Losing virginity dunno what do

Really appreciating all the advice, it's calming me down.

I used to drop acid in my late teens and from what I'm reading here I think I gotta pull out the old "give in" trick- allow the experience to take control and just give yourself to the flow of the situation, let go of all anxiety and fear.

Just hope I can do that while sober, used to do it all the time when high.

Then again I also have to have some control, because I assume I will be doing the thrusting. Hmm.

When I was in my teens a girl gave me a handy under my pants while in a doctors office true story.

That's it tho.

autism will never get laid

you're really just overthinking it all. Just try to enjoy yourself and go with the flow you will be fine.

Fap a couple hours before and take a cialis. Even if you come quickly you'll stay hard (if that is a concern).

autism get's laid all the time

Just takes us longer

>He thinks that having sex is such a big deal so that he had to make a thread because of it.

I hope you really don't get an erection, OP.

ok ok guys hear this one out
> be 17
> gf 14
> tells me that she doesn't fuck
> what the fuck did i expect

if you approach the situation like this, you will fuck it up. I already can feel the spaghetti.
also, why do you assume to dip in at the first date? that's autistic and is bringing pressure to your mindset. Relax you idiot.

I don't assume to fuck on 1st, but we are going to a bar so I'm assuming it's totally plausible to happen and if given the opportunity I'm gonna take it.

Ok so I won't do some weird acid trance shit, will try to not be autistic.

so just pure confidence then, go with the flow, try to have fun?

If you can't think of anything to say, just keep hard eye contact with her until she starts talking.

When you've got to know her and you've had a a couple of drinks with her some night ask her back to yours. When you get back to yours offer her a drink or something, and go sit on the sofa with her, then make out with her, then take her to your room and put your peepee in her peepee

relax, tell her you're a virgin. Girls aren't scared off by that normally if they're decent girls. She'll show you how to do the ol lickaroo

wouldn't recommend missionary for first time, ever

virgins don't have any idea about how to even get into a position to be able to put it it

if you try to do it like what you've seen on hollywood movies etc, it won't work

for DYELS missionary is also next to impossible... all your blood will pump you your tiny triceps and core, and leave your dick flaccid. shits heavy, m8

would recommend girl on top for virgins, every time, desu

a bar is kinda dangerous.. hope you like shouting at the top of your lungs for long periods of time (typically people on here dread this deeply).

also, many chads in bars

good luck, m8

Dude just don't be a faggot do you really have that much autism that you can't keep it together for a date? Just be normal for like 2 hours bro you'll be fine.

say "bitch I didnt ask" and fuck away

He said a bar not a nightclub
A real bar wont be blasting music

>tell her you're a virgin
>Girls aren't scared off by that normally
Don't listen to this guy.
Virgin equals loser in the minds of most women, even if they won't admit it.

buy some tadalafil so your nerves don't kill your boner. Don't rely on the stuff more than a few times though.

Other than that, have fun

wut, m8 are you european?
american bars all blast music at 140dB

Just let her peg you to calm your nerves

Just stick it in and do what feels natural

In my experience, women seem to not like being on top for some reason. Could it be laziness?

don't want anyone seeing those fat gains around the belly.

either that or they like to feel like the woman, aka the bottom

American bars sound shit

OP, don't admit you're a virgin to this girl you barely know

Just relax; as long as you don't panic, everything will go according to keikaku.

And wear a condom, for God's sake

Worst advice in the thread.
>just be smooth
If he knew that he wouldn't be in this situation.

>admit ur a virgin
Do NOT do this under any circumstances. If it comes up, just say it has been a while.

SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE IS A SIN user DONT DO IT

this

Just tell her you're a virgin. Girls don't care. Anybody who tells you that girls care has not had sex with enough girls.

There is no difference between "it's been awhile" and "I've never had sex" to a girl.

this is bait she will dump him if he says this

OP should show her this thread and get her opinion on the matter so we can settle this ONCE AND FOR ALL

>but am virgin
No one gives a shit

chill out don't be so tense thinking about a million things that no one really gives a shit about. just enjoy her company and get drunk with her

>normies literally can't comprehend that anyone could have no sexual expereince in their mid-20's

If it comes to sex, just be honest
>anonita, I've never done this before. Please correct me if I'm doing something wrong

Everyone that's telling OP to chill out is not helping.

Here's actual advice:

1. foreplay is a great starter
2. if you can't get hard blame it on nerves (I told mine I had a test the next day due and was mentally not there)
3. condom since you don't know threshold of when you'll cum while inside a vagina
4. there's a chance you can go too long, my first few times I could go for hours. it feels great but the girl will usually dry out after an hour or so
5. there's also a chance you'll go super fast so you can make it up with good oral if you're into that kind of stuff or just using your fingers beforehand
6. have a small casual conversation before sex if possible, helps things move seamlessly and relaxes the both of you
7. drunkenness can also lead to whiskey dick. I don't know if it's common because I drink like 3 times a year. also don't get the girl drunk, although I'm probably paranoid after reading drunk rape charges
8. also slightly not related, but don't force girls head during BJ
9. if you're over 7.5 inches and 5.5 thick like me, you'll have trouble with most women at first so foreplay is extremely important here. I know a guy who couldn't fuck a lot of women because he didn't do foreplay and stuck his 8.x dong into girl and causing them pain
10. if small penis, you'll have to develop technique over time and you'll give many orgasms. medium is honestly the best-ish
11. don't tell her you're a virgin. they either think you're weird or will become stupidly attached to them.

On a side note, I'm happy for you OP. You made it.

A lot of conflicting opinions on whether or not to tell the girl it's your first time.

It really depends on the chick. What's she like, OP?

>long weekend
>wanted to ask a grill out from work that I rarely talked to so far
>she has a problem that I have to help her with
>don't spill any kind of spaghetti
>everything seems to go well, I can even make her smile
>try to bring up the long weekend
>she didn't take my headcanon route
>didn't know how to push the topic in the direction without directly saying or hinting that I want to take her out
>proceed to solve her problem and leave

>24
>virgin

You are passed the point of no return. You are supposed to lose it to someone elso who is sexually inexperienced like all the normal people. I lost mine at 19 and that was bad enough since the girl already got the "college experience"

Don't tell her unless she asks you. But don't pretend you've fucked the entire town if she does.

Also try to enjoy it.

Congrats.

Take a nice shower, make sure you have no zits, be sure you smell well and are generally dandy. If you're confident about how you look, you should be so too about sex in general.

This.

>not being able to get hard with a wet pussy infront of you

i swear to god Veeky Forums is fucking gay for real

Nervousness is one hell of a feeling.

There is a solution.

Take viagra for the inevitable nervous Virginia boner.

Take Adderall for the concentration boost and ability to last.

Take cocaine for the confidence boost.
Should be swinging a plank at that point. You may die.

Picture tangentially related

just be urself ;^)

Just go with the flow, man. Don't overdo it, be gentle at first to see if she wants it rough or not.
Grab her by some sensitive points, kiss those places, suck her neck (don't literally suck it, just do some stronger kisses).
That's all you need for your first time.

From experience, I've noticed that women get a lot of satisfaction from being touched, grabbed and felt all over their bodies. ESPECIALLY the inner thighs and hamstrings, the place right under the breasts, under their pits, their sides, lower belly and the neck. Grab her by the neck and kiss her on the jaw man, shit works like magic. Every single time.

Well, or it just may fall crashing down.

>admit you're a virgin
NO!

Sounds like fun way to give yourself a heart attack at the age of 24

It's fine, just stay out of the sauna.

>they can pick up on that shit easily
That is one thing I have learned so far to be true. As dumb as women are, they are social master minds. They are incredible at reading insecurity even when you could swear you're on point. Any little gesture and subtle tones in how you say things means a lot more to them than it does to you. When I was having a bad day I could play it cool around any of my male co-workers but one of my female co-workers (and now good friend) would immediately sense something was wrong every single time and would try to cheer me up and get me talk about it. I typically would decide to avoid it or just shrug it off as something minor (im a NOT an open book) but she knew I was lying or holding back and would insist. She would later also confirm to me that yes women can read all this crap and it does affect their attraction to the male.

Admit you're a virgin. If she doesn't want to have sex with you, she didn't live you anyways, and sex with somebody that doesn't love you is basically masturbating,

Was Jesus natty?

>She would later also confirm to me that yes women can read all this crap and it does affect their attraction to the male.

This is easier to believe and internalize if you look at it from an evolutionary perspective. If women didn't have this intuition, they wouldn't be able to select for the best mates. They can naturally sense alpha/beta behavior and adjust accordingly so that the species can be as strong as it can be.

I disagree. If you say "it's been a while" and give a validating reason for why that doesn't make you seem like a loser, a girl wouldn't care or if anything be more inclined to help break your dry spell.
Example "yea it's been a while since I've been with anyone. Got into a financial situation and have been working non stop".

sounds like a scam.
redpill me

you're a funny guy, user

Pretty much the logic I use myself. But this stuff isn't always cut and dry so I must sometimes put it into question. For example there are women who WANT the beta male because of some other quality he has that they like. Or it could be because they themselves are even more insecure. If women were always making the best decisions for themselves then we would be far better off.

>Implying it matters what the bitch thinks

Nigger, you OWN that pussy. Go claim it !

Trim your fingernails, wash your dangus, brush your teeth. Go with the flow, it's easy don't iverthink rhings. I'm rooting for ya dude

its really hard to ask a girl out without saying or hinting that you want to take her out.

and if she was at all interested to start with, she probably walked away wondering why the fuck you didn't ask her out

Yeah, you gotta make it seem like it "just happened".

>tfw it actually does "just happen" and you don't realise it could be considered a date until afterwards

This

bullshit, I lost it with an absolute slut who acted like she had 2 guys at 24 just because she liked me. didnt even mind it when I told her right away that I was a virgin

I am a 26 year old kissless virgin and I read through countless threads like these, I know all of these advices and steps by heart now.
I'm probably the most ready virgin on the planet (most probably only in theory)

What I gathered from all of those virgin threads is that you just have actually go for it and do it if you think you have an open chance for it.
All the detailed foreplay instructions and ideal sex positions don't matter at all if you never even get to it.
Most virgins (just like me) fail at the very first step of actually getting the girl anywhere near the benis in vagina situation because of fear and anxiety of it all, even if the girl is practically leading you to have sex with her.

Just go in and plow through it, have a terrible experience if it's necessary just do it for all of us fellow virginites.

>if small penis,
by small you mean anything less than 5 inches?

me too (26 kv former long term robot), but honestly i feel like i can lose it while on no fap. i actually dont really have anxiety about being a kv forever and spend most of my mental energies getting the stuff i need for girls

try doing no fap 90 days it helped me a lot

not him but Im 5 inches barely. That's to the skin to tip. I feel like the actual length is miniscule and think girth is what matters. Still small though

23, am i still a virgin if i just had my dick sucked?

what am i now?

get ripped and then slay, same as always

who cares what u are, ur not a bj virgin tho

you're fucking right man.

i've been going out to town with some m8s at work more and more.
sure i miss or just don't seal the deal but i'm more brazen now and less timid than i was a few summers ago. i just gotta relax, and get more talkative some more that's all it takes

I never got this, I've always sperged out to get the date and its super awkward but after I have the date the date everything goes smoothly. It's just talk like a normal human being and do light touching when the mood calls for it.

that takes alot of time, money and stupid dates hearing the bitch talking.

nah, i just wanna fuck man