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>college grad
>living with parents
>working full time
>daily routine: work, work out, dinner, bed
>all of my friends live hundreds of miles away since parents moved while I was still in college
>the only things I have to do are gym and vidya
Has anyone been in this situation before? How do I deal with crushing loneliness? I’m an introvert but having no one to talk to other than my parents is making me bitter, sad, miserable, and everything else.
My workouts have been getting longer (2-3 hours) because I just don’t know what else to do with my time.

Also general feels thread. Spill it out

Nigga, get an apartment. It's liberating not having to live with your parents.

Also, don't you socialize with your coworkers, like at all? I usually grab a beer with the coworkers after work every once in a while.

Also, get a gf you loser.

What are your hobbies? Do you like sports? Depending on the team, most bars have an official sports team they sponsor where a group of fans gather for game day. Some craft breweries do Beer runs, where a group gets together, runs 3-4 miles. And they get some beer afterwards.

Also, if your gym has classes. Take some classes. Good for workout variation sometimes and you get to be around and chat with people.

>He didn't play a sport in college that he can find a men's team for after graduating

Fool. Go join a jiu jitsu gym or something. Find some place to be a man among men, the rest will follow.

I can't fucking tell if she likes me or not and if she rejects me I feel like I'll finally fucking lose it. I am descending into madness

God damn you betas piss me off!!!
She's just a girl, who fucking cares what she thinks of you, Jesus Christ!!!

You have every thing you need in life and you just want to act like a whiny baby?? im LMAOing at your life, kys yourself urself

O ok well then I guess you can just not do anything and nothing will ever happen.

It makes me feel like less of a person if she doesn't like me. I'm not used to this fucking attention from someone. She shows signs of liking and then shows signs of wanting me to fuck off.

WHY THE FUCK IS STRENGTH STANDARDS DOWN I NEVER WROTE DOWN MY FUCKING PROGRAM.

cant work out cause i work a physical construction job and these two things combined make me want to kms

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>autist?
If no, make friends at work or gym. Go to church for grills/community of (mostly) decent people. Also move out asap as this will make it possible to respect yourself and be respected. You can make it user.

>why do we want things we can't have?
>10/10 qt comes into my job all the time
>always seeks me out, and we talk. I help her with fines and its a nice relationship we have
>I want to just tell her she's beautiful and would do anything to meet her for coffee after
>she's married and lives in an orthodox community where that is serious
>my heart is broken a bit, knowing she'll come in next week, the same person. But I have changed
Honestly this infatuation has kept my mind off slutty chicks, I'm done with that. My focus on self-improvement is incredibly strong. So that's good

user, you have a friend. Be happy and stop lusting after her.

Besides, she might wingman hard for you if you keep being friends and hook you up with someone.

Same OP. Same.

Except Im slowly losing my gains as I have to help my dad in construction since I now graduated and live at home. Applied for 8 jobs so far at the end of December and and have yet to hear back from any of them. Parents said the second I get a job I can move out; never have I checked emails so damn often and having to apply to jobs from ziprecruiter, indeed, glassdoor seems meme as fuck.

You're absolutely right user. She probably won't be a wingwoman but you are correct.
She's a really nice girl, and she takes books out all the time titled "how to make friends" and other motivational shit.
You're right I am just lusting for her because she's "different". But I will continue being myself, that's the only thing I can do. Hopefully it turns into something platonic

Don't just get a job to just move out. Pick a career where you know there's upward mobility.

I have no friends other than my gf.

I recommend taking some language course, and studying very hard. Girls in those places are at least decent.

Or join ESL classes and chase foreign qts.

How hot to I have to be for it to compensate for my autism
>Tfw can't figure out what I'm doing wrong
>Send this
>Tfw finally figure out what is it
It's a mixed feeling

She's just playing with you, dummy. And you're falling for her bullshit. Regard yourself better than just a plaything

Just realized today I may be a dick and rude to other people.

Not going to say what field I'm in but I spent most of the week so far in meetings. Found out other people made a bunch or mistakes that is going to waste my time. I was a bit too fast in posting out there was issues etc. I also feel like I made a mistake by apologizing for someone's else fuck up. I fucking apologized for them and said okay. It's "fucked" now but I'll have to take the time to fix it. I'm just tripping right now

Why are things failing left and right and some of this is out of my control. These people are fucking up my projects...

>mfw just want an equally autistic friend I can sperg out about Fallout, Squad, current events and laugh at memes from an esoteric mongolian throat singing discussion board

I don't care if he's Veeky Forums, skelly or fat, I just want a friend I can hang out with, maybe have a beer or get stoned with

Oh boy...

>walk to start streak with foreign girl
>she just does te laughing emoji
She’s chinese and I think she just hates how snapchat works r-right lads?

Im ok. trying read more, been going to the gym consistently for about a year. wanna move back to my hometown but thinking about interviewing again makes me anxious.

>Just realized today I may be a dick and rude to other people.


>work in hospital nursing facility in physical therapy
>this one guy in long term care is a real prick
>demanding, ungrateful
>no staff like him, me especially
>2 minutes is all i can tolerate talking to him
>but other staff are all women and act patient and nice with him, but i dont, so i know he dislikes me
>had to talk to him today about setting something up to help him with his wheelchair, feel rage building inside me as he starts acting like an ungrateful prick again
>leave

>later on a staff member tells me he never wants to talk to me or see me again
>buy everyone donuts to celebrate

>Tfw she actually replied

I think you should go for a name change

>I want to just tell her she's beautiful

I strongly advise against men doing this with the one exception being that you are already on a relationship with her and even then you need to know that you should only do it sporadically.
She's hot, she's gorgeous and she already knows that, why would you give her free validation like that? You won't get anything out of it and it wouldn't increase your odds of getting with her even if she was single.

DO NOT give free validation to women, ever, make them earn it.

>Found a girl I like a year ago
>We become exclusive
>Shes very shy, I used to be similar but a bit better now
>Cute, skinny, low n-count
>Start spending every together mostly at my place
>She keeps me out of depression just through hanging out with her
>Decided to study further to specialise in my field
>They put me 5 hours away from her even though there were placements in our city (which they gave to other ppl)
>Manage to get them to put me an hours flight away instead
>See her once every 2 weeks which is just bearable
>When we're apart my mind starts to wander and think of her cheating on me or looking for someone else
>Depression starting to creep back
>Hold me Veeky Forums

>I also feel like shit cos losing weight so hungry and depressed due to low food intake. But I might be losing weight after years of trying (no going out to dinner or for gelato with her anymore, no salmon, eggs and hollandaise on toast with her every morning). Might be able to get abs finally if I keep this up for another 2 months.

Talk to people in your classes

I work in healthcare too. You the man.

>Been a high functioning alcoholic for over a year
>Somehow still losing weight
>Manage to hide this from my GF of almost a year
>Decide to do right by myself and her, stop drinking
>Been sober for almost a week and a half
>constantly have to remind myself not to drink every night
>Feeling strong and doing nofap for maximum willpower test

Feelsbetterman.jpg

I don't understand how this is relevant to my post but OK.


I think get it now though. Put yourself in the other person's shoes. If I make a mistake I don't want someone to blow up my emails and point the finger at men.than why do I do it at the others who fucked up? I mean they shouldn't have fuxked up on something as simple as what I told them to do a week ago now I need to reach out to the client and spend my own time to fix it.

Same situation. Grauduated recently and living with parents. I'm getting an apartment as soon as possible. I'm getting so tired of them

Am I wasting time talking to girls on Kik?

Give it to me straight Veeky Forums

Lol sort of in the same boat. Just finished Uni, have a handful of friends who still live here that I’m close with. Problem is they all smoke and I’m really trying to get sober cause I love to abuse stimulants and I needed to pass my courses cause I’m lowkey retarded.

I’ve been fucking to but unfortunately in my car cause my mom gets mad when I bring girls home so that’s kind of gay.

Got a super sweet job lined up to but they drug test that’s why I’m trying to just do better for myself but that job doesn’t start until June and I had NO money.

Problem is I’m working part time and it blows cause I need more hours so I can make more money but ive applies everywhere, restraunts and all that Jazz cause unlike OP I can and enjoy socializing with people.

Living with parents is not bad since I have a constant source of food so I’ve been getting hella lean and working out lots.

It’s not all bad.

Yes you stupid fuck. How is this even a question.

Anyone else dreading the mid-semester slump?

>Routine reaches maximum efficiency
>Doing the exact same shit every weekday
>Life becomes painfully repetitive, work on schoolwork until the moment your head hits the pillow
>Constant stress and management of classes and assignments with no end in sight

not OP but I've got one semester left and I'm determined to have a job and apartment lined up for when I graduate

I'm convinced that living with my parents (who are social recluses themselves and it's rubbed off on me) is severely hurting my social life

Arent all girls on kik like underage?

>Has anyone been in this situation before? How do I deal with crushing loneliness? I’m an introvert but having no one to talk to other than my parents is making me bitter, sad, miserable, and everything else.

In this situation now. Just moved out 2 months ago. I'm used to the loneliness, it doesn't bother me anymore. Also I have 2 dogs, which helps more than I realize.

they probably shouldn't have been on Veeky Forums giving me their Kik if they were underage desu

Yep my parents barely do anything except work and talk to their friends over the phone. I've ended up pretty much like that except an apartment might give me some breathing space

>She keeps me out of depression just through hanging out with her

This is where you fucked up. Should've never got with her until you figured out how to deal with this on your own.

Use tinder.

>mid-semester
It's January I haven't even started classes yet

Do it man. You need to get rejected anyway. It’s like opening a valve and once it’s released your balls will begin to grow, you will build momentum and start slaying bitches left and right.

that'll sure hold up in court user

>It’s like opening a valve and once it’s released your balls will begin to grow, you will build momentum and start slaying bitches left and right.
that's not true

You have to put in the work still, and you can’t be a bitch about it but for most men learning to deal with rejection opens the doors to more women and opportunity.

>be me
>failed relationship with two children and a broken family but still hopeful that it's not broken forever
>eating lunch at work today and get a text from kids mom
>"Yo" she says
>about to text back "Hey qt"
>Before I can send it I get another message
>"Your son is in a pediatric psychiatric hospital. Visitation is on Saturdays and Sundays for a two hour visit at blah time"
>pic related
>heartless bitch
>she put my ten fucking year old boy in a looney bin this morning because he's "too aggressive and threatening" or some shit
>I'm sure he is severely traumatized. No way he is not losing his mind right now with sadness and confusion
>also me
>I'm a former alcoholic but I bought a pint of 100 proof for tonight and have just been here at home by myself crying while imagining how he must feel
>he's going to be there for at least 3 weeks

The place is an hour and a half away from me but I am going to visit him every Saturday and Sunday. I also plan on fasting everyday that I don't see him. If he's going through this shit I can fucking fast and deal with it. This is so horrible. If I had a stable home and a step mommy gf he could've just came to stay with me but I haven't done that because I want to be with his mom. Fuck these feelings.

That's true. Equivalent to showing your hand in poker. But I just keep my composer, make nice small talk.
But damn is she fine -the whole situation is fucked

>tfw still living with parents 3 years after graduating college because live in most expensive area of country and work a shit paying job because i still cant get into graduate school
>parents are also social recluses (have literally never seen my father do a social activity with another person in my entire life, mom just works and then works at home)
>didnt have friends here in high school cause ive always been a shut in loser so all i do is work, gym and be at home barely leaving room because of how insufferable they are to be around and i am as well

i wonder if thats where i got it from

>apply for jobs in different cities
>get on craigslist for apartment roomies once you get an offer

>Tfw still living with my dad but realize there's no point in moving out since I travel a lot and don't have to pay rent

There's no shame in living with your parents while you're in your 20s. In fact it gives you a head start as you can build up your savings and investments more hastily
The whole move out by 18 meme only started with the Baby Boomers and that was due to the low cost of housing at the time

what do you do?

this is the most annoying thing about working with so many women. they all act so nice with the patients so they get stepped all over by them. all the prick patients, especially in long term care (usually the "younger" ones, like 70s or even 60s), treat all the staff like shit and they all still act nice to them.

You need to not drink and need to drop this fairytale of getting her back
She's gone but also doesn't seem worth getting back with
You have to play the hand you are dealt I'm very opposed to divorce but it's happened man and a woman who would put the kid in a Looney bin for something that wasn't life threatening is beyond cruel

>about to turn 30
>still live at home
>trying to do college (English major)
>working full time making shit money at a horrible job
>boss always trying to get me to work nights when I’m supposed to be doing days
>every time I work night it fucks me sleep up for like a week
>trying to make gains
>sorta fat
>no bf ever
>feel vaguely suicidal most of the time
>no idea where I’m headed in life
>hate myself
>lots of guilt for being so terrible at everything and useless
>coworkers all getting married... one ranted at me for like 20 mins today about how much it sucks to plan her wedding
>secretly cry in the bathroom a lot
>want to hurt myself kinda

Fuck I’m a mess

thats still a thing ?

I just made that mistake. I was trying to not play games and be straight with a woman but I think I showed too much interest so she’s pulled away now. Such a simple mistake and now I’ve lost a decently hot girl who wanted my dick. Oh well on to the next one.

>real men don't play games
you misunderstood the statement, user. Real men don't play /women's/ games. You definitely still have to play your own.

I can't imagine what you're going through, user.
But don't go back to the alcohol.
Don't revert back to an addictive habit.
Stay strong for your son. Support him as much as possible.
Fight as a father and set an example to your son.
Don't neglect your other child.

>You need to not drink
I agree. This is just a one time thing.

>and need to drop this fairytale of getting her back
Not a fairy tale. We go on dates all of the time (just us and sometimes with the kids) and she showed up at my place a couple of weeks ago at midnight and initiated kissing and lovins. She very obviously has feelings for me. I do not chase at all btw, it's all her.

>a woman who would put the kid in a Looney bin for something that wasn't life threatening is beyond cruel
Agreed. I don't fucking understand how she could have done this. He must feel so confused and sad right now. I hate this. And you might be right. This cruelty on her part may cause me to lose attraction to her. I'm not sure yet but I'm leaning that way I think.

>hang out with friend this afternoon
>she made peanut butter cookies before I came
>eat like 8 cookies and split a pizza
>chill out playing vidya for a few hours
I feel fat for breaking my diet, but good feels today

why is this pic making me tear up?

You can think of it as fishing. If start getting a bite you don't just start ripping that shit to the coast. You lure it back, then once the baby is hooked. Reel like a cunt

I feel like i’ve lived this day 100 times before. Every fucking day feels the same. Eat.study.lift

I would say it to my exgf every other day. I would say it when she got back from work, holding her face between my hands, before I leaned in for a kiss. She wouldn't even have had the time to drop her stuff, and would still be short breathed from running the flights of stairs to see me. She'd laugh and say that I was crazy. The glare in her eye, the smile on her mouth and the red on her cheeks, I'll never forget that.

So no, you can say to a girl that she is beautiful. You can love her like warmth when it's cold and water when it's dry. You can write her poems, you can make her laugh and cry with happines.

It's all transient user, but Love happens.

lol now let's see the heat-map of where the blacks live

I'm sorry about that. Do you socialize somewhere?

>Baptists

You can pull yourself out of this, user. Veeky Forums is here; get in shape, do some social things, it's not yet too late.
Gonna have to hurry though. Baby-maker clock is ticking, and we need to secure the existence of our people and a future for our children.

Nigga are you me

Try to develop some hobbies and interests that will round you out. I recently started cooking because I never learned how and it's actually pretty enjoyable.

And it's a great way to fill 30-40 minutes of the evening doing something with my hands. Gives me a feeling of pride when I'm done and have something delicious to eat after I wipe the sweat off my brow

>mfw like to imagine thats what my dad would say if he were ever around when I was a boy

He was always around to give me ass whoopings though

It's not your fault.

Go to church on Sunday. You'll make new friends.

this
even if you're a fedora tipping atheist, church is where you can find a lot of good, decent people.

this is autism max bro

>being dependent on someone for your own happiness
this is extremely toxic and you have to get out of this. I was like this 3 years ago and looking back I realize what a big mistake this is

I usually smile or divert. We live in an emasculated society so if a man stands up for himself he risks being chastised and could lose his job. Because of this society is getting worse and worse because we men can't put narcissistic and demanding people in their places anymore.

The world is already overpopulated. Everyone should be forced to take birth control IMO. We are at 7 billion people and it will stop at 10 and the Earth is already getting raped from ocean to forest.
We need to stop having kids and get back down to around 1 billion or less.

Well I think it's because we spent so much time together that it is hard to adjust to the void when that suddenly stops. I do keep reasonably busy though and have a good career.

Maybe things will get better soon.

Same situation as you OP. Try Tinder or OkCupid, getting a hobby helps too, I plan on learning guitar

no i mean your healthcare job

i wasnt even rude or mean to him, i was just direc twith my responses not acting so nice like the women do. all the residents who are ungrateful, demanding, selfish pricks hate me because of this

As a boy, I looked up to everything my dad did without much thinking about the why. I want you to know that I am proud knowing that you clearly love and care for your son, but understand that he will watch you drink and not eat and emulate you later in life. I watched my father shut people out and drink and it was also where I was myself not too many years ago.

I now strive to become the father to a son that my father never was because of bad examples. I think if you continue to love him but manage your addictions and stay healthy, your son will grow to want to be a father like his real father, and that is a much better relationship for the both of you.

Good luck, user.

Christ, I have never read a tinder post on Veeky Forums that didnt induce a sense of uneasiness. Guys who frequent this website actually try to persuade chicks into fucking them using emoticons and what not. And then I myself proceed to text some tinder whores and end up cringing over that shit later, realizing im no better than you autists. Scary thought.

by some metrics im doing well in life but I just cant find satisfaction. I moved away from my friends to get a fancy job and now I spend a lot of my time being anxious and feeling bad about myself. Its starting to affect my performance at work too.

>how to stop being anxious? feels like im chewing off all my nails with my mind running a mile a minute almost every day

>be skeleton
>do SS+GOMAD for a semester
>finals week hits, no gym
>winter break hits
>get back to drinking more milk
>literally cannot handle anymore than 2 glasses at a time without vomiting
This is so fucking annoying. A cup of milk in between snacks throughout the day made it easy to hit my TDEE. I've tried lactaid and it still comes up.

The milk in your area may be treated in a way that’s fucking up your stomach if lactaid makes no difference. I know of a lot of ameriburgers who thought they were lactose intolerant and discovered they could drink milk just fine after moving abroad or even just to a different region.

I'm in your same exact situation, OP. I have zero friends since graduating, all the ones I care about are back home before I went to college. Feels like most people tend to just hang out with whatever crew they ran with in high school without caring/looking to expand...

pls help.

Both milk purchased in my hometown and at college has been setting me off. I hope you're right though.

It's crazy how much control girls have our us and our psyche, meanwhile we're pretty much just throwaway stepping stones to them.

I'm about to turn 22 and I freeze when I talk to girls even if they show interest

what do I do bros, do I tell them I'm autistic or just kiss them

I used to be way more awkward and autistic than I am now, but I could try to play it off as being cute and it kind of worked

shit that's a good idea user, my problem is my ego, I'm good at most things except for talking to girls so I just ignore them

thanks

this kinda of mentality is why you have no success with girls. You need to be more invested in your perception of yourself than in their perception of you. Once you do this you will be successful

This only works when you're like 19. Nobody wants to see a grown ass 26 year old acting all shy and cute.

build a positive feedback loop. and dont anyone in the world fucking touch it.