Sexual Health- Late Bloomer Edition

yeah bro. it was mostly nerves though, i ve been through these situations enough to know what not to do so it helped no matter how embarassing it is in hindsight.
then i went raw and the difference was night and day lol
im not relying on alcohol to get me laid which was the main issue

Seriously though
>Did you feel like you missed out on life's best experiences?
Lol no. If you're a man, best part is being 25-30, and having access to all women out there, from fresh and eager teens to handy matures. Teen sex can be great, but it's almost never is - it's all about experience and learning. Having an open-minded partner for a year or so is very useful.
>After you fucked, did you realize it was really nothing to worry about and it's all a matter of being relaxed with yourself?
True. That's what they always tell you, right? But you have to do it yourself, there's no other way.
>How did it feel for you while you were inside her?
First time? I was nervous and couldn't finish for like 40 minutes. The girl even started worrying that it's her fault
>Did it open your eyes and gave you a little more confidence in sexing more bitches?
Confidence part - yes

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I lost my virginity not 5 months ago, 23 btw, and honestly, it felt like shit. I wasn't attracted to her, everything I did to get in bed felt like I was just running a program of 'the right things to say' and it somehow kept working, I never got fully hard (blame that on porn) and condoms kinda suck. All in all after like 20 mins I just pulled out and said I was going to be late for my class, didn't even cum. I don't feel any different, I just now know that porn is garbage for you. Oh well; good for you OP, glad your experience was much better.

Sucks. But It wont be your last time fucking user.

Lost it at 19, 21 now
>Did you feel like you missed out on life's best experiences?
Yes, not on sex alone, but on social life and teen love. And I came to find out that many more girls liked me than I knew in those years.
>After you fucked, did you realize it was really nothing to worry about and it's all a matter of being relaxed with yourself?
After I fucked I ran and called a taxi because I nearly got caught by her bf and wasn't sure he saw me, couldn't really think of anything else
>How did it feel for you while you were inside her?
Comfy
>Did it open your eyes and gave you a little more confidence in sexing more bitches?
It demistified sex for me, I had some confidence gains, not just sexing but also holding a conversation in general

>Did you feel like you missed out on life's best experiences?
I lost my virginity at 19 and I was kissless until I was 17, so I think feeling unwanted most of my life kind of messed me up. I do wish I could've had some kind of high school romance. Now I'm 22 and have been in a relationship for 3 years with the girl I lost my virginity to. It's alright, but she's had other partners and I never have, so if we stay together, I'll always feel like she's gotten to do so much more. She isn't very sexual now either so I feel like I'm missing my peak sexual years

>After you fucked, did you realize it was really nothing to worry about and it's all a matter of being relaxed with yourself?
It is better now and I don't feel at all worried to impress her like I was the first few times

How did it feel for you while you were inside her?
It was alright, overhyped though

Did it open your eyes and gave you a little more confidence in sexing more bitches?
Yeah, if I could

Is it wrong if I just want to lose my virginity with a girl that I love?

I've always put my morals (not fucking random thots) before my desperation, mainly because I've always had the the opinion of sex being the most intimate thing two people can experience.

What I cant get my head around is why would you want to have sex (as I've described) with a person you've only known for 2-5 hours (in a club or tinder, for instance)? Its all glorified masturbation in my opinion. Thoughts?

Even if it's special to you, it won't be special to her and that will ruin it for you.

I wish you the best brother, but that's how it's gonna go.

>Is it wrong if I just want to lose my virginity with a girl that I love?

Nothing wrong with that. A lot of people will say COPE, and stuff like that, but if you actually mean it there is nothing wrong. And honestly, if you are a jacked,(relative) good looking guy who takes care of himself, people will view it not as negativly as the stereotypical incel.
/r/equesting the "chad" virgin pic

To be honest I would class myself as DYEL (although they all class me as a chad), but I'm literally the only one in my group of friends who hits the gym (tfw no gym bro) and does regular cardio not to mention an actual overall care for myself (including mental health) i.e. reading, learning an new language, playing piano, reading philosophy and art etc.

I suppose my real downfall is when it gets intimate, I literally don't know what to do. Alas, that's a story for another time.

6'3'' 190lbs btw

Found the pic. Obviously don't take it too seriously

You literally sound like me user. We're in the same boat

>only got head

you're still a virgin fucking keek

im 20 yo kissless virgin desu

Is this op? Kys.

Lost it at 21 to a freshman I met on tinder. We fucked for 6 months. Funny enough after the first couple times she insisted that I fucked lots of girls hence why I was good at sex

>Did you feel like you missed out on life's best experiences?
Yes but not because of the sex itself, more about having the confidence to actually try with girls, which translates to other areas of life

>After you fucked, did you realize it was really nothing to worry about and it's all a matter of being relaxed with yourself?
Leading up to it, the girl pretty much did most of the pressing forward. What it really made me feel was that a girl who likes you will make it happen. As far as sex itself, I thought it was pretty ducking overrated until I really fell hard for the girl. The emotional intimacy is an unreal feeling

>How did it feel for you while you were inside her?
It felt very New which was cool. I used condone the first handful of times and then she wanted to fuck me and didn't have a condom.. so she let me hit it raw. That was like mainlining heroin into my dick. She had to control a slow pace or I would have nutted in 30 seconds

>Did it open your eyes and gave you a little more confidence in sexing more bitches?
While I was fucking her, yes. Once she left I was destroyed and am too much of a pussy/paranoid to chase girls

same guy.

Bro that's literally me, minus the piety.

Lost it in 2017, I'm almost 22.

Years of masturbation and low self esteem have taken their toll on me. Dick is half broken, either erections are not strong enough, hard to maintain or I cum lightning fast. Like, just getting it in fast.

I don't know what I can do but shit is frustrating as fuck. Considering seeking professional help but I'm kind of ashamed to go to a penis doctor at this age, and I don't want to shove pills that I might eventually get too used to. At least my tongue game is strong.

While I agree, you're shooting for an increasingly slim margin of the population as you get older. Unless you're decently attractive, you'll probably end up settling with some girl you "like" just because you've realized that most girls you would've considered first are taken.

That's not to say that you shouldn't lose your virginity to some girl you just met that day, but don't hold your breath for some amazing (either physically or personality wise) woman who may never show up.

So what's the current consensus on the health aspects of masturbation?

I'm currently on my fourth week of NoFap, and honestly, I'm feeling this constant pressure in my balls to shoot my load. It honestly feels unhealthy to restrict myself so.

Should I masturbate, but not use porn?
If so, how often?
And what about the testosterone levels?

Thanks bro

I guess it s just the social pressure I get from my friends and society in general. Its just the intimate part that fucks me up, probably because it means nothing if I don't love her.

Actually think I'm asexual sometimes kek.

Lost mine when I was 21, 22 now.
>Did you feel like you missed out on life's best experiences?
Meh, I have pretty much everything else going for me in terms of my social life so it was more just a hurdle than anything
>After you fucked, did you realize it was really nothing to worry about and it's all a matter of being relaxed with yourself?
It wasn't exactly great. I more just felt relieved about it. I knew I was going to sleep with the girl because we'd been dating for a couple of months.
>How did it feel for you while you were inside her?
She was very, very tight (21 also). It just felt tight more than anything but it felt great
>Did it open your eyes and gave you a little more confidence in sexing more bitches?
I haven't actually slept with anyone since. She was moving away so as far as I'm concerned us sleeping together was her parting gift. I'm definitely more confident talking to girls now though. I've had girls that I know I could've fucked if I wanted to but I didn't go through with it. I don't know about anyone else but for me the thrill is definitely in the chase. If Its very clear I can sleep with her I lose all interest

I think the healthiest way is to quit porn.
It fuck with your mind. Personal experience was I thought my dick was tiny and ugly. Best if you just fantasize my g.

Good luck.

>she isnt very sexual now
>I dont feel at all worried to impress her

B&