So as I'm sure you've found out, muscles don't delete autism
Discuss ways/routines to become more socially fit/approachable/funny/likable
my contribution:
-make a habit of approaching people in the gym to work in using their equipment/machines at least once per workout. Start with just asking to work in, then work your way up to short convos about their routine. Also work your way up from guys -> average girl -> hot girls.
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If someone has their headphones out and are bigger than me ill occasionally ask them for advice.
They get the benefit of a smaller dude giving them respect, I get knowledge of how to one day surpass them. We both get the benefit of having someone new to bump fists with or give the nod to when entering the gym.
The simple joys of gym bro bonding. Plus having people who recognize you forces you to be more consistent.
>don't make a habit to annoy people at the gym, even if they look approachable.
>stop working your way up, treat everyone "Equally" so that your emotion and reason don't intertwine with one another based on the next good looking or rich looking person you come across.
>be genuine in human interaction.
>don't try to run the energy of social interactions. that's not alpha.
>don't try to be the ladie's man of the office or building.
>keep the circle tight. don't have a ton of friends just cause your young brain feels the need to have them. keep your friends like your family.
>force yourself to interact. get a job where you work with people.
If you end up in a conversation with someone and don't like talking or don't know what to say ask them something about themselves. People generally love talking about themselves. Keep asking things until they say something you can relate to, then relate to it.
This one tip really helped me out:
If you avoid all forms of social contact, you never risk rejection and heartbreak. For even better results, you should never leave the house to avoid having people try and talk to you.
>average girl -> hot girls.
I never understood the point of this
girls you don't want to fuck are as easy to talk to as guys (assuming you're no homo)
real life isn't like a mmo where you need to tame 100 level 5 wolves before you can try taming the level 10 dire wolf. If you want to get good at approaching hot women, you need to approach hot women. Nothing else is going to help you.
yes and no. whether the person you talk to is a guy, a girl you don't want to fuck, or a hot girl you want to fuck, it's all the same. it's basic human interaction skills. the mindfuck is the image they are projecting. if you let this take over like most people do, then you end up feeling cornered in yoru own mind with things, like that hot girl over there is unobtainable or out of your fuckin league or some shit.
it's all relative and it's all basically the same shit. if you OWN your own integrity then any bad or sketchy interaction with another human will be on them.
you'll also realize throughout the day, people go through a series of mood swings, and that this is "normal". you'll start to cringe at the people, people worship.
get out a lot and practice just talking to people, especially girls. Get over the idea that you're gonna fail and go and get embarrassed. Eventually, just like lifting, you'll start to learn more and your practice will become more efficient and pretty soon you'll actually know what you're doing, Next thing you know you'll have status and you'll be a normie
maybe not go out just to talk to girls, but whenever he has an interaction with a female, regardless of age or looks, make it go smoothly. but don't force sexual intent on the conversation.
as for status i don't think it always comes with the money, but it implies it.
>make it go smoothly
literally "b urself" tier advice
I actually have a circle of like 10 people in gym that I joke and bant with if they happen to be there - always really funny and everyone is laughing and shit.
But I have no desire to meet them outside of the gym.
I just want a gf :E
Had two now, but met both online. Both went to shit and yeah, online dating gets harder by the day.
When should you give up?
How do I get the desire to actually want to interact with people?
People think I'm just really shy, but sometimes, I just don't feel like talking, and if I'm in a situation where I feel like I have to talk to people when I don't feel like it, I get uncomfortable. But, I think if I just talk to people I'd get over it. The problem is, how do I get myself to want to talk to people.
Any suggestions?
do the dinosaur
maybe you just hang out with boring people. I hang out with my bros because we can talk about nerdy shit together and do stuff we're interested in. I hang out with women because i want to have sex
literally never
What you really need to understand is that wolves and dire wolves are both just wolves
It's not about treating them differently it's about you getting used to it.
Take a socially awkward guy and tell him to go to a 9 he will feel anxious. If he slowly makes his way by just being social to another man it just makes it easy in the long run.
Just talk to people, then talk to girls- don't force yourself to ask them out just ask them something like where this street is ask this to 5 average women in a day then ask them how their day is going if they seem warm then move on to hotter girls. The point is to make this a habit and get experience which you can use in other areas of life not "work your way up before you're worthy of hot girls"
its just Training user, like getting better with boxing or Lifting heavier and heavier.
You go out and Approach the shit out of Girls you like. Make your expiriences. You will get every time better and will see waht works for you.
Just Training. at least 2 days / week you go out for 2-3 ours and approache grills. Try to instand date them.
I've been noticing a lot of anons don't go out and train for social gains out of fear of having an autistic moment or being rejected. That is akin to not lifting heavier because of the fear of failing a rep. Go out there and push yourself. Experiment and find out what works. Start small. Be the guy that listens and nods and smiles and asks the occasional question to keep conversation going.
Pretty soon you'll pick up social gains like no tomorrow. It's all about going out there.
You think this is funny??
>They get the benefit of a smaller dude giving them respect, I get knowledge of how to one day surpass them. We both get the benefit of having someone new to bump fists with or give the nod to when entering the gym.
>make a habit of approaching people in the gym to work in using their equipment/machines at least once per workout
What the actual fuck? Do not do this if you don't have to. The gym is not a place to be sociable. If it isn't busy then go and use something else.
A U T I S M
Hot women want nothing to do with subChads. As a subChad you are expected to make yourself invisible. Talking to a hot woman makes your existence more offensive to her, especially if you dare to talk to her in a flirty tone, which implies that you think she is on the same looks level as you and dragging her down to that level is simply too insulting.
The hotter a woman is the more she hates creeps (subChads) and the more she lusts EXCLUSIVELY for Chad.
Proof:
>Several studies have reported positive correlations between women's ratings of their own physical attractiveness and the strength of their preferences for masculine characteristics in men's faces [92]. Other studies have extended this work by demonstrating that more objective measures of women's condition and attractiveness, such as their waist–hip ratio or oestrogen levels, predict their preferences for masculine characteristics in men's faces in the same way [171,172]. Similar correlations between indices of women's own attractiveness and the strength of their preferences for masculine characteristics in other domains, such as men's voices, have also been reported [173,174], and indices of women's own condition and attractiveness are positively correlated with the strength of their preferences for symmetry and healthy-looking skin in men's faces [92,175].
>The findings described above appear to be somewhat analogous to condition-dependent preferences observed in other species, in which individuals in good physical condition show stronger preferences for high-quality mates (e.g. [176]). Condition-dependent preferences in both humans and non-humans may have a common function and occur because individuals in good physical condition (i.e. attractive individuals) are better able to compete for and/or retain high-quality mates [92].
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nigga i ain't reading that
people don't like to be interrogated
fuck off
it was pretty funny t b h
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Is joining a frat a good idea for /social gains/ even if you don't drink?
Frat people are some of the most obnoxious, gossiping, weak willed "men" on college campus. Yeah you can join them to make social gains with other frat bros in college but they are usually shitty people that will probably indoctrinate you into their shitty habits.
This is genuinely good advice. Stop trying to add people to your life like a commodity. They are human beings, not items to keep in your house to make you look/feel good.
kek you are pathetic
oh yeah theyre the sluts? look who has no shirt on
just reverse that by having a shirtless girl and its suddenly the guys who are whores by grabbing some titty? hypocrite
What
link to that video?
What honestly helped me talk to girls at my college is I just see them as mildly less retarded 16 year olds. They are just as ditzy and retarded and I have no reason to be nervous around airheaded 16 year olds. It's actually helped alot
>be the guy that listens and nods and smiles and asks the occasional question to keep the conversation going
i read this in Dale Carnegie's How To Win Friends and Influence People. being a good listener is definitely a skill you have to possess, but if listening and asking leading questions is all your good at, the only people that will like you and desire your future company are very narsisistic. most people want you to contribute something entertaining.
Literally me if I didn't somehow have a group of friends that get me to do shit.
How do I approach girls that are mirin me? I notice it a decent amount now it's just that idk what to do about it.
Thanks for the truth bombs, Elliot!
You know about dopamine?
Well recently they did a study on gambling addicts that showed that the brain released the same amount of dopamine wether they won or lost.
What does that mean? Dopamine rewards the seeking of pleasure rather than pleasure.
So when you edge for two hours straight looking for good videos to fap to you are loading your brain with dopamine. Hell, i bet you masturbate to only one or two videos and end up with 10 unwatched tabs.
You genuinely dont want to seek relationships because you've found something much better.
So cut out on these habits, and you'll find yourself wanting to interact, not because you are starved of orgasms or information but starved of dopamine quests.
>end up with 10 unwatched tabs.
>streaming
I only watch it once, do you rewatch your porn?
Do you buy your porn dinner and treat it right?
Or do you carry a usb disk full of your favorite porn so you can be close to it even during the day.
If you spend any amount of time on porn other than just watching it then you are a filthy pleb.
how do i find nerdy DND tier friends? even in highschool i could only be friends with sporty types. every "nerdy" dude i approached was either super passive aggressive or socially retarded in some way. like i share their hobbies but they it was just painful to hang around them
this
asking questions is kinda beta dude, you'll never see natural leaders questioning every action or person.
t. someone who watches rick and morty
It's a lot quicker to find a siterip torrent than searching for shitty streamed porn every time
theres an app called meetup (or maybe its called meetme) that a lot of these types of groups use to form meeting and find members
i just hate people and like to be alone
>he didn't read how to win friends and influence people
GOD I miss /fitlit/
actually I read that, i just dont believe its true
pic related has been much more useful to me
I knew it... I'm surrounded by assholes
>Trying to learn social skills from a fucking book.
You guys are fucking nerds.
And I bet you're just a real treat to be around, aren't you?
it is what you make of it. gotta help yourself to help others right
cant deny that this is true lol
>A U T I S M
xD
Is there any good books on navigating conversations. Bonus points if it touches on flirting.
I'm asking for an autistic friend.