How do I become less of a socially awkward goober?
How do I become less of a socially awkward goober?
Hudson Morgan
Other urls found in this thread:
Cameron Ramirez
3x5 social interaction
Ryan Butler
Get a job where you have to be social
Ayden James
how old are you? do you work? go to school? you have to find organic ways to mix social interaction into your life. Going out and trying to find it is painfully hard especially as you get older. But you gotta find it somehow.
Sebastian White
im 27
Jonathan Gray
This. Get a job at a cafe or a restaurant with a good atmosphere. I was a socially awkward wreck until I worked one and you get a lot of experience with people very quickly.
Hell, I honestly wish that working in the service industry for at least a year was required in the USA.
Jason Howard
Talk to bartenders on weekend nights. They aren't just paid to serve drinks, they provide atmosphere and are often very supportive in conversation. Get a few drinks and shoot the shit with them, they'll lead the conversation if need be and it's not awkward conversation to stop because they can be busy restocking, checking on other customers, etc. Once you learn easy mode, i.e. how to have conversations with people who are paid to have conversations with you, you can move to normal mode i.e. random folks you end up striking up conversations with or hard mode i.e. picking up women.
Blake Hernandez
Oh, one more thing.
Embrace your awkwardness.
Nobody is ever as confident as they look. Letting your awkwardness be known is a good first step, it makes you relatable and (decent) people will help to ease the tension and work to make the situation less awkard overall.
You'd be surprised that most people are actually decent.
Expect nothing from anybody. I mean that in every sense of the term. Don't expect them to be assholes, don't expect them to be saints.
Expect nothing, and start off with being nice with them. Things usually go well from there.
Yeah, you'll run into some cunts, but we're all cunts really.
Jaxson Howard
ayyy same here. I'm pretty socially dumb sometimes but I've gotten a lot better since my high school years. Hell, I've gotten better since a few years ago. The only real way to do it is to force yourself to get outside of your comfort zone. There are a few things you need to really drill into your head before you do so:
1. no one you pass on the street or whatever is thinking about you nearly as much as you think
2. almost everyone you meet is just as insecure as you are
3. most people you interact with won't remember you at the end of the day
something I do some time since I work from home occasionally is visit a bar during the slow hours and chat with the bartender or other patrons if there are any (visiting during the down hours guarantees there won't be loud shitty music blasting and you can actually hear each other) and just keep it light. There's probably a dozen bars near you, just find one you like.
Jason Murphy
>tfw it's my birthday and I spent it doing jury duty all day
Nothing better to do anyway... hehehehe