Be 30 year old kv

what do i do at the bar? people are there with their friends, why would they like a boring guy like me encroaching on their conversations on their night out?

I mean the wine before you go is my way of loosening up. Just say "hey here on business or whatever blah blah blah why ya'll here?"

Just be friendly people like friendly people!

>why would they like a boring guy like me
you're right. if you go there with that attitude that's what they're going to think.

if you go there believing you're a fun guy to be around, you'll have a good time.

you are what you believe you are. if you think you're a faggot you're going to act like a faggot.

I'm not very good at loosening up with alcohol, i only really loosen up when I've had too much to drink. otherwise I'm my normal self conscious self

but i know I'm not really a fun guy. I'm not one of those guys who always has an interesting story to tell. all i really do is browse the web in my spare time

Okay you need to see a therapist then.

then stop watching porn and get a few hobbies.

the only way to become an interesting person is to do interesting things. interesting people don't save those kinds of pictures on their computer because they're busy doing other things.

i did see one, she just told me i had to"try", which is easier said than done

i haven't watched porn in a couple of weeks. i literally only save these pics to bump threads, i don't look at them to masturbate

what interesting things can i do, i read, and I'm trying to be better at programming, learning another language, guitar. and investing. that's about it, none of which is interesting because I'm not good at them right now

whereas coworkers of mine always have stories of interesting things they do with their buddies, usually involving going out and something happening, or discussing funny snaps their mutual friends post. i don't even use Snapchat. or stories of vacations they've taken. I'm technically on vacation and I'm in my hotel posting on Veeky Forums

>she
Try to get a male therapist dude, they are honestly in a whole different ballpark than female therapists.

Some of us are simply not made for this life.

Where are you at? If near let's grab a beer.

Absolute worst sincere advice I've ever seen on Veeky Forums, beginning to end.

i should try to get another one

I'm traveling in Montreal right now. maybe i will lift tonight and wake up early to go to the biodome (Montreal zoo) tomorrow morning

Big cities can be hard to go out by yourself. Very busy and group oriented.

Small cities, and especially freeway townso and tourist towns, have a culture that is accepting and even openly curious about travelers. Look for sports bars or places that have food. Avoid full blown restaurants.

Also, photography. Zoos provide excellent subject matter.

be yourself

tinder

never used it before, don't have Facebook, I'm not good looking and haven't had anyone else take a picture of me in years

my profile will just be selfies of my 3/10 self

>hotel gym on a Friday night
go out to any bar and order a drink, it's better than lifting on vacation

Drinking nullifies your gainz tho

OP here, finally decided to just go to the gym

it's midnight and I'm lifting. alone.

"Hey where are you guys from?" works for me, most tourists will understand English and usually very friendly when drunk. I'm solo travelling through Peru right now and met a lot of people by just drinking at a bar where music is low enough to talk to people. Honestly just b urself, you've worked hard to get there, might as well have a good time and learn something from people.

what do you say after if you're autistic?

>where are you from
>>"X"
>c-cool...

Oh cool! I have always wanted to go there some day but blah blah blah. Ho are you liking it here?
XYZ
Yeah. I can see that.. i too am feeling the same..I am from abc. Have you ever been to abc?

"Cool, I'm from x" then say whatever the fuck you want or try to act interested, worst case scenario just be honest and tell the group you're alone and looking for someone to drink with. An important thing is to find someone you'd feel comfortable with at least on a superficial level, like I wouldn't be interested in talking to a bunch of Jersey shore looking guys, or a group of 19 year olds that are invested into their cell phones and posing.

Get out and talk, and don't beat yourself if you don't really click with anyone, sometimes you just can't find the right people.

I have to travel a lot for work. Either organise to meet up with people your working with and have them show you the local sights, or go out by yourself.

A bar and or restaurant is a good place to hit up. Speak with the bartender ask what other drinking places are around that are fun for someone by themselves.

A really great tho g to do I've found is go find a bar with a lineup of bands playing. It will cost you a bit to get in, but you can rock out to the music and its really easy to chat with people. "So you like this music?" "What's been your favourite performance tonight" you play an instrument" etc etc etc.

Tinder works alright, it not as well as picking up at a bar imho. Just swipe right of everyone and be very upfront with your matches. "I'm here for one night and really want to see what this place is about. Show me around?" "I promise I'll buy you dinner and a drink ;)"

Other than that, Google what's cool in the area and check it out like a museum, beach, war memorial, concerts, hikes, etc.

Gonna add that I'm home from travelling right now and I'm going to a gig in the city tonight alone even though I have friends in the area.
Its starts to get fun to get out by yourself and know you're probably never going to see people again so it doesn't matter what you say.

Fucking go up to people and lie if you want about your job, or hobbies or ethnic background. Who gives a fuck.

thanks for the advice, maybe i will go to a bar tomorrow

would clubs be acceptable to go to by yourself?

drink more, you'll be more relaxed and have no need to hold back. if you still feel hesitant then you just gotta get that warm feeling in ya

aw, come on OP

Traveling myself right now too.

Went to the hotel gym and now sitting in some Dennys clone waiting on a gains omelet.

But then I'm in anchorage, it's snowing, i have a 6am flight and I could walk here across a parking lot.

Is a library out of the question. Just chillin with an Americano and some Life magazines, checking out students cramming for assignments, maybe give 'em a few pointers and impressing them with your 'solo, brains + brawns, journeyman endeavours'.

But probably just for an hour or two, there'll be more stuffs outside, just consider this an option.

Yes, be drunk and dance on the dance floor.
When I go with friends I ditch them to dance of the dance floor alone anyway. I don't need my friends getting in the way of grinding on chicks.

what if i don't know how to dance, NJ myself or otherwise?

what if no grill let's me grind on her? and they all look disgusted when i go anywhere near them?

you forgot "you feelin' fit, buddy?"

no it's not

go home, go to sleep, regroup and try and figure out what you were doing wrong, then go try again another day

act like you're actually enjoying the music and having a good time, don't sit there staring at every girl you're interested in and trying to catch their attention like a creep. just move with the music and 'accidentally' bump into a girl you're dancing next to, then see if they turn to look at you and keep dancing near you (maybe even move closer), or if they move away. if they stay or move closer, you're good to make a bit of a move. turn a bit closer to them or maybe gently 'bump' them a couple more times with your hips. chicks who are interested tend to start trying to make body contact

Just try not to accidentally autist your way into a fight.The last thing you need user is some dudebro and his friends curbstomping you because you grabbed some sluts tits.

thanks for the advice

>act like you're actually enjoying the music and having a good time,
I've never done this, i mostly just stand and nod my head tbqh

definitely don't want that either

i don't think many libraries are open late at night
around here 24h libraries are rare, usually only available at end of term for finals

b.e. yourself

>see pics of a club in this city
h-how am i supposed to approach a group of girls like this, make them interested in me, make them laugh (other than telling them my 1RM) and get them to dance with me?

I've done this too.

Go to the fucking gym and become pissed that your in the fucking gym becaue your a fucking looser that wil fucking sperg out if he doesent fucking lift the diddly fivehoundredpoundiddlylift FUAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

You shouldn't desu.
I'm not usually one to shit on women I don't know but 90% of the time girls like this are gonna be sooo much more trouble and annoyance than a one-night stand or shitty 2-month relationship is worth.
These type of women tend to be pretty insufferable and many guys think all women are awful because they mostly attempt to involve themselves with these types of girls.

the hotel gym only has one machine and the only lifts that work well is bench and ohp

i don't know what I'm going to do today or tonight. i think I'll lift again, 3 days in a row, chest and shoulders

I like those butts

me too

bump

>tfw the are like 4 colleges in Montreal
>everywhere you go is a qt3.14 girl
how do i make one my gf?

this is such shitty advice.

Just go enjoy yourself. Lets say you walk around and find a bar that you like and get a beer. You might be scared about the whole situation, but if you just watch it carefully the anxiety will leave. Just don't identify with your talking mind to much and see what happens.
You wanted to be curious and try something new and that's what's happening right there, with all the anxiete coming along with it. There's a weird plreasure in this somehow.

"You feelin Veeky Forums, buddy?"

i went to a bar called dieu de ciel (very popular in Montreal) by myself
sat at a table by myself (no room at the bar) and had a few beers and then left. everyone else was in groups talking to each other, while i just stared at my phone
i felt awkward the entire time

Well at least be proud of yourself now. I have been 4-5times abroad now and it's never easy, but it makes you grow as a person.
I never have my phone on me though, I sit at restaurants/cafés in the evenings and just read a book while I drink some beers/liquors. Eating at a restaurant by myself is pretty normal by now, but sticking around later on is still kinda hard sometimes and mostly I just talk with the guys who work there after going for 2/3nights in a row. Sometimes you also just get lucky and find people.

Long story short, it's not gonna get better by not doing it. Just keep going step by step and you'll get used to be there. The awkwardness will get less or you will accept it.

I went to a bar once by myself to catch a game I wanted to watch. I sat down at the bar, had a glass of whiskey, and some drunk guy nearby started talking with me.

I had only been talking with this guy for like 5 minutes when he bought me a drink and asked if I wanted to fuck his girlfriend.

I'm an autist so I left.

1. Delete all these pictures of big titted chicks off your phone.

2. Just go to a bar and sit down and order a drink. If it's daytime bring a book and just chill.

3. Half the time the bartender will be bored and will juat strike up a convo with you. By the time others show up you will seem interesting or at least capable of interacting with other humans.

4. Someone will eventually talk to you, bump into you, look at you, give you some opening for conversation. If not just chalk up the night to good time observing others and understanding how normies behave (but dont stare at people).

are you in college? it's the easiest way to meet college chicks. i live in mtl as well and this city is just ripe with qts, and unless they're the bitchy french canadian girls they're easy to approach. just go to your local college dive

not in college, already graduated.

i was thinking of taking French classes in my home town (Toronto) though

anything i should check out in mtl? I've done most of the tourist stuff and visited most of the sites and restaurants already

Hotel bars are full of prostitutes, so there's that.

i only post them and save them for threads on Veeky Forums, never look at them at any other time

I'm not very good at reading in loud places tbqh

what if the bartender never talks to me?

what if no one talks to me? like i mentioned i went to bars a few times before and no one talked to me

I'm not at a hotel with a bar

This thread was painful.

Shit advice followed by "it's never worked for me"

Just let him go to the gym and carry on being a loner.

>excuses

This is why youre failing

Who cares if nobody talks to you? Just go anyway. The risk of nobody talking to you if you LITERALLY ARENT THERE is hogher.

>what would a normie do by themselves in this situation
Pretend to have fun.

Go to the hotel bar and chat up some lonely hotel cougars.

>amazing night, right?

>planned to kill myself tonight
>but then i got some advice from random people on the internet
>so i decided to come here to see people more miserable than me
>i want to die
Great idea.

Then dont bring your phone retard. Don't blame the situation for your own addictive coping mechanisms

when its dark? you don't unless you got a weapon to rob them.

what do i look at then? stare at other people? stare at my drink? both awkward as fuck

wander with your eyes over people and if they make eye-contact tip your fedora

>that's what i do whenever i travel alone, because i'm always alone

iktf

why does life always have to be so fucking horrible

so just look around the room for an hour? sounds like a bad idea

i don't own a fedora

Do you think nobody went to the bar alone before smartphones?

Autism is your problem, not the situation

see a male therapist my good user. men and women are equaly but not the SAME. you need a male therapist to help you know yourself as a Man.

It's like asking a girl what works when picking up a girl. You don't ask girls. You ask men, because it's the men who are doing it. Get a male therapist. If he can't help you. Find another one. If you have a problem then you need to look until you find someone who can help you.

if that's all you have then use it. use a lot of light, that's great. outdoors in daytime is great. have a friend or random person take a photo of you when you're doing some activity.

...

Some of my actual advice is to lie. I hate lying, but when you don't have any cool stories, just think of some cool, believable stories before you go out. When you find a spot where it's appropriate, insert it into conversation.

Watch some bullshit pickup videos on youtube or something before you go out. Just see how slightly less autistic people interact and banter like normally. Memorise some lines they say if you have to.

I too was a K/V until I was like 20, doing this kinda thing helped, and now I have plenty of stories and experience at normie banter and don't have to lie or think about it any more.

You can do it user

Also, if you haven't already booked all of your accommodation, stay in a youth hostel. As long as you don't look older than 30, just lie about your age if someone asks, say you're 25.

Hostels generally are full of friendly, slutty girls travelling by themselves who are happy to talk to anyone new. They have common areas where all these 20 somethings hang out and banter. Everyone is usually friendly and inviting and all you've gotta do is say something like 'so where are you travelling from then'.

Just hang out in common rooms, read a book or something and talk to someone if they sit near you. Say 'hey man, how long you been here' and a conversation will ensue. Make friends with a crew of hostel people and go out to the bar together, get drunk together, instant buddies.

Come on m8, you seem willing to try which is a solid start

thanks for the advice

i do want to spend some time thinking of believable stories i can tell

>tfw it's already the day after i made this thread and it looks like I'm going to be at the hotel gym and then in my room again tonight
brehs...

find a bar, sit down and order a drink

I disagree. Better looking people are usually treated well their whole lives and aren't as mentally damaged as ugly women.

what can i do to get a gf like that?

same questions as here:

Hnnnghhh that pussy crease

Oh man i would love to get her fat but in my face and receive a rancid

>BRAAAAAAAAAAAAAAP

All it takes is 3 things

HEIGHT
FACE
FRAME

>i went to a bar
>sat at a table by myself

Sit at the fucking bar you moron.

there was no room
looks like I'm staying in tonight again Veeky Forums, don't even feel like getting dinner rn, all the popular places will be full

feels bad man

>amazing night out, right?

who is this semen demon

Just go out. Go out solely with the mindset that you are just going to enjoy a drink or a nice meal, and you aren't focused on getting anyone's attention. Work on being happy being with yourself and your own thoughts and the rest comes naturally.

Fuck, take a book and read it or take a notepad and write ideas for a screenplay or a novel or anything you've been wanting to do creatively. If you sketch, take a notepad and sketch in it. Just get out there and enjoy doing things on your own.

As a 24 year old virgin with no friends, this thread is pretty crazy. I would think that a place like fit on Veeky Forums would be able to be empathetic with a guy in this situation, but I guess not. All of you acting like all he has to do is go out somewhere alone and look normal and people will approach him or be accepting of him talking randomly and make friends with him

It doesn't work like that. You need to have friends to make friends. If you go out to a social place like a bar and are sitting there alone, people will actively avoid you. The only time people wouldn't is if you were handsome and charismatic and go alone my choice, not the type of guy like OP or myself who would be forced to go alone basically from sheer loneliness.

Even normal people usually have social anxiety about being alone somewhere social. Imagine what it's like for an awkward aspie like us.

Just like how you guys lie about how "people aren't looking at and judging you in the gym, they only focus on themselves" and at the same time a 300+ reply Veeky Forums thread about "people you see in your gym"