/SIG/ - Self improvement general

How to self-improve if I am 2.5/10 with looksmaxxxing and my problems can't be fixed with plastic sturgery (only ever slept with two girls, no gf, no friends)

major incel cope, you're not CHOOSING to avoid females, you are selected AGAINST

Fuck porn. I'm tired of fucking straining to get right. This is my year fellas.

Its an evolutionary mode and it explain a vast majority of the things going on right now.

youtube.com/watch?v=W8N3FF_3KvU

Its even somewhat mentioned in religious lore, though less accurate...the fasting for example, why do you think that many religions have it? It has very little to do with gods most likely, and has more something to do with very ancient methods are switching people into K selected mode, and keeping them there. The religions knew of it, and tried to prevent it. So after I am done with scientific lore. I moved on to interpret the religious lore in a more favorable light.

I get enough mires, and even females approaching me. I am CHOOSING not to engage with them. I even go out of my way to stress myself out by sometimes ENGAGING them. To practice approaches somewhat. But what if they are lacking in quality? It is quite obvious that the lad culture and "fuck as many females as you can" is degenerate r selected crap.

Thanks, I shall look in to it.

You're a virgin aren't you? This is quite literally your brain deluding itself so that you won't have to realize that your organism is fundamentally worthless.

>Have you quit porn?
Yes, I read this book (>> sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home ) and it made me realize that quitting porn is not "giving up" porn - but instead being liberated from the porn hungry fiend inside me.

>Have you been eating and lifting properly?
Yes, my diet is clean af with healthy fats and complex carbs and plenty of protein. Almost at 1/2/3/4.

>Have you been wasting time?
Yes, but working a little more each day to change that.

> Are you learning a new language?
I speak English, Spanish and Portuguese. I'm currently learning French through Duolingo and Michael Thomas' audiobook french courses. I get together with a french speaking friend once a month and test out what I've learned trying to maintain the conversations in french. Looking to add French media to my routine to become more familiar with the language.

>tfw no gf?
been single for almost a year now... She broke up with me because I was behaving like an apathetic, lying and cynical slob. I miss her, and her leaving me was a wake up call to get my act together.
>Started to see a psychiatrist to deal with my mental health issues that I've been struggling with for over a decade.
>Did two months of therapy, around 12 1 hour sessions in total. I felt that was enough.
>Started working out, working on my diet and dedicating myself to my career as a med student.
>I'm not doing this for "her" or to try to win her back, all though the sense of hope is in the back of mind since it was a 4 year relationship. I'm doing it for me, so that I can be happy and fulfilled.

>A woman is like a protein shake, you need to be working out for the supplement to be beneficial. If you're just a slob with a gf, she will leave you and if you're dumb enough to not take responsibility for yourself, you'll go down a rabbit hole of blaming others for your miss fortunes.

>Take action to clean yourself up.

bump

>have you quit porn?
no but fap only once per day which is really a progress
>have you been eating and lifting properly?
eating very healthy but no exercise at all .
>have you been wasting time?
yes but every day I waste less time. I think I average 2-4 wasted hours now. Since I was really on the bottom doing nothing few weeks ago I feel im making progress.
>are you learning a new language?
yes a slav one at least 2 -3 days per week I learn it.
>tfw no gf?
>tfw no gf

This way of the r/K selected theory, and its application is basically the attempt by us whites in establishing a line of sanity again, into regaining the old mindset. Islam offered us their way, but obviously its not entirely in line with our racial heritage. We for example have different ways in which we control females. Examples of which that can be seen in the victorian era. Probably still can be found in more rural area's and with religious people. Many such things that have to be found out again through theorizing and application. And what better subjects could there be but yourselves! Including myself!

one kid, and a long relationship with an ex. Plenty of sex. Just got tired of her degenerate ways and dont want a new degenerate skank alongside me.

>have you quit porn?
I have for a year now

>have you been eating and lifting properly?
Lifting yes, eating no. Starting Keto today

>have you been wasting time?
Yes, but I also have been doing productive things as well

>are you learning a new language?
No

Just broke off with my BF so I'm not wanting to get back in a relationship rn

>have you quit porn?
Quit porn in 2017, currently on a 2 week no fap

>have you been eating and lifting properly?
Been lifting properly for 4 years, but only been eating properly for the past month. Cancelled my take-away accounts, haven't been through a drive-thru and learnt how to cook. Just working on maintaining my portion sizes. Managed to hit 3 plate on bench and 5 plate on DL, will be depressing to see this go down as I lose more weight.

>have you been wasting time?
God yes, don't know how to fix it though. Stopped playing games at least but now I have a tonne of free time.

>are you learning a new language?
Already speak 4 langues, trying to pick up another but losing the motivation

>tfw no gf?
Had a oneitis for 6 years, finally managed to kick the habit. Had Tinder for a few days but no matches, went out with friends and managed to get a few phone numbers and been on 4 dates this year. Slow but steady progress.

>tfw when a close cousin got nearly terminal cancer at 13yo
>tfw failed driving licence test
>tfw short on money
>tfw monitor broke and i need one for colege
>tfw i see my aunt/uncle crying everyday and i cant do shit
>tfw att whoring on Veeky Forums
>tfw getting sad skipping gym and meals
Holy fuck i made progress last year but this january has been a fucking bomb

>>have you quit porn?
No, I have a problem, i'm probably bored I guess
>>have you been eating and lifting properly?
yes, both
>>have you been wasting time?
otherwise I wouldn't be here, but I waste less time now
>>are you learning a new language?
tried spanish but I'm too busy, btw I am bilingual anyway and can speak german
>>tfw no gf?
Gf since more than a year now, still going strong

Serious question. How do I NOT waste time? I'm still unemployed and live in a rural area with nothing better to do than shitpost online

I have a girl telling me she likes me more than her boyfriend and that I'm literally her perfect man but I'm actively encouraging her not to break up with him for that reason and instead to look within herself to see if she truly wants to be with him for him.

I don't know if it counts as self-improvement, but the fact that it hurts so bad tells me growth is coming. It's like heart DOMS.

There's always something better to do than shitpost. Even a walk is better than shitposting.

I actually really wanna do that but....

That looks like an excuse to me. Some of the best walks you'll ever have are in the crisp winter air, snowfall crunching beneath your feet, six layers of clothing deep and still feeling the nip.

Quit porn, now I have to rape my wife. Thanks Veeky Forums

>have you quit porn?
7th day of no-fap
>have you been eating and lifting properly?
Chest day today! Gonna hit a PR, I feel it!
>have you been wasting time?
Quit /pol/ and started reading the books I was recommended
>are you learning a new language?
Дa! Mнe нaдo пpaктикoвaть мoй pyccкий.
>tfw no gf?
T_T

Thanks for that. I'm gonna go walk

>Quit jerking off and porn (1 month so far)
>Reading more
>telling the truth, being straightforward and honest
>saving money, not spending it not frivolous stuff
>hitting the gym everyday at 7 am until 9 am and cycling on Mon/Wed/Fri for those cardio gainz.
>Being more discipline

Feels good familia

get a job

This. it's the perfect time to listen to the perfect walking in the cold album.

Enjoy it mate. Load up some lovely walking music, like Sigur Ros or something. Really amplifies it.

Nice excuse mate. It's -15°C here (5°F) and snowing and I just returned from a walk after work and I'll cycle to the gym soon.

25 degrees celcius? that's almost summer nigga

>have you quit porn?
Somewhat. I'm going to stop today.
>have you been eating and lifting properly?
I've been eating okay. Some days are better than others
Lifting has improved a lot. I broke my bench PR so now I'm at 92kg. I'm going to break my deadlift on Thursday.
>have you been wasting time?
School started so I haven't really.
>are you learning a new language?
I'm going to soon once I get comfortable between work and school.
>tfw no gf?
Yes
I also been taking Zoloft for the past week and I start therapy today. I hope to be better really soon.

F

Watched this and I'm r as fuck...God damn it.

Yes
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How do I stop myself from being addicted to sex? It's fucking horrible when you get it so easy too.
It's only tuesday but I've already fucked 3 different women, and I'm about to do a repeat on one of them tomorrow.

How did you meet your wife?

>quit porn?
I don't use porn. I quit looking at it a few months ago.
>lifting and eating?
Yes to lifting, I'm still finding my macros though. I'm struggling to take in enough to meet my TFEE
>wasting time
Not as much in the past month. Most days it is wake up, pray, gym, eat, work, eat, read, sleep.
>new language?
No, but I'm improving my German for an upcoming trip to Austria
>GF?
Singleness bothers me only a little. There are only a handful of women I'd actually like to be with, most others are a waste of time. If I can't have one of the ones I want (and I can't) I'm not going to waste time dwelling on it.

>have you quit porn?
Yes
>have you been eating and lifting properly?
I am a poor "open your mind brah and do a handstand on this log " fag so calestethics
I can now do 150 pushups
>have you been wasting time?
Yes
>are you learning a new language?
German and Russian
>tfw no gf?
No pshhhhh dont say those words

All I do is lift, eat, play guitar/draw and vidya

am I ever gonna make it lads

>Last girl crushed me

Stop fucking fatties mate.

No prob man
BTW
A mouth gag does wonders

youtube.com/watch?v=XIAPKzWqgpU
>Why I Love Running Cross-country
youtube.com/watch?v=7L5ST5NULpI
>Why Does Strength Matter?
youtube.com/watch?v=WHKb6W1lMBU
>Very Indo-European Reading List

>have you quit porn?
Not completely but I'm working on it. I used to use it each day, but now I only do it once or twice a week.
>have you been eating and lifting properly
Mostly. Since the new semester started, I've been exercising again. I cut out sugary drinks along time ago and eat vegetables with every meal, I just need to make sure I avoid junk food and don't overeat
>have you been waiting time
I play very little videogames any more, so that's a big inprovement. Still use the Internet more then k should, but I'm getting better. Now I read more and watch movies on filmstruk on my spare time
>are you learning a new language
Yes, french. I use duolingo and have a text book. When I watch a french film k try to pay attention to the sounds and not just glue my eyes to the subtitles
>tfw no gf
Yes. I've actually never had a gf. I was a super introverted person in highschool, and in some ways still am, but I've also realized that I've had some low self confidence in the past. There's really no reason I should either, most people I talk to end up liking me so I should be more comfortable being outgoing.

If you got laid you would immediately forget about that girl that "crushed" you. Also your mindset is all fucked up, letting a girl "have influence" on how you feel is a choice. I'm guessing you're less than 23 years of age, this is a phase you're going through. Lift and man up, dude.

The pic on the far right looks exactly like my face viewed from side

>have you quit porn
Yes
>have you been eating and lifting properly?
Yes
>have you been wasting time?
Yes, I proctrastinate too much
>are you learning a new language?
Already speak 3 languages, trying to maintain that
>tfw no gf?
Not looking for a gf

>have you quit porn?
i've got my fapping/porn down to like 2-3 times a week
>have you been eating and lifting properly?
Yes.
>have you been wasting time?
Loads
>are you learning a new language?
Learning Japanese at uni so i can buy car parts from nip-land without a go between
>tfw no gf?
tfw gf

Get those social gains

this is one of the most redpilled things ive seen, fuck.

god bless, user. we're gonna make it

>but no exercise at all .

>have you quit porn?
No but I only watch it 20% as much as I used to, I intend to lower it but it's hard.
>have you been eating and lifting properly?
Not eating but the lifting is going great.
>have you been wasting time?
Yes
>are you learning a new language?
I'm learning French
>tfw no gf?
DELETE

who /only browsing blue boards/ here

>have you quit porn?
The hardest vice to quit honestly, I found quitting smoking and cutting down on 1 day of drinking a week to be much easier.

>have you been eating and lifting properly?
It helps to have a cafeteria at work with good options, so yes to eating. I stopped trying to let my ego get in the way with my lifts and went down in weight in a lot of workouts to focus on proper form.
>have you been wasting time?
I was on a good run for a while with my time management but I'm starting to revert to my old ways. Still hanging in there.
>are you learning a new language?
I was working on learning Icelandic and Norwegian about a year ago through a free online program, but work started to get in the way and my priorities changed.
>tfw no gf?
Talking to someone, and she's great. We're both very busy people though.

But what? I'm just stopping by Veeky Forums before I go for a run. I'm planning on biking to work once it gets over 20.

>>have you quit porn?
Why though?
>>have you been eating and lifting properly?
Eating properly? Yes.
Lifting? Yes. Lifting properly? Eh. I've gotten some comments on my deadlift form so I'm trying to unfuck it.
>>have you been wasting time?
Nah my dude. Just got promoted.
>>are you learning a new language?
Why would I want to learn another language? So I can watch anime without subtitles? Nobody fucking watches anime.
>>tfw no gf?
That's actually a hard question to answer at the moment. There's a girl. We're close. We fuck before work when we're both working, we spend most of our days off together. But I don't know if it's too early to call her my girlfriend. We've only been dating for a few weeks.

Life's okay at the moment.

>44647673
>have you quit porn?
yes, with one slip a week ago but i'd had over a month before that slip. Forgive me. I know its no exuse but i just wanted to make sure i didn't get ED since i hadn't had a boner in so long. Contrary to most posts i read, i get more random boners when i do fapp as opposed to nofapp
>have you been eating and lifting properly?
Nah. I'm quitting cigarettes though and haven't had one today though there is one in my pocket and it's killing me trying to resist but i have to because i don't want cancer
>have you been wasting time?
yea
>are you learning a new language?
I'm bi lingual but am sharpening my proficiency in both.
>tfw no gf?
I like being single but i'm ready to start a family so yea it sucks

see
This one nasty berta girl fucked my emotions up and I've been with a short qt russian girl for a year and a half now and I still dont let her swing my emotions too much. Don't be a bitch, you have to learn from the past and not dwell on it dawg

How the fuck do you pay attention in class and study, lads? I have a 4.0 in my junior year of college and I have made it this far just using my own knowledge and reasoning, passing Calculus exams with near perfect scores, always near the tip top of every class and I hardly show up and don’t even bother to buy the textbook. But this semester I’m taking a hard as shit finance class that isn’t coming to me naturally but I’ve gone 21 years without ever having to put any effort into anything at all. What the fuck do I seriously just write down what the teacher says then go home and read it again for a few hours? How do I get past the mental roadblock keeping me from doing these things? I want to keep a perfect 4.0 so I can get a better scholarship for grad school, my GRE wasn’t quite as perfect as it could’ve been. Christ I have no self motivation at all.
>inb4 shit like visualization or “just tell urself to do it bro”

>have you quit porn?
No but I barely watch it
>have you been eating and lifting properly?
Absolutely, finally doing a real cut too
>have you been wasting time?
Yea but I'm still busy so I enjoy my time off
>are you learning a new language?
Yep, taking classes in grad school. I still suck though. Spanish.
>tfw no gf?
Yea but I need to get my shit together first.

My big thing, as of last night, is to stop drinking for a few weeks. I definitely drink too much. I just sip mindlessly without realizing how drunk Im getting whenever we go out, and I only drink straight liqour cause I dont wanna get fat. And I can be emotionally unpredictable when Im drunk, thankfully Im usually just happy. As of tonight Im going to start meditating in the evening and taking more time for my thoughts.

Kek'd and checked

>>have you quit porn?
Not entirely, not really worried about it.
>>have you been eating and lifting properly?
Back in the routine, up ~6lbs since mid-January.
>>have you been wasting time?
Definitely on the weekends, but still meeting goals so that's more /selfcare/ than anything.
>>are you learning a new language?
Brushing up on French, but not sold on it.
>>tfw no gf?
Just broke off an ongoing thing, wasn't seeing eye to eye with her. Focusing on me for now.

>had to get a job this semester
>22 hours of upper division economics courses
>now throw in 20 hours of work every week as well
>have to be at work at 7:30am every morning
>usually don’t get home until after 8pm every night
>no time for gym, only work and study
>forget to eat every couple days
>when I don’t forget I usually just eat a couple crackers as I run out the door
>no time for feel
>no time for friends or a gf
>why am I doing this
>why didn’t I just write children’s books or something easy as fuck

>>have you quit porn?
Yep, best decision I've made
>>have you been eating and lifting properly?
Of course, trying to get back up to 230 lba, 222 right now at 6'8"
>>have you been wasting time?
Unfortunately, but video games are losing my interest more and more. I only play at night before bed but it's enough to be considered wasted
>>are you learning a new language?
Russian
>>tfw no gf?
Gf for 4 years+

>have you quit porn?
No, it's fun to watch with my girl

>Have you been eating and ligting properly?
Been going at least 5 times a week the past month, eating much better

>Have you been wasting time?
I don't consider i waste time even if I sit down doing nothing

>Are you learning a new language?
No, i'd like to try german

>Tfw no gf?
We've been almost 4 years together, I'm propouse when we finish college

retarded if true

>have you quit porn?
Yes, definitively (best achievement of the year so far)
>have you been eating and lifting properly?
Should eat more white meat but in general i eat good. My grandma makes me big meals... As for lifting, i started recently but i haven't ditched a training so far.
>have you been wasting time?
Yes. However, i've caught back my lost habit of reading. What i should really fix is my sleep schedule but late night hours are the only hours of the day i have for myself and to meditate
>are you learning a new language?
No (i speak 4 languages tough)
>tfw no gf?
Yes
Always

We worked on the same company but not on the same department.

I had moved to english-speaking Europe and I was pretty new and wanted to meet new people. She sent an email looking for tickets to a sold-out concert, to which I had my own ticket.

I responded. I was not interested in selling but I wanted to make friends.
We chatted back and forth with emails and eventually we met in person. I asked her out & she said yes.

There are significant advantages to quitting porn.

To note is that, masturbation is cool, porn fucks with your mind.

It's not necessarily "bad", we don't really know the ramifications long-term to this kind of exposure. But it definitely shapes your kinks.

study habits are like gains. You have to sit down and develop them just like you develop muscles at the gym. It's like a natural athlete who excelled at sports, who just entered a gym and is wondering why he can't bench 3 plates. It literally is re-reading notes you take, or finding material online that helps you understand concepts. I've found a lot of material on youtube for various classes that troubled me. Good luck user.

>wearing a racerback tank

He deserves to get laughed at desu

>have you quit porn?
Not really, but I've stopped looking for it.

>have you been eating and lifting properly?
Just finished a cardio workout and fasting.

>have you been wasting time?
Yes. I applied to a job today but wanted to apply to 3 before work, not gonna happen.

>are you learning a new language?
No

>tfw no gf?
eh

>have you quit porn?
Yep, doing nofap but i have a gf so it's not that hard
>have you been eating and lifting properly?
diet is sorted, drinking lots of water but can't afford a gym membership rn so just doing calisthenics and yoga at home
>have you been wasting time?
ive been the most productive in my life these last 3 months
>are you learning a new language?
Learning German on Duolingo
>tfw no gf?
got a gf, hopefully moving in together this year

>have you quit porn?
Yeah started NoFap this week
>have you been eating and lifting properly?
Lifting is good but eating has slacked
>have you been wasting time?
Yeah, but replacing vidya with reading
>are you learning a new language?
No, already know 3
>tfw no gf?
7 years with my girl

>no
>yes
>a little
>no
>no
I’m trying to study hard bros but I have a virus atm and it’s hard to stay motivated. Any advice?

I'm kind of a degenerate porn addict.
I do exercise but I eat like shit
Waste time. I usually read alot on my time off.
New language? I'm trying to improve my Spanish.
GF? I have somebody I use for sex but after I improve myself a bit I'm going to try to find a suitable woman.

trying to get back into my keto IF diet
i sent my gaming desktop home so i won't waste as much time and so i can get my grades up
haven't been to the gym in a while, will go later this week when schedule allows

can anyone recommend a self improvement app like Fabulous that doesn't suck?

also i want to do no fap but i keep getting wet dreams even when i'm not trying and i just forget to jerk off for like 3-4 days

This is OC, I hope you guys can appreciate it.

>2 years ago
>turn the flash on my camera and take a selfie
>my face and my teeth disgust me
>spend the few months later trying to find the best possible solutions
>teeth and face improve drastically, picture is the end result

Dude thanks

Typo on Charcoal

Pic Unrelated

fugg I gotta edit that, thanks and kek

And rubbing the cleanser should be done in 5-10sec, not 30-60sec...shit, I gotta edit that too.

>have you quit porn?
yes

>have you been eating and lifting properly?
not yet but gonna start soon, just got my first job so I can get some money for a gym membership and to buy my own food among other things

>have you been wasting time
been wasting too much time on the internet cause i don't have much to do other than my new job which i only work at three days a week. i've been using some of my free time reading starting strength and introducing my self to the main lifts before i start going to the gym

>are you learning a new language?
no

>tfw no gf?
yeah

>have you quit porn?
tomorrow, I promise
>have you been eating and lifting properly?
tomorrow, really not joking
>have you been wasting time?
yes but tomorrow I will start doing it right
>are you learning a new language?
yeah japanese for the last 6 months
>tfw no gf?
tomorrow maybe

>have you quit porn
No. Not planning to either.
>have you been eating and lifting properly?
Just lifting. My appetite is gone lately.
>have you been wasting time
I don't believe time can be wasted
>are you learning a new language
Yes, spanish
>tfw no gf?
Yep. Trying to improve though.

> RealFeel

>have you quit porn

No, not really at all. I was doing well for a while and then had a relapse. Just recently watched/fapped to porn with a dude in it again, one of those GDP videos. I genuinely felt disgusted with myself afterwards, I really don't understand the desire to watch another dude fuck a chick, the self-insert argument doesn't work for my anymore when you can hear the dude talking and grunting and shit. Just seemed very cuckish to me, don't think ill even revisit m/f porn again.

Overall though I have limited myself to fapping to mostly non-nude stuff of girls trying on clothes, or this russian bra shop that posts videos of busty russian qts modeling bras, goddamn.

It's been so long that I've been out of the dating game (or even really talked to a woman) that that kind of thing seems a long term goal, the first step would be to make some male friends w/ or w/o connections to women, because not having friends is a death sentence if you go anywhere beyond one night stands.

>have you been eating and lifting properly?

Much the same as with quitting porn, a lot of the motivation that I had felt through last fall through to christmas is mostly gone. I still have the discipline to complete my workouts, but lately I have been doing the bare minimum. Eating has never been much of a problem for me, but I've been drinking heavier lately, though I still have it controlled to about twice weekly.

>have you been wasting time?

Uni,lifting,drinking,cardio..... All feels like a waste right now. I can see where I want to be in 10 years time though, and that's what gets me out of bed in the morning.

>Are you learning a new language?

Ancient Greek, actually. Scheduled to be reading Homer in the original greek in 2-3 academic term's time. Thinking of picking up maybe russian(escape plans) or spanish seeing as though I've had over a decade of french schooling.

>tfw no gf?

Dropped out of Uni 2 years ago to work so that I could finish schooling without debt, due to circumstance and some of my own doing I lost most of my social group. Had a few friends to hangout and shoot the shit with since then, but really no connections to women, any sort of niceties or introductions in class after returning to uni have been fruitless, though there are very few women to begin with, and even fewer with obvious issues.

I also really need to sort my shit out before getting a gf, at this point I have none of the social connections to even land me in the same room with women.
Blogpost over, sometimes I just need to vent for my own sake.

>have you quit porn?
Haven't watched it in a couple of weeks. Feels incredible.

>have you been eating and lifting properly?
Over a week ago my gym moved. The building they moved into still had a bunch of machines from the mechanic that rented it before. He's still moving out, and they finally got a few pieces of equipment setup, so last night was my first night back. Also last week when I wasn't at the gym I ate like shit, too. I'm back on track now.
>have you been wasting time?
Yes. But less.
>are you learning a new language?
Music
>tfw no gf?
Working on it.

>have you quit porn?
Nope
>have you been eating and lifting properly?
Of course!
>have you been wasting time?
on vacation right now
>are you learning a new language?
Si
>tfw no gf?
;_;

...

I lost a baby and my partner 3 months ago. I haven't been allowed back at the gym until very recently. I don't sleep well either. Too many things on my mind. So many what-if's that'll never come to pass. Shit hurts.

But today was the first day I woke up early. I woke up at 8:40am today. I got up. I made my bed. I cleaned my room. I brushed me teeth. Although I cancelled an appointment with my grief counsellor today and haven't done laundry yet I'd say this is the most accomolished I've felt in a while. Tomorrow I'm going to buy a whiteboard to help me get back into a normal daily routine.