/SIG/ Self Improvement General

>gf left 3 months ago
>descent into a drug and alcohol binge
>neglect physical and mental well being for the next dopamine rush
>realize ive hit rock bottom
>start my new routine the next day
>stop watching porn and decide to make an effort to pursue real-life romantic partners
>3 weeks in now
>gains are showing
>confidence is sky rocketing
>about to ice skating with a cute girl followed by sushi dinner
>two dates lined up next week with other cute girls

Im still mind blown how a chain of small changes can impact your life so drastically.

Disregard thots, acquire currency.

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Congratz user,you are making it

Have you tried writing a physical tally of the days?
I'm doing that currently and I'm finding it really helps to see what I've achieved so far, and not want to lose it.

She kinda tricked me into believing she was different,but now it's clear she is just a thot.I'm gonna invest the money i saved for our date in ethereum.

>mfw doing knee rehab exercises (i'm close to being flatfooted) have gradually allowed me to squat below parallel

Anyobody here face pulling for those maxilla gains?

If you live in the Uk look into premium bonds. Not sure if the states have anything similar.

is playing with a girls butthole degenerate?

General anus play, sniffing,licking,scat worship,ect

and whats the deal with no fap, I thought it was healthy to fap occasionally.

>sat inside and played the new zelda dlc

At the very least, NoFap is for those who have an addiction.

oh never mind then, I'm good

i improved by relaxing and providing my body with enough nutrients to be fit for fight on monday.

How to tackle anxiety/depression?

good feel
you're gonna make it

depends whats causing it, there's no one cure

Face it, but really face it
Then accept it, buy really accept it
Desu

Nice

>discover mewing aka idea that tongue posture influences facial bone structure even in adulthood
>read some papers on it, theories, really gone down the rabbit hole
>it's possible that even your overall body posture influences how you look
>started looking at oly weightlifters
>the ones with that lift most fluidly are symmetrical as fuck, perfect posture and mobility, perfect form, etc
>nice facial symmetry as well usually

Is the snatch the ultimate sig exercise guys? Trains mobility, strength, explosiveness, gets you better, more upright posture and possibly even body posture--> tongue posture--> better facial structure?

Tidy your room

How do I fix uneven shoulders lads? I sat weirdly for years and now the muscles on the right hand side of my neck are always rock solid and my shoulder is pulled in about 2 inches compared to my left.

snatch is dope, I'd be too much of a pussy to try maxing out though.

Finally figured out how to lose weight

>eat 30g of chocolate every day

So instead of eating junk food all day, I only eat that 30g and thats the only junk food I'm allowed.

By making it a rule it becomes easier rather than simply depriving yourself of what you want (in my case chocolate is what I want)

Now if only I could figure out how to adapt this approach to everything in life

>I drew a hot guy beating up a snake, but his delicious asscrack gave me a guilty boner so I drew a rock in front of it

>Lifting for 4 weeks
>Skip back day everyday
>Try and do chin ups
>Fail.
>Try and do other exercises
>Couldn't do some of them Even without weights
>Realize how weak my back is
What are some good back strength exercises (preferably only back muscles)

Did you see the other faggot in the other thread get a bunch of (you)s and want to get some too, or are you just that retarded?

Scoliosis maybe? Uneven leg length/tilted pelvis will curve your spine sideways which will in ascending pattern cause uneven shoulders (one higher than the other).

uuuh pull ups?
deadlifts and pull-ups, or lat pulldowns if you can't do pull ups

ooh and shrugs

Na, my spine ect is fine, I have bad posture but working on it and its getting better.

Almost certain its some kind of muscle issue, when I feel them compared to the other side they are permenantly tense and engaged.

I ordered a foam roller to see if that will help, just looking for some other options.

>hey Veeky Forums /pol/acks here, our own mods don't want us so we'll shit up your board instead :^)

Which part of the back do deadlifts work on?

To be fair theres none of the /pol/ links/text in the OP so it is kosher for Veeky Forums

>is playing with a girls butthole degenerate?
what do you get out of this that you don't get out of playing with her pussy?
>scat worship
Extremely degenerate. Scat is taboo because it transmits disease and smells offensively. If you worship disease and filth you're turning away from everything good in the world. It's a refusal to assume the responsibilty of mastering yourself and making the world a better place. Instead you let go of everything and allow yourself to be flushed in the gutter.

>improve yourself bro!
>posts pic of dude “flogging the one eyed snake”

I didn't see the other thread, I guess retarded minds think alike ;^)

>stopped exercising regularly
>gaining weight now
>failing to control my diet
>failing to wake up and sleep on time
>failing to nofap
it's been a shitty few weeks

>butt stuff
Just thoroughly clean it first and then do whatever you want. No need to complicate things with the degeneracy argument.

no worries brah everybody has downfalls. Important thing is to catch yourself slipping up and getting back on the ride

Here are improvements i made in the last month
>Couldn't bench press the bar alone now i can do a 0.5pl8
>Deadlift was 0.5pl8 now it's 1pl8
>Massive energy improvements (always energized and never lazy)
>Not depressed when lifting (that's 2 hours off depression every two days)
>Organized and healthy 10h sleep
>Healthy eating (not all the time but still)
>Masturbation rate decreased ~60%
>Body looks less skelly
>Starting GOMAD hard no rest days workout next month
>Still no unconditional love gf
>Will never have it if i become Veeky Forums
>Will never be loved for who i am
We gonna make it brahs

Congrats to everyone bettering themselves, self improvement truly is the best thing. I'm on the path just having some trouble sleeping. Can any anons help me out?

Are you on your phone/pc late at night? that's probably #1 cause. Try getting a book instead. If you really need to be using them then get twilight or flux to reduce the blue light on the screen.

I'm usually on my computer, but then read in bed for 30 minutes before I sleep. Still can't get more than 6.5-7 straight hours a night

Or maybe he just thinks it looks neat.

Hello, fatty mcfat here.
> Sustained stop of soda - 1 Month
> Sustained stop of fast food - 1 Month
This is getting easier every weeks.
> Just began trying not to be a fat fuck
> Excluded overly sweet shit from my diet at the beginning of this week.
That shit is hard.
> Started running: 5km yesterday. Not much. But from my fat 242lbs ass, it's hard.

Thanks user, a sincere display of appreciation is rare on the chanz.

How old are you? Can you take naps occasionally? This could be relatively normal.

For me, its impossible to resist the temptation of playing LIGHTLY with a girls asshole during sex (i.e. penetrating slightly, playing on the outside, licking). Especially when doing her from behind, and she reaches around to spread her cheeks. I mean come on, that asshole is so hot when its strecthed, and your dick is pounding her pussy.

>started balding
>don't even have a gf
fuck what do i do

>shaved head because balding
>still-visible hairline looks like fucking antimage from Dota

Not like I was getting laid anyways

>reading daily
>in starting process of creating a business
>working 3 jobs
>playing instrument daily
>gym 4 times a week, running and calisthenics other 3 days
>investing all savings in ETF's

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lat pull downs, deadlifts, rows

>skipping back day
the worst mistake
you cant cheat a strong back, if you have a strong back, you're strong, end of line.
Do lat pulldowns and BB rows.
Also add 3x20 facepulls at the end of every day you bench.

buzz, grow a stubble, get bigger.

Why is he being penetrated by a rock?

does this work? gf has OCD and we're looking into using a bunch of methods to combat it ... including meditation.

>better facial structure?
Is it possible that elite athletes with top tier genetics are more symmetrical then the average person? Facial beauty is all about symmetry and good symmetry means good genetics.

Guys, I have a gf and I want to break up with her. She has "hot girl syndrome" whereas it doesn't matter what she says, does, etc. she's just hot as fuck so everyone glosses over it. I can't take it anymore. I have a master's degree, I like talking about philosophy, nutrition, music, technology, bitcoin, etc. and all she gives a fuck about is that Below Deck show.

I feel like I've "made it" by having a hot gf, but holy fuck I don't know how people live with dumb cunts like this. Plus when she THINKS she's right, she is extremely rude, condescending, etc. with no basis for that behavior whatsoever. One time she told me it's obviously cheaper to fly out of a bigger airport back home, and I looked up flights on the same day out of big airport against small airport near us, and what do you know, smaller airport was cheaper. Obviously there are many factors that go into determining price, however it's obvious a place with less demand and less quantity of tickets demanded will have a lower price because airlines need to fill seats before the planes take off.

Anyways, what do bros? Should I break up with my gf or should I go back to tfw no gf (which I was for 3 years).

I did a presentation last week, we had to speak for 2mins each. At the start I decently introduced myself and made a few of my points. I was also trying to be confident at the start but then I noticed everyone's eyes on me and somehow I just buckled. I was shaking slightly and my voice was getting quieter and quieter as I spoke. It felt like I was choking up. I tried to read off of my cards as best I could but my words were stutters and mispronounations.

I felt so embarrassed and worthless, dropping my whole spaghetti in front of the class and letting my group down. This has never happened before and I just felt so shit. But bit by bit I will make my comeback. I don't like talking in front of a big group but I'll try my damned hardest to come out on top instead of just letting it weigh me down.

I'm never really anxious as I'm calm most of the time. I guess I just let the stress of uni and life find an opening within me. I will quit watching porn, get better sleep, sort out my diet, go for early runs, smile at cute girls and become the best version of myself.

Hope everything is well and working out anons. Keep going, we're all gonna make it one day.

DESU that feeling never truely goes away when giving presentations. Youv'e just got to remember, be it a school presentation or at a confrence, that people who have given presentations know how it feels to be up there, or if they are about to give a presentation, then they are too nervouse to even pay attention to you, and if you fuck up they are not gonna be laughing, but more worried about them fucking up.

Why don't you just get friends to talk to?

This.
Find yourself an intelligent girlfriend if you want to spend your life with someone it better be someone you can talk to.

Thanks for the insight man, makes me feel a lot better about it now. There was another guy that presented in the group after mine and he had the same problem as me.

I will personally set a timer for one hour when I play video games. I also use a standing desk.

>we had to speak for 2mins each.
Are you still in high school?
Anyway, the cure is simple. I'm ugly, everyone can see that, and standing in front of many people is fucking awful for me. Yet I am able to give presentations like a pro.
Why, you ask?

First of all, I accepted my appearance in the most positive way possible: it is what everyone can see and everyone reacts to it in the same way, thus I know exactly what people think as we often tend to base our opinion on looks alone. I have a great advantage over them in this regard, because I know where they are mentally.
So if you have any reasons for being insecure in front of people, own it, accept it as positively as possible. It is a humongous advantage in communication and interpersonal relationships.

Next, build up your confidence with whatever shit you can. I know that I can squat more than anyone in the room, that I could fuck many of the girls real good because I'm most definitely stronger than their boyfriends (my gf is 80kg and I can throw her around easily so those 60kg sluts would be literal lightweight baby). And even though I (obviously) don't tell that to people, my knowledge of this helps me become more confident. This step helps even more if you in any way qualify for step 1 as well.

Most ppl hate giving presentations. If they look at you and seem interested, you are already doing far better job than some, if not most. People not looking at you and seeming bored is when you should start dropping your spaghetti.

Break up with her.
If you can't handle her (that is, show her you are the smarter one and that she should listen to you and be obedient), you will be unhappy your whole life. One of you will definitely cheat and shit will be even worse.
Find some average girl who is not turbodumbo like the one you have now and be happy.
Looks pass, personality stays, so in 15 years you will be dealing not only with awful, but also ugly and old bitchy cunt.

>in my case chocolate is what I want
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Boi go for a week without chocolate and report back.
I had it the same, after lunch I craved chocolate so fucking hard.
Then I was too lazy to go and buy some. So I had none. And now I couldn't care less.

I can't resist this shit bros.

>good symmetry means good genetics.

Definitely but it's it could be also part of how they grew up ie. rigorous training which emphasizes posture vs slouching fat slob in front of computer.

youtube.com/watch?v=f_4Q9Iv7_Ao
Was translating this vid yesterday and I think you should watch it.

i like this
also motivation youtube.com/watch?v=EIlPPYxTiDU

the question is whether this is really a positive experience for you. Is it worth putting up with someone because they look good, even if they don't fill your emotional/intellectual needs? To be fair bro, you've fallen to the "hot girl syndrome" too by putting up with her despite all this.

I mean come on, the first thing you said was "I want to break up with her" and then proceeded to only share negative things with us. Based on that I would say to end it, but I feel like you're probably just caught in a moment of frustration and venting it on here.

The best way I can see to approach this is to be totally honest with yourself. Try your best to see it for what it actually is. Ask yourself why you think you should continue and why not, make a list of pros and cons. Hell, it'd be great if you could openly communicate about it(though at your own discretion, judging from what you've said it would either fall on deaf ears or only yield a temporary improvement). Ask if you think she'd change(unlikely imo). We can only advise you on here with what you tell us.

One thing I noticed is you said you feel as if you've made it by having a hot gf. But you gotta ask yourself, is that really what making it is? Is making it being attached to somebody better than you? You should only define yourself according to your own being, not defined by others around you. But also I'd say you're clearly frustrated by this, is this relationship really making it if it pisses you off?

None of us can truly understand your relationship, but all you've told us is negative bro. I hope this helps, be true to yourself and we're all gonna make it

being put on the spot is always a little stressful bro, but trust me when I say it gets better. I've been singing semi-pro in an ensemble for the last few years now, and I still get wobbly knees sometimes. The funny thing about it is I've sung for crowds of 6000 and broadcast on the BBC, and I was a million times more nervous when I was singing in a workshop for a bunch of primary school kids who were like 10 years old. don't sweat it bro

Did nofap for like 20 days and now all my fucked up porn fetishes are gone, feelsgoodman. Should I try and cut out porn entirely tho? I don't think I want to go too hard on the nofap aspect, I'm sure it works for some people but it just makes me angry, horny and more easily manipulated by sexual desires, not to mention all the studies that suggest masturbating is actually good for you. anyways...

>never had a GF
>never even went on a date
>still don't know how to fix this
>want to at least go on one date next year
so do I just go up to girls and ask if they want to date or what?

Finally decided to work on my loneliness and invited a friend from years ago to go play some pool and have a few beers.

great preogress. Keep on it. And don't worry about gf

>>Still no unconditional love gf
>>Will never have it if i become Veeky Forums
>>Will never be loved for who i am
>implying unconditional love exists
You love people because of what they do for you. Because they make you happy and you feel more comfortable around them. It's not unconditional. If the person stopped making you happy you'd stop being in love with them.
What people usually mean when they talk about "unconditional love" is that you don't have to act different from how you normally would for someone else to love you ("jus b ur self"). And that is more likely to happen if you're energetic, happy and fun to be around by nature. If you're happy you make the people around you happy. And that makes it more likely someone will love you exactly for that.

"Unconditional love" in the literal sense is nothing you'd want. If your gf loved you unconditioanally it would mean per defintion that there is no quality about you relevant for her lovig you. So she could aswell be in love with anyone else because there is nothing differentiating you from others in her eyes.
It's usually only usefull in a religious/philosophical context where you are equally benevolent to everyone because you believe in the equality of all humans. But that's usually used to describe altruistic people that don't even have romantic relationships because in their eyes everyone, even their worst enemies deserve to be loved the same.

Put yourself in social situations, go out more, talk with girls more, go to parties, go to chill hangs. Of course, this is reliant on you or your friends having girl friends/acquaintances.

That's a more standard route if you're not desperate for a gf, if you're struggling with social issues you just have to push past your insecurities, be confident in yourself, I believe in you user.

I'm not the one to give you tips for hitting on girls, if you just want to be hella straightforward I'm sure other anons can help you with that.

I tried that but I'm still not sure how to "escalate"
I actually started with cosplay photography as an ice breaker but I'm not sure how to take the next step.

>Have unconditional GF for 2 years, live together for 1 year
>My mother gets sick and has to stay in a room with us for a week
>GF gets stressed out, goes shopping while I'm at work
>Tells me a dude stopped her and invited her to a drink
>She accepted, realized later he was trying to have a date and left
>Didn't give her number

>Mother is fine
>GF has her things back at her place

>For a month, all seems normal and cool

I still can's feel safe anymore. Every time I'm working and she goes for a fucking walk, I feel troubled.
I was so sure she was the one, invested so much time and effort in the relationship...
Now it works, but my trust is broken.

What can I do Veeky Forums?

I think you have to live by rules you want to follow. I simply dont want to give up chocolate. Its what I live for. And by getting a regular dose, it means I eat way less junk in general. I think thats the best way to live life mayn, its the middle way

Yes still fap when you have the urge just stick with no porn. you just gotta tap into the spankbank

>Be handsome 20y/o 1.9m(6'2 for americans) beefcake
>get set up with a qt 18 y/o by some family members (she is their baby sitter)
>texted her
idk why guys but im nervous, she is a real 9/10 any tips so i wont screw this up.

I never see this recommended - but my theory is that you should stick to softcore. Especially if you're worried about having weird fetishes. And theres something cucked about watching another man do the business for you.

Stick to solo women

>idk why guys but im nervous
Yeah no shit you're nervous, just focus on her and dont think about yourself

what do you mean by this...

might be a bit of an odd ask but what can I substitute in for bench press in SS? I'll be stuck in this place w/ home gym for a bit - got free weights + jack of all trades exercise machine (you can do the "chest press" exercise but it's not the one where you push straight out but rather in a semi circle from wide to front-in).

I think you're over thinking it bud.

Had a huge problem with having no energy after some social struggles and moving to a different town the last few months.
Now it starts coming back, I start having fun thoughts etc. like 2-3 times a day but it isn't really how I used to be. Also I can't keep the ball rolling, I miss walking around with a grin 24/7 because I always had some fun thing on my mind. At the moment I don't even know how to have engaging conversations with people. It's really bothering me because I used to have whole group conversations under my control.
Anyone got good tips/resources on being more creative/energetic and being more social again?

Sleep well, exercise regularly, take some fish oil.

Not much beyond exposure to things that cheer you up.

Gaining competence seems to boost confidence.