/self improvement/

What have you done that actually worked for you personally? Only give experienced advice, not the same crap everyone else says. I know there's already a sig thread but it went shit

Here's a list:
>not failing reps in training
>getting a job where I was valuable
>talking to decent people and filtering unpleasant ones
>chasing my own goals
>doing my own thing

got rsi five years ago and had to stop using the computer for two years which cured me of that addiction. being cured of one made me realise the other ones. still working on it.

Started my own business as a gardener

Just bee yourself.

>sold computer, quit tv and videogames
>Started budgeting and using money envelopes
>started tech company(still wageslave though)
>Reading all kinds of books
>Eating right/ got rid of salt shaker
>Using sunday to plan weekly events

Are you asking for steps or achievements?

Why did you get rid of salt shaker????

High bloodpressure
I was also 130lbs skelly (6'3")

I kind of gave up on my STEM studies this semester to focus on some performing arts work. Honestly, I'm the happiest I've been in awhile, and it's to the point where I may abandon engineering altogether.

People have taken notice to my shift in mood and interactions with others, and I feel motivated to do non-academic shit outside of my studies again (reading more, working on little pet projects). Maybe it's not exactly in line with "self-improvement" as anons here see it, but I feel like I am improving overall

I quit watching porn every day. I felt like it was taking a toll on my mental health, and it was. It's like alcohol to me. Fine on special occasions, but doing it every day is indicative that there may be something wrong. A couple of months porn free at this point. Feels good.

I quit porn altogether...my sexlife went from 0-100. Not only in performance but self confidence. You can do it.

>still fapped tho

I quit cold turkey on porn and fapping a week ago after realising how pathetic i am. Since then though, my sex drive has died down. Does this happen sometimes and does it come back, or am i fucked forever?

>Sold computer
>started tech company
what?

Always work on developing a new skill. Whether thats coding, writing, painting, acting, or anything else that takes practice, forcing yourself to work on something a few times a week pays off in the long run.

Part of what makes going to the gym effective is that its a ritual. Three times a week, i wake up earlier than usual and lift before work. The process of preparing a protein shake, driving to gym, and changing in the lockers puts me in the right mental space to lift. I've copied this idea to force myself to write more - there's a coffee shop near my condo I go to twice a week for an hour, exclusively using that time to write. My writing has become significantly better because I've created a ritual around writing, designating a specific time and place for that doesn't let me be lazy.

Considering the last thread, it seems that /self improvement/ is also helpful for giving out career advice, which is the only thing I'm severely lacking development right now.

I've been lifting for the past seven months with a compound based routine while counting my macros and calories (still increasing my lifts on a cut, cutting because when I started I had ~22% bodyfat). I'm also dating a qt 3.14 virgin (we lost our virginity with each other) for about four years, and I intend to marry her.

However, my career is shit. Hell, I don't even have a "career". I live in a country which is currently going through a harsh financial crisis, with little job opportunities that pay very low and our currency is also severely undervalued. For comparison, the average job around here is paying the equivalent of 250USD and has a 10hour daily workload.

My graduation was a massive meme (Law) and my source of income right now consists only of a contract with an online company where I'm making 300 USD working 20 minutes per day, but it won't last forever.

Sorry for the long post, mates. Any tips? I've been applying to some translating gigs on content mills (Upwork, etc) but there aren't that many opportunities for translation involving my native language.

This user gets it. I call them routines or protocols but the basic idea is the same.

You can apply them to every aspects of your life. You need to force yourself the first week-end or son but after it bécanes part of yourself. You need to repeat in order to make it a habit of yours. Human is an animal of repetition.

On the salt m8, I did the same thing and my lifts started detrimentaly falling only when I discovered C4, potassium/bananas and a good amount of salt did I realize how much more I could push rep wise. Remember cells rely on the Na/K pump to properly create and move energy.

Gotten a job I like doing
>benefits include paying for about 90% of my gym fee
>confidence boost because I'm good at what I do
>talking to people becomes ez after a few months

I find it tends to cycle bro. Just wait it out. Ride the waves.

Ok guys please give me advice.
I had health problems since my twenties so I fall back in many aspects in life. Dropped out of college, started again and when I was in the finishing line the whole education system changed in my corrupt shithole of a country so most of the credits I earned in the past 5 years are worthless now. 5years down the shitter + a lot of money. I still have health problems and it consumes money and time.

My only achievments from the past years are a finally working relationship with an educated supportive qt, I had tonsillectomia a lil more than a year ago and I got skinny, under 130lbs at 5'9-10". Now I am 170lbs, the heaviest in my life and people are giving me compliments. Today Gf just said my arms are growing. Felt good. I gave up on smoking. Cold turkey. More than a year ago. True gainz goblin. I moved to another country because of gf. Economically speaking it is a much better place but I cant speak the language and I cant get a job. Thats it. I know its not much at 27 but I had many unfortunate events in my life and I never had a family behind my back.

Im getting more and more depressed -again- and I have no idea what should I do. Thinking about killing myself but that would scar my gf 4 life. Cant do that to her so I have to man the fuck up the walk forward but what direction? Help me guys.

What are your health problems? Your post doesn't talk in detail about them, all I see is that you removed your tonsils.

Also, why would you ever think about killing yourself, that is such a waste of potential. Is it the lack of a career prospect leading you into this train of thought? You don't need a college graduation to have a career, son.

You're already lifting and have a supporting GF, you've already achieved more than many people have. You're almost making it, don't give up.

>What are your health problems?
Well I hate to talk about this but I try to give you a short version. I had a big accident when I was 19. My skull and face fractured. I was a pretty handsome mofo so it was a devastating experience. The doctors done a good job I assume but not perfect. Since then I have a lot of issues. Very agressive and disgusting rash on my face and scalp if I dont take antibiotics. Strong tinnutus. Its hard to breath trough my nose and always feel 'full'. Other skin irritation problems and lil heart disorders. I have streptococcus infection possibly from the hospital.I kid you not I had to diagnose myself because I had many many incompetent doctors. I found the roots of my problems while watching Dr. House after 5 years of fighting against these shitty symptoms. Its funny. Im still not sure if dr house diagnosed me or he gave the spark to build up my own. Its kind of funny.

Also mental problems since the injury. Depression, bipolar disorder, antisocial behaviour, no confidence. I feel ugly. Girls still hit on me but whenever I look myself in the mirror I see the injuries... I get attention from women but the confidence boost never lasts more than 10 minutes. I know Im not a monstrosity but I still feel like one. I read 2 years ago a scientific article about people like me, who experienced a big physical trauma. I realized I have ptsd and my feelings and a sudden drop in quality of life are normal after an event like this. I should have sought professional help many years ago but I didnt.

Thanks for your attention.

Lifting helps and I have much better results since I realized I should never feel comfort while working out. Pain is the only acceptable feeling so I pump the fucking iron till I have Piano face.

202lb femanon here, inb4 landwhale
goal weight of 130
weighed 250 8 months ago, its a long journey but im making progress
I try to always keep myself busy
I like to refine my photography and painting daily as well as cook new meals and work out (ofc)
Life isn't gonna be too bad

>detrimentaly(sic) falling

I guess my shaving routine is autistic enough now that I never get razor burn/rashes at all.

holy shit its me. i know the skelly feels man

Piano lessons. Incredibly challenging but worth it. Also, you have to use both sides of your body independently of each other so the braingainz are off the charts.

cleaned my room today, didn't smoke any cigarettes. still might fap and eat fast food though :/

So long as you dont relapse into old ways that got you to 250, you will be fine.
Good luck femanon.

Good luck.

Best way into a Veeky Forumsizen's heart is through the stomach cause fuck cooking.

take up a sporty hobby if you have the free time.

Run a marathon at least once in your life.

distance yourself from destructive people that do nothing but drain you of your energy i.e. people who constantly complain, never make positive decisions etc etc. and if that lleaves you completelly alone start to look for friends in your hobbies.

anything that teaches self-discipline is a huge help to the rampant asspieness in this site

start exploring your interests for a possible career path

Details please! I always get razor burn on my neck after shaving.

Sorry you have to deal with this user, but please seek out help! Don't fall for the sunk-cost fallacy and justify not getting therapy now because you've already put it off for so long.

Also, while I don't doubt that some of your doctors may have not been the best for whatever reason, you sort of just explained to us that you self-diagnosed with the help of actor Hugh Laurie and his writing team. Please don't give up on real doctors. Get a pyschiatrist, get a therapist, find a medical doc who isn't shit.

Also don't injure yourself in the gym. Stay strong user

>we're all g-gonna make it

>actually lifting
>talking to people
>make jokes out of everything

If there's something you want to do that is possible and requires effort, do it. Better to chase your dreams and fail than never try at all.

>meditate for at least 20 minutes every single morning
>start a martial art
>work on mobility and flexibility a lot more
>read about mindfulness
>quit social media
>smile a little more, greet people, stopped being an edgelord
>study a new language
>working part-time
>trying my best to ace every single exam

one day at a time mane