To all of the older people on Veeky Forums, what kind of advice can you give someone that just turned 22...

Don't assume you'll be working one job. I have one that pays the bills, freelance design work to pad the bank, and investments

Dating is limited, but it depends on where you live. Having a wider social circle helps; don't be the one guy that only knows their co-workers, who are all married with 2 kids and a shitty mortage.

Don't be afraid to just do something alone, on a whim. All my male co-workers are older than me (we're talking near retirement age) or married as above. Once I learned to say fuck it, i just enjoyed life more and found that I was more likely to meet women.

Save money, especially if you live alone. In fact, just make a rough schedule for your week, and refine every 3-4 months. Responsibility is a learned skill. I know people in the 50's & 60's that have shit for brains and should be homeless the way they live.

Explore & adapt. I as a quiet kid, I learned to be an extrovert, and I'm long through having the outer fringes of my circle be functional drunks & druggies. As a kid I wasn't fitness oriented, now I am. Who you are at 22 is no indication of what you could be at 44, but a responsible 22 will be a wealthier 44

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alright, but question, what's your degree?

start working on your obliques and biceps right away and never let them lag

Everyone's comments here make sense and are right to a sense. And also, everybody's comments here lead to one thing and one thing only.

People your age get into this thing called hit it and quit it, or getting with as many girls possible, but not forming genuine relationships. Do not do this. Find someone that you can tolerate for the rest of your life and form a fair, equal relationship with that person.

Hitting and quitting it will only jade you and make you callous to relationships, and next thing you know. You're going to become one of these fellas that claim it does not get easier as you get older.

TLDR: Stop acting like a player and trying to get with as many girls as possible. Just form a solid foundational relationship with one girl.

If you go the other route and have lots of one night stands, you will become soul-less and realize its too late.

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Not OP but the same age and I just want to have sex for the sake of having sex idgaf about being a player

Women are a meme.

"Women are a meme" is also a meme.

Then find someone to have sex with, but form a strong relationship with them. don't go about nexting girls you fuck like they were just another empty box on a check list. after you check them, domesticate them and be happy

I have some pretty fucking serious advice and I would love some critique on this

1. Best thing for life is gym and staying active, eating right and having some form of a social life
2. When you have a career, remember these are actually people and you need to treat them nice, and be respectful
3. Try to be friends with coworkers, don't focus so much on work and being the go to guy only lasts temporary
4. Always, always stay on the up and up at work with your coworkers, managers and other people you work with, if you end up focusing on work and that becomes your life the problem if your coworkers end up having get together, and they end up going out a lot and will leave you out of those plans because you're a workaholic
5. Never, never be the know it all or the guy who everyone knows is a genius deep down but autistic as fuck when it comes to relationships, the people around you do matter and try to form meaningful bonds and relationships with them
6. Don't focus so much on work when you don't get praise from your managers and other coworkers, you might be the go to guy around the office or to your clients but if your direct supervisors, managers and upper management have no idea who you are you will not get very far, after a while they will ask you to teach others at work, and thats when you will notice you are being replaced.
7. They will keep you in the back office somewhere and you will be ignored and forgot about

Save 10% of everything you earn. If I had to give myself a single piece of advice it'd be this. Starting at 20 I would've been sitting on around £200,000 just now, enough for a house or two.

Surround yourself with people who inspire you. This is cliche but fundamental. If you're around shitty family members or gloomy people or don't socialise enough, fix it, it'll change the way you function and your goals.

Spend more than you need to on things like clothes, food and finance. Spend less than you need to on things like entertainment and holidays.

Learn every day.

Challenge yourself as much as feasible.

Keep a journal, consistently.

Budget, consistently.

Meditate, consistently.

Front load discomfort.

Get an expensive toothbrush.

Take chances, consistently.

>I-I can not live like that anymore

Keep up social interactions. If you go into hiding, don't expect to find a qt anytime after.

I'm 23. It's gotten progressively harder since I was 16.

Ignore this insecure weak minded man.

Every girl you meet is going to have had sexual experiences before you. It doesn't matter unless it's to extreme excess.

If a girl has had sex with 10 dudes before you but she was never a sexual deviant and is loyal to you, then you shouldn't care. If you do that's your problem and not the girls.

I learned this the hard way after this beta and insecure way of thinking made me lose the most loyal, best girl ive ever been involved with because I got jealous over her past partners who she hadn't spoken to or been involved with for years.

I'm 23 and it's gotten easier. Be social. If you don't have friends then make some. If you don't live where there are people to be friends with then move. Lift consistently and eat well, aesthetics aren't everything but they help you pull. Learn to dance well. A year of consistent practice and you should be able to tear it up at any club you go to. If you can dance well then all the slutty girls immediately start giving you the look. Don't be afraid to date girls but don't be afraid to dump them, you are always your first priority.

>save money

You will move out (if you haven't already) and having 50k in the bank in various forms will give you the sense of security you need to make wiser decisions

>you are defined by your career until you have children

sorry brah but this is how it is. If you have a middle class salary you generally only have access to lower middle class girls. Middle class girls (your colleagues) date up. Disregard if you are 8/10 or above.

>log your workouts

most brahs start to decline around their first or second full year in their careers. Tracking workouts keeps you honest and you progressively overload easier

>do not talk about sex, politics, money or drugs at work

ideally you should be a blank canvas for your co-workers. Never confirm their suspicions about what you believe about those things. Also, when speaking about money, gauge how your co-worker's finances are and equate yours to theirs. If they complain about their 900/month student loan bill, empathize. Never talk about how well you're doing financially, if you are. People will find ways to get you gone.

>only discuss your relationships if they are very serious

>don't over do it

I've tried it and it sucks. Do exactly what your job description says for about 5 years. Then, begin to move into other professional circles. That doesn't mean you shouldn't put yourself out there if need be. Just don't stretch yourself. I have, and I've sacrificed my core responsibilities for extras. You will not be able to justify it.
I'm not making CEO 10k/day money, I am middle class, and I am 29. You will feel 21 for the next 15 years. Just dont act 21

Yeah, I moved to a new city 9 months ago and have had a ton of trouble making worthwhile friends.

A couple of people I can hit up to get a beer or something but no one I go out with consistently. Back when I was living at "home" I pulled a lot more girls. I was exposed to prospective girls more often and when I met them I was in higher spirits because of being with people I really enjoy being around.

I think im gonna give it another 8 months to a year here and then consider moving back home. I still miss home a ton.

Moving away is a good test. You will be much more confident upon return.

I miss home too, and am thinking of going back. Do what feels right brah

start lifting now before you hormones deplete. I started late and am the king of slow gainers

I agree and I don't regret it. As fruity as this sounds, I learned a lot about myself, it's become much easier for me to meet new people, and I've gotten more confident/have learned not to give a fuck if someone irrelevant has a problem with me (this has come from living with fuck face roommates).

But I do miss my city terribly, and most of all my close friends and family.

i'm 19, 6 ft 2 close to 240 lbs and have been a blue belt for 4 years (keep moving around countries and missing test).

one of my favourite thing to do when rolling is to go extra extra hard on old/middle aged manlet newbies like you. i like to toy with them with my nimble young body and torture them a little bit by going for the knees,hips, shoulders etc.
their look of pain everytime i make concscious effort to do takedowns to make them land on vulnerable parts of their old bodies give me life.

umad? shoulda learned it when you were young you oldfag

>mfw i violently knee-barred a 50 year old dude while rolling and saw him hobble and slip on ice while chasing a bus to work couple of days ago

toppest of keks t b h

Don't listen to him. Focus on yourself and take good care of yourself. If you're a decent looking guy, making decent income, not socially awkward and treats people right. You won't have any issues. If you do, move to a big city with more opportunity. Travel the fucking world if you have to. Age really isnt an issue (as long as its legal). I know a 20 year old smoking hot chick who loves men in their 30s to 40s. She hates guys her age. And i know women in their 30s who love men who just turned 22. However, age is really fucking irrelevant to how people see you and how you make them feel. Workout, look healthy and youthful and you will slay for many many years to come. Shit is insane once you make it on your own making some decent income.

kill yourself
your post is cancer

>4 years as a blue belt
>laughingmulheres.png

lol at insecurity

The biggest lesson I've learned through my 20s is 'focus on yourself'. I let relationships guide my actions, and I regret it. I passed up good opportunities, I wasted money, I wasted time, for dumb reasons like 'this is what wants' or 'X is good, but wouldn't Y with my girlfriend be better?'

I recommend striking a balance between the advice you're getting from and what I'm doing with my life right now, where after 3 years of back to back godawful relationships I'm now just throwing myself at pretty much anything with open legs. Find what works for you.

solid advice from this user all around. My biggest regret at 27 is how much money I've just pissed away since 18 because I'm a wastrel through and through. Cash burns a hole in my pocket. Make a budget and stick to it! Don't find yourself closing in on 30 in the unenviable position of having to repair your broken, fucked up finances. Get it right the first time - it actually isn't hard.

One more piece of advice - don't be afraid to fail. Take chances, put yourself out on a limb, try something new. Even if you wind up looking like an idiot. Only by challenging yourself and pushing your boundaries can you grow. Staying safe in a little bubble is the fast track to being stuck, stagnant, and miserable. God speed, user.

Your problem is failing to realize in those 4 years i now have the approximately the same skill/knowledge as an extremely good purple belt/alright brown belt.
I stayed blue belt so that i can rekt people in the blue belt division competitions and so that im still allowed to roll with whites and continue to prey on these old bjjfags

any decent school would have promoted you already if you were any good at purple level

>he thinks he is brown belt material but he's just a fat dude who got a pity blue belt

you probably were a white belt for four years as well lmao

Plenty of girl advice and lifting advice out there, so I'll give a bit of career advice.

There are employers out there who let you set your own hours, make a shit ton of money, and basically independently manage your workload. We call these Unicorns. I had to hop around a few times to get one, and I have the unfair advantage of a law degree and a STEM background. Not everyone has that, so you'll either have to have similar qualifications or start your own business to get there.

Unless you are in a Unicorn job, always be focusing on learning whatever valuable info or skill there is to learn where you're at, then jumping to the next thing. Maybe it's a higher position at the same company, maybe you move laterally, but never, ever get comfortable. Go out networking once per week. Or, if you're bottom-level and networking isn't how you get work, check job listings every morning for twenty minutes.

If the prospect of saving up six months' living expenses seems impossible, double that time. You need to move up. Again, comfort is your enemy.

Keep lifting. People like fit people. Being fit actually helps my law practice. And ambition, money, and networking get you girls. Climbing the ladder is a very rewarding use of your time.

This doesn't mean burning every bridge around you. Those folks at your shit job are real people with real lives. Bosses understand that you're in this for your own career and well-being, so deal with them straight.

Lastly, at work you'll have a few things you fucking hate doing. If you can do one of those, first thing, every day, you'll be the most productive guy in the building.

>Start contributing to a 401K or IRA RIGHT FUCKING NOW.
>Study something, anything with gusto and fervor.
>Meditate. Just fucking do it and don't worry about it being perfect.
>Once you pass 25, you're gonna start wondering why it's so hard to lose fat.
>When you work out, don't give a shit what anyone else is doing or thinks or you'll be seeking approval from the wrong sources.
>Find a martial art that's going to allow you to progress as you age rather than retire and look back on your "glory days"