Mental Health and Wellbeing

I've got comfortable in my night shift wageslave job so that's not good. 1.5 years in now.

Reading Models by Mark Manson, great book and even though it's focused on dating most of the book can be applied to everyday life.

I left a pretty good job to go back to school for something I'll enjoy more. I am currently working a pretty dead-end job until it starts.

This year has been a bit of disaster in ways, my financial situation is damaged. I'm in the best physical and mental shape of my life though, no amount of money was going to make me happy the way I felt about myself and my life. I had to make some drastic changes, I would have never guessed a year ago I would be where I am right now. For better and worse.

>what have you read recently?
The Confidence game, its about con-men from history, and the science surrounding how they think
>what have you done for your career?
In college, I hate it every day
>how's life user?
My girlfriend broke up with me. She was ugly but I really liked spending time with her. We only dated a couple weeks, but it still feels really bad, she was the first person I ever kissed. I guess next time I'll be a little bit less pathetic for the experience.

You've been great, Veeky Forums. Thank you for the laughs.

>night shift
Comfy as fuck, I miss working nights, but yeah its a shift for people trying to run from life at best, sleep depriving and stressful at worst.

Been fucking some girl. Don't really feel infatuated at all but I'd be pissed if she fucked somebody else
Do I like this girl?

Reading On Killing and it's good, also some Julius Evola
In college and I'm doing well in my classes
Life is good, I do not have any issues adhering to my diet and workout schedule, and I'm working on getting a job here on campus. Working out feels great, I love my music, and I'm looking forward to winter break.

currently reading Investing For Dummies

Finishing up a big project here soon at work

Its ok, I feel kind of trapped right now with my mortgage and all I do is lift, work and sit around waiting for work to start again

Been struggling with lifting a bit because I have a lot of stress at university and work but I recently finished my masters thesis and am basically done now so I should be good from here on out.

Recently I have always been tired and felt weak, hopefully that changes now

>what have you read recently?
Just got done with Suttree by Cormac McCarthy. It's good, I think it lacks the intensity of his other books.
>what have you done for your career?
I've taken on a massive new project. I get to the office an hour early and stay a half hour or an hour late to balance it with everything else I do. I want to be known as that guy that gets it done. No matter what "it" is. And I want to make it look easy.
>how's life user?
It's okay. I just realized I havnt gone on a non-booty call social outing in almost 3 months. I really need friends.

Looking for a new job so I have more money to invest

Broke up with gf cause she was talking to guys in tinder

Lifts aren't going that well and just did a reset

At least I have a lot of free time due to night shift and no gf

probably not. just somewhat obsessive i'd say, but whatever works.

I haven't been out socially in 3 years

Reading graps of wrath by Steinbeck atm. It's great of course.

Going for a three hour train ride to go to my nightshift job with a head that might burst though.
Got a lot of mires yesterday at a reunion party before i puked in the bushes and left that it felt unreal but it's nice. Second weekend in a row I got compliments that made me blush crazily.
Still no girl around though that i'm crazy about and she's too. There's one I slept with last weekend for the whole day and it was so great i fell a bit too much for her and now I'm way too emotional about the whole thing and just wanna avoid it. The girls in our circle keep eyeing me but they're all taken. Trying to be contempt with just what I get, but it seems horribly hard.

Lets hope the comfy season will calm me down and make me a little more peaceful in just pursuing the goals i actually can change

Welp thanks for reading my blog post. Take care guys.

any reason for it?

I can see myself going down that path.
If not for tinder and bumble id be totally alone in this new city

Not had any friends for that length of time, couple friends I did have from high school moved on and have their own lives in different cities.

You don't have any urge to socialise eventually I used to want friends and a social life but now it doesn't cross my mind, this is my normal.

Anyone have any advice about social anxiety? I don't know how to get rid of it

I don't want that. I gotta make a change

what about coworkers? or go to hobby clubs if you're in college, maybe. i feel you, i moved across the country mid-high school, ended up having no friends by graduation. it helps to force yourself out of your comfort zone.

>>what have you read recently?
Nietzsche, book on Wagner, currently reading another book on Wagner and one on classical Europe
>>what have you done for your career?
Just starting my masters
>>how's life user?
All my flatmates still at uni basically work 9-5 whereas I have a huge workload. They also have people who they spend time with outside the flat, but I don't really have any other friends left at uni. My best mate went somewhere with his gf yesterday that I've been wanting to go to for a while, in the meantime I spent nine hours in the library trying to get through pre term prep. I then came home to find them banging on the other side of my bedroom wall. Also my lower back's been injured for months and now my elbow's out of play for a week probably. I'm a bit of a workaholic, and I have a lot of work to do, so I know I'll be spending a large portion of my waking hours this week holed up in the library. Even though I couldn't wait to get back to uni all summer now that I'm here I'm probably actually less happy than any point in the last six months or so, before which I had a bit of the depression. I feel like I need to make new friends for the first time in years, which means either coursemates (not big on this option) or the uni powerlifting club, which makes it an extra bummer that I'm out of the gym this week and maybe longer. Also doesn't help that (obviously) I'm somewhat socially awkward and got a touch of the old social anxiety.

I work alone as night shift security so no coworkers, shifts are 10hours of me by myself.

Make a change now or the social skills you have will start to deteriorate trust me.

social anxiety blows, but i would recommend having a little focus on yourself first. you can't be confident socially if you are insecure about yourself. If there's something i've learned in my short amount of time of being on Earth, it's that the way you see yourself will often have an effect on how you see your surroundings.

what do you want to improve in yourself? what do you not like? make an effort to be your best self, it should help.
as far as social situations, put yourself in a mindset that reminds you that everyone is human, that no one is born confident. every single human has had moments where they are unsure of themselves.

maybe i'm wrong, everyone's situation is different after all, but this is true for most things. put yourself out there user

get a different job user. night shifts are terrible, and aren't going to be a valuable career investment, get out while you still can.

Don't be afraid to take a gap year. A lot of people could have done better in college if they had taken a gap year and gotten a lot of the partying and stuff out of the way then

Life is pretty goddamn sweet. Just spent the morning /out/ in the woods. Marriage is great, career going well, lots to keep me occupied. No complaints.

I've been night shift for 1.5 years now but I was a neet before that. I've just got comfortable working alone in the dark. I know I can't live like this forever though.

Tips for healthy marriage/relationship?

Im poor, lonely and depressed

Tommorow Im going to game store to sell my old gamecube and some of my favorite games ever just so I can eat

>what have you read recently?
De Re Militari, Patton: A study in Command, and, Lays of Ancient Rome.
>what have you done for your career?
Absolutely piss all. I've never had one.
>how's life user?
Terrible. I'm impatient and unable to focus when it matters. I've read enough to start working on my problems, yet don't despite the misery. I lack discipline and will of action. Really, I need to shut this damn thing off.

Life is ok. Just got a promotion that's takes me closer to what I want to do with my life and even before that I was making enough money to take care of my sister's 3 kids. Sister's a heroin addict and she steals from me so I don't let her live with me but the children don't see it that way. Sister hates me for it and recently decided to take her favorite to a shelter that will only let her stay if she has a child present. Obviously just her manipulating and using her child the way she did to me under the guise of "it's what's best for me and my children."

Couple days ago, sister's oldest (15yo boy), had his girlfriend over in his bedroom and I heard them screaming at each other from the living room. I go investigate and he's on top of her screaming in her face, while she's crying. "We're just arguing" but I'm like fuck no, there's no reason for that to ever happen. He says she wants to leave him but if he yells at her enough then she wont want to. As retarded as that sounds, she's not saying a word. I tell her to get her shit together and that I'm taking her home.

So that's when he decides to lose his fucking mind. He starts punching the door as if it's supposed to scare me then I tell him if he wants to hit something, then hit me. He gives me a push so I grab him and put him on the ground and take his phone. He's starts screaming at me about how he hates me and wishes I was dead and how I'm an asshole be cause I don't let his parents live with me. He then starts running to the front door but turns and heads into the kitchen to grab a fucking knife while still saying he wishes I was dead. Starts stabbing the fucking wall and when he gets it stuck, I grab his arm and get the knife from him. He runs back to his room, grabs his backpack and girlfriend while yelling as much asshole shit as he can think of before leaving. After a few seconds of thinking, I conclude he's a bitch and bitches destroy property.

Cont

I go outside to see he's smashed my car window and is walking down the road. I'm just like fuck this, no more, someone else can deal with this shit. I call the cops while in pursuit and while I could've caught him, they tell me just turn around and that they'll find him (they don't). Just then I remembered that I wasn't gonna deal with this so I turn back and call the father. He makes it to my house after the cops already came and got a statement. Don't hear from mother. Turns out waving a knife around a person while wishing they were dead is a felony. Father isn't happy the kid will prolly go to juvie, the cops take my best knife and I'm sitting here wondering why i have to make hard decisions.

Everything fell in place the last 2 years.
Lost 35kg, started lifting a year ago, got a job that pays above median wage, have my own place now.
That's exceptional progress but how do i stop feeling like shit?
Maybe being a virgin at 26yo has something to do with it?

Steinbeck is so comfy.

christ. so the kids are oblivious as to why their parents are absent? i feel like it would have been better to explain it to them when they come to age.

don't become a wizard user, life isn't fun if you're alone

I'm right there with you bro. Quit a comfy but corrupt government job to take my chances in the private sector and go back to school in my mid-20s. Working golf course maintenance until my new job and school starts. It's been a hell of a time figuring shit out over the past two months but I still don't regret it.

I barely have any experience with grills, only grill i kissed was a crush in a hostel in a foreign country but i refused sex with her that night, needless to say she lost her shit and starting whoring herself out to prove herself that she was desirable.
Any tips to get girls? I'm tall but really fucking ugly.

Found out that my ex who I dated for 5 years is already seeing someone new just two months after she said she needs to "be independent" and needs to "find herself and what she wants in life".

Life is short and I guess ultimately I can't fault her for trying to be happy but it still stings especially because I suspect they met in class and were probably chatting and flirting behind my back when we were still together. Any advice on moving past your ex? I've been obsessing about it for a couple of days now and it's really dragging me down.

oh they know why, but it's extremely hard to get over blind affection for your parents.

i'd go for the low hanging fruit then. you need experience. get on tinder and find some fat girls willing to lay you.

from my experiences with my female friends,most of the time when girls get together with someone quickly its just to rub it in your face or prove to themselves that they are desirable. Personally have never done it and usually make an effort to part ways without grudges, but some people are just shitty.
moving on is going to be difficult and will take time, but it's better to just forget her. don't think about what she's doing with her time because it's just going to make you feel worse. focus on yourself user

i hope for your sake they grow out of it soon. but that whole knife situation is insane, i don't even know how you would begin to discipline that.

>what have you read recently?
Trying to finish "An Enquiry Concerning Human Understanding" by Hume and then going to pick up "Wealth of Nations" by Smith.
>what have you done for your career?
I recently got promoted, which feels good. And last pay came with a good chunk of backpay since they backdated it to my last review cycle in July. I generally like what I do, but the more compensation I get from it, the more worried I am about whether I'm being smart with it. I don't spend money easily and I bank about 2k-3k a month. Even though I could afford to live better, my lunch for the last few weeks has been a can of beans and a kiwi or two to maximize savings.
>how's life user?
I'm lonely, honestly. Fuck tfwnogf, try tfwnowaifu. 28, living alone, and really thinking it's time to settle down. When my dad was my age, he had a house and 2 kids. I've got nothing close, and I feel like time's running out.

>what have you read recently?
Nothing much outside of my class material. I was reading American Psycho recently but it just doesn't grip me.

>what have you done for your career?
Went to a career fair recently, the federal reserve people were interested but all the jobs seemed so dull. I'm not sure what I'm gonna do with my life. I do have a programming job lined up after I graduate but it was so monotonous I'm tempted to just reject the offer.

>how's life user?
It's going. Some days are better than others. I've been doing a lot of thinking about what I want out of life, my personal connections, and how I approach people. I think yesterday I came to a good conclusion to a few of my thoughts. I decided to stop being so judgmental in many regards and just meet people with the intention of being friends and making a connection. Rather than as colleagues, co-workers, or potential partners. I don't really want a relationship, just someone to be physically intimate with while we listen to music, go out, drink, etc. I'm hoping I'll be able to find someone like that, it'd help with the loneliness. It was the first time I've felt sober in a while. I know what I want now, although the idea is still a bit uncomfortable.

My ex broke up with me for similar reasons a few months ago. I haven't kept up with her but if I found out that happened I think my heart would break. I'm sorry user, the only advice I can give you is go talk to more girls. Try going to school events or out to a bar with bros.

Why do you have college?

I've read a few self help books, gone to therapy and worked out, but none of that shit helps me fight me depression for too long. I still end up going back to being depressed.

I just feel like I will be forever stuck in my shitty retail job. I've tried college, but I don't think its for me. I'm not mentally fit enough for the military either, so I cant do that. I want to just work in a nice comfy office job. I want to work with people who will help me succeed in life and not make me feel like a fucking loser. I've been in this shit job for 7 years now and I just feel like I will be here forever. I want to leave so badly, but I just don't know how. I fucking hate seeing people I know come in. I feel like they're judging me and wonder "why is user still working here."

Just some words of advice. Your college degree doesn't really choose your job. I went to school for physics and I am a software engineer now.

Don't fall for the 'follow your dreams' bullshit about a career. Pick something you are interested in that ALSO is a solid career. Don't pick a job with a salary range

A bless in disguis

>albert camus - the stranger
>ive been helping with meds and all about the earthquake (mexico)
>pretty good, thanks

>>what have you read recently?
nothing actually, despite having some books of my ex lying around
>>what have you done for your career?
reading into some network security stuff
>>how's life user?
having a really hard time to get over said ex

got my first job in a while and have been chatting with this girl for a while, its a pretty shit job and im just doing it for some spare cash, but is it rude to ask out a girl if you work with her or is the same as asking out someone at uni etc

>mfw exgf broke up with me
>we had a somewhat good breakup
>a month of no conact and we talk again
>i texted her that i loved her and other stuff, non cringey mind you

woman huh

>>what have you read recently?
Nothing in the past few months
>>what have you done for your career?
Closed a 7 figure deal last week with a new client
>>how's life user?
Meh

Bipolarfag here, just in the middle of getting it together again after another couple of years of bullshit. Doing alright, taking a long time and still too cut off from people but going the right direction. Deliberately taking it easy and trying to instill good consistent Veeky Forums habits instead of going nuts/burning out.

Or a 4 year stint in the army. Get the partying dorm life thing out of your system and then you're more set to focus in school when you're 22+

oh and I just finished reading the first Flashman, enjoyed it a lot

>Bipolarfag
how bipolar are you

"Women, they make the highs higher and the lows more frequent." - Nietzsche

>If not for tinder and bumble id be totally alone in this new city
It is way fucking harder to make friends as an adult than it was when I went off to college

hit the nail on the head

Bad enough to completely 9/11 me for years at a time, I'm sure other people have worse but it's very disruptive.

i thought about tinder a lot after my breakup
but quite frankly i don't want a girl for a night who only likes me because of appeareance
also
>It is way fucking harder to make friends as an adult than it was when I went off to college
this
so freaking much

I use sex to avoid my problems. It's my main vice.
And yeah, post college it's very hard. My city has a lot of sport team clubs, I've been thinking of joining one, but I'm already exhausted all the time anyway

>All these people talking about Tinder and Bumble

Fuck it I'll give it a try. Worst case I have a few awkward dates.

what about your heart

I think we've had this discussion before user.
Sex is good cardio.

idk i'm kinda lonely

been working my job for 6 months

there are hundreds of people employed there that I meet all the time but somehow I haven't really been able to make a single friend in this time

i'm not really trying I guess but I can't help it

these last two months I have been feeling really bad

finally applied for mental help and still awaiting my answer

I'm think about to break up with my girlfriend of 4 years. She's going back home and wants me to go with her. It's cheaper but I think I'm staying here.

She's my first girlfriend, I love her but feels like it's coming to an end. Think a new phase of my life will begin soon.

Work is good, but I don't make the time to read anymore.