Has anyone restarted their life?

Yes!
>left all my druggo friends at 22
>moved to a different city to do a degree
>spent 4 years depressed, hating life, in cocoon mode
>when I reached an acceptable level of insanity I rejoined society
>now I have a great bunch of friends who I live with
>$90K job
>extremely fucking happy with life
>rarely get laid but I'm working on that

You can do it bro

Then kill yourself

U.K. Fag here. I left school at 17 and started working full time. I'm 24 now and I've recently started full time at uni. I've gone from being in an office full of middle aged people to hanging around with people my own age. I also work in a restaurant and so I generally mix with younger people at work as well as there are a lot of students there....I was in a rut before and now I feel a bit better about things.

>Quitting porn
What for.. ?

Lost 150lbs. Joined the Navy.

Turns out I'm still the same fat loser I always was, and I'm not going to turn into some confident normie overnight just because I lose a little weight and got a new job.

At least I have more money for video games with all this disposable income.

I've wanted to do a lot of stuff for such a long time but I'm forced to be antisocial

Not him but porn made be desensitised to regular women, only hard-core insertion bukkake kinda shit excited me.

who cares about real women?

makes me too tired

I do too user. This is my plan C right now, and if it doesn't work, then im done. best of luck

People who want to put penis in vagina

Yes. Moved across the country at 20 with the same goals in mind. I just turned 21. Your problems follow you wherever you go.

I want to, but I also don't want to throw away what I have.

I'd love to move to another state and start fresh. But the few friends I have are going to be the only ones I have for life. The job I have pays well, and works with my school schedule.

So I'm stuck.

Who /chronicanhedonia/ here?

holy fuck another? I feel ya- can't orgasm.

I don't know if I'm anhedonic or masochistic, but I've never given a shit about comfort and always choose hard work over doing anything easy. I just like having a carpeted floor to sleep on after a 12 hour construction shift.

Yes, and it works, but make sure you resolve to become a better person, find you flaws and address them before you go.

Anything is possible user

anhedonia is the inability to feel pleasure, not just choosing not to

What are you, gay?

If you want to reset your life, you have to be ruthless about it. Step 1 would be finding a job in a new city, or having enough savings to move to a new city and then seek employment.

Step 2 is to excise everything from your life that isn't conducive to your end goal. Family is the exception, if you have a good relationship there don't throw it away.

Step 3 is to reboot all social media or delete it altogether. No more contact with your past. The only thing a person should carry with them from their past is lessons, not baggage. TIme only moves one direction for a reason. If someone didn't make the cut in step two, sever ties without a word.

Step 4 is to relentlessly pursue things that interest you. Lifting, martial arts, reading, business, travel, whatever it may be. Dive into it.

Step 5: After you've grown into your new self, you can start building new connections with those around you. A social network, however small, is important.

I've done this recently myself after a divorce. Moved across the country to a new city, expunged everything from my life that wasn't my immediate family, and started from zero. 8 months later I am now the happiest I've ever been and it was honestly the best decision of my life. There is also an absurd confidence and self-reliance that comes from being able to say that you started from nothing in an unfamiliar place and carved a niche for yourself.

Life is too short to be miserable. Go as hard as you have to until you get the life that you want. No relationship or possession is worth being miserable over. Remember that.

Yes. I went from legitimate autist level (19 y/o high school dropout, 340lb, no outside contact, never had a job, live with parents, fapping and 4channing 12 hours per day) to my current self (slightly chubby level but approaching normal bodyweight, extremely high GPA STEM degree from state flagship, high-paying job, own place, supportive, sexy gf, plans for graduate school or making a huge income on the horizon) in 6 years about.

The fucked up thing is that most of these problems don't seem to be really permanent. If you just had a relatively high-quality normalfag life and acted the part of a normal person for several months, your brain would probably fix itself and start thinking about life more or less in a normal way. The way forward is to just slowly improve. You fix your life some, which increases your confidence and reduces your anxiety and lets you realize that you don't need to be so anxious and sad about life, which gives you a more firm base to work more to improve your life, and so on.

If anyone wants more details or advices I can post them.

Saved. THanks user. THese next two years will be grinding

Instead of restarting its about understand your roots, what controls you and redefining it. It's a process in itself that requires action. Action in events that push you out of your comfort zone. You need to move forward otherwise you'll slowly trail backwards, a routine is required. Through the routine you learn to live with yourself, ups and downs. Where you progress and where you hold back. Grow steady in different areas of your life and see which you want to define you.

thank you magical talking booty but I am distracted by your assets

>turning 23 on the 23rd
>kissless virgin
>no friends
>no education
>live with mother
>NEET for the last 4 years
>years of isolation has turned me into an autist
>no goals/aspiration, literally nothing in life I enjoy besides lifting

What the fuck do I do?

>22 yo
>taking a break from school because i couldn't handle stress
>living at home
>no job
>social anxiety (but getting better)
>going to gym daily

I honestly don't know what I'm waiting for lads. Maybe I just need to get out of this bumfuck middle of nowhere town and back to school.

Kill yourself.

>Maybe I just need to get out of this bumfuck middle of nowhere town
>being a urbanite beta

Small town life is comfy as fuck.

>read "how to win friends and influence people"
>practice on random folk
>start bottom level manual labor job or fast food, seasonal if possible
>make the whole goal of the job to get a reference
>move onto new job
>repeat
>repeat
>repeat
>do productive things outside of work
>escape mother
>ask a girl out
>do really lewd things like holding her hand and kissing her on the lips
>impregnante her
>raise a child
>correct all your personal problems within that child
>die
>Watch from above as you have now raised chad who thinks everything comes natural to him but its really just your influence.

get retail job
save money
community college
make 4.0
transfer to state school (hope fully with a large scholarship)
get stem degree
get gf
get salary job
save money
continue advancing career
develop skills and knowledge further
raise a wonderful family
improve and improve and improve
slowly become a local figure
continue
become national level figure
bring your country forward
show your grandkids how to make it
write your memoirs
die happy and surrounded by loved ones

I wish there was a way for me to restart my life.

I'm turning 25 in a month, and my entire life has been complete crap. Upper middle class upbringing, but completely worthless socially that has ruined my entire life

>ugly as fuck
>Kissless virgin
>Haven't had friends since I was 13
>spent high school as basically a shut-in due to no friends
>get into college, lack of social skills from HS carries over, barely meet anyone
>basically just like a class clown, have always been able to make people laugh but nothing of substance
>graduate college with meh GPA
>grad school I had planned on not an option anymore
>move back home because I don't know what I'm gonna do, back to where I have no friends
>been almost 3 years, just been working shit-tier job in the field I wanted to go to grad school but this is just supposed to be a pre-grad school job

>no clue what the hell I'm going to do because like, how do you get a decent job out of the blue in a random field you have no experience in?
>no matter what happens, my complete lack of social skills my entire life means I will never have friends, never get a girl, always be miserable and alone so it's impossible to have motivation or hope for the future

no, you can. i was the same in high school and it turned around after a few years of effort. dont bother being depressed about it. get a job where you talk with people and save money. even target or something. don't think you're too good too socialize with anyone, but also don't fall into a dysfunctional crowd. learn an applicable skill if you want a career outside of academia. i know somebody with an anthro degree now making $140k programming. 40hrs/week. easy stuff. if you want to do grad school hustle your way into it. social skills will help a lot.
start talking to girls. make friends with one. dont worry about trying to gf her or fuck her. eventually you're getting invited to parties and get-togethers where her friends will be. some of them will be single. now you're drinking and opening up. you'll run into a girl who likes you. you'll be so horny that you'll have the balls to make some moves. they'll likely be weird but she'll be into you so much that it doesn't matter. you'll have sex and gf her up and a while in you'll realize that you didn't really have anything to worry about once you decided to fix it.

You only gain social skills by using them. Tinder is great for practicing them, honestly. Swipe right on everyone and fuck looking for a hookup. Just talk to these girls like you don't wanna fuck them, you get to do it all via text so you can even proofread your responses. It's god's greatest gift to people with social anxiety because it's basically training mode.

Once you've practiced there a little, go do it at a bar sometime. I'm assuming you're not aiming to live in the same city forever, so who gives a fuck if you crash and burn. But if you can make people laugh, you aren't hopeless socially. It's actually a pretty rare talent to be consistently funny and women love it. Cultivate that.

Lastly, there's nothing keeping you at home. You have a job already, which means getting another one isn't going to be some herculean task. You wanna start over? Throw resumes at jobs in your field in any city you're remotely interested in living in and see who calls back for an interview.

Moping and self-pity will not change anything. Only actions will.

>debating suicide or starting over
>this thread pops up
I wonder if fate is actually a thing, might as well go for it

>be 24 years old still in school
>no job
>parents paying for my community college away from home
>only taking 1 class this semester, parents think I'm taking 4
>living with grandma she cooks and cleans for me
>be aspiring poker pro but can't tell parents
>average $25-$30 per hour at low stakes
>made $2.5k last weekend over 18 hours
>have $8000 bankroll in cash, will try moving up to higher stakes soon

May as well try starting over first. After all, if you're contemplating suicide what's the worst that could happen?

Too real. What happens to people like us? It can't be pretty.

you end up as that chronically tired looking guy in his 30's/40's working at the convenience store/post office

What job? How did you get it?

DELET THIS

Not him, but as someone who has started from scratch it will be, you will want to stop and go back to your old life but you must not. Be absolutely ruthless with yourself and you will make it user

Ya you're right user

Make sure you have your mental game in check. 2.5k is a hot fucking run at 8k bankroll but always pace yourself

gl pokerfag

>You only gain social skills by using them. Tinder is great for practicing them, honestly. Swipe right on everyone and fuck looking for a hookup

I dob't have any friends to take pictures with. I will have NO photos to post in my profile. I feel like I could be funny/witty on Tinder (because I've been told I'm witty all the time in my life) but with nothing to appeal to girls, I won't get matches in the first place

> But if you can make people laugh, you aren't hopeless socially. It's actually a pretty rare talent to be consistently funny and women love it. Cultivate that.

But I am hopeless socially. Since I was in middle school, I've always been able to make people, girls and guys, laugh. I think that I'm just too weird and annoying for people to want to actually hang out with me though.

I've also literally never been to a bar in my life, even though I was in a college town. Lol

after this semester is over, I'll stop being a neet. Hopefully

True story, I was in the same boat as you. I downloaded tinder and had 0 pics of myself, so I took some selfies. Turns out, most girls don't care that much despite what you see on Veeky Forums and elsewhere. Just take 3-4 pics with different outfits/locales and use those. You're just there to practice talking to people so who cares how many matches you get?

To your other point, chances are you're overthinking things. Something I've learned is that 90% of people, even if they really enjoy hanging out with someone, are too shy/beta/lazy/whatever to make plans.

I can't stress enough how important it is in today's world, as a male, to know what it is you want and then pursue it. Friendships, relationships, jobs, hobbies... whatever it is, you cannot wait for it to fall into your lap. You have to hunt it yourself. If you can do that, you'll be better off and more fulfilled than a good portion of modern western males.

>You're just there to practice talking to people so who cares how many matches you get?

isn't that the point dude?

And believe me, I am very ugly. I would NOT get matches on Tinder, let alone without any friends

It is well known on here, reddit's tinder board, etc that there is a very extensive checklist guys have to have to get matches, period. photos with other people are DEFAULT YOU MUST HAVE. then you gotta know which ones to pick, which order to put em in, what you're doing, who you're with, the right angles, the right pets, a funny/witty bio, etc

>community college
>get an engineering degree

Pick one.

>literally giving up before even trying

>It is well known on here, reddit's tinder board, etc blab blah blah

what exactly do you have to lose

Anyone else ever want to just save money to one day purchase a basement, rack, weights, and a few years of food supply to do nothing but lift, eat, and sleep?

27-year-old here

Do it. Fucking do it. I got over the 25 hump and my worldview took a fucking nosedive. Time started going by a lot faster. I am now very much aware of my death and the nothingness that follows yet I do nothing to make my time on this earth better.

Whatever you have in mind for changing up your life, act on it. Good god does it feel like shit scrolling down the Facebook feed and seeing everyone getting married, pumping out kids, getting Masters degrees -- hell, even just hanging out with friends at party.

I have constant dreams about going back to school; they're never going to go away.

That was literally me at 22. If your life is like mine, your mom will throw a job offering at you that you'll take. Nearly five years later, you'll still be at that department -- you'll have a better job, but you'll still have more focus. People will be still saying the same shit about you that they said to you when you were a kid, praising you for being a hard worker, talking about how far you are going to go but you know you're going nowhere.

My suggestion? Don't get locked into some fucking go-nowhere job. There's that thing about you, that one career you've always wanted to follow but have stopped yourself from following. Follow it. Follow it and if at 27 you're going nowhere, hop into that mediocre job. But I believe you'll do better.

Alright, brutal honesty time: if that's your mindset, you're fucked. It's no better than the people in the FPH threads around here who say they can't lose weight.

You're welcome to wallow in misery and victimize yourself; just don't expect the world to give a fuck and extend a hand to help you out of the gutter. It will never happen.

This the quarter-life crisis thread?

22 here, about to graduate with a CS degree, time has started going so fast and it's hitting home badly

I can almost see my death bed. Life really is one irrelevant fart in the wind piece of bullshit

I don't want to be fucked or have this mindset. But do you understand how crippling it is to not have friends? Above everything else, not having friends is the single most crippling thing that can happen to you.

And it isn't like the normal "Oh, I just moved somewhere new after college for work, I have no friends!" thing that normal people have, where they can easily find people because they are normal looking, have a decent personality, normal social skills, etc.

it's like "My personality is so bad that I went through all of school and no one liked me. The most social times of your life, and I got nothing from it. Everyone hates me. Why even bother talking to people if it just makes them hate me"

>almost 25
>work boring IT job but make really good money so I havent quit or moved somewhere else
>always tired, havent gone to the gym in over a year
>losing gains
>havent gotten laid in over a year
>when apt lease is up dont know if i wanna stay here or move back to my home state

I just want to crawl into bed and sleep all day.

Bruh I was homeschooled through middle and high school and depressed to the point of isolation all through college. I get it.

If people legitimately hate you based on 5 minutes of conversation though, you may need to take a look at the things you're saying. Because even the most fucked up looking people can make friends if they go to a board game meetup or vidya game tournament or some shit as long as they aren't shouting "NIGGER" compulsively every couple minutes.

You're depressed. Force yourself to exercise for a couple weeks and see if that makes a difference. Desk jobs are a breeding ground for that shit. Gotta counteract the sedentary shit with activity or you'll be making shitloads of money as you die slowly inside and out.

>25
>worked decent job making about $16 an hour
>used to dread going to work
>quit
>go back to school for engineering
>will probably be in full 4 years
>dunno if im gonna make it
>just turned 26

not gonna make it

At what point is it to really restart your life?

I'm 23 too and I've been in school for a while. I should be done with my degree, but I failed and dropped a few classes, so I'm very behind. I don't like my major and I just want to drop out of school, but I don't know what is there for me. I also don't want to work at the restaurant for the rest of my life so I got to figure something out.

I've been to therapy and been lifting for years, but none of that shit really works for me. I'm thinking about trying meds. I think it might my last option.

Yeah I'm think about forcing myself to go to the gym tomorrow. I've been running the occasional afternoon and I' incredibly out of shape.

The thing is that I don't think people outwardly hate me. When I talk to people, whether it was in school, or in jobs, or whatever, again people seem to like me. They say they like me, I'm funny, again, kinda class clown like attitude. People know who I am

But I think that the thing that has always killed me is that not only am I pretty weird, but I'm sure I have some form of ADD so I get kinda annoying after a while. Almost like people can only tolerate me in small doses, so in a work setting, or classroom, or when my roommates would take me to a party, I got along okay with people. My roommates would always invite me to parties that I'd go to, but when it came to ever hanging out anywhere else, nothing.

my social awkwardness, mixed with the self-esteem destroying friendlessness and virginity so I realize I don't have anything to offer anyone, just kills any motivation I have to even try with people. I don't want to subject them to being around me

what job are you goin after?

best thing ive ever done in my life is to step out of my comfort zone

Read Rich dad poor dad, look into investing. It will turn your life around.

It's worth it. If I go too long without activity after sitting at a desk all day, I slip into a netflix and shitty food coma and basically just wait to die.

It's interesting, I'm far more tired of 8 hours staring at a PC screen on my ass than I was working 12 hour days installing cable. Guess me and desk jobs just aren't made for each other. Too bad they pay the best.

If people invited you places, they obviously didn't think you were that bad. I think you may benefit from seeing a professional in regards to this, because it honestly sounds like you're too inside your own head to get an accurate read on the situation. Might help with the ADD too.

That book is a meme

Yep, was easier than I thought.

Living in a city going to a school I didn't like.

Packed up, cut off contact with everybody, finished school elsewhere. Completely new set of friends and major.

Now that I've graduated I've done the same again. Moved to a new city where I don't know anybody. Going to have a promotion opportunity in a few months to move to Melbourne (living in Texas right now). Probably going to take that and get another fresh start, won't have contact with anybody from the old section of the company.

Dunno why, but I like constantly having to struggle not knowing people and working through that. Makes life interesting and keeps me on my toes. I'll reconnect with friends if I'm ever back in one of my old cities, but no contact otherwise.

It's pretty doable if you're the right kind of person.

If you dont meat your social needs as a human you will lose alot of your energy.

I sort of have.

I cut all my friends out, I stopped doing drugs, I fully committed to boxing 4 - 5 nights a week rather than once or twice a week and I stopped going out to bars. Literally all I do is go to work and go boxing.

It's kinda boring and lonely at times when I'm not busy but I figure I'm on the right path now; I'm going to get fighting again and win and through boxing I believe I'll meet the right grill and set myself with coaching boxing. I'm tired of being let down by people, I'm tired of failed relationships and I'm tired of wasting my life with drugs being miserable and wishing I wasn't.

We can all make it but we gotta make the necessary sacrifices.

I probably should have gone to a therapist like, 6 years ago. Maybe even longer, like when i was still in high school

Actually at this point I'm even scared of something else. As pathetic as it is, I'm scared that even if I do creepy into normalcy in now, my mid 20s, that I will think of the wasted past decade plus of my life and get fucking sad as hell and depressed about that. All the wasted years

your low self esteem and shitty attitude is your problem, im not much better but at least im self aware. stop being a little bitch and work on your personal growth.

This

We can choose to quit or we can choose to make the climb out of the hole we're in.

I was in a hole and I climbed out of it, anyone can do it if they truly want to.

You're ugly and you have no friends? Start boxing so you get confidence and make friends. Get involved with your boxing club and make the effort to help out. Or whatever other sport you want to do.

Stop being such a pathetic sad cunt. Man the fuck up and grow some nuts. All you're doing is making excuses and explaining why you "can't do it" because you don't want to do it.

The cosmic scale demands balance; you don't get anything without giving. You want to get out of the shit place you're in? You've gotta make sacrifice. You've gotta take the pain and suffer through it and keep pushing with a clear goal in sight. You're never gonna get there if you don't try.

Cocoon mode paid off for me, I was in a bad place so I made sacrifices and committed and it worked. You're not a victim if you're doing it to yourself.

I wanted too and regret not doing it
>be 18
>hate city, little friends
>lost 80lbs. 240 -> 180
>despite graduating from a top school in the state and passing 6+ APs I was an underachiever
>only choice was upstate school or the school in my city
almost dumped my entire uni savings into a shell account (11k) , buying junker, and moving to Seattle/New York/Austin and waiting until instate tuition and acceptance rates kicked in

DESU should've done it, I went upstate met a normie girl, she fucked me over, turned to drinking, and failed half my first sem.
now I'm 20 barely finishing my 2nd year of Uni back in my City Uni

how is the pay in resturamt work? more than $15/hr after tips?

you're only 20 faggot, you got plenty of time.

I'm 27 and alot has happened between the age of 20 - 27; at 27 I had a major drink problem, at 24 I had a major drug problem, at 27 I'm clean and fully committed to boxing and fitness.

At 25 I had just gotten single and was trying to fuck every bitch I could manipulate into bed; at 27 I'm jaded with women and I've 0 interest in making the effort with them. My life revolves around fitness where as it used to revolve around partying.

Keep going user; life is a journey.

None of this will fix your life. It'll be back to the same old soon enough regardless of where you run. Look inward to find yourself and peace

Trip on acid and re-evaluate your direction in life.

McDonald's proffesional chef. Gonna make a real nice $10.25 an hour. that means ill be making $25.85 every 2 hours.

I turned 25 today. I'm still making $13/hr, and haven't been called back by any job over applied to even when I followed up. I'm still a kissless virgin who hasn't had any significant female contact outside of family and work in years. I'm still stuck at 220 lbs, while my bench and squat are stuck at 275*3 and 365*3 respectively for a while now. I also realised how addicted I am to porn, where I can't even go more then 2 days without it. I get the shakes and pounding in my chest when I try to stop it.

Worst of all is that I'm such a disappointment to my parents and siblings. If I wasn't such a wimp I'd probably just disappear somewhere and kill myself.

A year ago I was a drug addicted degenerate OP. Addicted to cocaine, cigarettes, and smoking weed every day. A BMI of 31 to boot.

It's been a long road coming but I've kicked every substance, taken up running, and recently started lifting as well. working my way down to a goal weight slowly but surely.

It's a complete 360 walk away from who I once was. It just sucks because the only friends I had were druggies, but now that I'm not into hat I have no friends and I have no idea how to make new ones.

Better than where I was, though.

still tho, that's a bretty gud bench and squat, so you've got that going for you

My lifts are the only thing I can say I'm proud of in life. And I know that these aren't bad at at, I just want that 3pl8 bench and 4pl8 squat already.

How do you find a career to look towards Brahs?

>360

step 3 really gets to me, you make me want to throw away my phone with the 5 contacts of girls ive ever gotten and few friends

> tfw massively fucked myself about 2 times in my life and had to start again from square one
> mfw this time everything is going great

third time's a charm!

be 29
graduate from college with a degree in political science, thought I was safe since I worked hard and got good grades
I have been a temp for 3 years, haven't worked in 6 months. Friends "help" me by finding me job sitting at a front desk. live at home with my parents. Developing real anger issues. Regressing to teenager. Can't go on dates or talk to women at all.

Social media of exes is so . They are married and have babies. Feel like a total failure.

Thinking about starting steroids and adderall. Getting a certificate in IT. Its my last year to join the army. Also thinking about shooting myself.