all that, so she should just go mostly natural on her face and focus on her body. Because that body was built for sin, you know what I'm sayin? I'm sayin I'd have trouble pullin out of that, for real son goddamn. But really, bitch needs to ease up on the makeup looks like she has vitiligo.

Eh, since you already got with some other women it's best to break that shit off man. You don't want the headache.

>Got in good shape
>Played basketball
>Hung out with jocks
>The bitches came soon after
>I graduated

Same here. All through high school and early adulthood I never had a positive self image. I don't know if lifting has helped me much but I definitely feel like I can bag any girl I talk to now. But to think all the pussy I let go just cut I thought I was too fat and ugly for it.

Lifting has made me realize that the only women who are forward with me are usually insane/damaged/real needy.
>mfw these are the women I spent time with
>now they just think I'm hot too
>working on meeting more women
>help
>help
>help

>get dad to pay for surgery + ass injections
>learn how to do makeup
>make instagram account
>life on easy mode
How is this fair? Even fake natties have to lift and consistently buy steroids.

a tiny visible pouch is kind of necessary for having a child you know?

OK kangaroo-fucker.

I got laid more before I was in really good shape

instagram.com/demirosemawby/

>he doesn't know what a womb is XD

My girlfriend no longer has sex with me and I want to leave her