Getting Veeky Forums and can't deal with it

once was a /fat/ fuck, was used to being treated as a weirdo because I essentially looked like a neckbeard. Now I've lost the weight and look normal, and people are constantly confused at the way I speak and act (like a sperg). Advice?

It's going to take a longer time than you think to come to terms with it but you will. Keep pushing yourself, always try to be nice.
If someone is criticising your social affect while you were being a good person that makes them sound like an idiot. If they're criticising it while you were being self centered or dickish people pile on and you'll feel bullied. Cheers.

act fucking normal

I know that too a little already.
I try to make a lot of fun of myself and not get arrogant by asking them a lot about their lifes. Its strange for many getting me to know that new way though

mate, when you've been treated as abnormal basically all your life because you've been morbidly obese before you could walk, shit's difficult

How unsocialised are you OP? When you say 'sperg' do you mean a bit awkward and nerdy or totally oblivious?

mostly awkward and nerdy, but the longer I spend around people the more I think they can tell something's 'off', started noticing it now I've entered the workforce

I've gone from fit and outgoing to a fat shut-in and back a couple of times and unless I'm totally misreading people, I think a lot of it really is just bluffing on some level. You tend to think of it like everyone else is 100% confident and any awkwardness is you failing and them feeling disdain or whatever. In reality I think it's more like your feeling self-conscious makes you seem a little off, which makes them wonder what they're doing wrong, which makes them seem awkward in turn and you just feed off each other. If you just brazen it and act as if you're setting the tone almost everyone will be more at ease. Not posing as Chad and being overbearing, more like you're signalling that it's a given you're both fine. Idk if that makes sense.

Your brain is permanently damaged. Your surroundings and lifestyle mold your neural pathways in your developing years. That's how sociopaths exist, fyi. I'm not saying this to demotivate you I'm just acknowledging how tough your problem is.

fpbp
Even if you can't act normal, people appreciate a nice person. Try to come off as genuine

I know this feeling. I went clothes shopping today and I felt really good because I've lost so much fat and look normal now, but holy shit the autism is no joke.

Posting /b/ for 3 years and never going out made me retarded, I can't hold a conversation for shit. Fuck you Veeky Forums.

>staying on /b/ for three years
You were doomed anyway user

Cheers man, but I don't know, people tell me I talk strangely. Don't know if that's something I can fix and they just think I'm quirky. But here's hoping I get more social gains anyway.
Honestly this is what scares me. Knowing that no matter what how much effort you put in, no matter how much you fix yourself, you can't truly escape what you were and are in the past

I know, I actually had friends before I started posting there, now I've got 4, which the only thing I have in common with is we smoke weed together, thankfully I'm getting better now, but deep down I know I'll always be a cancerous, antisocial /b/tard.

Looking back, I physically can't stand /b/ now it's the worst board on the site.

There's no set point where your habits and neural pathways and stuff are set in stone. It's harder to change when you're older but short of full blown disability or mental illness people change all the time when they actually want to. Even if you do speak strangely there's nothing stopping you figuring out how to fix it, people can totally change their entire speech with elocution lessons in time to act in a movie.

Stop listening to cucks who say "be nice" and read No More Mr. Nice Guy

Is OP still around?

Years of insecurity, twisted body image issues and low self esteem does that to ya.
>T. Ex Social Anxiety Sperglord

No matter how Veeky Forums you get you'll still have feelings of inadequacy which are so deep ingrained it almost feels like you were born with them.

Try tackling your self esteem issues (If any) before tackling how to act socially.
>Keep doing things which boost self esteem (Fitness, Good sleep, Work you love etc..)
>Consider talk therapy
>Try books on Social Anxiety
>Reflect on yourself every few days or so.

If it's purely just lack of social skills but you're pretty comfortable with yourself, just throw yourself into those situations. It'll be painful the first few times but you'll get the hang of it. Acting/Drama/Theatre is another solid choice if you can afford it, forces you play a role in a social custom.

The easiest trick for social gains is to simply ask people questions about their lives and pretend to be interested. Most people love talking about themselves and when they open up to you it automatically creates a bond in their mind.

Read How to Win Friends and Influence People. All you need to know is in there.

This is broadly true but you can always tell when you meet someone who took it literally. You should be aiming for naturally going 'oh cool so how does that work and how about that blah blah' rather than 'TELL ME MORE ABOUT WHAT YOU JUST SAID' like someone out of a fucking rpg. I hate guys like that

It's all in your head.

You're not special.

Literally countless people have been overweight, gotten in shape, and lived normal lives.

You're not any different.

>was fat
>lost weight
>look normal
that's not Veeky Forums
you're halfway though

>always try to be nice.
WRONG

If you're autistic like I was then that's the LAST THING you want to do.
Does Chad act nice?
Do niggers act nice?
Does anyone women ACTUALLY WANT TO FUCK act nice?
No.
You will get taking advantage of.
You will be lied to.
AND YOU WILL NEVER GET PUSSY.

Learn to say "No!" and that you don't have to give them a reason why.
Watch as they try to say "Why user, you don't have anything else going on..."
Those are the people you cut out of your life.
Why?
They know the Old You. They know how to play the Old You. The Old You was a beta-cuck-slave-orbiter-numale who people KNEW they could get something out of, hence they tolerated you.

Never be nice user. Try to be a good person by YOUR OWN STANDARDS and learn that other peoples feeling are their problem. If they get butthurt over you denying them something, or asking for something in return (which they should always give you BEFORE you give them ANYTHING).
Dumb bitches will say "Well, um, actually I don't like transnational favours..." the you just say "'Kay..." and DON'T DO WHAT THEY WANT YOU TO DO FOR THEM. Why? There's a distinct dofference between doing something because you can and it doesn't matter to you but you do it anyway, and doing something because your social programming compels you to do it and you FEEL like you HAVE to do it. Guess what? You don't. Fuck 'em.

The sad thing? You do this and you WILL GET PUSSY. Why? Women don't want compromise, they want to either win or be subjugated. The irony is that to a man those two things are mutually exclusive, but to a women, if she subjugates herself to a proven alpha then to her that's a win.

Autistic like I
>was

Chad doesn't exist outside of your own mind, that's the fucking joke is he's a representation of everything in other males that makes men feel insecure, and niggers only fuck trailer trash white girls and nigresses. The fact that you think black people get laid a lot means you're watching too much porn.
FAMOUS or PROFESSIONAL ATHLETE black people get laid a lot but it's because of the famous and pro athlete thing not the black thing. You're treating them like an unironic chad and projecting all of your insecurities.