So I just turned down a girl due to her being chubby

need this too

>fatties trying to justify being fat
You better have replied with "lol"

I mean it's kinda of shitty that you didn't just make up a less shallow reason, especially considering she is now going to try and spread "user's a hurtful, vain, shallow, mysogenistic asshole" crap about you, but you did have every right to turn her down. What she wrote sounds like something out of a daytime soap opera, and it screams that she's trying to validate and pretend she is happy with an unfulfilling life while projecting her insecurity onto you.

As for the question, we don't find fat people attractive why would fat people? The question really is, why do fat people (women especially) believe they don't have to settle?

pls

It's right here bro

this is just FPH b8
do fat people seriously trigger you losers this hard you have to copy tumblr posts and make threads to bitch about it?
fucking pathetic senpai

I turned down a fat girl today, she has a ridiculously pretty face, but below that its just pork dude.

told her I'm currently seeing someone
>tfw would rather be single than be with a fatty

ey yo that's coo and all but who da honey in dat pic

You're not wrong...Just an autist about it

I kinda have the opposite problem. In the past month I've had two fatties literally ask me for sex. I said yes to both, but then I never initiated anything because I have some body dysmorphia and I'm not happy with myself naked. In my opinion, I'm above both of their social market values, but I'm still really self conscious. I know it wasn't a huge missed opportunity, but how the fuck do I get over this? Do I just go full cocoon mode and lift harder?

>I do love myself, that's why I don't fuck fatties like you ;^)

So much projecting. If she knows that she will find some people unattractive, others will also find her unattractive.
It's sad that they feel attacked and instead of looking into those alarm signals and figure out what is their problem, they blame it on the outside and try to feel better about themselves by trying to bring others down or guilt trip them.

tumblr posts? What? This literally just happened.

Go away, fatty.

There's this concept going around about following your heart, or feelings or whatever mystical bullshit someone's trying to peddle. The truth of the matter, is that many people have decided to ignore dedication, duty and hard work.
You are right, she doesn't deserve you. She doesn't put in the work. And honestly, you dodged a bullet, what if her heart told her to fuck some random guy at the bar? Or what if her heart told her to mess with your food? There's countless other scenarios, however the result is always selfishness for the sake of selfishness. Be wary of people who talk of matters in terms of only feelings, they are either children or fools.

>I told her it's not really fair of her to go after someone who puts effort into their appearance yet doesn't do the same. This is what she replied:

Did you really need to say all of this? Why did you want to create so much drama? Because as you might have already known she was going to get mad by that kind of reply.

A reply such as this:

>I just dont feel attracted to you

Wouldnt have generated so much assblasting, user.

>it says far more about your character that you hold your body and your health in lower regard than food

Hi fatty!

even fat women somehow have a very high self value, they would never date a fat man, but god forbid you dont want to date their lardass.

>fatties trying to make out that you don't find them attractive because you don't love yourself

topkek, at least they learned how to be manipulative instead of how to put down that extra jumbo size donut

Being honest is not drama. More people should be straightforward in relationships.
Grow up Peter Pan.

Some user nailed it and said it's because it's easier to set yourself for failure when the stakes are too high and you know you'll never succeed, but you'll have the excuse that you can't find men because your standards are too high and everyone else is pleb to make you feel ok that you "tried"

Exactly. Look at the projecting she does then she talks about how she a shut in. My m8 broke up with a girl because she was the same accept she was looker. Now all she does is post drama bull shit status about him.

these are approptirate response, you fucking beta OP

stop being so autistic about fatties and just beat them back with banter, you don't see trump getting assblasted every time an angry cuck attacks him, he just rolls with the punches and then devastates them in a single hit

just be like trump

He is not being honest though.

By his logic, only women who are into fitness and go to the gym are worthy of dating a similar guy. But in reality, many fit guys dont date girls who are into fitness or viceversa. Most of Veeky Forums dates skinnyfat women who dont give a fuck about training.

Was just being honest. Like literally, that's all I was. No need to try to hurt her feelings, despite the fatlogic/hamstering on her part.

>being honest and being insulting are the same thing
I would have just said "Not my type", but then I'm not an insecure manlet who needs to make himself feel better picking on women who are beneath him.

I don't think it is wrong for you to not want to date a fatty (or anyone for whatever reason) but you don't really need to put people down over it do you?

You lack tact and grace in your refusal so it just comes off as a very rude and mean put-down.

pff nice photoshop faggot

>So I just turned down a girl due to her being chubby.
you did the right thing user

i didn't bother reading her response, probably tumblrina shit.

He was being honest, he told her the truth in regards to himself. At no point in time did he say the fitness community. He said he put in the work and she didn't.
Your fat lies won't work here.

>dubs of projection

Link to the porn in your pic, OP.

Also, fatties want someone who's opposite of them so that they can 'hide' behind their fit boyfriend. You know, use them to distract others from their fat asses but they don't realize that it don't work that way... fucking delusional. why else do they come up with shit logic like, "well, I know this was over 1000 calories but it was spicy so I'm sure that counters it by at least half the calories..."

You should have taken the opportunity to ask her why she didn't pursue a fat man, or better yet linked her up to a fat friend you have to talk to. If she starts fumbling ask her what's wrong with a fat man.

I've always been interested in seeing a conversation go in that direction but never have.

Oh, see its preference for them. Men have to take it because power=privilege

>sweaty fat rolls actually smeared the marker

You people are all idiots holy shit

t. fatty who's been turned down by fit guys

Just another thing fat people are useless at.

>projection

You people are so far removed from reality and genuine human apathy. It's true people really will convince themselves they're "in the right" at an cost

>inb4 someone says I'm from tumblr

No matter how badly you work at making your body into sculptured art you're still r9k anons at your core. That will never change. It's everyone else's fault that they don't understand you. They just don't "get it"

Man

>genuine human apathy

she's just trying to make you feel bad because you based your decision off of something you found non negotiable. she would've been able to do the same and you would've had to live with that, or be just as salty as she was.

fuck her bro what the fuck does it matter? you already turned her down. let her be salty.

I'm not saying I'm in the right, I'm saying I'm no more in the wrong.
Also
>fit is just r9k + muscles
When will this meme end?

everyone is entitled to be as shallow as they want. my girlfriend told me that if i ever got too fat she would literally break up with me. i told her the same fucking shit and she said to shoot her in the face before breaking up with her if it ever got that bad.

some people can be shallow and be perfectly fine with that. some people are fat, and need to justify their lower self standards. fuck em.

You shouldn't have said that mate.

You learn at a young age that women and truth are like oil and water.

Just found this on youtube. Watching it now.

Who gives a shit about fat people? Why do you guys even spend so much time thinking about them? They're worthless of your time. Some one explain this to me Veeky Forums, I never understood this about you guys. Probably because I was never fat.

Yes it's hard to exercise but fatties rack up amazing losses at first if they try even medium-hard. The weight just falls off in kilos.

It's usually SO MUCH HARDER to cut those last few pounds when very near goal weight but of course they are deaf to that completely! Ugh.

*most

when you grow up a bit more you realize that this is 90% of the population regardless if male or female or transnigger or whatever the new trend is.

it's the other 10% of people who you can actually connect with and be honest with that you look for. you do that by being honest with everyone. all the people who can't fucking handle it will fuck off of their own volition. the others will gravitate toward you. those are the friends you will truly appreciate.

Hypothetical question time: you have to go long distance with your gf, and she gets depressed because she really loves you. She sits around and eats ice cream and watches romance movies for like 8 months straight and gets fat. Like 30lbs over where she is now. You come back from work and get restationed where she's at. Do you stay together with her and get her back in shape or do you leave her?

Can someone sauce me this
:^)

Because my fat friends whine and bitch at me over the stuff I do in my lifestyle and have 'comments'. I'm new at my gym and have not made any new friends there yet.

I try hard to just be nice to them about it because I'm getting Veeky Forums for my own goals but I can sure come here to blow off the frustration steam. Plus some of the shit fatties say on the net is just crazy and not true and it makes me mad to read it. Seems I'm not the only one.

leave obviously.

>honesty is wrong
>having standards is wrong

>It's not really fair of you to go after someone who puts effort into being kind and empathetic, yet doesn't do the same.

>eat and hide from the light

Were you trying to fuck a vampire?

Assuming I really loved her, ultimatum. She has 3 months, if she isn't back to her previous weight I'm gone. Why should I punish myself (and her) by being with someone I'm not attracted to? People say looks aren't everything, and they're right, but looks aren't nothing either.

once you're in the zone to fuck you won't give a shit about any insecurity you have

Yeah, I get that they whine bitch and talk passive aggressively, but why care? Leave them alone and literally ignore them if they ever say stupid dumb shit. That's what I do, and I've been completely fine in life, never spent time complaining about them or let them get on my nerve. They're sad people, like virgins who never get laid and complain about girls all day.

>He doesn't know the definition of apathy.

Bait/10

Jokes on them. I bathe in my self loathing and insecurities. At this point I've started to feel good doing it.

Been with gf for 7 months, she gained "6 pounds" in the first three months. Everytime I see her she looks fluffier and fluffier and not even in a good way. She has fat rolls and all that.

I cut 15 pounds in two months in two months. My obese mother has lost 25 pounds with little to no exercise due to knee problems exercise but she insists she can't lose weight.

I personally think that you're being fair. She needed to understand that you are one of those people who values healthy life style and there's nothing wrong with that. You can tell a lot about people who does not take care of themselves. I mean fit people can have problems too but even if they did at least their fat isn't spilling out of their trousers lol

the good ole book

She's fatsplaining

Just say no, don't be an autist and create enemies where there aren't any.
If you just say sorry no with any excuse, you don't have to fuck her and you can get back to your life without offending anyone

Liking someone for their appearance is the least shallow thing possible because you have more control over your appearance than almost anything else in life. Your height, income, personality, etc. are all things that are harder to change than your looks if not impossible in some cases. Your personality is formed by factors early on, beyond your control, that are extraordinarily hard to change. There's nothing wrong with prioritizing things that are actually under someone else's control because it actually says something about that person.

In my opinion turning her down would have being enough. I am all for fat shaming, but not a fatty that just liked you.

>I have a duty to my heart and I put my happiness before the opinion of other. If I like food and staying inside, then I'll eat and hide from the light and feel okay about it because I'd know I'm doing what makes me happy. And because I would know that there is someone out there who would love me as the fat, hungry, sheltered person I was. And if they didn't? Well, it'd be their loss.

If she just left it at that, you could just shrug her off, agree to disagree, and say fuck her.

>>You have a lack in humanity and you but your pride and vanity before oppertunities of the heart. [...] And since you cannot see that, understand that, or feel it, I pity you. You obviously live a very sad, insecure life.

kek. Now she's just projecting.

Idk man. I'd keep her. seems better than going out every weekend and getting cream pied.

>being so narcissistic that you think people are obligated to love your flaws

10 lbs a month is pretty unreasonable. You're pretty much asking her to crash diet.

I hope you asked her then what was the reason if not your hard-earned looks what drove her to you

Source on image? Google brings up nothing but request for it

just how chubby are we talking here?

Post her pic

>I told her it's not really fair of her to go after someone who puts effort into their appearance yet doesn't do the same.

jesus christ dude, why couldn't you just say sorry I'm not into you instead of being a dickhead.

but that's not the truth...

Lana Rain

Truth is only if its applicable to the area in question. You overstepped an honest, simple rejection and opted for insulting her character where it wasn't warranted. You act like fit people can't be into those who are overweight and she couldn't possibly find that in you or anyone else legitimately. That she should feel bad for soliciting human interaction outside of fat people.

How fat was she really? Its sad you contemplated dating her because you might be able to "change/control" her. Controlling self-absorbed faggot.

I'm not OP

It doesn't matter. It still applies to OP.

OK, but I don't think that having mutual attraction standards in a relationship is wrong though
Still waiting on a pic from OP to see how fat this girl really is

Fuck that shit bro she sounds like a crazy fatass

sauce?

Props to you for being straight with her, OP. We live in such a childishly naive and idealistic culture where it's more socially appropriate to lie to yourselves and hide from the truth than face the cold facts. It's because people go their entire adolescence with this lack of accountability and upon reaching adulthood are then thrust upon with the potential to make decisions for their own lives but instead retain the role of being effected versus effecting.

I don't think your answer was shallow either. Her reply showcased the kind of denial and unwillingness to openly confront such an obvious aesthetic element. If a woman told me she didn't want to go out with me because I didn't shower or I didn't brush my teeth or something, we as a society would see that as pretty reasonable. But, when you tell a girl you're uninterested because she's fat and she replies with something such as "Well, I'm happier eating cake than you'll ever be." It just shows how immature and undeveloped her esteem is.

Good for you, OP. Seriously, fuck these man-children telling you otherwise.

Women are just different. Once you accept this, everything will make perfect sense. Their heads aren't screwed on properly.

After talking to so many, you just realize their brains are different.Things for women can never be simple. There is no black and white for them or yes or no. It's always everything in between. There's still cool girls out there, but it's like 97/100.

Nowadays with snapchat, tinder, facebook, and instagram, the majority of girls have egos waaaayy too big. Could you imagine if you as an average guy had dozens of messages from girls every day? Imagine how big your ego would be. But also, these young girls are also crazy insecure. It's an odd combination of having a huge ego, but also being hugely insecure.

Also, everything for women is a power play. Notice how she turns everything on you, and tries to make YOU look like the bad guy. Instead of just saying "sure, whatever". She gives you this whole justification to make herself feel better at your expense. Women do this all the time in small ways. Once you learn to identify it, just stay away from girls like that. IT's really small things like saying "Sure, I'll allow you to buy me a drink" or "I hope you're worth my time" Women will constantly take little stabs at you like this, and try to up their value, and devalue you. I don't think they even do it consciously honestly. Never put up with any of this bullshit or play their games.

Yeah, gotta agree with user here. 15 weeks is what I'd shoot for. 2 lbs a week ain't shit if she's serious. If she can't stop hoovering burgers then dump her ass.

>Taking a moral high ground
>Repeatedly slurring someone as "faggot"

Thanks for spreading the joke of your logic, user.

I need sauce.

It breaks my heart when I see really hot guys from my gym having fat/chubby gfs or gfs who just don't give a damn about fitness at all. One of my gym buddies cried to me about his gf not wanting to work out with him. I'd pay money to have an opportunity to train with this guy, and his gf doesn't value him at all.