So Veeky Forums, what makes a grown male human a real Man?
Ive read the Way of Men by Jack Donovan and I like the approach to go back to the basic survival functions of masculinity and explaining it from there on.
But I want some modern examples of achievements a real man must reach to be considered one by you guys
To keep it Veeky Forums related, include some physical achievements
For me, I came up with this pretty basic stuff:
-Lose your virginity -Get a real job/earn your own money and be self-sufficient -Bench above 220lbs/100kg
A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects.
So sayeth Robert Heinlein's character Lazarus Long in Time Enough for Love.
Brayden Ward
exactly lol
Brandon King
Basic survival skills should be on there. Watch bear grylls, then go practice it.
My mates couldn't even make a camp fire when we went out bush for a fishing trip/BBQ. They poured gasoline on it and the fire still didn't catch. I don't know how they even managed that.
Henry Lee
>lose your virginity There is nothing more childish than giving into your primal instincts. Denial and dominance of such pleasures is actually difficult.
Christopher Lee
We don't live in small tribes anymore.
Carter Torres
I thought about including military service Not being a professional soldier but having a few years under your belt wont do any harm
Brody Edwards
[Tipping Intensifies]
James Miller
Because small tribes are known for their computer programming and ship navigation?
Dominic Flores
Strength, in all senses of the word.
Mental, physical, emotional and so on.
That is the main thing that makes a man valuable.
It also pretty much leads into every other admirable trait in a man.
There is nothing in this world as useless and disgusting as a pathetic, weak male.
Jordan Gray
Its the easiest way to live, with sex. Deny yourself for a year and see how you change.
Gavin Campbell
Hydrocarbons and electricity?
Jonathan Russell
Just be able to stand up for yourself when confronted. Carry yourself with dignity when you need to. It's not like being a man is important anyway. Some of your biggest heroes are probably effeminate pussies anyway but they're still respected.
Noah Lee
The three rules to being a man is this:
1) Be independent 2) Be able to take on responsibility instead of making constant excuses 3)Be able to perform basic adult functions like driving a car, getting a job, taking care of a family etc.
That's it.
Jordan Morgan
>deny yourself for a year How about 20?
Daniel Morales
I've got mixed feelings about that. Deployments were memorable, but being treated poorly by absolute fuckwits that dropped out of high school takes the cake.
Isaac Campbell
that'll be me in about 48 hrs
Matthew Gonzalez
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Adam Gonzalez
you didn't deny yourself, others denied you it. there's a difference, shitbreath
Jack Bailey
I think that being a man is more of a mindset than anything else. While i agree with you that physicality is a part of it I wouldn't say bench numbers are the sole thing you should look at.
Evan Fisher
Op here Another thing I think is important is to let go of "childish" stuff like gaming or escapism like fantsy or scifi novels etc I was never really productive when i was involved with vidya or tabletop games when i was younger
>nah, fuck homework, im gonna play some Fallout
Thats at least true for me
Josiah Gonzalez
Lel Fucking make a post on craigslist or something you sperg. Chicks do browse it, it's just they don't make posts because 100,000 thirsty middle aged men will spam them with replies. All you need to do is resist the temptation of the 1,000 thirsty middle aged homos trying to 'convert' straight virgins into gayfags.
William Rodriguez
I'm still being denied am I not? Losing your virginity is a struggle for some people
Jaxon Parker
also ·Explore your sexuality freely ·Use ethics to inform your consumer choices
Strength in all forms as another user said. Choosing good friends. And a man must be able to provide and protect his family with his life.
Noah Myers
At it's most basic I would say strength in all it's forms. Physically rugged and capable, mentally tough and cool under pressure. You don't have to be super serious or a body builder, but be able to handle all forms of duress and challenge. If you can pick up a wounded man and find it easy to crack jokes at weddings because it doesn't perturb you, you're doing alright.
Everything else is icing on the cake. Survival skills, being capable of multiple tasks, being a learned intellectual. As far as the ideal man goes, I always remember that ancient guys like Socrates weren't just old geeks sitting around questions, these dudes were not only intelligent and analytical, in all manners of politics/medicine/etc, they were also fucking ripped, super healthy and ex-military, these guys were wearing armor and gutting people with spears. Badass.
Angel Sullivan
*funerals, not weddings. Similar principle though.
Justin Johnson
you PC, brah?
Jacob Sullivan
The pinnacle of masculinity is fatherhood >inb4 tips fedora
Charles Foster
What in the blue hell is wrong with you?
Brody Brooks
How do you stay cool under pressure?
I'm a nervous wreck and get uppity at the slightest thing Even when I'm drinking
Benjamin Peterson
right on man, I've been denying myself sex for six years h-heh
Samuel Gomez
It depends on the person but I have a personal philosophy. I used to be anxious as well, had panic attacks in school like Tony Soprano if you've seen the show, just like that. Felt overwhelmed and irritated easily.
What I eventually realized is, no matter what terrible circumstance had ever befallen me, from minor setbacks like homework in school to relatives dying, I realized that EVERYTHING that had EVER gone wrong, had eventually solved itself. Nothing ever lasted because I found a way, eventually, to solve it, fix it, or get around it. So I thought, if life goes on, and we're all here for a temporary period, and all my seemingly huge issues were ultimately meaningless, why worry? Why exert emotion and focus on these tasks before me or these stressers? I shouldn't.
So I kicked them out of my head and focused on the now. One of my favorite quotes is by Ernest Hemingway, "the greatest gift any man could have is to learn to live in the moment", and this is a manly man, a guy who wrote, adventured, traveled, and lived. It's true too, I just focus on what's happening right now and try not to blow it out of proportion.
I went from an anxious neurotic to someone who is known by his friends to very cool under stress and pressure, seriously.
Lincoln Rivera
No. As much as I disagree with modern leftist nu-male effiminate bullshit, politics have nothing to do with manliness. Anyone telling you that you should support and/or disagree with some political ideology because that would make you "manly" is using your insecurities to manipulate you as well as revealing that they have shit arguments.
Misguided political beliefs are destroyed through a combination of argument, evidence, reason and ethical deliberation - not by calling the other guy a "pussy". Now the other guy may very well be a pussy, but that is beside the point.
>That's pretty much it. Are you sure? Are you 100% sure that as long as I ideologically claim to be right-wing, it doesn't matter how cringy I am or how many fedoras I own or how many times a day I fap to anime, I'm still "manly"?
Grayson White
What? I don't know amigo, you tell me.
Jonathan Rivera
Good read, thank you
I think your right if you say that politics and manliness are not connected in a way that you are only manly if you believe x
But i would say there are politic views/ideologies that tend to attract more manly man, ie conservatism/right wing stuff Think Schwarzenegger, Eastwood, Gibson etc
Jaxson Ross
>Jack Donovan Redpill me on androphilia, is that just being gay but no homo?
Nathaniel Bell
Yeah it's actually not a coincidence, they have done lots of studies on psychology and trends from political profiles. Conservatives (mostly libertarians) tend to have more muscle mass, tend to have higher testosterone, and are more logical/analytic over empathizing, as well as being more independent over collective. Look it up, it makes sense too. Do you think Clint Eastwood in the good, bad, and the ugly would be more likely to be a libertarian or a socialist? lel
Colton Brooks
Perhaps, but what those ideologies are is different in different times and cultures. In Europe and the US, sure, conservatism attracts more manly guys on average while leftists do tend to be a bit more beta. But if you look at Latin America or Eastern Europe, hard-core leftism tends to attract macho-men as well. And their leftism is certainly different, in attitude at least, from modern Western leftism. (Not saying that their right wing is beta, they're certainly not, just that their leftists tend to be more macho.)
Ryder Fisher
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Jose Parker
yeah and even within Western countries. Think about the Democrats in Midwestern states versus Democrats in New York. Or in the UK Labour party voters up North versus Labour voters down south. I'm sure there's parallels everywhere. The thing to remember though is that supporting a party isn't the same as being ideologically Left or Right wing. You might vote for the Socialist party because you're in a situation when it would benefit you, but you still might have a right-wing mindset.
Ryder Howard
Havent read it But that is one of Donovans flaws, besides the sometimes cringeworthy tribe rituals He doesnt include much about relations with females and marriage in his work because hes a pirate
Although, Donovan is a good example for a man who does manly shit yet being more of an intellectual
Evan Diaz
essentially, yeah. as a full homo myself, some of his ideas are a bit cringeworthy, but do have some merit.
for example, he refuses to use the word "partner" or "boyfriend" to describe his lover, and instead uses "compadre" because he believes using the former two are adhering to a leftist social construct of gayness whereas the latter doesn't. he thinks the modern zeitgest of "gay" is attempting to co-opt and bastardize the heterosexual lifestyle, which doesn't apply properly to a union between two men, as it forces one into the role of the submissive or feminine instead of embracing the masculinity of both.
likewise, he doesn't really support gay marriage because the institution was made to support a family structure and secure the safety and needs of the woman, neither of which are needed in a gay relationship. while i personally believe dudes should be able to get married if they want to, i do agree with him that the idea of a man getting down on one knee for another man to be a bit bizarre, and feels inherently emasculating for both parties. keep in mind he's not lambasting gay relations altogether, but thinks that a gay relationship is inherently different between that of a man and a woman and even two women, and to treat them all the same is fallacious.
his main theme of androphilia is rejecting this modern idea of gayness being the shunning of masculine ideals and embracing of feminine ones, but also decries the superficial pseudo-masculine culture of the straight metrosexuals and gay subcultures like bears, claiming they're basically parodies of the masculine ideal and not truly masculine.
basically, he's a traditionalist conservative who romanticizes manual labor and just so happens to like man ass.
Jaxon Harris
if you have to read books on how to be a man, you're not one. Lol.
Easton Garcia
True, but this is still within Western culture and with those associations - you think of conservatism as tough so you think of Clint Eastwood as a conservative because he's though.
But take someone from another culture with other associations; like my dad loves Eastwood movies, but he grew up in old Yugoslavia so his association was probably with people like Fadil "The Spaniard" Jahic or Sava Kovacevic or any other of the bad-ass partisan Communist warheroes who's wildly exaggerated escapades he learned about in school. An older latino might think of someone like Pancho Villa or Emiliano Zapata.
My point exactly. Today's Western leftists are numale betas for the most part. But older leftist used to be pretty "violence-and-bloodsheed"-oriented; even if one hates their beliefs, one can't claim they where the same as today's effiminate liberal.
Camden Smith
>UK Labour party voters up North Oh yeah, absolutely. Used to live in Manchester myself so I know first-hand. Same with some Irishmen. They're leftists of the "I'm a miner who drinks and fights a lot" sort.
John Walker
Sounds more like the first recorded case of autism
Thomas Cooper
>tfw in that story I'd just be one of the mindless drones that Jack shits on every day until I kill myself
Mason Hernandez
I think this is the best answer in the thread. Simple, but each point can take a lifetime of work and dedication.
Matthew Long
Since that is somewhat the perspective im looking forward to, what do you guys would suggest: I have to decide between keeping on studying BWL/economics or throwing it all down and joining the military
Either way, my life sucks right now and somthing has to change
Im somewhat torn between these two options since keeping on studying would be the seroius option, making career, earning money and shit But i always dreamed of being a soldier
What would Conan do?
Jayden Miller
lol join the military obviously. We're in peace time so I would suggest Navy or Air Force. Respect to the other branches and all, Army is decent because there are so many jobs, but everyone I know says don't even think about Marines, including other Marines lel. I'm joining the Navy myself.
It's just 4-6 years of bullshit with some fun on the side. Put your money into a savings account, take advantage of certifications and things like that, learn some technical skills, get lots of benefits, do a bit of traveling, and it's a done deal. Doesn't sound so bad to me.
The good news is everything you do translates over to college, depending on your schooling and credits earned. I mean it's basically made for people like you and me, "my life sucks right now and I want something to change".
Grayson Morales
Join the military. My younger brother was miserable in college so he dropped out of college last year and joined the marines. Now he's in Recon training and seems super happy. He says he regrets not finishing college and becoming an officer but I remember how shitty he was in college so I doubt he would've been able to finish. His plan is to go back to college and become an officer so he can be a pilot then become an astronaut.
Just do what you want, but have a plan to provide for yourself.
Tyler Jones
Then its done, im gonna apply next week Im from germany, so no Marines Thanks guys
Hunter Kelly
>plucked a chicken >plug a chicken lel, that's how memes are born.
Tyler Thomas
Nice, good luck m8! Hopefully we'll work together one day to fight ISIS or China in the coming WW3.
James Reed
If he only knew "compadre" is spanish for "comarade". But, alas, commiesweren't particularilly feminine. I love the concept of masculinity, but not when it "has" to mean superiority over femininity.
Sebastian Taylor
retard
Ian Howard
>build a wall ARE YOU KIDDING ME LITERALLY HITLER
Tyler Edwards
this guy's a parody too
Oliver Reed
Shieet, didnt think I'd see DK in Veeky Forums Good song choice, op. And I think a real man shouldnt be a vapid selfie whore.
Brandon Hernandez
In the same way most modern western leftists aren't very masculine, most modern western conservatives neglect plenty of intellectual positions.
Environmental conservatism is somehow now a leftist and feminine pursuit. Literally protecting your land, cultivating it, preserving it for future generations somehow is scorned by most conservatives. How do you expect to hunt, fish, or farm if you fuck up your land?
Sure, doing the right thing for the environment you live in can be economically costly or difficult. It's really fucking easy to dump a bunch of shit into a river and let that be someone else's problem in the same way it's really easy to eat a bunch of garbage, become morbidly obese, and then ask for government benefits because you can no longer work or take care of yourself.
Jayden Harris
>Specialization is for insects. I don't get it. That's almost exactly the job of most social insects. They build, harvest, plant, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, the can butcher hogs, they cook, invade, defend. The only limitations to what you just stated in regards to (social) insects is tecnology.
Brody Hall
>-Lose your virginity >-Get a real job/earn your own money and be self-sufficient >-Bench above 220lbs/100kg
bait the thread
Logan Gomez
Read this thread and the think about averange Veeky Forums age.
Middleschoolers general
Jace Ross
The only way you'll be able to know if you're a real man is if you get addicted to heroin and quit cold turkey. Only a real man can do that.
Lucas Carter
A real man can stand in front of God.
Joshua Cooper
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Cooper Campbell
>the approach to go back to the basic survival functions of masculinity Literally retarded. Here's a reality check: we are far beyond just basic survival instincts. Just being physically strong doesn't cut it. Females want a man who can own his environment, but now that means being socially strong, and making money gains. Girls don't give a shit about aesthetics past internode, they don't care about PRs in any lift or sport. That's just a nice extra.
Asher Bailey
>internode Meant ottermode
Cooper Smith
Do men only exist in relation to women? Can a man exist in a vacuum?
Leo Long
Embrace your own masculinity. Engage in risk taking behavior, maintain fitness, have a group of male friends to fulfill your social needs and don't hang out with large groups of women other than at parties or bars.
Ironic shitposting is still shitposting
Nathan Jones
>everything I do is for the approval of women >I have no goals that I want to achieve except to desperately gain recognition from women
Frustrated cuck: The post
Tyler Watson
What board makes these images?
Christopher Flores
Sci fi novels are good you fucking harkonen faggot. Piss off to Vogsphere and read nothing but school textbooks you no fun shitter
Alexander Jenkins
HEIGHT, FACE and FRAME all of which CHAD has in ABUNDANCE and YOU do not
Adrian Stewart
Niggers are all cowards
Jaxon Roberts
I'd guess lit
But idk
Jaxon Anderson
I quit cigarettes and porn apparently it's harder unlike my dick
Connor Robinson
Thats a waste of time and only for guys who would never go far in life, anyway. Kiss a good specialized job goodbye (architect, veterinarian).
>inby mu honor, muh guns, muh manly drag through da mud
Zachary Peterson
god doesn't real senpai
Nolan Morales
I would say not caring about checking off some arbitrary self-imposed criteria
Dylan Carter
But remember that they also have a unique story just like the other characters. Sure they properly get shit from their boss but they might have a great marriage, passionate hobbies, fantastic friends etc. I think the another point to the story is that it is not completely one dimensional and no one is just one seeming thing. I don't know you but I'm sure you also have things going for you, just like everyone else, despite how you feel about yourself.
Elijah Butler
>I don't know you but I'm sure you also have things going for you, just like everyone else, despite how you feel about yourself.
Nah, I know that guy. He is a total loserfaggot and should just off himself
Colton Perry
This guy is right
But you are right in that I have something, which is lifting
Blake Peterson
What helped me the most was an awful lot of safety courses I took, but also simple manager work. Example of a task, and my train of thought: >someone sees me about something that's fucked >find out how it matters (will production be hampered, will we need to call in temps, does something need repairing...) >(this is likely where you panic) analyse the issue, maybe together with someone else, and stake out the best course of action >perform the action(s) you thought of in the previous step >it doesn't work (never does) >return to step 3 and improvise until issue has been rectified >if you're a pencil pusher, make it look nice on paper and file a report, if not go back to mending the hydraulics on the tractor trailer because the fucking Polacks always manage to kick it asunder.
Hudson Foster
You're an idiot. Being a man means not being a bitch. It's not fucking complicated.
Nathan Bailey
DIS
Henry Scott
Try to quantify masculinity into any certain task is a futile way of looking at the concept itself. If you look at it that way then what inevitably happens is guys get in a pissing contest over who can chop wood the fastest of fuck the most girls. Also, masculinity can take on many different forms, from the warrior to the pious monk.
I would say that masculinity is a mindset, that of a leader of society. If you follow your testosterone, gut instincts and unique personality it will inevitably lead you towards some sort of conquest, whether that be martial arts, providing for your family or making beautiful works of art.
In other words, it isn't any certain "thing" you do, masculine energy is the driving force behind it. Try not to put the cart before the horse.
Evan Lewis
Da fuq
Tyler Parker
gotta be a national socialist white supremacist who is over 200lbs
Kevin Morgan
Real men don't exist anymore in my opinion, my idea of manliness is to be free from societies shackles and still prevail.
The way I see it is that we live shackled by society and community life, do a little experiment yourself user, every day you feel like doing something but you can't because you have to work or it'd be frowned upon by society you do a little note on a calendar. Do it for a month and you'll find out why everyone is depressed and why you can never be a real man.
Jeremiah Adams
Picrelated or better AND be socially functional. That's baseline. Everything else depends on your situation/environment and the choices u make.
Andrew Gray
I just figured this poem will be quite relevant to the thread
If... Rudyard Kipling
If you can keep your head when all about you Are losing theirs and blaming it on you, If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting, Or being lied about, don't deal in lies, Or being hated, don't give way to hating, And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream - and not make dreams your master; If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim; If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools, Or watch the things you gave your life to broken, And stoop and build 'em up with wornout tools:
If you can make one heap of all your winnings And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss, And lose, and start again at your beginnings And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew To serve your turn long after they are gone, And so hold on when there is nothing in you Except the Will which says to them: 'Hold on!'
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue, Or walk with kings - nor lose the common touch, If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you, If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute With sixty seconds' worth of distance run - Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it, And - which is more - you'll be a Man my son!
Really, I think being manly is just having basic sense of manners and self-respect, and able to hold his own in socially tense situations.
Joshua Morales
>a real man
when will this meme die?
Connor Brooks
>But I want some modern examples of achievements a real man must reach to be considered one by you guys OMFG you're such a gigantic faggot. >I have to suck everyone else's DICK before I feel like 'a man' You're a man when you SAY you're a man, you useless jizz-licking little cunt, and anyone that disagrees with you gets punched in the nose, THAT'S THE WAY IT IS.