>spent weekend alone in my home again
>no friends to do things with
>haven't had friends in over a decade
>haven't gone out, for dinner or drinks, etc in over a decade, just spend my nights indoors
>have no social skills
>see girls going out, revealing clothing, loud and full of energy
>tfw 33 year old kv
>tfw ugly af and 5'6"
what is the point of living? how do i even begin turning my life around?
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Do you want to turn your life around? Leave your house more often to get rid of that depression. You can go out for dinner just fine by yourself and you will eventually trip in more social situations where you can social skills. If you keep doing whatever you have been doing nothing will change.
At least you have good taste in women
fuck 10/10 trannies from backpage like lenny
>short hair
Come again.
Omae wa mou shindeiru
Do this. Try to talk to the waitress. Talk a little bit to any service industry people. They're forced to be nice or at least tolerate you, and if you fucked up and spill spaghetti, you'll probably never see them anyway and/or they won't give a shit because you're the 200th person they've interacted with that day and they're likely not paying attention to you anyway.
find someoone online that shares your intrest and meet up. thats how i met my life long friend. Dont fall for this "go outside" meme theres noone there.
>You can go out for dinner just fine by yourself and you will eventually trip in more social situations where you can social skills
i do eat at restaurants when i travel (solo travel because no friends). i can do it, but it doesn't help social skills really
they always seem busy though, it feels like I'm using up their time and taking time from other customers that need to be served
33 and a kissless virgin? Dude, what have you been doing with your life?
You have complete control over yourself and your life. It's your attitude that sucks. Get off your computer. Start working out. Cut your fuckin hair. Get some dope ass clothes and go do something. Get out of your house. And you better not reply to this with any fucking excuses as to why you can't, because I do not want to hear them. This is your life. Do you really want to be a loser for the whole thing?
You think this shit is easy? Everything I've wanted in my life I worked for. I wanted girls. I worked on myself until they started to like me. I wanted a body. I worked on it. I wanted to be interesting, to stand out. I worked on that too. Take control.
Ok, I left the house. Now what? I can't meet up with anybody since I don't know anyone. What's next?
>Start working out. Cut your fuckin hair. Get some dope ass clothes
I've done all of these
>do something
what can i do exactly? if i knew what to do, i would have done it by now
this
Go fucking work out, you idiot. Get swole.
Do you have a job?
If not, get a job, invite colleagues out for a drink on Payday, Facebook friend them (If you're scared they'll find out you have no friends just play with the settings so you can only see mutual friends.)
Or maybe sign up for a marathon & join a running club to train.
Bond with them until better opportunities open up. Think of it like playing pokemon or something. You start with the shitty one you get for free then build up.
Look for meetup groups in your area based on your interests. (Google meetup + your city)
Find events like trivia nights at your local bar and ask groups if you can join them (you can even say your friends just bailed if you don't want to look too deperate)
Take adult classes at community centers for something you have an interest in.
Get a dog and go to the dog park
Just fucking kill yourself already, you defeatist prick.
>they always seem busy though.... something something waste time etc
Just value your own time over theirs or others. This is part of fixing the beta mindset, every social situation is a competition of various people's interests. You have to hold your interests over other's so that you can get your way. Work with their interests, but don't let them pole over the situation.
Don't let them plow* over the situation.
Also in general don't let the fear of hurting/angering others hold you back
Literally this. You got completely full control over your life, you are the fucking master of your own realm - own it.
i regularly work out
i have a job
i dont use Facebook
my coworkers all know me as the quiet guy. they don't want to hang out with me
First you should change your mentality from that you can't do it to that you can do it. Nothing will help if you've got that bad mentality. I recommend joining a group doing things you're interested in, so you have something in common. Board games, hiking, biking. Your job probably have some sort of company sports you can join. If it doesn't work out, try something else until you make it and don't feel defeated if you try.
This, get a pet - dog.
Get a hobby. Join a martial art club or some shit, you already lift or do something with your body I assume.
This.
>Social retard?
Work in retail, cause you have to work with people. Look them in the eyes and smile - thats the only thing that matters. Eye contact and smileys.
>haircut and new clothes
small changes for you, but its worht it. Started wearing a watch last christmas, everyone noticed.
>dont know anyone
joine a sportsclub: boxing, judo, football, soccer, whatever.
...
What kind of body do you need to have to get a girl like that?
>This, get a pet - dog.
how will this help?
don't live near a dog park
seems like it would just use up my time taking care of it
One with a big, fat, thick wallet.
be yourself
Do you have a job? You must have quite a bit of money saved if all you do is go home everyday and never spend a cent on anything.
Go fuck an escort. You can probably budget enough to fuck one every month if you aren't spending on anything else.
Make friends at the gym since you go regularly then nigger it's not rocket science.
what if you use a home gym?
just buy day passes at random gyms, show off gains, and hope to make friends while making small talk to people trying to workout?
literally BEE URSELF
it's fucking easy
I'd like to say that everyone can always turn their life around, but if you've made it to 33 and haven't done anything to have a life then I don't know what to say. You reap what you sow: if all you've done for your young adult life is sow apathy then that's all you're going to reap for the future. Maybe try getting off your ass and being a man. Sow some damn confidence and maybe in a year or two you'll actually be a functioning member of society.
Go to a normie gym and become a regular damn normie. Lift regularly, at the same time, be around the same people, don't be a fucking aspie and you'll eventually make friends with the people you spend so much fucking time with. If you don't, you may just suffer from overwhelming autism. In which case, 2D may be your best bet.
Op i am going to be you. It sucks.
I haven't had friends since I was 13, and that's caused every problem in my life.
I have ADD and I'm weird as fuck, a deadly combination of weirdness and being annoying that drives people away from me.
Not having friends led to social isolation, and also never meeting girls
Becoming isolated meant I became lonely, miserable, bitter through high school, so I didn't learn how to interact socially with peers, which carried over into college so i basically had the same existence there
All the isolation, misery, loneliness, etc, meant I had nothing to work towards, so no motivation, mediocre grades, shit emaciated body.
Graduate college, move back home, terrible relationship with parents, only child. Can't even get into grad school and work a shit job around other people who are actually successful
Now a 25 year old kissless friendless shut-in (besides work) who has never even attempted to get a girl and now I'm scared to not only try to get a girl, but even friends, because everyone has always hated me so I don't want to burden others with my presence. I've basically been a shut in since I started high school at 14. No life experiences at all. But honestly my virginity doesn't even bother me.
If I try to have "real" conversations with anyone and don't just crack jokes, or try to actually hang out with people, it will become clear very quickly that I have no friends, no girl, no life, awkward corner sitter, the people I talk to will repel from me because of this, and I'll be worse off than when I started.
I'm just grumpy, sarcastic and angry cracking jokes all the time. Can never be serious about anything, always have to make observational jokes or "witty" comebacks.
I listen to the things my coworkers talk about and literally cannot gather myself to care about their lives. I just get annoyed by most people.
I basically just exist and go through the motions of life at only 25 years old, the "prime" of my life.
>33 year old
I am 34 myself. it is harder to meet new people when you are in you 30s everyone has settled down or turned bitter.
Every dude thinks you are gay if you try to strike a bro conversation. Every woman thinks you are hitting on them and act all stuck up if you talk to them.
I still force myself to go out at least twice a week so I do not turn into a fat troll with no social skills. At first I felt weird going out by myself but it is better than staying indoors the whole week.
I workout every day religiously and when I go out I usually just end up talking with the whatever bartender or whatever old man is also loser drinking, like me.
I have gotten hit on by "women" but they are often very fat and to gross looking, even with the beer googles on.
>or whatever old man is also loser drinking, like me.
What stops you from forming bonds with them?
you care too much what other people think
This kind of advice is for people who sit on their ass all day and play league of legends.
What the hell do you do if you have a good career, you're working out, reading, and make an effort to socialize and shit still isn't going right?
>that one picture from Hey Arnold about the old guy.jpg
social skill is a muscle and can be worked out accordingly
>spent weekend alone in my home again
This isn't so bad. But generally it's easier to make plans in the weekend.
>no friends to do things with
define "things", you don't mention any hobbies. Usually they help.
>haven't had friends in over a decade
maybe try a sports team? Or if your no good at sports go for something non-physical.
>haven't gone out, for dinner or drinks, etc in over a decade, just spend my nights indoors
You can go out for dinner and drinks on our own. If you want to do this with people you gotta be more social.
>have no social skills
It's half genetics and half pattern matching. Yes people talk about outliers, the autistic chad or the fat average guy who has immense charm with women, these guys are both bringing something to the table. You can work on your social skills but it will be hard and you will need to learn patterns and adapt to different environments.
>see girls going out, revealing clothing, loud and full of energy
This is nothing new.
>tfw 33 year old kv
Is this a problem?
Forget holding out for the one, or someone special. Go fuck some hookers and fix the mental block in your brain that keeps you from success. Then as you get Veeky Forums you should at least be able to fuck your way through some practice girls. There is nothing with dicking some 3/10 milfs that are your age and used up.
>tfw ugly af and 5'6"
Remember it can be about genetics with most women because a lot of them are pieces of shit. Realistically what do you rank your self out of 10? do you really think you should be hitting above your weight? At least this is why many lift, you are adding points to your score.
what is the point of living?
There probably isn't much of a point, sometimes I think many of us may be able to. If you have the feeling that nothing matters then you can take control as success and failure no longer have triumphs or consequences. You are free to do as you please and do what you want.
how do i even begin turning my life around?
do a 360
Join some sort of club where you can do something you like.
Prefereably some group stuff and prefereably involving females.
In the case you ran short of ideas just take dancing lessons (salsa, tango, anything involving partner dancing).
>i regularly work out
the way you phrase that make me think you just fuck around in the gym. you didn't say "I'm swole/ripped/aesthetic," you just "work out." If you work out regularly and aren't aesthetic, you need to 1) fix your diet 2) get a real program instead of fucking around 3)try harder
could you fucking retards quit asking that question. having a great body is quite a ways down the list of things needed to get a girl like that.
face, status, wealth, personality, social circle are all more important than your body
I want to start a personal training course for guys like you. Honestly. What would you be willing to pay for a course that would guarantee you social skills enough to do those things?
beee urself bro!
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Are you fit though?
I've been living in the woods on my own for 5 years lifting and growing food and eating my chickens eggs.
Made the decision to go it alone when I was 20.
I play sports too though, like a lot of them. And I meet people and get short term girls and relationships out of the teams and sports I play.
Get big and play sports would be my advice I guess. I barely talk to anyone and spend most of my spare time shitposting on Facebook with fake accounts.
see a therapist
