wake up

this. So much this.

I wish I could take every ambitious, competent man in his late teens/early 20's and tell him

"Just focus on you. The vaginas will line up in a row later on, once you've made it, don't worry about chasing them."

readBruh. I sometimes take 1-3 hours to reply to a text from my girl. Why? Because I have a fucking life and I remember the world before text messaging. Calm the fuck down.

>she doesn't want you at all times
>she believed she controlled you because of the bj attempt to hold you back, you resisting, and her leaving a note, only for you to chase her later.
>she isn't just fucking you either

>my legit reason is that it's oneitis
you would at some time catch feelings for her anyways.
>...because i want some proof that i'm not nothing
proving you aren't nothing by going for the same girl you already fucked?
that just makes you look like a lowlife fiend. she sees it. you let anyone else know this little story of yours and they'll see it too.
>i thought becoming over self confident would fix everything but it turns out faking it didn't help and i'm still nothing
it's not just confidence, you aren't thinking. you have to center yourself and adjust accordingly. you disrupt the intended flow and now she wants you less than however much she wanted you again, before.

WHAT???

no because you'll come off as an asshole to everyone if she turns you down.

if she accepts your invitation to a potential relationship then she should have already given you the hints.

this

disagree. coffee shops are on every other corner here. i've been on a few and they have never been formal. i've known others and seen others on dates at coffee shops, whether they look professional or casual.
you are from a suburb of >120,000 ppl.
most guys try to be female's emotional tampons anyways just to be friends with them and eventually potentially fuck them.
disagree again. they aren't necessarily more upscale quality than chain coffee shops are. you must be 13.

and a date is a date. plenty of people go on coffee dates as newer dates.

I would? I was just gonna ask her when she was like walking around, not in front of anyone
Well I haven't seen her since last friday where I just asked if she went to my college, she said she did and we talked briefly about what classes she was in and when she went
She left my table then returned a few mins later and we talked some more, then she went back to work and I left and said bye, how do I progress from that?

>a week after she bailed on your date shes seeing an early thirties felon

never fucked her. just asked her out too early and got rejected. now i'm trying not to push too hard but still make my intentions clear and i'm sure she picks up on it