>be me,20 yo >friday night, so gym is kinda empty since most people are out having a good time >only 3 people, me, a qt3.14 wearing yoga pants (close to my age) and a eldery dude >she was doing a weird superset of deadlifts and leg raises pretty much showing her ass >strongface.jpg , dont wanna appear as a creep so i dont look at her again and focus on my shit >searching for the other 25lb plate all over the rack >see her waving at me trying to get my attention, remove one earphone , "hey, you can have mine" , hands it over > "t-thanks *smile* >she smiles back and stands there for 1 second like she was waiting for something >put my earphone back and start lifting >notice her checking my arm pump from time to time
i fucked up but i dont feel comfortable hitting on some girl in the gym i saw for the first time.Should i say hello, make some small talk next time i see her and go from there? im really bad at this so i would appreciate some help from more experienced people on this subject
If you see her again just say hi. Try to find an excuse to ask her a leading question that can't be answered with a yes/no. "I need a new _____ how do you like yours?" Thanks! Have a good workout
Dominic Gray
i'll ask her if she has more of those 25lb plates
Adrian Adams
yeah user, usually not fine to ask out unless she can escape the situation easily. And to my experience you can't figure if they are into you unless you directly ask. Thus, if you want to ask her out, I'd do it whenever she is about to leave the gym.
If you don't want to ask her out of the blue, you can try small talk the next time you see her. If she has interest to upkeep the conversation, then that's a good sign.
Kayden King
dont do that
Hudson Green
after talking with her 2-3 more times is it okay to invite her to eat post workout together? ( given that she shows interest).I need help so i dont go full sperg mode
Nathaniel Taylor
Yeah to continue on what this user said strike up some natural harmless small talk as a sort of feeling out process to guage her interest. If she seems uninterested and wants to continue her work out then let her and move on. If she does then ask for her number sooner or later it's up to you just don't be afraid of rejection.
Hudson Powell
Wouldn't matter, since you'd be on your phone constantly, asking Veeky Forums what to do. "She's still reading the menu, do women always take this long to decide? Should I recommend something or would that send the wrong signal? Pls help me, Veeky Forums, I don't want to fuck this up!" Just do it, and if you fuck up, so be it. There are others like her, and you can use the experience as training for yourself. It's not as if you die if you fuck this up, and if you don't do anything, you don't have any chance anyway. So you can only win, either a gf or experience.
Ian Robinson
im not afraid of rejection (part of me is) but mostly the fact that i will feel like the laughing stock of my gym or be seen as a creep, and seeing her in the future after being rejected will be even more embarrassing and awkward.I guess i will go for the small talk for start and try to read on the signs so i avoid fkin up
Elijah Gutierrez
>qutie powerlifting chick chats me up since im the only one squatting lmao3.5 plates for reps easily >asks about my lifts, bodyweight, programming >also ask her about the same >now we greet everytime we are in the gym >helped with her squat form (she just finished smolov) >borrowed her my inzer lever belt since I wasn't using it and told her if she liked it she could buy it >bring the belt one day and tell her about the belt, screws etc >tell her to use it for a month and see if she likes it >as soon as I give it, I realize I just gave a random person equipment for 100 dollars without any of her contact information whatsoever >become paranoid and instantly regret as soon as I hand it over >hold me Veeky Forums, I may have lost 100 dollars for being a naive guy, not even trying to hook up with her, just making sure everyone makes it
