Mental Health Thread

Hey Veeky Forums,

I normally don't post that much but I just lost a good buddy to depression.

No one could see it coming, and I thought it was a prank when I was told. Part of me still thinks he's gonna pop out of no where and say it's all a joke and I'm a total fag for crying the past few days.
But reality is sinking in.
Anyway I never took these threads seriously, and I always thought depression was some sort of meme.

Let's help each other out tonight. Share your feelings, talk about your goals, tell stories that have changed your life, give each other some advice.

pic related, it's me

Very sorry about your friend OP. I lost my father to suicide. It never gets easier, you just learn to cope.

>Porcupine's dilemma
This defines my life. I always end up pushing everyone away from me, then I end up alone and in self-hatred. I haven't met anyone I LIKE at college yet, everyone I know I have some sort of problem with. I know the saying "If everywhere you go smells like shit, check your nose"

I know it's my awful personality pushing everyone away from me. I wish I could find someone who could deal with the awful person I am and just be nice to me. all people want is unconditional love.

The best thing to do is to forget it. Nothing can change what happened. I'd tell you to organize yourself, choose a couple activities you enjoy/are good for you and do them early in the day. It'll keep your mind off things. If you're the kind of person who likes self-help stuff, it may also be a good idea to listen to some brian tracy or tony robbins, if it has an effect on you.

College isn't all it's worked up to be man. you'll find a group of friends you like, it just takes time. Don't rush things, friends and girls will find their way into your life.
Try letting people a little closer, and just try to keep a good attitude. If others know you're making an effort they'll give you a chance.
But what it comes down to is you having to change yourself. You have to try and be nice to people, and remember that they could be going through things in their personal life as well.

I can't imagine the thought of my father dying, much less taking his own life. Just keep pushing through bro, you'll always have Veeky Forumsizens to help you out.

Thanks dude.

Definitely noted those two motivational speakers, i'll give em a try.

But it's not me I'm worried about, it's his family. The terrible feelings I'm having right now have to be multiplied by a million to reach theirs.

Damn, man, I'm sorry.

I've been suicidally depressed in my life once, a long time ago. It's a terrible thing. Recently, I broke up with my girlfriend, it was somewhat mutual. I still cared about her, but I didn't love her and she had some issues with mental health. Nothing dangerous or crazy, but enough to take a toll on our relationship significantly. I felt terrible doing it because I know how much it would hurt her, but we're adults and we both realized it would never end in marriage for us and we are just taking eachother's time.

In terms of depression, although it feels like it lasts forever, it won't. I can't relate to losing a friend, but I have lost something important to me. My cat. I know, oh it's just a cat, well that little fucker was one of my favorite things. Ever. I cried like a bitch when we had to euthanize her because her health was in shambles, but I didn't shed a tear for my grandfather and grandmother's funerals (Call me a piece of shit, I dare you).

In life, we win and lose, and we lose a LOT. But we have to remember our goals and what's important. I'm sorry for your loss, remember your friend, do not forget, but remember this too, your friend wouldn't want you to be unhappy and depressed, he would have wanted you to be happy.

Good luck, friend.

You can always keep in touch with her, just a short conversation can really change someone for the better.

And I'm in almost the same exact position as you. My parents had me in their 40s so my grandparents were very old and I felt like I never truly knew them. But pets mean a lot more than people think, you can really get attached to them.

I'm happy that you've moved past your depression and you're able to control your life now. Hang in there user, and keep lifting!

I don't think I'm depressed but I'm actually incredibly lazy. I know that when I attempt to fix my shit life I'm going to get really fucking bad anxiety like I did the last 2 times, so bad I can't even eat more than a few mouthfuls and it just ruins my life and I'll lose all my gains
Should I get anxiety meds or something?

Get help, I am My girlfriend (who I just said I broke up with) had terrible anxiety. I know you're trying your best, but anxiety really really affects your life and others around you. If anyone tells you therapy is bullshit or for pussies, tell them to fuck off. There's a whole sect of science dedicated to this shit. Ask around! Look for a local psychiatrist, start going to therapy and get the help you need, trust me, it will make your life so much better.

Even though I'm not emotional in the slightest, almost NEVER. I hadn't cried since my cat died almost four years ago, but I cried talking to my ex when I was breaking up with her. And I broke when I had to tell her that I couldn't handle dealing with her anxiety. I know that might sound bad, but when one's partner has a mental issue, it's really really difficult to deal with. I tried helping so many times and did everything I could, but I just couldn't anymore.

You can do it!

I highly recommend that you not get anxiety meds.

my brother was on them for years and they just made him fat and more depressed. But I am also not a doctor.

If your problem is laziness then work on that. The best thing you can do is stop giving a fuck about what people think. I know, easier said then done.

But meds should be last resort, and it seems like you still have a few options left. Work hard on your self discipline. There's no easy result to this and nothing can be fixed right away, just give it a try.

When you wake up in the morning write down five things that you want to accomplish that day. They don't need to be big, like clean your room, clean the kitchen, do homework, read a certain amount of pages in a book, do 100 push ups.

Try something like that to get started, best of luck bro