>31 >Wife has 0 interest in sex >Wife 5/5 but still really attracted to her even after the child >Get hit on a lot by coworkers but have a gut if I let lose and if I suck in my chin a huge GULLET of FAT (overbite doesn't help either) >Decide maybe if I got fit she would want me more
Is this a valid reason? I don't have enough money to spend on a gym member ship. I know my weight is influenced by poor diet choices (my wife buys junk food and sodas and I tell her not too, but if it's there I end up eating it, I also work night shift as a nurse).
I'm the sole bread winner and love my wife (super attracted to her even after her crushing my dreams and her body getting wrecked by the baby, all I can fap to is her) but I feel like I deserve more sex than once every couple of months.
What will help me build enough of an aesthetic physique for my wife? Body weight workout and diet?
I'm deperate for help, I've tried all the attitude and MANLY changes I could do but she's still not interested. I know she's not getting it from anywhere else because she is with my kid all day and I work nights while she is asleep.
Please any help would be great, I just want my my girlfriend back. (I should note that I was NEVER an Adonis or really fit and have always had some weight around my midsection, 6ft 3 1/2in 250lb right now. Only fat part on me is my chin and fucking gut).
Should I look elsewhere for sex? The thought disgusts me.
>being this old >being a fucking normie >being so retarded you have to ask a nigerian handwriting forum "should I get fit so my wife wants to fuck me" Just get the fuck out of here you moron
Julian Davis
She doesn't care how fit you are. She cares how fit Tyrone is.
Liam Green
Getting fit might help, but losing interest in sex is super-normal after birth of a child.
Hate to say it on Veeky Forums where we are all super-macho misogynsists, but that answer is discussions & even therapy. Yeah at some point if she never gets interested again I think you have a right to sex, but of course that's really a personal choice.
Lincoln Jones
>you have a right to sex >tfw kissless virgin
Asher Sanders
Read the sticky, fix your shit diet, start lifting 3-5 days a week, consistency is more important than killin yourself with long sessions early. The more muscle you have the more calories your body will need to burn just to maintain mass
Landon Carter
>Never been married/had a kid.
Thomas Myers
How long since she gave birth?
Jaxon Allen
I'm going to look into it. I know she doesn't really care about muscles (or she SAYS she doesn't, but they couldn't hurt right?)
This is the only stupid question I'll ask. Would it be OK for me to workout after work in the morning around 7:30 or 8?
Eli Smith
2 1/2 years. The most we have had sex is twice in two months. It's usually once every 2 months.
Chase Cook
Read the sticky You don't need a gym membership to lose fat, fat loss is mostly diet. You will want to build muscle too though which is what a gym is great for. You can gain muscle on a bodyweight routine it will just be slower. Try a bodyweight routine and if you can stick to it for 3 months then scrape together the money for a gym membership. This way if you don't have the discipline to stick to it at least you haven't wasted money.
Jonathan Watson
No, what the fuck. You can't fucking work out at 7:30 or 8. What the fuck kind of question is that? Of course not. It's not possible. Nobody ever does it.
no worries my man. Just start small. People think you need to jump straight into a fitness regimen of diet and exercise. Don't take it immediately to the extreme. Try walking, with light weight training to build muscle which will help drop fat. Then increase frequency and difficulty as in jogging and increase weight. Just keep stepping up the ladder of fitness because then it will be easier. Jumping the ladder will just cause you to fall down and be worse off than you are now. Over all take it slow and don't make yourself hate it by making it too difficult starting off. This might not even be your problem. Just talk to your wife, if she loves you she'll tell you.
Sebastian Foster
Fantastic. Thank you.
Brandon Ortiz
This is great advice.
I'll start walking every morning and stop drinking soda's even if they are available and I feel like I need to drink them or my money is going to waste.
Grayson Lewis
She says she don't.
I was scrawny when I met my now wife and all she said was I dont care about muscles you look great.
Well one day she said bring your boney chest over here so I can lay on it and it hit me like a bag of rocks. I started beefing up.
Now when I'm driving she's feeling up my arms and cant keep her eyes off me when I am shirtless.
As far as the no sex thing goes just fuck her man she is your wife. If she refuses or flat out says no sit her down and say if you dont fuck me I will find someone who will. Tell her you married her to only be with her but if she dont want it then you're gonna have to move on.
Josiah Sanders
Get her on Addyi. Female Viagra. Get her hormones checked. Get a babysitter. Talk to her. Save up money for divorce. Or hookers. Or side bitch.
Adam Young
There's a reason Veeky Forums says not to lift for women, even ones you may be married to. If you end up getting fit and she still doesn't want to fuck you odds are you're just going to give up. Either find a reason to lift for yourself or find a lower effort method of getting your wife to have sex with you again. Starting weight training as a beginner at your age is going to be a lot of effort with less gains to begin with. If you're not even getting any satisfaction out of it then just don't even bother, just do some cardio, fix your diet, and leave it at that.
Christian Jackson
As a 21 year old wife, I would say how you look isn't a big problem for sex, but looking better will make her horny for the new you and you'll be healthier.
Also, spice your relationship up. Do really spontaneous shit and try to make time for her. Buy her favorite flowers on the way home, surprise her with a dinner/breakfast you made with candles and her favorite alcohol, get your nails done together. But don't tell her what she's gonna get, if she asks just say "It's a surprise" and wink at her. We're into that gay shit. Let her know after all this time you think she's hot and get back the intensity ya'll had when you were dating. Time, effort, and affection.
Another note on sex, spice that up too. Handcuffs, role play, if she's into B&D let her go at it. If all that fails and you did it correctly, she might just be not interested, which seems unlikely. But don't take it too hard, happens to a lot of people.
On health notes, don't eat junk foods, fast food or soda. Everyday you don't mark it down. Lift, do cardio, and in two months you should see a big difference in appearance. Good luck.
Asher Adams
>read sticky >giving advice
Eat veggies and limit calories to like 1800 a day, do some cardio and stuff, do some weights aswell. You don't need a gym to run up and down a road, and you don't need to be rich to get some 2-8kg dumbbells.
If you just do cardio with good diet, you'll lose some muscle and look skinnyfat when you lose some weight, so keep them lifts in.
>250lb >If its there I end up eating it Every single time you eat some junk or drink a soda, do your max amount of pushups, it should put you off if you don't like exercise that much. Buy some stuff for yourself on the way home from work, or on the way there so you have your own shit to eat.
Have a good one m8, good luck bro.
Benjamin Wright
Read the book of pook Its free
Dylan Thompson
That is a stupid question please leave.
Camden Scott
Fucking blue pilled faggot.
Enjoy your failure of a marriage. Fucking loser.
Ryan Phillips
>I would say how you look isn't a big problem for sex Ok can you clarify a thing that's been on my mind for a while? I bulked out of skinnyfat so I have some fat on my stomach. It looks fine when I stand up straight, but if I bend over or sit down without being completely aware of it it distends. Basically it does NOT look good if I was to have sex with a girl missionary. Isn't it a gross, mood-killing view to have that mess bouncing on top of you?
John Diaz
Listen to this user, OP.
t. 31 year old guy who beefed up and now enjoys dramatically stronger sex drive in wife
Hunter Jackson
Truthfully, and I can't speak for all women, but I like guys with a little pudge. I had an ex who was overweight and it never bothered me one bit. Only problem was he wouldn't have sex with me often because he had low self-esteem (call himself disgusting, cry about not going to the gym, etc.). And when we did have sex, I liked having someone bigger than me, top or bottom. It's just a turn on for me for guys to have squish. And the belly fat wasn't gross to me because I loved all of him. Plus I'm very easily aroused.
Point is, if she loves you, she won't care. If you care, that's on you just try not to push your insecurities on her or do abs and cardio more. If she ever says something hurtful about your body, dump the bitch.
Kayden Jones
Do not listen to this stupid fat whore >"Plus I'm very easily aroused
Nicholas Murphy
Hm, alright. I guess I have trouble separating the physical and mental when it comes to attraction. So is sex less about physical attraction, and more about mental for you? That just sounds a bit strange to me.
Noah Campbell
>Losing libido after a child is normal Don't for fall this meme, she doesn't wanna fuck you, she wants to fuck CHAD who is an ALPHA and you're just her BETA PROVIDER, not even kidding. She's with you for the beta bucks, not the alpha fucks.
Connor Wood
You don't need to worry if it's a valid reason. Do it. Do it for you, for her, for your kids, who cares! You'll be making yourself better regardless.
Levi Russell
It's physical and mental for me, but everyone is different in their preferences. Yeah, I know I'm a little 'strange', but I try not to judge people based on appearances. It's like if guys see boobs they get aroused right? Same for chicks, but some people look for more than physical attraction when looking for a long-term partner.
Jayden Perry
Also I just saw you're a nurse. My nigga. Me too
Charles Morris
You looking better doesn't mean you have to judge by appearances or that attraction is the only thing you need in your relationship. Not only that, but you'll get mental benefits from self improvement as well, and from having to work towards a goal.
Easton Martin
Dont be a beta bitch, get some steroids, hit the gym stop eating like shit, fuck your wife....dont fucking ask like some little bitch...youre a fucking man and you support her...take that shit
the more she sees your singular life go through progress and you continue meeting realistic goals, that is enough for her to want to bang you more.
watch, she thinks the kid is more hers than yours. she will bring it up in a future argument.
also you are a fat fuck. don't say the only fat on me is the chin and gut. this is fat person logic. your fat is literally everywhere.
you think fit = more opportunity for sex. which it does. it makes you look more marketable. your wife will notice changes, obviously, and she will like them more than your fat version without a doubt. but it comes down to who you are - your behaviors and actions more than just the results.
before i got ripped i was just a skinny dude never fat or big. i took the right approach and along the way i've learned quite a bit about myself. one thing is that other people will never appreciate the gains/progress as much as yourself will. another thing is females tend to objectify just as much as men do - we all do it. also inaccurate judgments are made, even from loved ones.
