Sexual Health Thread

Look for pussy somewhere else. When u get caught put the blame on her. Gg no re

Well, it destroys any sort of confidence and feelings of self-worth, that's for sure. It also makes you extremely uncomfortable around women.

I pretty much don't regard women as people these days. They're aliens to me.

How can you love yourself when no women ever has.

I also have phimosis, which makes the situation even worse.

t. 26 yo kv.

brazil. got tested for stds recently, surprisingly im clean.

honestly this is the average sort of girl i wish i had been having one night stands with in college

nothing really noteworthy about her but it would be a good night of feeling like you're normal. i'd almost rather bang her than someone objectively prettier because at that point you're like "ok you're banging me but you're out of my league, what's your angle"

with this girl you're like "ok shes just horny like me, we're both average. cool"

anyway whats this thread about?

>tessa
>average

:|

So I have had phimosis since young, but by stretching when I fap I have managed to loosen my foreskin enough to fully retract.Problem is it squeezes the head and hinders cumming a lot. Now my girl doesnt mind it a lot since I can go on for hours (thanks cardio) but I do.We've had sex 5 times now and I still havent cum with her,and frankly I'm getting pissed off.Will it fix itself if I keep on retracting it or will I need to see a doc ?

>being this new.

every relationship has a bit of game/manipulation going both ways. these things are hardwired biologically to keep you both honest and alert.
complacency is the enemy of greatness and I would wager your relationship would benefit from some independence.

that being said, extreme levels of manipulation are also pathological.

walk the path the best you can.

25 to virgin. It's doing terrible things to my mental health but I'm not sure in what ways.

Feels like extended bouts of unemployment in a way. Like no wants you so what's the point.
Don't know why I even lift these days. A revolver ain't that heavy.

So Veeky Forums I've finally got a gf and am having sex again after a two year dry spell. My only problem is that I have been masturbating too hard and wasn't able to cum during sex. Well I did once, but I alwardly masturbated for like 5 minutes at the end and I definitely don't want to do that every time.

My question is though, how long do I have to wait to get the feelin back in my dick to cum proper again? And I've seen that penis restoration creams exist but I'm a little worried to waste my money on something that may or may not work. Have any of you had success with the creams?

I feel like lifting gives me something to focus on, a hobby if you will. lifting is keeping me sane and having a nice body is always nice regardless of what attention one gets from women.

Have you ever asked a girl out? I haven't because I am 100% sure I would get rejected.

Thinking of going to some club soon, and find some easy fat chick to lose my virginity to. If i can find one that is.

Take some MDMA, it changes everything (for a few hours at least).

stop watching porn and stop masturbating for a week. How do I get a gf

>cant get it for free
lower your standards until you are successful then work your way up from there. Its just like lifting you gotta start small

>starts sleeping with fatties
>ends up marrying one
Happens way too often

Had the same problem. Easily fixed within a 4-8 weeks as long as you totally stop masturbating or viewing porn.

> Is it wrong
What did he mean by this?

he aint gonna be fuckin' if he's on mdma

You blame her, but have you considered that you are a boring lay? Mix it up. Try new stuff. Sick it in her pooper.

You cant feel your dick on molly.

If he takes a small dose, he can, especially if he has some cialis on hand.

>Sick it in her pooper.
Is this some emetophilia variant?

I was at a party and there was like 3 girls there and 20 dudes that we're all rapey as fuck. I started chatting with a girl that I knew back in high school and we ended hooking up. I knew she was kinda a slut but I was drunk and we fucked anyway. She was on birth control and I didn't wear a condom. Should I be concerned about STD's?

Bars and House parties are better for pussy. Especially House parties. Half my hookups have came from fucking a girl in some kids parents bedroom.

>Okay so we all know sex is basic biological need and some of us cant get it for free.
It's not.

Don't forget a gallon of water so he doesn't die.

This shit happened to me too. You NEED to start doing stuff on your own. Hanging out 24/7 and planning everything with your gf kills the relationship in the long run.

That said, you guys should also do interesting stuff together. Watching TV and being inside in general might seem nice and chill but try taking her to walks, to the zoo... I dno, just try to do something refreshing once in a while. Make plans with your friends and take her with you or something. Get wasted.. whatever sounds good and might lead to some nice moments/memories or wild sex.

When it comes to spending time on your own, she might be pissed at first but will most likely find it attractive regardless. If not, then fuck her, there's no saving her and you're better off moving on. And remeber that she's most likely not irreplaceable even thought it might feel like it at the moment. Wish you all the best, user.

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Once a week is enough to not feel frustrated for me

Start to crave it after 2 weeks

Once every couple of days is my optimum desu

I'm a girl in a long term relationship for context

>wasting money for gf

Fixed itself for me, if you can cum when you fap but not during sex the problem is likely a mental issue. Try no fap.

Is it harder to settle for masturbation as a means of relief if you're not a virgin? 21 year old virgin here, the idea of buying a hooker doesn't really interest me whatsoever. It's not about the physical, it's about longing for the feeling of being loved/appreciated enough for someone to actually WANT to sleep with you

Hookers are purely a physical experience and you'll probably feel like shit afterwards, or am I wrong?

>1-2 months of nofap/noporn

I'm not a masochist

This. also to get gf look up rsd on youtube. every autist can get a gf with some work

When I was in high school a girl tricked me into thinking she wanted to be my gf and then made me a fool in front of her friends

Gave me trust issues, I get close with a decent looking chick and I think she's playing me somehow so I pull out rather than risk getting burned

Yes you would. thats why you should ask out 100, that way you will get a few dates and some practise.

For girls, abstaining doesn't alter the chemicals in your brain/body like it does for men, right? Sometimes the relief of ejaculation is all you can think about, it's like a drug

I'm in almost the same situation but have the opposite problem. I finally landed a gf after a 2 year dry spell, but anytime we fuck I cum way too fast. Any solution?

This is solid advice

>it's about longing for the feeling of being loved/appreciated enough for someone to actually WANT to sleep with you

We don't live in the 1950s anymore. Women use sex as a weapon/tool to get what they want. If they could acquire your resources/time/attention without sex, then they would. Just get a hooker or visit a brothel. I go to Hong Kong Gentleman's Club once a month in Tijuana, Mexico. For $60, I get 30 minutes of sex with my choice of a beautiful 8/10 latina.

What if 100 girls reject you? Suicide mode?

Abstain from any porn or masturbation for at least 3 days, blueball yourself with foreplay beforehand

lower your standards and do another 100

I'm not an idiot I know that, but as long as I think it's genuine. If I paid for sex I know 100% she's not actually into me

I have no standards to begin with. Even one rejection would destroy me for life, though.

it smells like literal shit when we fuck.

how do i find out if it's me or my gf and how do we prevent this? neither of us are overweight

This

Depends. not really that hard to get a gf though. you are just not trying. put 1 hour into it every day.

then stop being a pussy and do another 100

Are you me when does one feel that a girl loves you and doesn't feel only lust im lost mane

its all in your head. Try to relax more, it will sort itself out in time. One way is to force yourself to continue after cumming. if you never stop pumping your dick will stay hard.

That is definitely true, but as some other people have mentioned the fear of rejection is a strong one. I'm just a pussy

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Start small then. try to make some female friends. aim for a hug maybe..also when you are destroyed and have nothing more to los..is when chad is born

>try to make some female friends
I don't even have male friends and I've never had a female friend before.

don't worry, female or male, friends are equally easy to make

If they were, I wouldn't be friendless now would I?

maybe you're just not fucking trying

this

>How can you love yourself when no women ever has

Why should any woman love you if even you can't do it?

Go talk to a few people tomorrow. lets say 3.

for example you ask for the time, and if they know where x turist attraction is. then ask if if she has been. is it good? Ok thank you, good bye

next

this way you wont get laid straight away, but if you do this for 1 hour a day your sosial skills
and confidence will grow.

>for example you ask for the time, and if they know where x turist attraction is. then ask if if she has been. is it good? Ok thank you, good bye

I'm not on that stage yet. I'm still practicing eye contact. I've almost literally become autistic over the years.

I went to Colombia for a bachelor party I fucked two hookers and not sure I will do it again. One I couldn't finish because I did some Coke. She was not very pretty(5/10 face 6.5/10 body) but could take a dick like no other girl I've been with and was wild in bed even if it was all a show it makes a difference. but her pussy was like a cave I could fit my whole hand in no problem. The other girl only escorted like once or twice a week and she was crying in pain from my 7.5 in dick I had to stop and she finished me off with a BJ. She was hot (7/10 face 9.9/10 body) though and tight as fuck my dick hurt after, too bad she was a dead fish in bed.

If this is real, then try getting drunk.

>tfw 25 year old kissless virgin
>never asked a girl out before or had one show any interest in me
>ugly as fuck and been told this my whole life
>haven't had friends since middle school
>each year of isolation made my autism, adhd, weirdness worse and pushed more people away, which led to the current situation
>literally have no interest in sex or wanting to be with a girl because the years of isolation have made me get annoyed and angry by people in general
>don't even care about no gf, no friends, shut in virgin anymore, its all ive ever known, i dont even know what its like to be normal

I just have no chance guys. I think my time is up for this world.

I want to see your face and determine if you really are ugly

I'm not ready for the responsibility of children so I abstain. People shouldn't do something if they aren't ready to face the consequences of their actions, it's the reason we have so many single mothers around.

>I can't get laid
The post

then why arent monks dead? fucking kike pyramid
BASE MEANS YOU GET OR YOU DIE fuck outta here with that shit

Sorry to hear that bro. but really though..there is still hope. go do some chairity work maybe. try to meet people in a friendly environment where you can offer some value. get out of the house.

We are all gonna make it

I have sex with one hooker every month. I wish i could afford more visits but thats what my budget allows.
At least it gives me motivation to work for a better paying job.
Honestly ive met some pretty cool hookers (overstay for chit chat or given back some of the tip money).
My biggest fear is actually finding a gf and her asking about previous partners.

>sex is basic biological need
>sex
>biological need

HAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHA, no.

And don't go memeing with MUH HIERARCHY.

You can survive your entire life without having sex. The majority of people go 17 years without it from birth. It is not necessary for biological function.

I've been with my gf for three years. For the first year we probably had sex five times a week and I was probably getting three BJs too. We moved in together and it's literally twice a month now. I jack off a lot but I think being in a long term relationship actually reduces your libido if you choose to be faithful.

mate. look into penis extenders and/or surgery.
since you have no sex to begin with, you have nothing to lose.

Wizard+ here.
Have been heavily considering escort for months. Can't gather the nerve. I have money, apartment, live alone, no moral qualms, but I keep coming back to Terrible Things That Could Go Wrong With Everything episode #213, Series 08.

Plan was take day off work, call hooker over, give money, insist on condom-only stuff, get this shit over with. But I just can't gather the nerve, keep finding excuses for why it's not a good time right now.

I think I mostly fear finding out just how much I built up sex in my mind, and realizing getting it won't help my crushing depression, removing another big item off the list of things that I can blame my shit life for. Without the idea of sex to hang on to for salvation, I'd have almost nothing.

Yup. It's a base instinct. People who value sex over learning and self improvement are invariably degenerate.

Maybe it's an idea for you not to just go for a hooker, but get a Girlfriend Experience escort instead, if you have the money anyway

fuck this meme. size dossent matter. think of the millions of chineses. the only benefit of a big dick is the psychological dommination effect. nothing else.

source: the the sex god method.
its a good read.

i have ajob and work with a number of coworkers and i literally choose to eat alone rather than with them.

on the rare occasions i eat with them, i just get annoyed listening to them and sit there quietly

yo if you really feel frustrated about your situation/if sex diminishes even more you should hit up r/deadbedrooms. My first relationship was with a girl that had issues with her vag hurting really bad after sex, so her libido went way down. We didn't have sex for a year, it killed my confidence. I believe that her hurting came from feeling uncomfortable in sex situations due to me not appreciating her personality more, thus I suppose she felt exploited.

In general, the thing that I feel works the best to improve sex life is understanding each other. That comes from talking and really trying to see the other person's perspective, and doing your best to create a comfortable space for the other person to express themselves in sexually. And by that I don't mean that they should be showered by "you're hot"-comments during sex, I'm talking about
A) getting really, really intimate with talking. Understanding each other's issues and getting to the bottom of what they feel about sex+what makes them comfortable and uncomfortable
B) going to lengths to try to accomodate that comfort, so that they feel safe in sexual situations. This might mean stepping back and not having sex for a while BUT ONLY IF you feel that your connection is intimate and you are working on getting closer. If you neglect sex while drifting apart you'll never be having sex frequently again.

This said, your sex drive is hella important and the agenda of increasing how often you guys have sex is to be prioritized. Communicate on how you can make the situation comfortable for the both of you but don't whimp out on your position. Demand things, by demanding closeness and intimacy - ask her to explain to you so that you understand exactly how she feels, because being left out on your sexuality is dreadful.

It's late and I'm tired and I don't know if this post made any sense but best of luck to you man, don't settle for feeling that your needs aren't being met

>Girlfriend Experience escort
Tell me more, user.

Not that I think I'd feel comfortable kissing / going down on an escort, ever.

I am you except for some reason I have a qt gf. Now I kinda want out of the relationship but don't wanna wait another 15 years to get laid

ive never gotten one but basically the "girlfriend experience" is where rather than just meeting up with a hooker for sex, you basically meet this escort who you actually interact with as though shes your girlfriend.

you go out to restaurants and other places together, eat dinner together, you guys talk/text on the phone like you're actually dating, etc

You hire an escort for an extended amount of time and go do fun stuff together first and let it slowly devolve into sex (if you want to)

sexuality is your thing man, do it as much as you feel like. Don't let anyone else tell you that you need a certain number, work to achieve what you enjoy

If you work on yourself while you're improving your social skills + looking up some stuff on game you're gonna be able to get laid. Trust me. Just stay the fuck away from that red pill shit, creating more distance between yourself and women is not what you want if you want to get closer to them.

work on self -> confidence -> being able to bang -> realizing this isn't what it's about in the long run -> confidence -> realizing meeting someone you enjoy talking to is something that you can do and deserve to do -> disregard fucking everything that moves -> work on self -> eventually meet someone you like -> fulfilling relationship which is decently stable because you've worked out your issues during the work-on-yourself-develop-confidence phases

quote me on this

>had sex with my fuck buddy about 2 weeks ago
>dumped 4 or 5 loads of cum in her during an all day fuck session
>she's on birth control but there's always a chance...

I'm a little bit worried. I've came in her before with no issues but I'm the paranoid type...

How can you have fun in such a situation when you know she probably hates you guts and is just hoping for the current situation to soon be over with?

>caring what your cumbucket thinks
This is why you're a virgin. Pretend like you do (with a real girl) but then fuck her like you dont