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All people looking to better themselves should try quitting porn. Nofap is only useful to some people and cold showers are only good at increasing toughness but not watching porn will work wonders to your confidence and you will in fact look back as your porn watching habit as a degenerate stage in your life you are glad you overcame.

How long have you been porn-free? I recently deleted my 220GB of porn after some seriously bad post-fap regret.

10 weeks and counting. Every time i get an urge i just rub one out using my imagination. Quitting porn may be hard, but it is worth it and will make you a better person.

Ill compile the positives i experienced in a list.
>no postfap regret
>more disgust for porn from an objective perspective as your personal bias is gone
>more drive to meet women in real life
>you feel 'cleaner'
>you feel more positive about yourself, less like a beta male who gets off to watching other people fuck (yes, you are basically a cuck when watching porn)
>you appreciate women in real life more, not in a nu-maley way, you just find good looking women more attractive since your standards arent raised extremely high by readily available images of a hot naked actress getting pounded
>makes other changes in your life easier (porn was an addiction for me, if i can overcome that a lot of other things seem minor)
Glad to help a fellow /sig/izen out, try quitting porn cold turkey today, it isnt really that hard.

I haven't watched porn in over 5 months.
I've been back on Veeky Forums for a couple of days and I already broke my 125 day nofap streak, and catch my self more and more often clicking on threads that have some chick in the OP. I've yet to go through a whole /fit grill/ or /high test/ thread, but I'm close to taking my dick out and jerking it to one of those.
I should probably leave this place again.

And still fap to FB pics?

Boy sure wish I could read this pixelated photograph

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Anyone take nootropics?

Iron never turns its back on men. Men turn their back on the Iron

Alpha brain because I'm a sucker, helps, but not a huge gain

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No, but i cant see how doing that is bad so go ahead.

Does Facebook pictures of girls I know count as porn?

Should i invest in stocks if i live in the third world?

Yeah man wool socks are a solid investment for all seasons

Should i bother with girls if i dont have car and dont know how to drive?

Yes but you should try to get a car and learn to drive because its essential in our times.

>blames self for everything
>knows nothing
>respects everyone
>knows limits, "often wrong"
>one is fucking dead already
That green hill is literally a cuck zone

If you have to ask then yes

think harder and maybe you'll realize how dumb you are

Anyone here quit weed after smoking daily for a long period of time? Been smoking pretty much daily for the last 2 years and have tried and failed to stop multiple times the last few months. I've recently realised its just holding me back.
On day 2 now, trying to change my perspective to see weed as a negative in my life.

Any experience, tips or changes you noticed when you quit?

world-geography-games.com/

do this every day for 5 minutes. Africa is really tough though

Should also note that if you're an anarchyfag porn is a violation of the NAP because of how highly it correlates with the women being abused children, human trafficking, prostitution, drug use, etc.

going to hand in a resume for an electrical apprenticeship tomorrow and shake the boss' hand, my friend works there as an apprentice and is going to put a good word in for me.

how do i nail this and not sperg out??? please fellas help me out i've been a neet for a year and i can't take it anymore

>just relapsed after merely one day
I can't do it brehs

They're not as great as you'd think. A good sleep and exercise routine help more. I tried noopept before it became illegal and I'm pretty sure it did nothing

Sounds like a bad path to go down. But it's much less harmful than porn.

Sounds like you're just memorising useless information. There's probably something more beneficial you could be doing

Try meditating, realise that this not that big of a deal but that you'll still remain calm. Talk to people before the interview so that you're warmed up and maybe even do some practice runs. At least ask your mate to give you some tips and what would be useful to know.
Remember to give a firm handshake, hold eye contact, and smile :)

Thats a pretty good point, didnt think of that
Its easy, just fap without porn if you really feel an urge. The longer you go without porn, the easier it gets to quit it.

darkmoon.me/2014/pornography-as-a-secret-weapon-by-lasha-darkmoon/
Reading this should keep you motivated. If you dont believe in /pol/ stuff, mentally replace the word jew with the name of another group you dislike, and if you are a /pol/ browser it should be very effective in your motivation to quit.

>darkmoon.me/2014/pornography-as-a-secret-weapon-by-lasha-darkmoon/

Holy shit, that shit is almost on a the same level as pizzagate but whatever helps you.

I'm nowhere near to what I want to be but I'm starting to change my habits.

>Started going to the gym 8 weeks ago and have not missed a single workout. Down 7kg (not that fat but I wasn't that skinny either.) Making gains. Diet is good now. Junk food isn't appealing to me anymore. People that haven't seen me in a while are mirin.

>Reading more.

>Doing Nofap for a while but hopefully Noporn permanently. Currently 12 days but my longest streak was 21 days. I was using porn as a crutch because of social anxiety problems.

Good job friend. What are you currently reading and would you recommend it to Veeky Forums?

The pastebin link and more free book link are broken if you haven't noticed yet.

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What's a good way to make male friends in a new city?
I'm 23 and just started an office job far from where I went to college. My coworkers are all much older, my short term roommates are degenerate as fuck party girls (my landlord dropped me in with them while my place is being renovated)
So I've actually gotten to fuck a few sloots via that circle of people, but I really need some bros. Being surrounded by only women is hell. I've met a few people at my gym, and a few rock climbing, but I feel like there's more I can do.

Not him but if you want some really awesome and challenging books, read Cormac Mcarthy. Don't start with blood meridian, instead read All the pretty horses, no country for old men, the road, etc. His books contain some really devastating and thought provoking concepts, and some great meditations on what it means to be a man. Blood meridian is one of the most challenging books I've ever read, but fuck me is it worth the effort.
>Who has not heard such a tale? A turn of the card. The whole universe for such a player has labored clanking to his moment which will tell if he is to die at that man’s hand or that man at his. What more certain validation of a man’s worth could there be? This enhancement of the game to its ultimate state admits no argument concerning the notion of fate. The selection of one man over another is a preference absolute and irrevocable and it is a dull man indeed who could reckon so profound a decision without agency or significance either one. In such games as have for their stake the annihilation of the defeated the decisions are quite clear. This man holding this particular arrangement of cards in his hand is thereby removed from existence. This is the nature of war, whose stake is at once the game and the authority and the justification. Seen so, war is the truest form of divination. It is the testing of one’s will and the will of another within that larger will which because it binds them is therefore forced to select. War is the ultimate game because war is at last a forcing of the unity of existence. War is god.
It's difficult to parse meaning because the author likes to break convention and use run on sentences without much punctuation, but goddamn.

Fuck, this convince me, no porn for me for the rest of my life
Gonna fuck hooker instead when i'm hotny

Couldn't recommend anything Veeky Forums related, I'm just reading /pol/ related books (reading Evolutionary Psychology Behind Politics by Anonymous Conservative.)

Although I want to read Anabolics 10th Edition.

Try grindr

How can I stay cool, calm and collected, in a non cringey way, while still being social?

I go between either being desperate, and bouncing around trying to talk to everyone, or chill but being by myself alone.
When I try to mix the two I just get weird looks.

Pic related, James Bond is calm and cool as fuck.

How to regain my compassion for my fellow man? I got a job and I'm starting to become bitter towards people and I don't like it. I'm trying to keep the viscous contentious thoughts out of my head but it gets harder when I constantly hear people slandering each other behind each other's backs and generally being horrible to each other. Also how are the lifts going my dudes? I'm getting close to 3pl8 deadlift myself and started running again.

The answer I should have expected on Veeky Forums

Take a genuine interest in other people, and make a conscious effort to slow down and give measured responses. Ask more questions than you answer. People love to talk about themselves. It's very easy to control the flow of a conversation when you're asking all the questions and giving very measured responses.

What do y'all think about pic related?

I've just hit rock bottom, and now i am going to ascend to godliness by next year.

When i say rock bottom, i mean no money, no university degree and a shitty job. How well can i repair being skinnyfat by July 5th, 2018?

who else /duolingo/ here?
or just learning a language in any way

Day 9 nofap here.

Holy shit it's a tough one.

Woke up hard. Got work in a few but can't keep my hands out of my pants. Pulled up porn and closed it. Opened Facebook to drool over a friend and closed it.

At least my boss won't be in today, she's normally cute little MILF but I'll bet after 9 days of not hitting the stress release valve she's a goddess.

red goat detected

James Bond is a fictional character. All his social interactions are planned out by a screenwriter. DO NOT try and imitate him.

learning spanish and japanese right now senpai

I find it's only really good as a supplement, it doesn't teach conjugation or syntax, just vocab.

>How to not be a fucking retard and molest people
I'm sure it has valid information, but it's very outdated. Check out that meditation pic I posted above and try to find what works for you through trial and error
Everyone should learn to meditate and gain some perspective. It's of great benefit

I seem to take care of myself when monitored by someone else, but otherwise I don't.

how fix

Turn on your Webcam and give me a link. I'll monitor and judge you for 0.1btc per week.

fuck this guy, I'll do it for 0.05 btc a week

Screw you buddy, this is my client now. Go poach r9k.

I can feel the improvement brahs

last year
>185 lbs
>ate junk food, and whatever else
>drunk all the time
>party all the time
>neet
>smoke cigs
>parents paid all my bills

this year
>160 lbs
>keto diet
>cook 90% of my food
>meditate 30 mins/ day
>drink sparingly
>quit cigs
>warehouse job making $14/hour
>parents only pay for my insurance

next year's goals
>save up for a telescope and learn the night sky
>stay at my job and hit incentive, make like $16/hour if I git gud
>start microdosing LSD twice a week
>start going to gym consistently even though my job is more than enough exercise
>save up and create a business plan so I don't have to be a wageslave forever
>learn a new language
>buy nice clothes that fit me so I don't look like a hobo anymore

Anything else I should put on my to-do list? Nofap is going to be my final challenge. I want to look as good as possible before I force myself back on the dating market. Yes, I know that's kinda autistic

Do they really pay for that? Cuz holy shit does that sound like something I could do, even if some fucko was giving me only like 0.01 btc/week

A man that has nothing to lose, has everything to gain.
We all gonna make it brah.

You can do really well in a year user. First step is building a budget. That shitty job needs to cover your rent food and gym costs. Then budget your time. Improving sleep vastly improves quality of life. Spending slightly less time relaxing or browsing the internet because "you earned it" can change a lot. Third, it doesn't matter what workout plan you choose, just stick to it religiously.
You're gonna make it.

so what do you use for the base

Classes at the gym, martial arts, team sports.

Why the fuck is microdosing LSD twice a week a goal for you? Alos, acid aint cheap

Either online classes or a rip of Rosetta stone. I also have a FWB who speaks French and she let's me practice and laughs at me.

I have fixed my sleep schedule by staying up for ~30 hours recently. I've been going to bed between 4 and 6 am, now I sleep between 10 pm and 6 am. The reason I did it this way is that this is the only reliable method of fixing one's sleep schedule, at least in my experience.
I've lost 15 kilos in the last 4 months, 4 more to go.
I've looked up my elbow problem that prevented me from lifting for the last 4 years on YouTube (turns out it's called tricep tendonitis), started doing the recommended workouts, and my pain has improved a lot in the last 5 days. Hopefully I'll be able to start lifting in one or two months, so I can avoid being the eternal skinnyfat.
The only things I have a problem with are studying, I tend to give up when I encounter something that is hard to understand, and my "internet addiction". I'll start studying tomorrow (I'm going to sleep in 20 minutes, no point in starting now).

Hello there red goat

I recently realized that one of the reasons I have shitty posture that holding a correct posture just feels unnatural, so I decided to stand and sit with a straight back every day for 10 minutes each. I also tend to cross my legs when I stand, which is just really fucking unmanly, so I want to get rid of that too. Also, could I get rid of my arachnophobia by touching random spiders? It's not really serious, like I don't run out of the room when I see one, but I'm really afraid of touching them. There are no deadly spiders where I live, fyi.

I already speak English relatively well (passed the C1 exam a couple years ago), but I plan on reading a book on grammar, since I feel like my grammar is bad, and I put new words I see online in anki (flashcard software), to expand my vocabulary. I don't plan on learning an entire new language though, because I don't feel like it would be the best use of my time right now.

I guess of you were a hot woman some poor sap would pay you to shout abuse at them via Skype, but I was just joking.

I started looking at pictures of spiders and it helped a bit. Still freak out if one sneaks up on me or is particularly big, but it's better.

Quitting smoking. Bought myself a block. 10 packs, 20 cigarettes each.

So what I am doing is putting away a cigarette from every new pack I open in the morning, +1 everyday. I literally smoke a pack a day.

Now on day 7, brought it down to 13 a day, gonna be 12 tomorrow.
So far I already cut it in half and I barely feel it.

Everything is working great brehs.

Depends on whether he lives in Europe or not really.

>putting boxing above literally all MMA
>putting Krav Maga in AT ALL, let alone at the very top of the list

too bad, I went in thinking I was going to enjoy this info

>not just googling the benefits yourself

I thought bodybuilders weren't lazy?

>Been improving slowly for years
>A lot better looking / confident / smarter / better job than before

>Old HS oneitis snapchatting herself
>She looks amazing
>Literally a beautifull woman

What the fuck lads I feel like I'm racing against time and I'm losing no matter the overall gains I'm making on all fields.

>less than $40 for a years supply
>not cheap

post her pic

Came back from a semester abroad there and trying to continue learning German through duolingo.

Great tool but should only really be used a supplementation to your language studies. It helps with vocab and reading, but really falls short of helping you listen and respond to people in person.

>tfw 4 inch dick
>tfw 5ft8
>tfw broke my back squatting
>tfw loterally retarded
>tfw got fired from burger king for being the dumb guy
>tfw kicked out of military for not being able to swim or fold clothes
>tfw 26 and cant swim or drive


Im still trying tho

Didn't make my dude, but i thought this guy's perspective would be interesting. I agree with the krav maga thing, that's simply bull (apart from perhaps some military taught stuff). And it wasn't as the very top it was second rank.
But apart from that being wrong everything else seems reasonable. Boxing kinda belongs on top because of the reasons he stated. He even states its cons. And mixed martial arts isn't exactly a martial art. It might be a class someone can take but it's a collection of styles, not just one. Anyway I definitely agree with his comments on boxing so i thought I'd post it

We're ALL gonna make it bro. Focus on recovering from your injury and your income first. Once you've got that in order I'd recommend picking up a martial art

How'd ya deal with relapse brehs?

For a while I thought the whole SI was doing the job, genuinely one of the best months I've had in a long time. However this didn't stop my inner pessimist saying I will probably fuck this up and low and behold I do.

find a hobby, or club and join it, like soccer or learning an instrument. Hiking or shooting is good too, if you want to just be with some bros. After a while you'll probably make some friends, and they'll likely have small parties so you can ease into it. I hate clubs too, and unless you're complete otter mode its a waste of time unless you're with your bros

Any tips on killing social anxiety (probably not the proper term but whatever). Basically, the last (and only) time I went to a club I broke the fuck down in the bathroom because I couldn't handle the crowds. Not sure if a psychiater is in my budget right now, but I really need something to make a couple of friends. Haven't talked to a girl in like 3 years.

>get told i need to flirt more to get girls
>cute girl at work saying how she wants to take off a day in august because she wants to take her 2 year old nephew to disneyland
>ask if she has a kid who she's gonna take with him
>she says "no its just us two, i dont have any kids duh"
>i jokingly reply "would you like some help with that?"
>end up in HR

i hate you Veeky Forums

never flirt with anyone at work man, women will sic those HR crazies on anyone without hesitation. Its playing with fire, not worth

Sorry for deleting the post, posted again because I'm pretty sure it's not social anxiety. I've already got a hobby (MMA/BJJ/Kickboxing gym) with the goal of creating some friendships and I think I'm pretty close to actually having made some friends there. We're gonna go to a tournament together this saturday and I'm actually looking forward to watching them compete. We don't really hang out a lot outside of the gym yet (go out to grab food some time) but I go there like 4 times a week so we do talk quite a lot.

I'm surprisingly non-spergy in regular conversation, but for some reason crowds just get my head all fuzzy. I know this shouldn't be a problem but everyone at my gym is male, and everyone at my work is male, which means I don't ever get in contact with woman. All of my newly made acquaintances

keep doing it over and over until it becomes less shitty.

thats it

I see, you could always join some co-ed sport like softball or soccer, great way to show how athletic you are and meet some qts
Or even a book club or dance class.
Its good you have a hobby and some bros, you just need to find something that girls will be doing too so you can start to meet some.

Bruh that's some r9k tier autism, why tf would you think that was the right thing to say?

it was just jokingly flirting right?

thanks man i needed that

i read it, here is ur redpill

it has very valid, universal information. in order to see any results, you will have to constantly practice what this book says, and refer back to it when confused.

basic message is to take everything else from the other persons point of view.

what i didn't like is his countless anecdotes of when his principles were applied. most of it didn't seem real and there is no real way to fact check. it just gets incredibly repetitive.

What if I'm on nofap but a snapchat girl from tinder is begging to see me cum what do I do

I can't fuck her she's too far away but she sends me amazing videos

mindfulness can help with insomnia , stress

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ive been seeding this

That's a very unique situation desu
Maybe do it on live cam or something

uh huh sure

this, that book is a fucking meme

i listened to the audiobook and there are basically like 8 main principles that they extend out to 300 pages because of personal anecdotes of people using them

fucking waste of time

Anyone read this book? I'm 27 years old and i'm looking to return to college to finish a bachelors degree but im lost on what to major in.

Anyone have any experience with this book or my problem in general? Advice is greatly appreciated.