How do I get friends and social skills?

How do I get friends and social skills?

> always see groups of people together having fun
>I don't even remember what it's like
> leave work today and see so many groups going to an event in my city
> cute grills everywhere, dressed up
> I'm at home, on Veeky Forums
how can I even recover and get an active social life, with bros and girlfriends?

Other urls found in this thread:

instagram.com/amandaeliselee/
twitter.com/SFWRedditVideos

I don't know, I've given up myself.
God damn I feel like shit.

friends are just a time sink. most people over 25 have acquaintances the whole seinfeld friend meme isn't real.

Do you have a job? I was like that for ~2 years and after getting a job I was turning down outings every other weekend. Just spending time with people you literally cannot avoid developing feelings for them and vice versa. It could be a hobby or whatever but a job is better because it's boring and sometimes dificult so you bond through overcoming challenges as part of a team.

OP her
>tfw no friends to see nuit Blanche with (the event in my city)
>tfw never went "out" on Halloween or new years eve
> don't celebrate birthdays our Christmas
> have never attended a non-family wedding, will likely never be any ones best man. Even if I was to get married, I would have almost no-one to invite
;_;

>her
Meant "here" obviously

I think there are actually therapists for this, user

why do you want these things? have you considered that the people you see "out" having fun are the same people predisposed to find those sorts of things enjoyable? there are plenty of people who would rather stay in and read a book on a friday night, but they're a lot less visible

name of demon?

I wish I had a group of bros since childhood like these guys

Toronto?

I do have a job. I see new coworkers making friends easily, but I'm still alone

I went to one, didn't really help

if it makes you feel any better i have tons of friends and am constantly invited out friday night by coworkers and such but i always say ive got plans and i come home and shitpost on Veeky Forums, fap, drink beer, and play DOTA until i pass out

Why wouldn't I find those things enjoyable? Maybe I'd get more joy than what I'm currently doing

I'm not even experiencing "basic" things that are depicted in media all the time

Yes

Sounds like the robot life chose you. It's not so bad user. Just get fucking shredded and become friends with your mirror.

>nuit blanche

Wanting to see a shitty movie run for 12 hrs doesn't sound fun.

You have to practice, I guess. That worked for me

How do I even practice?

I don't know I'm outside of a country concert venue for Josh Turner right now waiting for friends to show up.

But damn concerts and just being around a fuck ton of people makes me anxious as fuck. I don't know if I want to be here. I don't know if I'll be fun to be around.

But this cockroach bro here ain't too bad

go to bars. talk to people. never return

Don't feel bad, Nuit Blanche in Toronto is garbage anyway, I went to the one in 2014 for shits and giggles and waited half an hour for life size Snakes and Ladders at Fort York while I froze my nuts off.

Go on Meetup.com and meet some randoms, there's tons of events in Toronto which are also attended by autists you can practice with

I've tried this

Most people are in groups with their friend(s), and it's usually too loud for me to speak or hear everything.

I've even tried talking to girls who were alone, they say "nice meeting you" after 30 seconds and walk away

lets go to Nuit Blanche together. My friends are all boring as shit.

Go to smaller bars. Dance clubs are for people with more confidence than you

I did that once. I didn't hate it, but I kinda wanted to just go home.

There's a website called nicknotas dot com. it's some dating coach from boston and on his website is a section called "dating 101" (which is free to access) which is atricles about making friends and how you should be more daring. It helped me go from weird anxious kid to scoring multiple girls at parties with my charisma alone (I'm half skinny and 6-7/10). It All sounds like some stupid shit your parents would say but if you give it a chance it makes sense.

I'll just note that I haven't hired him ever, I just used that free part. I also wasn't paid to say this.

What do you like, user?

I'll go to nuit blanche with you user

Did you music in school? Join a community ensemble.

Can you sports? Find a rec league.

not op
I am the captain of my intramural rec league
everyone else became friends with each other while I am still alone
Maybe some people aren't meant to be around other people

But you have that as an option, and as you have friends you don't need to spend all your time (Friday nights) with them

I've heard it's overrated too, but I have never gone, so I can't be sure

Thanks, will check it out

bro, love systems, torrent the social circle mastery course, braddock is the best coach in the planet, also magic bullets and their interview series, they're like 100+ 1-hour interviews, great stuff, i spent 5 years studying this stuff, totally worth it, changed my life

Smaller bars are still loud, and they still have people in groups. Most smaller bats I've been to have tables where people sit with friends, and they sit with friends at the actual bar too

It feels weird going up to a group of people you don't know, who are in conversation and try to interject, especially when you don't have great social skills to begin with

How do I handle talking to groups of strangers?

who gives a fuck if you seem weird, you're never going to see them again in your entire life. You could literally whisper hilter did nothing wrong and then disappear into the cloud. Compliment people even guys, small talk about where you are from and where you live now, maybe what they did last weekend or if they may be attending a big event coming up soon. Talk about shit you actually like to talk about and lead the conversation. It's hard at first but if you take a low dose of mdma it will come naturally.

bro this is TONS of information you have to absorb to get this right, every scenario, every response, your inner beliefs, your conversation skills, humor, your presence, your body language, your status, etc. etc. etc.

you're not gonna find the answer in a few sentences in a Veeky Forums post, if you're serious about fixing this i already told you where to look

I will check those out

I can ask questions like those you suggested if I'm one on one with another person, but in a group, do I interrupt whatever conversation they were having and ask the whole group where they are from?

just watch the group, they will eventually break off to go grab drinks at the bar assuming you arnt at a sit down waited pub or soemthing. Then go up to the bar at the same time. You can ask those questions to one of the few at the bar, just dont robot the same question one at a time to each person.

stop asking these questions, this is like someone asking questions about roids when he doesn't even know how to grab the bar, you're not gonna do anything with these little pieces of disperse information, you need a structure, go read magic bullets (and try finding a recent version cause the book is updated every year)

fuck it.you've gotta put yourself out there, user. tell stories and ask questions about themselves.

Thanks for the advice

>21
>have three best friends that I've known since kindergarden
>still talk and hang out regularly despite all going to school/working in different states
>the visible jealousy from others every time we're hanging out in public and the topic of our friendship comes up

Feels incredible, man

>Five years watching courses on how to be a normal being

Seriously just be yourself

If you looked like Zyzz they wouldn't treat you like that.

I don't look like zyzz, n-now what

I know hence why they didn't want to talk to you

You shouldent want them desu.
1.Find what you want to do in life and get super good at it. Spend 2+hrs/day advancing your career somehow
2.train physically. spend an hour or two lifting/running/swimming
3.learn an instrument. This will take maybe 30min/ day of practice.
4.learn a language. Again, like 30 minutes per day
5.get going on the western canon. Read 50 pages/day
From here, pick up a hobby to do on weekends. I generally rock climb, trail run, cycle, or use huge doses of psychedelics. I have made friends in the communities of each of these things (except drugs, i only trip alone, and avoid the scene in general), but honestly i can enjoy them alone too.
Basically, you dont need friends, but if you pick up a good few hobbies you will make them anyway. Even if you dont, its still generally a good time.
Live a good life, improve yourself, and enjoy it as much as possible. If you dont have friends, forcing yourself to be around people may cause you to end up being fake and hating people even more.

>liek, just b urself

Thanks, I do want to try and get some of those skills/hobbies

Iktfb

Sauce?

Amanda lee

/thread

Why are childhood friendships the best? I never feel comfortable talking to someone like I do them

instagram.com/amandaeliselee/

1. Stop watching porn
2. Join a group hobby (do something you're interested in. Go to an art class or a yoga class or a local rugby team or something)
3. Meet people there

lack of friends is the worst bro

>Dad works security
>One weekend he is invited to work security at a comic book convention, quite large with many guests
>Tells me he can get me in for free
>I am excited to go, maybe I will meet some cute cosplay girls and get to have sex at a convention orgy
>Long drive, takes about 2 hours
>Get there
>Dad meets up with all his security buddies
>they seem confused by my prescence, I stand back whilst they discuss the event
>dad loudly laughs and says 'if things get bad we've always got an extra pair of hands!' and gestures at me
>don't know how to react
>try and carry the joke
>shout NO YOU DON'T and tuck my arms into my shirt
>dad and friends stare silently
>go back to talking
>after a while the event starts and I walk around
>really lonely
>bunch of people with their friends in costumes laughing and joking
>lots of colorful stalls
>I am too nervous to do or say anything to anyone despite really wanting to
>at one point see a man in a fursuit, a dog, probably first real furry I have seen
>I am not a furry but feel so lonely I decide to try and befriend him as he is also alone
>approach and say 'want to gogog-o walkies?'
>he looks at me
>doesn't say anything
>just makes a growling noise and walks off
>walk around for several hours
>at one point see two kids having a lightsaber fight
>try to join in by shouting 'FORCE LIGHTNING' and making a buzzing noise
>they ignore me
>went to the toilets and cried for the rest of the day

Pic related. It was the kids

Does this body-type have a name? It's not skinny enough to be cardiobunny but not voluptuous enough to be thicc. It's just like "standard hot".

yea it's called an instagram basic bitch

bump

your prob is you are ashamed of yourself for being a bitch user , you shouldnt be talking with peoples kids or even acknowledging furries

go get yourself a security licence and work with your father if you can, security isnt just for the physically strong, you can learn how speak with confidence as people will automatically either respect you and disrespect you

Nuite blanche is shit, always the worst people that come out
>Went out with two Russian girls and drag k vodka while Snapchat art last night
>I'm part of the problem

If you are alone there people will always see you as some kind of crazy/freak/loner and will most likely avoid you, if you are not really good looking and very fun

I bet you had some fun

>tfw overhear all my coworkers talking about Snapchat
>I don't have any friends to even use social media with

W-what should I do instead?

one thing you can do is get a hobby and just join online forums for that specific hobby and meet people that way.

That worked for me too. Met some guys to go on a mtb ride with and also you have always a good topic to talk about.

I have 35k snap score. I post stories about me going out, I feel I go out too much and people think im a degenerate but w/e.
Get Snapchat, and when you hear someone talking about it, say you just got it and add them. Take a puppy filter photo with them or something, that's how I usually get girls Snapchat. Snap then from time to time until your bored of them or it escalates.