what would you do in the following situation
>trpg "club" at university, there is no membership, anyone can come whenever they want
>been with the group for a relatively short time, only half a year
>About to start a campaign in which I am the GM
and here is a hypothetical scenario
If you were in my situation, what would you do if a person you hate for personal reasons wanted to join the game (of course, he wouldn't know you are the GM)?
Talk to him like a big boy and tell him that your preexisting feelings make the two of you a poor match for the game.
what if it wasn't mutual?
what if you hated him but he thinks you are cool with him? (and you hoped to never cross paths with the guy again)
>what if you hated him but he thinks you are cool with him?
>(and you hoped to never cross paths with the guy again)
see >Talk to him like a big boy
>like a big boy read: be mature about this
>and tell him that your preexisting feelings make the two of you a poor match for the game.
>what if you hated him but he thinks you are cool with him?
This happened to me, I manned the fuck up and taught myself to like the guy. We became best friends.
even with that, wouldn't I look like a dick in front of the other guys who have no quarrels with him?
eh
tough thing, I'm an amiable guy, but with the very few people I make enemies with I can't be forgiving
If you can't set aside your differences when playing, you're a bad DM.
Correction: If you can't set aside your differences, can't get the chip off your shoulder, and/or can't tell them that you wouldn't be able to be unbiased as a GM with that present player, then you're a bad DM and a bad person.
>can't get the chip off your shoulder
and how do you do that?
>not being unbiased at all on the table
It's the worst option of the bunch, but at least he'd still be a mature human being and saying something rather than just stewing in his one sided hatred.
I sincerely doubt it was reason enough to be so angry at this person, especially since you've stated they're completely oblivious to it. Sounds like you're just being a little bitch.
>I sincerely doubt
you are 100% correct this is a hypotetical scenario, no thing like that has ever happened.
We are talking in the event it would
However don't try to play the witty cunt card of "I know about your problems better than you" because that pisses off people a lot
Sure weeb. Totally hypothetical.
Please tell us what this hypothetical man did in this hypothetical situation prior to the other hypothetical situation that made you so hypothetically fanny flustered.
what the fuck is your problem
I have a game tomorrow morning and I just though "what if a dick came to the game?" and I came to ask this on Veeky Forums
stop playing that fucking card because I swear to God that must be the reason why you have no friends
>wouldn't I look like a dick in front of the other guys who have no quarrels with him?
... why would you have the talk in front of other people? That's personal one-on-one stuff.
eh, you have a point
also, those guys have been with me for quite some time already so they would understand anyway
>Y-you must have no friends!
Quoted by the guy "hypothetically" being so rectally ravaged about someone over probably the most minute thing, and incapable of coming to terms with it like a rational human being (the fact you were surprised by some of these responses only makes it all the more painfully obvious).
You're fooling no one here with that level of projection.
>Weeaboo
>Friends
ah
so you have friends
you mean you are able to not be a condescending dick? Why don't you try that instead!
Regardless, it depends.
A game should involve a degree of impersonality.
Unless you feel the guy would disrespect you or disrupt the game, I'd talk out the differences and attempt to see of a good time can be had.
If you can;t rein in your emotions, the problem is you, at the end.
Weeaboos aren't people, so I don't have to treat them like they are.
what the fuck is a weeaboo to you
nevermind don't bother, I'm going to ignore you from now on because you aren't making the least of sense
It depends on every person of course, but even if the problem was the GM it should be solved nonetheless, and I don't think attempting to change people would be suitable
>blah blah Veeky Forums cliches top kek hurr
tfw summer.
>I'm going to ignore you from now on because you aren't making the least of sense
He's 'pretending' to be retarded for b8 purposes, so that's probably your best bet.
In answer to your OP, I'd say that depends on what your reasons for disliking him are. If it's ego stuff then you can get over it. If they're genuinely an asshole who has done something shitty to you or yours, then that'll be tougher. On the bright side, he doesn't know you dislike him so he won't be sabotaging the game. You can probably just put your feelings aside for the sake of the game and treat them as any other player - concentrate on the character they play and ignore the player behind it.
>it should be solved nonetheless
Point made, and agreed.
I have made my group worrk for the last 8 years by being a ruthless bastard that will force confrontations and reconciliation between people when it's needed.
It has backfired ocassionally (group went from 8 members to 3 in the space of a week), but on the whole, it's best to get shit out.
its like people come here just to argue about anything and is surprised to find out that some people get fed up with that
I see, Its better to have a small but good group to have fun with than a big group in which everyone is bitter and ruining the mood
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Tell him it's full but you'll put him down for the next game you run.
I know for a fact that this is bait, and I still got mad. Good job.
Is being terrible at basic human interaction a requirement for playing ttrpgs? Been playing for 10+ years now and I still feel like I've missed an important memo or something.
Situation as written it's highly unlikely this "hypothetical" could ever really occur so "what do?" is similarly unsolvable.
This requires for purposes of discussion that you hate this guy so bad you can't treat him like another stranger at the table for 3 hours, but:
no one else at the table dislikes him, either;
he doesn't know that, in fact he's willing to game with you; and
he's even okay with you being DM; but
you're grievance is justified and not a personal problem.
That doesn't really happen. People rarely suck under such specific circumstances that only you notice it.
So chances are he's going to suck at the table and you'll have your reason, he's gonna see that you're about to be his gameboss and rabbit, or you're gonna have to face that it's just you.
And if it's just you? That's okay. You can hate someone for stupid reasons and it not be a problem. Just play anyway.
Christ, there's this guy at one of my games that puts on this stupid Errol Flynn British/French accent, always plays melee characters, and seems to have some religious obligation to never help set up a flanking situation and after about 10 minutes of it I start fantasizing about shoving him headfirst into a drillpress set to "slow."
But he doesn't know about it because it's my problem and I'm coping.
Now, if he was visibly harassing one of the other players at the table that would be on the stop game to talk about it >> OOC warning >> yellow card >> red card spectrum.
I dunno man
I get off on talking to people I don't like. It's fun.