Does anyone else feel like shit every single day due to what their parents did to them as well as feeling guilty for...

Hey bro, I come from a similar upbringing and can relate...I'm older now and learned over time that to be a man you need to leave that all behind and take responsibility for your life....grab life by the pussy, make shit happen....when you find yourself moping around feeling sorry for yourself go do some physical excercise

No i dont feel like that. Because im not a pathetic faggot and take ownership over my own life

but nothing I do will bring back the years I lost or the important parts of the developmental stages I was cucked on.

I want to cry when I think that I am getting older but nothing I do can ever make up for what happened. The worst part is that I wasn't born in a poor family, or to a single mom or in Africa. My parents just decided my siblings are better than me for some reason.

I literally have low testosterone as much as I know you'll call it an excuse.

cold showers. lift weights

I'm in the same boat as OP but i'm fairly successful now. I just turn into a retard around the family almost as a defence mechanism. Do I cut them out of my life or try and get over this shit? I moved out of my home country because of it and am having a pretty decent live to be honest but family gatherings still leave me looking like a nervous wreck

Also I will not have children because I won't raise them to be healthy most likely

Read No More Mr. Nice Guy, user. It'll help put you on a better path to start getting better. Best of luck to you, faggot.

no, i dont feel guilty at all. i blame my parents and they deserve to be blamed. they were terrible parents. end of story.

Instead of walling, accept your situation. Don't worry about blame. At all. Just look at it objectively. Look at your current situation, figure out what you want to change. Figure out what you can realistically change (don't be and idealist) and what you need to do to change it. Then... change it.

yeah I do but I believe in Jesus Christ now. I simply see them as demonically possessed / influenced now. They will go to hell and I will not cry after them. I gave them plenty of chances, they took none.

*wallowing

I will read it

Any useful books or anything for this?

user, blaming your parents is normal. But just stop and think about some shit. Your parents haven't had easy lives either, who's fault is that, your grandparent's? I'm pretty sure they had difficult lives too. Who's to blame for that? You're great grandparents? Society? God?

The point is, there's no one to blame. You're actually just living life as it was meant to be lived. Just because you're life doesn't line up with the expectations you've been brainwashed into having doesn't mean you should blame your parents. It makes absolutely no sense to do that. Instead just work on accepting your life for what it is and working to make yourself more happy healthy. You don't need to have looks or money to find contentment, you've just gotta accept your pain, listen to it, and then act from there. Everything will turn out fine if you do that.

user, most bros will tell you to start lifting, to improve in various ways and to generally just man up and take life by its balls.
While this is well-meant advice, I'm here to tell you that you first need to find something far more important before you can venture out to any path of self-improvement, and that is peace.
Your mind is at war, and I can relate to why it is so, bad parents make a really bad foundation to a person's life, no question about that.
But you can't change your parents, you can't change the misfortune of the past. Now there are two paths ahead of you, leading to very different destinations. On one path you continue as you have till now, you carry on with bitterness and anger, and everything good that will come your way will be poisoned by your angry heart.
On the other path, you try to do the hardest possible thing in your situation: You forgive.
You try to forgive your parents for being what they are. Maybe you find reasons why they are the way they are, maybe they carry far too much bitterness in their hearts for their whole lifes themselves (most people do), and it made them hard and unkind. Try to forgive them, and try to forgive the world for being born the way you are. I know it's hard, it really is. And especially, try to forgive yourself for being bitter and angry in the past, it is not your fault, don't be too hard on yourself, you are your own best friend, you always will be, so treat yourself with kindness.
I know this sounds kinda cliché, but finding and making peace with your life's hardships is the most powerful thing you can do, because your bitterness and anger will fade from your heart, slowly but steadily, as soon as you are able to forgive the shadows of your past.
And following this path further on, you will be able to claim and cherrish the good things that will eventually cross your path, and they will be your own, your past won't matter anymore.

Thank you for this user

Thats a load of shit.

My parents were pretty crappy with but you know what? I’m going to be a much better parent than they were.

They are to blame for nothing being better than those before them, for using the same excuse you are using to not be better and improve.

It may be their fault my childhood was a mess, but it will be entirely my fault if my children don’t get better, just like it’s entirely my parents fault for how things went for me.

No more mr nice guy will help with establishing your lines so you know when to push back and articulate your frame. but its not so good for overcoming the core problem, resentment towards others, your parents, and yourself for lack. try watching jordan petersons maps of meaning lecture series to counteract the nihlism and resentment. his biblical lectures are pretty good too.

I hate that scamming jew though.

youtube.com/watch?v=I8Xc2_FtpHI&list=PL22J3VaeABQAT-0aSPq-OKOpQlHyR4k5h

good luck op

any particular reason? is it because he toes the line and doesnt reveal his power level (read between the lines, he's just playing the game). or is it because he's making money for providing a service?

Could be worse user. My parents died in a car accident when I was 6.

He makes money by telling people to clean their rooms. Just seems overall phony and like a snakeoil salesman.

well, I'd encourage you to see for yourself.

he helped me through my resentment for the world/parents/myself so ya, maybe he can do the same for you.

also his video's are free to watch

Nah, that's not what he's all about. If you watch a few full 2 + hour lectures out of Maps of Meaning you'll understand that this guy is the real deal.

I think you have yet to understand that all human beings are doing their best. Other people's "bests" can be down right scary to you and me but the fact that they're living, breathing, human beings says a lot in the first place.

Good on you that you're trying to be better than your parents, I think that's a healthy thing to do. It's funny though, people end up being a whole lot like their parents despite their best efforts. You see this reflected in stories and media all the time.

I'm just saying, blaming doesn't get anyone anywhere. Forgiveness allows you to let go of bitterness. When you've let go of that life comes in to fill where the bitterness was and better things just come to you without you having to try all the time.

Yeah, based on this post you are not in your position because of your parents. You are in your position because you are a whiny bitch who makes excuses and blames others for your own shortcomings. You set your own limits.

you guys are so narrow sighed.

op, if your life is a total failure, it's pretty normal to feel anger at the people who had the greatest influence on you becoming who you have become.
but if you feel like it's a total failure, do not just accept it.
do things you haven't before. try to achieve things you don't feel you can. just try and fail.

___TAKE RISKS___

there's a very good chance you'll find something that'll make you feel much more satisfied.
but if you won't, what's there to lose

even IF it is their fault, it doesn't matter for adults.

do you forgive a child-rapist if he only became one because he was abused as a kid? society doesn't. people don't care WHY you are the way you are if you're an adult. if they did, people wouldn't be so inclined to self-improve as much as they possibly can, in the end, overall this behavior makes society stronger.

it IS unjust.
you possibly did have the childhood that would have made 95% of people even more miserable than you are.
but now you're an adult. just try your best to be the best person that's possible with what you were given.
there are people who had it much harder, and still achieved much more. and you can most certainly achieve a lot more too.

Fuck you normie

This seems like good advice.do you have any more?

Also what is a good way to mend a relationship with your parents?

I know how you feel, but it’s not worth giving up.

- Dad was a marine for 20 years, jumped to over 10 schools before I was 10, causing me to have serious issues keeping friends..
- parents had no idea what fashion was, so I wore the shittiest clothes until I was in my late teens.. always picked on in school
- first memory of my dad was me crying in a corner, and him waving a pocketknife in my face, telling me to come to him so he can cut my dick off so I stop acting like a girl and crying..
- sister super popular in high school, dated the biggest jock douchebag who was also my bully.. they used to tell me I was ugly and I should kill myself.
- had horrible grades due to not caring about school.. so my dad hated me. He would come home every day working his shit job and just scour the house looking for me to yell at me or ground me for whatever reason while leaving my sister (favorite) alone.
Overheard him one morning yelling at my mom, telling her I’m stupid af, and will be a truck driver when I grow up..
Guess what? I’m a UPS driver now and make near 100k a year.. far more than he ever did. In fact, I make more money than anyone in my family, and hopefully will be rich by this shit thanks to you guys.
I think everyone here have been the black sheep in their family or in society, and I hope we all make it.

my parents kicked me out when i was 16
i'm grateful for the character growth

my best friend's parents were shot in front of him when he was 9 and he became a useless shutin instead of batman

Same boat m8. been in 4 different tertiary schools and 8 different homes. To this day I havent got a straight answer out of my dad on why he does this but he paid for my diploma and offered me a minimum wage startup job.

I'm holding 5000 XRL as a long term dividend after going 2x with KCS and 0.1x with ETH. you and I are going to struggle with forming long term friend ships and relationships, but keep working at it. eventually the pain of social ostracization will go away. i-it has to....

>Also what is a good way to mend a relationship with your parents?

become successful and let them know they did a great job, lol

'long as you're a mess you'll probably mutually hate each other in the grand scheme no matter what.

they hate you because you became a failure despite their efforts/you remind them of not putting in enough effort

and you'll hate them because they parents do have an awful big influence in who you become in the end

UPS drivers make $100k?

My father in law is the same. His younger brother got all the attention, all the money, all the love because he had a son. They didn't love him because he had a daughter, my wife. You know what he did? He got a job and worked his whole life. His brother, who was spoiled and never had a job, ended up being bailed out of his gambling debts multiple times. His own son hates him for being absent from his life. Despite all this, the lack of attention, love and respect he deserved, he is clearly living better than him.

You can be the better sibling, OP. It's not reasonable to believe you can do anything if you try like the propaganda tells us, but it is possible to live extremely well with effort.

Faggot you cant bring back the years you lost but you can save the years you have left

#deep

Thanks, I bought xlm.

>The worst part is that I wasn't born in a poor family, or to a single mom or in Africa.

yeah op, i bet your life would be on track if you were born to a single mom in africa

read the book about elon musk imo, there's a lot of clear bullshit in it, and the writer often feels like he's a piece of shit (and sometimes musk does too), but he really didn't have it easy as a kid, (his children will never talk to his father, who raised him, a gang kept banging his head into the aspalt until he lost conciousness and spent a week in hospital when he was 16)

>read this normie bullshit
Gee wow

>it's okay is people who are born to single moms or in a poor family have their life fucked up, but it's not okay if someone's parents feel like providing more to his siblings than him

i suppose your problem is that you understand why someone born to a single mom in africa has it rough, but don't understand why you have/had it rough?
your parents certainly had some reason for neglecting you over your singlings. i'd say a good start for you would be probably be finding the reason.
find a good psychologist?

my parents are millionaires, they just want me to get a job ,get a degree and i did it. should start a business to scam people's money though like FANG .co ltd international.

On top of all this other advice, develop a good skin care routine

Not op but tips?

no sugar, limit masturbation, no pornography 1 raw onion, 1 raw ginger, 1 raw garlic, 1 hour of weightlifting exercise, no drugs, only drink water, cold showers, 160g protein a day.

these are all steps you can take that will change your body/hormone composition and you will feel a lot better about yourself.

also a habit takes 66 days to form. willpower is a limited resource fueled by glucose, the end metabolic product of fat/carbohydrates. so 66 days of these tasks and they will become automated processes.

guarantee it will change your life. try crypto too.

t. acne scarred outcast that had anxiety and was raised by a cunt of single mother

watch the reviewbrah video and copy it exactly

arbeit macht frei!

Here's a book. Kinda teaches you that life gives you lemons but you pretty much have to say f those lemons mate, we give too many fucks about things. Don't let the negatives get you down. Work out, eat healthy, JUST SHOW THEM WHO YOU CAN BE WITHOUT THEIR HELP! You cannot change the PAST but you can change your FUTURE. You need to accept what has happened and get psyched up for what you can do for yourself! Put the energy you are wasting on the past and put that energy into your future. DO NOT LET YOURSELF BE DEFEATED user! Also for the scarring, look up laser treatments for that, also vitamin E. There's also bio-oil, pregnant women use it to reduce their stretch mark scars. I am unsure of your diet, but start reducing any evil sugars, that goes for the sugar in your coffee/tea. Start drinking water, put an alarm on to alert yourself to drink water, this will help your skin and will give you more energy to make life your bitch!