Can you permanently fuck your life up from prolonged isolation from other people...

People are important OP.

I went into cocoon mode to prepare for a boxing match earlier this year, I had 3 months of nothing but work and going boxing 5 - 6 days a week.

I never went out with friends, I never spoke to anyone socially, I had nothing in common with the guys down the gym either so we never spoke.

It was the most miserable time of my life. I won my fight but it wasn't worth it. People and experiences matter.

I don't really feel fucked up, I'm pretty ok with where I am and what I'm building

Not permanently but social skills need to be exercised or they atrophy.

I did this for 1 1/2 half year and it did some damage, alcohol probably helped though...But it wasn't anything permanent

I have no desire to ever leave cocoon mode.

>bragging about I
You really did get fucked

I only specifically said it because he said "Low IQ" implying people in my position are all low IQ, you dolt.

Ow...

You need people to be happy and healthy. Don't lose your friends.

It will fuck you up beyond repair.

You're ugly on the outside because you're ugly on the inside user.

projection

they say she's high af on heroin

No. I became socially awkward. Had sex with 50+ women, fell into depression and now don't remember how to chat with people.

I'm an empty shell of a human bean

>you dolt

oh my

yes its not normal - your brain will shrink. look it up

depends on your definition of fuckup.

if by fucking your life up you mean "losing all social skills and by the time i get them back I'm too old to enjoy them", then yeah, 100%.

not to mention, you NEED social skills if you wanna be successful professionally.

but smarter people are more prone to depression

It's been 2 years, at this point I feel like I have legitimate autism now

cause they tend to go full autism and ignore socialization

maybe for you this was hard but people are fastly different from each other. heck i have 3 brothers and we are totally different from each other. yes we all the same parents.

its true

I'm very social. I hate being alone.

My younger brother though doesn't go out at all and rarely speaks to people.

He's been diagnosed recently with adhd and some other shit too. Pretty sure it's because he's a shut in

No, anyone saying the opposite is an ebin memer.

meeting people on your own is pretty hard when you are done school

I feel like if you dont get a good group of friends when you are young you are essentially fucked, cause people get more and more antisocial as they age

not sure what to do/try with regard to meeting new people

Do you like? Then no. There is no "right way" to live your life. Do what make you feel good and what you need to keep your lifestyle (yes, work).

So you want to try to get out of your confort zone now and then? Great. If is the experience is positive, good. If is negative, good too, to remenber why you get into coocon mode in first place.

Fuck that shit user.

friends come and go but your triumphs and follies stay with you for life

underrated post

im in a boardgame group thats pretty cool, going to do some volunteer work soon, plus theres the people at your job.

but you are right

>get job
>the people there constantly want to do stuff
>I found a good balance between no and yes

im seriously out of ideas.

I go out to places with people. but I dont have a good reason to introduce myself, and dont want to look like some PUA loser.

it feels like the only option is to get in amazing shape and hope a girl takes notice, and build friends through her. but that isnt very realistic either.

Feels like it, it's been four years since I've talked to someone besides occasional calls to my parents, and the desire to change has shrunk to nothing, spent my birthday alone on a mountain top in the middle of nowhere and spent so much time just staring into the distance I almost didn't make it back to the truck before dark, it'll probably be the death of me someday.

>I hate being alone
I never understood this. I enjoy company only a certain amount of time, varying by who it is and how many people are around. At the end of a long day I'd rather be alone. At most I can handle a few days without having at least one night to myself.

Solitude and introspection are different than being a shut in neet though.

bro, honestly just talk to more people.

you're not the only person in his late twenties that is realizing meeting new people is hard, others might appreciate the effort

t. introvert

I'm not gonna cite any studies because that's work but people who live alone usually die alone and a few years before people who live with others

talk to WHO?

and for what reason? just go up to random people and say whats up? and then get looked at like im a crazy person?

there has to be a better way than randomly approaching people in random locations.

this
loners usually don't live long or healthy lives, we are social creatures.

do you go outside the house?

I guess so, though truthfully I feel defective, I'm happiest alone in the mountains, being around people too long makes me feel so tired I can barely function for a few days.

yes, all the time

but why would I start random conversations with people doing errands

I can't give an exact number on years but they usually give up on life sooner than married couples. You ever hear about spouses dying and then the one they left behind dying soon after without any signs of illness? It's like that. The body just sorta gives up

Id have married this girl if it wasnt for her being a coal burning pornstar

>go through high school as just the class clown type guy, have acquaintances but no real friends, life is basically spent shut in my room
>get to college
>the years of social isolation meant i didn't know how to interact with people my age
>for the most part just went to class and then went back to apartment
>was typical loud, joking self at work but nothing would ever come of it
>would never do anything unless roommates invited me somewhere, them and their friends seemed to like me but after school that was it, never talked again
>move back home where I had no friends, back to being a shut-in
>literally afraid to talk to people or anything besides just joking around and being sarcastic because if i talk they will realize im an autistic friendless permavirgin shut-in

sigh i know your feels op

Hey that's me except I never went out with my friends when they invited me, don't complain.

You're overthinking this. You could literally spray spaghetti out of your pockets and 5 minutes later they won't even be thinking about you. Well, okay, literally spaghetti spraying out of your pockets is fairly memorable, but basic social awkwardness is uncomfortable at worst. You have to do some realistic risk assessment. What do you have to lose versus what you have gain? And how badly do you want what you have to gain. Are you willing to let 100 people possibly think you're crazy to find a few you enjoy hanging out with? Or are the opinions of 100 people you will interact with exactly once that important to you?

You have to understand that the reason most people don't talk to strangers is they're just like you. They're worried about looking weird or awkward, but if someone came up to them and started shooting the shit, they'd be receptive to that. They're just too insecure to make the first move. Sound familiar? And if you don't want to talk to randoms, join something. Adults join clubs too, and it has the added benefit of letting you meet people you KNOW you share common interests with.

Here's a question though: what have you actually done to meet new people? Thinking about doing something doesn't count, nor does passively waiting for something to happen. Generally an activity that will help you meet people involves actually INTERACTING with them, right? If all you're doing is going out there, well congratulations, you've accomplished leaving your house. That's an important first step, but you're missing the part that actually matters.

I can socialize with people easily, I just dont see a good reason to chat up randoms in public for no reason

talking with people at a job makes sense, but randomly approaching people in public? just feels odd

Kind of me...

you sound like me but i have a variety of personality disorders, im narcissistic, have avpd and i have an eccentric personality, only the avpd is the bad thing tho

Sauce?

I've been pretty cocoon mode for the past year or two. Been to a handful of social events, hangout with a friend once or twice a month, run into cafe regulars a couple times a week.

Haven't had a serious friend in a couple years.

But I've also spent the past two years reading philosophy, literature, politics, history, etc.. Been reading Kant, Hegel, Marx, and critical theory mostly.

There's a point when your life becomes so interiorized that you kind of empty yourself out and enter into a much more dynamic relation with the outside world. The emptying out of yourself is the most interesting. There's a threshold that links living at a zero state to a simultaneous filling up of yourself with the world around you. When you're constantly socializing, around others, facing immediate concerns you lose a reflective capacity, you start to take what amounts to a thin layer between your self and the outside to be a strict, rough boundary.

But I do miss the few close friendships I used to have in college. At this point, I think returning to that would be returning to something made all the better by the time I've spent in emptiness/richness/abstractness/etc..

It's tough transitioning back though.

Which one are you?

im that guy. i have ADD, AvPD, and "eccentric"? I'm weird as fuck. Being weird, with the combination of ADD, is the absolute worst. Just loud, unfiltered, obnoxious, where people are okay with me basically when theyre forced to be around me, but if they dont have to be they dont

you can only get away with being "weird" or "Eccentric" if you are good looking, ripped, etc. if you're like me, a goofy looking jew, all you are is a clown.

you know philosophy and loneliness have a lot in common, dont know how to describe it but making sense of the whole time we are alone and how we can start to feel a connection to objects now that we ourselves realize we are an object that has no purpose with other people either

>"I go into solitude so as not to drink out of everybody's cistern. When I am among the many I live as the many do, and I do not think I really think. After a time it always seems as if they want to banish my self from myself and rob me of my soul."

Was just gonna post this other Freddie gem.

There's a tough dialectic with the solitary man though. Man, unlike god, wants his overflow to fill others, to sink into fertile soil. Doesn't Zarathustra talk about how though his cup is overflowing it's emptying out for lack of mouths?

>Marx, and critical theory mostly.

Good goy.

>I just dont see a good reason to chat up randoms in public for no reason
Do you actually want to meet people? Because that's totally a reason.

It feels odd because you haven't done it enough. I'm going on under the assumption you even lift: did lifting feel natural when you first did it? Some of it might have felt odd or even wrong, you probably had to think a lot about what you were doing and you were probably sore as shit afterward. What happened after you'd done it for a while? It feels more natural. It may still feel hard as you push yourself, but if you drop down to a weight that maybe gave you trouble before, it feels light as fuck. That's how you want anything you want to do in life to feel.

And remember, no one's going to actually stop you from talking to strangers. The reason you don't do it isn't because anyone else is physically restraining you or ordering you not to do it. It's not illegal in any sane country. YOU are the one setting the limits here, and you can easily raise them or remove them altogether. Assuming you actually want to meet new people. It could be that you simply don't, and in that case none of this even matters.

Only if this was during your critical period. Very young. Now it will be a challenge but not permanent.

You just be 2 years behind everyone socially. This effect is more noticeable the younger you are.

Yes this is what happened to me, luckily I'm still young and am going to college in the fall but yeah social isolation can fuck you up and make you depressed.

For those of you that don't know what is being referenced here. (Caution: do not attempt to read this unless you are White or East Asian... your little chimp mind might explode.)

Did this for nearly 10 years, just talked to people on PC.

Eventually my mother past away and I was forced to 'change'.

Ended up forcing myself into unconfortable situations, getting a job, a license, car, moving out, dating, I thought it all sucked so I moved back in with family and now I'm back where I started.

Just be yourself man.

i think neither

i think she had a drunk racist dad that mistreated her and now she's taking revenge, but deep down she knows she's just a dumb whore that's being used

there are hints of smugness and regret in her eyes

>Be lonely fag
>Gym is time for me to chill and forget about the shitty day.
>Get on SS and go to Texas method stick to liftan 18 months.
>Reach higher than 1/2/3/4 for reps.
>Literally everytime I do my squats
>People talk to me
>Same people talk to me next time as well
>Workouts taking longer due to socializing and me being a beta not telling them to leave me alone.
>Hate headphones and can't lift with em.
>Live in flat so no homegym option
Fuck this shit, at least I got some decent tips on macros from shredded guys and lots of good advice and tips for form and reps from strong guys. But man sometimes you just wanna go in there smash the weights go back eat and sleep.

Yes. I fucked myself up on accident can confirm.

OP me and a few other people here have lived years not knowing anyone.
I haven't had a single friend in 13 years.
I haven't had a girlfriend my entire life.
I'm 29 years old now.
I haven't talked to another person in over a week.
The last person I talked to was a grocery clerk. And I think the times before that was also strangers who I was buying something from in a store.
Am I fucked up for life? Well everyone I meet hates me, is scared of me, and avoids me, so to them I must be pretty fucked up.
But to me I feel "okay" because loneliness is just like withdrawal symptoms. After a few years the withdrawal ends and you just feel normal.

I stay in my house not going outside for weeks at a time, in fact the last 3 years of my life are missing because I "zoned out" for 3 years straight. I don't remember the last 3 years or how I became 29 instead of 26. Because I didn't do a single thing during that time except sleep and be on the PC.

I went from 1 to 16 years old without ever speaking to another human being.

Than 16 to 21 I sociized outside and it was the most miserable period of my entire live ever.

21 to now I haven't spoken to another human being at all.

You lose your mind after year 5 of complete isolation. Also as an adult every single day blurs together. I can't wait to fucking die.

I hate humanity though they all make me sick.

does anyone actually talk to people? and if so do you ever at one point in your life think about it anymore? because seriously I have not though about any conversation, not even with a girl when i come home, before bed, or in the shower anymore. I dont think about anything in the past

Yeah. I can tell people do not want to have prolonged conversations with me.

spent one whole year cocoon mode
>save up money
>have enough money for 2 years straight saved up
>quit job for 1 year
>spend that one year meditating, running, lifting, and swimming
>realize i can now see the dead
>no bullshit about seeing ghosts
>decide to post an ad as a psychic ghost seerer
>getting calls to go to houses left and right
>don't ask for money unless asked for a cleansing
>sometimes its a ghost sometimes its an horrible hell like looking demonic abomination
>go apply for new job
>now work and see ghosts all the time

you may be thinking, "ohh this user is bullshitting me, no one he can see ghosts after yer of meditating", i shit you not i can see ghosts now

Also all the meditating I did made me more calmer and more aware of my surroundings, it's like i am closer with nature and all teh hardcore lifting and cardio made me fit as fuck

spaghetti not as bad as you think
i once stood up in a shopping plaza on a bench and did the chicken dance and went back the next day to prove to my socially awkward mate that its no biggie people will remember that THEY saw a guy doing it but none will remember the guy...people are naturally self orientated...

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If it suits you, don't feel defective. If you feel you want to know people, think of your self as a human being with defects that can be fixed, and not a defective human being.

seems like at least part of this could be attributed to the fact that when youre old things happen that you can recover from if there are people around who can get medical help
like you can survive a heart attack or a stroke if you can get to the hospital quick enough, which is harder to do when there's no one around

It depends on what you're doing and who you are.

Are you going to be wallowing in your solitude, watching TV and lazing in sloth?

Are you going to be exercising, meditating and studying?

Watch these:

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interesting thread bump for later

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